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iwaeda:
I have seen a 63 year old woman, given birth. God doesn't deal with number.

And you were very sure it wasn't doctor's magic called IVF?

Feldie:
is single motherhood not better than menopause induced barreness? What's wrong with having your own child? Must you pack your loads and move to a man's house (mostly rented)?

What are you on about? Why tell a woman to get pregnant before you marry her to prove she is fertile and proceed to not marry her?

There are medical tests to determine fertility, you can do it w/o making a fool of a woman.

Afolue:
sure. Why not.! They are even the best compared to the younger inexperienced Ladies. The younger ones, their mind dey back they can choose to do you bad and believe they can go scot free. But see the matured ones of 30s up, you will be pampered, loved and respected. Biological clock has nothing to do with their reproductive system as long as they’re fertile. She can have all kids in her 40s’. It is God that gives long life

Biological clock has a lot to do with a woman's reproduction.
Fertility decrease with age and most importantly the quality of eggs drastically reduces.
Stop feeding the gullible public with bare faced lies and half truths.

Divoc19:
Till 55 a woman with good fertility will born
If they so wish

Keep telling them lies.
Eventually you had believe it.

franchasng:
It's very okay don't let anybody deceive you.


Many married at 22yrs and remained unable to give birth till their late 40s or early 50s where they birthed their first child through IVF and prayers.



If your destiny is that your wife will give birth without issues, even if you marry a 40yrs plus lady, she will give birth without issues.


There are people that married as virgins below 25yrs and remained unable to give birth till they grew old.


Most times in life, our destinies decide our fate.


And it's also good to marry someone whose star align with yours to have it easy in your marriage journey as a whole.

Na this type of wayward mindset made Africa to remain a Sh1thole.
No plans.
No calculations.
Nothing.
Just vibes and Insha Allah.

Andrecole:
Menopause is 45-50yrs

Long before menopause, fertility drastically reduces.
The risk of having children with defects increases.
Marrying a 35 year old when children are a priority,is a high risk adventure..

Emdebby2:
Why is health related issue always focused on the part of the women? What about the men? Are they above being unhealthy?

A man can naturally impregnate a woman up to his 90s.
Can you say the same about women?
Women and men are not the same when it comes to fertility.
Abi you think na to shout equality up and down?

bigpicture001:
Guy be careful ooo if children is among your priorities in marriage... Them plenty for my area ooo.. about 6 of them... they all bullshit relationships faced money making and found the monies , not through runs oo... Real hardwork... Now they are not so attractive for young men to marry, so they all married failed men...

Failed men, as we call them here are men who have tried and tried to make it and failed to make it.. they may still b very good men, but in terms of financial resources, they have failed and are now quite old ... Usually about 40+... These ladies married them, infact made the marriage work... They men are handsome, gentle, and faithful,... Problem b say.. all the 6 ladies no fit born...

One is now 43 working in access bank.. married a 35 year old very handsome failed tailor guy, quite tall and loayal to her..

One is a surveyor, owns her own office ND also a big and good jewelry store... Married a secondary skl very handsome gentle tall teacher it's been 3 years den no born... Sh even bought the guy a car..

Another is a. Guy who is young like 35, handsome can hold his own , but long throat if marrying good working class lady made him marry a 39 year old lady who is a doctor in a state hospital, they live an elite life.. but it's been 7 years.. no pikin..

Another is a 4p year old farmer, sh delved into at say age 27, built her poultry farm to one of the biggest in my local government, sh get over 80crates of eggs per day..sh has buses for her business, ride a clean Toyota Corolla car, built her parents house and have several workers.. hardworking, independent, but sh realize late sh needed marriage also...now sh married another failed guy who failed to secure permanent staff status from a marketing possible at fcmb..the guy is frustrated...they are now 4years,no child....

Another is a primary skl male teacher who went for a lady who is 38, sh works for a federal university as non teaching staff and can hold her own and have access to good loan... They are 4 years them never born...

All these I listed , believe me, it's not concocted.. they all live in my neighborhood... Plz be careful my man... We are Africans ND like children...

