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Namaster:
Why are you so "friendly" with a married woman to the extent that she feels ENTITLED to your phone.

You know for a FACT that the husband is already unhappy with your closeness to his wife YET you want to add a GIFT into the mix.

Plus, you may have NO ulterior motive but she's a SECOND wife to a poor man who sleeps at WORK. She's likely SEX-STARVED.

She'll use you for sex and BILL you as a bonus.

Keep your phone and STAY AWAY from her.
Otherwise yours may be the next head we see on Nairaland front page.

Obviouslyblunt:
No 1. Why is a poor fellow married with 2 wives? Weird.

Secondly, why are you close to someone’s wife when you know her husband isn’t happy with that?

Stop concerning yourself with other people’s issues and focus on your family instead.

LeoThaGreat:
OP, it seems you don't love yourself. But please don't break the hearts of your family members that have invested in you and love you.

I see no reason why you would insist on friendship with a married woman who her husband has made it obvious that he doesn't want you around her. It seems you have no grasp of what a man can do out of insecurity.

Tell the woman point blank that her husband obviously doesn't want you associating with her and you can't give her your phone so as to avoid trouble.

But if you are a lover of trouble, go ahead then. I love learning from people that learnt the hard way.

Xannadu:
All this long story is unnecessary. You can give her the phone as long as there's no strings attached. Life is not all about sex as many nairalanders tend to portray it. Should we all decide to stop helping people simply because they are married?

HilsonDick:
Tor.. me I don't know what else to do again o. I'm confused. The husband is seeing me as a rival already. Meanwhile, nothing bad dey my mind. My mind pure

HilsonDick:
Tor.. me I don't know what else to do again o. I'm confused. The husband is seeing me as a rival already. Meanwhile, nothing bad dey my mind. My mind pure

Xannadu:
Any man will suspect you if you appear too close to his wife. Maybe you should try to be a bit more formal with her when he's around (should even be always, come to think of it). Show the husband more respect than he deserves, that helps also

Xannadu:
All this long story is unnecessary. You can give her the phone as long as there's no strings attached. Life is not all about sex as many nairalanders tend to portray it. Should we all decide to stop helping people simply because they are married?

HilsonDick:
I have had very terrible experiences with married woman & their husbands & I don't want a repeat of such again.



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HilsonDick:
Dear Elders on Nairaland,
I bring you greetings in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ and any other God you may believe in. I want to believe you are having a sumptuous weekend.
I write to you to seek your wise counsel on a matter I consider very delicate and sensitive. I have a neighbor, a woman with five kids, we come from same State and we even share same tribe. We've been neighbors for almost four years. This woman has being asking me for my second phone(a torchlight itel phone) I bought this phone 10months ago at 10k. This woman's android phone was allegedly stolen right in her house and since then she hasn't been able to get another one. Though she was able to get a fairly used torchlight phone which was in a bad condition at the time of buying it( no battery, can't charge directly except desktop, rubber band used in holding it). Herself & her husband are financially disadvantaged people just like myself. Most times, they starve. I feel for the innocent malnourished kids who are always looking weak, pale & angry. Her husband barbs in wuse 2, Abuja. He has two wives and 8 children. He sleeps right in his barber's shop at wuse & only comes home on weekends. If he needs to speak with his wife and kids, he would call through other neighbors lines. I feel really ashamed on their behalf cos I don't know how much it takes to get a torchlight phone at least.
This woman has being on my neck to dash her my phone but I keep telling her to be patient. But in my mind, I keep asking myself why she keeps disturbing me when she has a husband. My fear is that, her husband and I don't really get along. In fact, whenever he sees me together with his wife, his countenances change. I've noticed this, but since I have no ulterior or sinister motive behind my friendliness with his wife, I have no fear. The couple are stark illiterates & can't even communicate coherently in pidgin English so the way they reason things can be quite different from some of us. I have had very terrible experiences with married woman & their husbands & I don't want a repeat of such again. Wisdom is necessary here.
Elders, it's over to you, now. What should I do?. It's not like I don't need to continue using my torchlight phone. I have three lines. My Android phone is dual SIM and the torchlight phone houses my Airtel SIM which I receive my bank alerts on. If I give the phone out, I will have to drop the SIM and be getting bank alerts via email. I can still carryout transactions via the bank mobile app.
Naturally, I hate to see people being in Need. It breaks my heart if I can't help. If I have, I must help cos it gives me joy to do so. But when I do have, nobody helps me. Help is rare to find these days. Only ladies get helped by men. Man no dey help man. It was just yesterday after 5yrs that someone( a stranger dashed me #1, 500 to survive). No one ever helps. The money finished same yesterday.




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