₦airaland Forum

Xannadu:
All this long story is unnecessary. You can give her the phone as long as there's no strings attached. Life is not all about sex as many nairalanders tend to portray it. Should we all decide to stop helping people simply because they are married?

Coming from the gender we fear most.

Buziness101:
Coming from the gender we fear most.

I'm telling ya!

Why person go dey Marry two wives for this hard time come get 8 pikin, that husband would always be angry all the time so op stay away from his property, if the woman is still pestering you and you also you want to give her the phone since you said you are a cheerful giver, tell her to bring half of the money you bought the phone, yeah 5k so it wouldn't be like you gifted the phone out and the husband wouldn't be able to challenge you..
My thoughts

The OP is either being mischievious or overly naive. Being friends with a married woman (especially without her husband's consent) is the fastest way to a man's grave.

Firstly, gifting your phone to the woman will create a big rift between them. The woman will never stop ridiculing her husband for being poor and may even be praising you in his presence for being caring. That will further fuel the hate.

Secondly, the phone gift will probably set you up for further billing & exploitation. Before you know it, you'll be sending her feeding money or even catering for the children.

Don't say we didn't warn you. Stay away from the woman before you bring problem upon yourself.

HilsonDick:
Dear Elders on Nairaland,
I bring you greetings in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ and any other God you may believe in. I want to believe you are having a sumptuous weekend.
I write to you to seek your wise counsel on a matter I consider very delicate and sensitive. I have a neighbor, a woman with five kids, we come from same State and we even share same tribe. We've been neighbors for almost four years. This woman has being asking me for my second phone(a torchlight itel phone) I bought this phone 10months ago at 10k. This woman's android phone was allegedly stolen right in her house and since then she hasn't been able to get another one. Though she was able to get a fairly used torchlight phone which was in a bad condition at the time of buying it( no battery, can't charge directly except desktop, rubber band used in holding it). Herself & her husband are financially disadvantaged people just like myself. Most times, they starve. I feel for the innocent malnourished kids who are always looking weak, pale & angry. Her husband barbs in wuse 2, Abuja. He has two wives and 8 children. He sleeps right in his barber's shop at wuse & only comes home on weekends. If he needs to speak with his wife and kids, he would call through other neighbors lines. I feel really ashamed on their behalf cos I don't know how much it takes to get a torchlight phone at least.
This woman has being on my neck to dash her my phone but I keep telling her to be patient. But in my mind, I keep asking myself why she keeps disturbing me when she has a husband. My fear is that, her husband and I don't really get along. In fact, whenever he sees me together with his wife, his countenances change. I've noticed this, but since I have no ulterior or sinister motive behind my friendliness with his wife, I have no fear. The couple are stark illiterates & can't even communicate coherently in pidgin English so the way they reason things can be quite different from some of us. I have had very terrible experiences with married woman & their husbands & I don't want a repeat of such again. Wisdom is necessary here.
Elders, it's over to you, now. What should I do?. It's not like I don't need to continue using my torchlight phone. I have three lines. My Android phone is dual SIM and the torchlight phone houses my Airtel SIM which I receive my bank alerts on. If I give the phone out, I will have to drop the SIM and be getting bank alerts via email. I can still carryout transactions via the bank mobile app.
Naturally, I hate to see people being in Need. It breaks my heart if I can't help. If I have, I must help cos it gives me joy to do so. But when I do have, nobody helps me. Help is rare to find these days. Only ladies get helped by men. Man no dey help man. It was just yesterday after 5yrs that someone( a stranger dashed me #1, 500 to survive). No one ever helps. The money finished same yesterday.




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Must people come here to ask stupid questions every time?

She is married.
Her husband doesn't like your closeness to his wife.

Stop white washing yourself please. You will find what you seek which is doom.

FUKCING STAY AWAY FROM ANOTHER MAN'S WIFE

teeteepeejay:
Must people come here to ask stupid questions every time?

She is married.
Her husband doesn't like your closeness to his wife.

Stop white washing yourself please. You will find what you seek which is doom.

FUKCING STAY AWAY FROM ANOTHER MAN'S WIFE

Those who respond to stupid questions are equally Stupid, and even worse.

ravensckar:
The OP is either being mischievious or overly naive. Being friends with a married woman (especially without her husband's consent) is the fastest way to a man's grave.

Firstly, gifting your phone to the woman will create a big rift between them. The woman will never stop ridiculing her husband for being poor and may even be praising you in his presence for being caring. That will further fuel the hate.

Secondly, the phone gift will probably set you up for further billing & exploitation. Before you know it, you'll be sending her feeding money or even catering for the children.

Don't say we didn't warn you. Stay away from the woman before you bring problem upon yourself.

Ok. Thanks

What I can say here is that

Respect yourself and your boundaries, a married woman asking for something from another Man is obviously a bruise on her husband ego, clearly she is telling him to his face that he can't meet up to responsibility.

Any Married Woman that is bold enough to be asking you for phone, can be bold enough to start ask you for money for her children's feeding, upkeeps and even school fees and then yes asking for servicing of the kpekus in the oda room, from clap to dance.

Since over a decade we all have seen that the economy has been drastically degraded and yet a Man is obviously still foolish enough to get another wife? Let me guess, he is Muslim?

