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balingaonline:
Is like the poster of this topic know what is going on in my home, my wife just decided to have quarrel with me without any small point or reason. We have 3 children together (2 boys and a girl) my wife's mother who has been a supporter of her bad behavior is leaving 3 streets to our house, when the children are coming back from school they always go to their grandma's house, sometimes they will eat lunch and super there (not because we don't have food in the house, but because she not always around, when she around she loves them to be with her), when their mother is coming from shop she'll pick them from there, but since when my wife has started her problem, our first born who's 11yrs old boy refused to be going there, he will wait for me alone in the house till I return from work, which is not going well with his mother, she is not cooking our food (me & him), she don't want any of our children to see me as a good father despite doing all my possible best, I'm the one paying their school fees and feeding, she is only assisting in buying them school sanders and sometimes clothes, she has been doing rivalry with her son in the house, even cordial relationship between our children has been reducing due to her behavior. I have been always proof to be a good father to my children, we play together especially computer game and I don't shout or beat them unnecessary, what has been my fear now is that the two children (boy 8 and girl 3) what will be their reaction when they grow up, how they will know that their mother and grandmother are only doing what they can do to let them see me as a bad father. I can't be dragging the steering with their mother for now because I don't want the issue to escalate.

ibedun:
Oni ye ye! Where will you get the time to do that?
Ogbeni please build investment to feed from when you get old. Stop wasting your time making babies with women and be a slave all your life to bring up children that won’t be loyal to you in your old age. HAVE NO MORE THAN 1 Child or 2. Like most men do abroad. So you can develop and invest financially in yourself.

It’s nature plus deliberate manipulation by women.

Brilliancepower:
It is a simple arithmetic, mum stay with kids, fathers don't have time to stay with their kids, they look for money most time till even they die.

dauntless15:
The funny thing is I don't know what all your ranting is about, did I state the number of children I will have? And I even used ”if” and what gave you the impression I'm not investing for when I get old, just talk out of both sides of your mouth without stopping to connect your brain first or reason, and there's no manipulation there, atleast speak for yourself, my mum never manipulated any of us to not be close to our dad, so what are you rambling about.

idahme:
Why are you refusing to fathers as deadbeat but not mothers? Is something wrong with your reasoning faculty? Or is it that women aren't deadbeat? Do you know why you didn't reffer to your gender as deadbeat? This us because women are aliens to accountability and responsibilities always thinking they should be benefiting rather than giving for the betterment of a union. A single father raised his child alone but the woman ge had the child with isn't referred to as deadbeat but a single mother raises her child alone and the man she had her child with is referred to as deadbeat, this is why men aren't appreciated.

A man sees no reason to spoil the mind of his kids towards the woman that bore the child but a woman finding herself in same scenario will spoil the minds of the children leading to bad blood between father and children.

simpleseyi:
Women inhumanity to Men.

As for me, I love my father more than any human being dead or alive.

ibedun:


I was talking generally. Please connect your own brain first. Nature will show you weaklings, love seeking men pepper!

Numerouno94:
I don't joke wit my mama. While growing up mom can give me her last card just to make me happy, she doesn't mind getting loans for me. But Popsy despite having in abundance will tell u his gat no penny. I wouldn't call him Stingy, but his only being careful about his finances so the family won't go broke. I figured it out later.

There is a connection between mom nd I, we share secrets and tell eachother alot. But Popsy always forming the macho man, carrying muscles around like Johnny Bravo and keeping to himself.

As a man paying my bills now, I understand wat my Popsy was actually going through back then which I failed to grasp as a child/teenager. Unfortunately, the did as been done. Me and mum na 5nd6

Agbadocassava:
That’s why you have to marry four wives at least one child from each mother will like you, that’s four children liking their father.

Numerouno94:
I don't joke wit my mama. While growing up mom can give me her last card just to make me happy, she doesn't mind getting loans for me. But Popsy despite having in abundance will tell u his gat no penny. I wouldn't call him Stingy, but his only being careful about his finances so the family won't go broke. I figured it out later.

There is a connection between mom nd I, we share secrets and tell eachother alot. But Popsy always forming the macho man, carrying muscles around like Johnny Bravo and keeping to himself.

As a man paying my bills now, I understand wat my Popsy was actually going through back then which I failed to grasp as a child/teenager. Unfortunately, the did as been done. Me and mum na 5nd6

obembet:
I believe most of us love our Parents equally but, we tend to be a little closer showing our Mother our love better. But why in some homes the children after making it in life come back to take better care of their moms than their dads?

Of course, I know that some fathers are what I call deadbeat dads who must have bottles of beers every evening at the expense of hungry children.

But there are alot of father out there who care so much about Thier children.

