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Raphes1010:
Life is really hard for me and I really want to give my 2 kids the best of life a boy 6 and a girl 14 please I need help and don't want to make mistakes I'm a single father their mom is late since 2022

I thought you were hitting it big with your forex trading? What happened?

Thanks so much

Raphes1010:
Life is really hard for me and I really want to give my 2 kids the best of life a boy 6 and a girl 14 please I need help and don't want to make mistakes I'm a single father their mom is late since 2022

Are you willing to adopt them out and signed thr dotted line not to see them forever

Or you think someone will collect them from you and train them for you just like that

Anyway, if you are in good terms with your wife family, plead with them to collect those children from you as you can't afford to keep them

If they accept them from you, don't go and rush to pregnant another woman. Plan for your life and their life too before you settle down, if not you may fall into the worst of them all

frozen70:
Are you willing to adopt them out and signed thr dotted line not to see them forever

Or you think someone will collect them from you and train them for you just like that

Anyway, if you are in good terms with your wife family, plead with them to collect those children from you as you can't afford to keep them

If they accept them from you, don't go and rush to pregnant another woman. Plan for your life and their life too before you settle down, if not you may fall into the worst of them all

none of my family cares about us since 2022 that their mom passed away even their mom family member doesn't care since I did her burial they've never called to even ask how we're doing so yes I'm willing to sign any documents as long as the kids will have a better life and not suffer and I know it's for a life time once they get to meet their new family

Since 2018 I lost my business to market fire outbreak life have never been easy instead of them to not go to school or die of hunger this is the best I know I can do even though I won't be seeing them again

Na wao! Do you want to jeopardize the lives of your kids?

Where is your location?

I pray you get the needed help you need 🙏.


Please be watchful of the kind of people you are giving your kids to, so that we won't hear stories that touch...

We4all:
Na wao! Do you want to jeopardize the lives of your kids?

we're in worst situation imagine staying from morning till night without food

boldx:
Where is your location?

I'm currently at Lagos because I searched adoption page on Facebook I then contacted someone that said I should bring the kids to Lagos because we're staying at Rivers State Port Harcourt so since Sunday last week we've been in Lagos when we got here they said 6yrs is of age now even transportation to go back is a problem that's why I made this post to see if I can get any help

wunmi590:


I pray you get the needed help you need 🙏.


Please be watchful of the kind of people you are giving your kids to, so that we won't hear stories that touch...

haven't seen yet still hoping because the agent that sent for us to Lagos we're still in the person's place since the adoption didn't work the person said we'll have to leave latest next tomorrow that's Tuesday

If mothers can struggle with their children through thick and thin, to a point that they can even beg on the streets with them, then what's stopping you?

And it's too risky to be giving up a girl child at that age, there are vultures out there... Your desperation to give your children the life you can't afford will only cause you to end up making drastic decisions that may have a negative impact on your children in the long run.

Teach them to appreciate the little that you can provide them and motivate them to do better in life in order to become the best in the future.

Raphes1010:
we're in worst situation imagine staying from morning till night without food

What qualification do you have?

We4all:
What qualification do you have?

sadly none 😞

Samantha125:
If mothers can struggle with their children through thick and thin, to a point that they can even beg on the streets with them, then what's stopping you?

And it's too risky to be giving up a girl child at that age, there are vultures out there.

if only I can get something I can be doing to be able to take care of them and put them in school it's been 3yrs now the girl stopped at primary 5 and she is 14 now while the boy stopped at nursery 1 and he is 6 now

Raphes1010:
I'm currently at Lagos because I searched adoption page on Facebook I then contacted someone that said I should bring the kids to Lagos because we're staying at Rivers State Port Harcourt so since Sunday last week we've been in Lagos when we got here they said 6yrs is of age now even transportation to go back is a problem that's why I made this post to see if I can get any help

You don't sound sincere. You are broke but could raise transport from Rivers to Lagos. Why didn't you use that money to feed your kids first? Then, you can go out there and hustle like a man. For someone who is neither sick nor handicapped, I don't know what your problem is.

Raphes1010:
sadly none 😞

Any skills?

What ever you do, don't give up on those children.

Did you know that South Africa's former president Jacob Zuma had no formal education and was taught to read by his cousins? He perfected his reading and writing skills by borrowing books from relatives.

Raphes1010:
if only I can get something I can be doing to be able to take care of them and put them in school it's been 3yrs now the girl stopped at primary 5 and she is 14 now while the boy stopped at nursery 1 and he is 6 now

We4all:
Any skills?

actually I have skills after I lost my food stuff business to fire that burnt the whole market I went and studied financial trading from 2019 to 2022 just that I don't have a start up capital but I've learnt everything about it it was that same 2022 that my wife died and I had to sell the only land I have in my village which was used to pay for her hospital treatment but sadly we still lost her and from that same money I did her burial before her family allowed the kids to go with me so technically I have nothing left because that's the only land for left even my late fathers kindred are not happy with me for selling it because when she had the accident they called a family meeting and advised me to abandon her but I can't just abandon her like that with he 2 kids she was from akwa actually while I'm from Enugu state we met when I was still doing my food stuff business as you can see my family member doesn't care about my existence talk more of the kids even my late wife's step mother and her father have never called ever since the day burial was done it's like we're just abandoned since that 2022 till now I've tried to give the kids a good life but the hardship is too much it pains me to see them crying for food they've even forgotten everything about school

Samantha125:
What ever you do, don't give up on those children.