Two wives and 8 children? A barber in a cool environment like wuse 2 with one wife and 4 children would be doing fine, but it is extremely foolish for him to pick another wife and put more burden upon himself, how the hell will his wives ever respect him when obviously he can't even provide for them? Why won't the said married woman be asking another Man for itel phone?

Some Men are just silly

Op stay away from that woman, like someone said, the wife might even be rubbing it all over the foolish husband's face, women don't reason repercussions of actions taken, be warned.

skywalker240:
What I can say here is that

Respect yourself and your boundaries, a married woman asking for something from another Man is obviously a bruise on her husband ego, clearly she is telling him to his face that he can't meet up to responsibility.

Any Married Woman that is bold enough to be asking you for phone, can be bold enough to start ask you for money for her children's feeding, upkeeps and even school fees and then yes asking for servicing of the kpekus in the oda room, from clap to dance.

Since over a decade we all have seen that the economy has been drastically degraded and yet a Man is obviously still foolish enough to get another wife? Let me guess, he is Muslim?

Two wives and 8 children? A barber in a cool environment like wuse 2 with one wife and 4 children would be doing fine, but it is extremely foolish for him to pick another wife and put more burden upon himself, how the hell will his wives ever respect him when obviously he can't even provide for them? Why won't the said married woman be asking another Man for itel phone?

Some Men are just silly

Op stay away from that woman, like someone said, the wife might even be rubbing it all over the foolish husband's face, women don't reason repercussions of actions taken, be warned.

Thank you very much for your advise. You've spoken well Sir. He is not a Muslim. I believe his poverty is self inflicted. I won't give her the phone again. I no want any wahala abeg

Namaster:
Why are you so "friendly" with a married woman to the extent that she feels ENTITLED to your phone?

You know for a FACT that the husband is already unhappy with your closeness to his wife YET you want to add a GIFT into the mix.

Plus, you may have NO ulterior motive but she's a SECOND wife to a poor man who sleeps at WORK. She's likely SEX-STARVED.

She'll use you for sex and BILL you as a bonus.

Keep your phone and STAY AWAY from her.
Otherwise yours may be the next head we see on Nairaland front page.

Bleep her my brother. Even if nah my wife. The bottom line is if I catch her, I will sign transfer of ownership. And she will be all yours.

HilsonDick:
Why should I respect him more than he deserves? As what? Does he feed, clothe or pay my rent?
Pls if u don't have what to say, just keep off.

Werey stay away from his wife!!!! Una no dey hear word, hin no Dey feed you, clothe you or pay your rent, but you Dey shine teeth with wife wey hin pay bride price for.

Or you think a man is happy that he can’t provide a simple phone for his wife? you think sey as the man Dey lack, hin get joy?

Continue doing “mister nice guy” ontop another person wife, when time reach dem go pour you acid or treat your f*ck up.

You’re a man but you seem to not know how we men can be when it involves women… ordinary girlfriend, guys dey kill, talk less of Wife wey hin don make am clear sey hin no fancy una closeness.

Good and fine, She no get phone but its not your responsibility to provide it for her.

Woman wey Dey lead you to problem, when that problem come, she will turn around and ask you if she pressured you to help her.

How you go just stay Dey find trouble wey fit end your life? Leave someone’s wife alone!

Don't worry, that bad news blogger will report your story here on NL

Buziness101:
Coming from the gender we fear most.

Yet keep running after

TUANKU:
Don't worry, that bad news blogger will report your story here on NL

😂😂😂😂
Abeg o

HilsonDick:
😂😂😂😂
Abeg o

But on a serious note, you can help her by giving her the phone if you really want to help...as long as there is NOTHING truly going on between you and the said woman.

Give it via someone else, or give it to the husband and explain how you just want to help out. He will thank you and give it to the woman.

skywalker240:
What I can say here is that

Respect yourself and your boundaries, a married woman asking for something from another Man is obviously a bruise on her husband ego, clearly she is telling him to his face that he can't meet up to responsibility.

Any Married Woman that is bold enough to be asking you for phone, can be bold enough to start ask you for money for her children's feeding, upkeeps and even school fees and then yes asking for servicing of the kpekus in the oda room, from clap to dance.

Since over a decade we all have seen that the economy has been drastically degraded and yet a Man is obviously still foolish enough to get another wife? Let me guess, he is Muslim?

Two wives and 8 children? A barber in a cool environment like wuse 2 with one wife and 4 children would be doing fine, but it is extremely foolish for him to pick another wife and put more burden upon himself, how the hell will his wives ever respect him when obviously he can't even provide for them? Why won't the said married woman be asking another Man for itel phone?

Some Men are just silly

Op stay away from that woman, like someone said, the wife might even be rubbing it all over the foolish husband's face, women don't reason repercussions of actions taken, be warned.

something must be wrong with you, why did you assume only Muslims marry more than 1 wife?, Oya op don say otherwise, this is how you people get your self Into unnecessary trouble

Haakeem:
something must be wrong with you, why did you assume only Muslims marry more than 1 wife?, Oya op don say otherwise, this is how you people get your self Into unnecessary trouble

Get Lost

skywalker240:
Get Lost

you should be ashamed of yourself, disaster like u

Haakeem:
you should be ashamed of yourself, disaster like u

I won't reply you again street uncouth urchin

skywalker240:
I won't reply you again street uncouth urchin

like your fathêr, no pun intended