Another thing we need to understand is that Nothing brings a man more happiness than having a successful son, seeing his son surpass him. In this context, fathers often raise their sons with a firm hand, instilling lessons through tough love and challenging environments. But many of us don't see this, we only focus on hash and hard training.

Many children still don't know that some moms manipulate the children emotionally to believe they care for them more than their fathers do.

My TAKE

As a father, apart from been a responsible father, father should always try to provide things what their children want and give it to them directly. Father should no allow someone else to take Thier efforts glory.

Also, Give your kids hugs, kisses, hold hands, rub their backs, or snuggle with them. Let the children see this.

Most of nowadays mother are selfish and only care about themselves alone

Source: obembet

pocohantas:
In most cases, no mother is manipulating any child to believe they care for them more. Every child would grow to figure out their parents. As a parent, your child would figure you out someday. Then they will quietly pick a side.

When the kids are good to their father, I haven't seen anyone accusing the mother of manipulating the kids to love him. Neither do they accuse the father of manipulating the kids to hate their mother. But when it is other way, it is the mother.

Many of the guys ranting online do not rate their fathers highly and their mothers have nothing to do with it.

Momma-worship is fuelled mostly by MEN. You hear things like, 1) no one can love you more than your mother. 2) You can insult me anyhow, but if you insult my mother, blood will flow. 3) I want to make my mother proud. 4) If I make money, I will spoil my mum, that woman done too suffer.

I have seen even hardened redpillers make these aforementioned statements with same mouth they use to say no woman can love you. Are their mothers not women? #Logic101

Why don't they ever show this level of loyalty and passion to their fathers since they know fathers are sweet? Not too long ago, there was a Twitter thread of guys insulting their friend's late father. It was mostly men endorsing it. They said it is brotherhood condolence. Something they wouldn't tolerate if their mother was the dead one.

Father's Day, rather than go offline to make it memorable for their fathers, they will stay online, jumping from one vag**a topic to the other and blaming feminism. Whereas 99% haven't called their fathers in 1month.


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Please leave women alone on this overflogged topic. Start from your fathers. Show them love. Start singing of how no woman comes close to your father. Until then, male advocacy remains a reaction to female's. Never as a standalone or genuine love or concern for themselves.

obembet:
I believe most of us love our Parents equally but, we tend to be a little closer showing our Mother our love better. But why in some homes the children after making it in life come back to take better care of their moms than their dads?

Of course, I know that some fathers are what I call deadbeat dads who must have bottles of beers every evening at the expense of hungry children.

For children to love and take care of their mother more than father, most of the time the fault is from the father.
Fistly, most father have militry aproach towards their wife and children. When they are coming home like this. Everyone will just have to hide or display fake gwntleness so that they will not be beaten or punish. They dont know how to show love or play with the children. They dont relate with them, even if they need money they will rather send it through the mother.
Another thing is the way they maltreat their wife. Their is no child that will sees you bulying their mum, not giving her money fore house chore shouting and beating her that will not take side with the mother later in the feature. If you want your children to really loves and care for you at old age, take care of there mother and the children.
Though some mothers too are selfish and unforgiving. They normaly use past offences to hunt there husband and in doing that turning the heart of the children against the father. No matter what might be happening between you and your husband, dont use it to turn there heart against there father. In all our doings lets have the fear of God. God will help us



But there are alot of father out there who care so much about Thier children.

Another thing we need to understand is that Nothing brings a man more happiness than having a successful son, seeing his son surpass him. In this context, fathers often raise their sons with a firm hand, instilling lessons through tough love and challenging environments. But many of us don't see this, we only focus on hash and hard training.

Many children still don't know that some moms manipulate the children emotionally to believe they care for them more than their fathers do.

My TAKE

As a father, apart from been a responsible father, father should always try to provide things what their children want and give it to them directly. Father should no allow someone else to take Thier efforts glory.

Also, Give your kids hugs, kisses, hold hands, rub their backs, or snuggle with them. Let the children see this.

Most of nowadays mother are selfish and only care about themselves alone

Source: obembet

mbahdi:
See question

Numerouno94:
I don't joke wit my mama. While growing up mom can give me her last card just to make me happy, she doesn't mind getting loans for me. But Popsy despite having in abundance will tell u his gat no penny. I wouldn't call him Stingy, but his only being careful about his finances so the family won't go broke. I figured it out later.

There is a connection between mom nd I, we share secrets and tell eachother alot. But Popsy always forming the macho man, carrying muscles around like Johnny Bravo and keeping to himself.

As a man paying my bills now, I understand wat my Popsy was actually going through back then which I failed to grasp as a child/teenager. Unfortunately, the did as been done. Me and mum na 5nd6