Did you know that South Africa's former president Jacob Zuma had no formal education and was taught to read by his cousins? He perfected his reading and writing skills by borrowing books from relatives.

I tried to work in waterside in Rivers State Port Harcourt to carry sand from the river to the place the tipper will load at the end of the day I manage to make 2k naira which we use to manage for food and it comes with lot of pains I can't even save money for medication for me or the kids or to even buy some daily necessities for he house because once we use the money to cook it doesn't even last us till night talk more of the next day that's why I searched about this adoption option so the kids won't have to keep suffering like this

Raphes1010:
I'm currently at Lagos because I searched adoption page on Facebook I then contacted someone that said I should bring the kids to Lagos because we're staying at Rivers State Port Harcourt so since Sunday last week we've been in Lagos when we got here they said 6yrs is of age now even transportation to go back is a problem that's why I made this post to see if I can get any help

Don't understand this
U came from rivers to meet someone you never knew.

We4all:
You don't sound sincere. You are broke but could raise transport from Rivers to Lagos. Why didn't you use that money to feed your kids first? Then, you can go out there and hustle like a man. For someone who is neither sick nor handicapped, I don't know what your problem is.

o can show you any proof you want the agent paid for our transportation hoping the adoption will work out so she can get her money back but sadly it didn't just ask me for any proof you want

But what if you give them up only for them to be subjected to abuse wherever they'll be living?

Maybe your son might get lucky because he's still young and he's a boy, but no parents would want a teenage daughter unless they want to use her as their slave.

Raphes1010:
I tried to work in waterside in Rivers State Port Harcourt to carry sand from the river to the place the tipper will load at the end of the day I manage to make 2k naira which we use to manage for food and it comes with lot of pains I can't even save money for medication for me or the kids or to even buy some daily necessities for he house because once we use the money to cook it doesn't even last us till night talk more of the next day that's why I searched about this adoption option so the kids won't have to keep suffering like this

Foodqueen:
Don't understand this
U came from rivers to meet someone you never knew.

I'm from Enugu state but I moved to Rivers State because my people in the village don't care about us that's why I left it's due to how things are hard that's why I searched online about adoption then I got to meet someone who stays in Lagos after explaining to the person I was asked to come with the kids to Lagos that someone will adopt them once they verify that they're truly my kids and I explained to the person that I'm totally out of funds because we hardly see food to eat so the person sent money for transportation that was used to travel down to the person's place I have the proof of it all the only problem now is that the family that wanted to adopt the child said he is too old so the adoption didn't work again

Samantha125:
But what if you give them up only for them to be subjected to abuse wherever they'll be living?

Maybe your son might get lucky because he's still young and he's a boy, but no parents would want a teenage daughter unless they want to use her as their slave.

I just want what's best for them if anyone can help even if it's the boy only I don't mind or if someone can help with something I can be doing to take good care of them

Before I started thinking of giving them out I talked with the kids and made them to understand that once a new family takes them in they will not see me again that new family will be their one and only family and they'll be well taken care of both food to eat and their school and I asked if they really want it the girl said yes that she understands that I'm really suffering to take care of them and the boy too said yes he can adopt to the new family because both of them have suffered in hunger alot and each time they see their fellow age mate going to school they always feel bad most especially the girl even the boy too always tell me he want to go to school but I just can't help it I feel lot of pains in my heart seeing them in pains

Raphes1010:
I'm from Enugu state but I moved to Rivers State because my people in the village don't care about us that's why I left it's due to how things are hard that's why I searched online about adoption then I got to meet someone who stays in Lagos after explaining to the person I was asked to come with the kids to Lagos that someone will adopt them once they verify that they're truly my kids and I explained to the person that I'm totally out of funds because we hardly see food to eat so the person sent money for transportation that was used to travel down to the person's place I have the proof of it all the only problem now is that the family that wanted to adopt the child said he is too old so the adoption didn't work again

Probe of you contacting the person on face, showing date.

Foodqueen:
Probe of you contacting the person on face, showing date.

I'm at her place now she is saying we'll be living next tomorrow since it didn't work out

If you need it privately I can send more proof

Raphes1010:
actually I have skills after I lost my food stuff business to fire that burnt the whole market I went and studied financial trading from 2019 to 2022 just that I don't have a start up capital but I've learnt everything about it it was that same 2022 that my wife died and I had to sell the only land I have in my village which was used to pay for her hospital treatment but sadly we still lost her and from that same money I did her burial before her family allowed the kids to go with me so technically I have nothing left because that's the only land for left even my late fathers kindred are not happy with me for selling it because when she had the accident they called a family meeting and advised me to abandon her but I can't just abandon her like that with he 2 kids she was from akwa actually while I'm from Enugu state we met when I was still doing my food stuff business as you can see my family member doesn't care about my existence talk more of the kids even my late wife's step mother and her father have never called ever since the day burial was done it's like we're just abandoned since that 2022 till now I've tried to give the kids a good life but the hardship is too much it pains me to see them crying for food they've even forgotten everything about school

Your late wife doesn't have any siblings?

We4all:
Your late wife doesn't have any siblings?

no and I'm not close to them