If we as men now start to reject those old ladies, there will b awakening of concern to get married on time.. but if we keep taking them in cuz eventually they made money, we keep encouraging more to toll their paths..

I appreciate how detailed your post is.

Thank you.

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Apparently, some of our men are open to Dual Income, No Kids because of financial reasons.

Interesting stuff....

happney65:
Why would you even consider a 36 year old for anything?

Aha! Are you cursed or something? Are you suffering from inferiority complex so tey you cant see younger girls,younger pussies below the age of 30 around you? Which kain of rubbish and foolishness is that? P.S. I am not even talking about infertility. But the fact that a 36year is who you are considering for marriage screams inferiority complex

Fvck you mehn

Nairalanders no get joy!!!

To be fair though, I can understand his angle because women in his age bracket are on the same mental scope as him. Being with a lady in her early 20s or even mid 20s will be a hard nut to crack in terms of discussions, future plans and general life. Marriage goes beyond pleasure, but day-to-day conversations. This is feasible for a 40 year old man with a 36 year old woman rather than with a 25 year old lady.

APOPTOSIS:
🤣🤣🤣
Be laughing. ou don't know what women go through.
When you see Mothers pushing their daughters to get married quickly you would think they are FooLs. They are not.
IVF is #5 million now in Naija.
$40,000 in California 😭😭😭 Imagine spending on IVF and these babies turn around to disregard & disrespect you in near future

People should focus on having fewer children, train them properly and hands off. You cannot do more than the necessary. The problem lies with placing so much expectations on the children or have them as retirement benefits.

Based on your California figure, I have read a lot about how career women in the New York spend a lot on IVF to no avail. The next decade will see a lot of childless and child-free couples and individuals. Interesting times to be in.

pocohantas:
Funny I see more young single mothers. As in, really young girls with babies and no husband or present father. So they are running the scam on the young girls, but come online to act like they give these girls silver and gold.

Other than those whose husbands/fathers got killed due to the incessant security issues in the country, the bold is terrible in the long run. We should and can do better.

I am against a lady having children before marriage. The risks are too high.

MORIERA:
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Hmmmmm did you just call the younger ones inexperienced

Chief abeg you have to be more specific bout this your inexperience thing... Remember we are talking bout the oza room here... A girl of 16 got more experience than most of those married women out there... So abeg you need elaborate more on that inexperience thing abeg

The guy don take kai kai ignore him. Those young girls aren't just experience there body are still flexible for any sexual move than the 30's


Marrying lady's in her 20's is the best for peace of mind, you see 30's 35? Better impregnate her before wedding to know her fertility status

Domyresearch:
Women's reproductive health decline by age and as soon they are approaching 40 their chance of giving birth to healthy babies become slimmer. Why do you think there is rolise in down syndrome, ADHD, special education needs children. Because career women are given birth late and it impacts the children creating a problem for the couple for a long term. I'll advice you, go for a younger lady and save yourself the stress. Remember, true love is not a feeling

True love is not a feeling. This one touch me deeply bro.

MORIERA:
@bolded
Hmmmmm did you just call the younger ones inexperienced

Chief abeg you have to be more specific bout this your inexperience thing... Remember we are talking bout the oza room here... A girl of 16 got more experience than most of those married women out there... So abeg you need elaborate more on that inexperience thing abeg

Are saying a married woman has not been 16 before? You should have just said some 16 year olds.

bigpicture001:
Guy be careful ooo if children is among your priorities in marriage... Them plenty for my area ooo.. about 6 of them... they all bullshit relationships faced money making and found the monies , not through runs oo... Real hardwork... Now they are not so attractive for young men to marry, so they all married failed men...

Failed men, as we call them here are men who have tried and tried to make it and failed to make it.. they may still b very good men, but in terms of financial resources, they have failed and are now quite old ... Usually about 40+... These ladies married them, infact made the marriage work... They men are handsome, gentle, and faithful,... Problem b say.. all the 6 ladies no fit born...

One is now 43 working in access bank.. married a 35 year old very handsome failed tailor guy, quite tall and loayal to her..

One is a surveyor, owns her own office ND also a big and good jewelry store... Married a secondary skl very handsome gentle tall teacher it's been 3 years den no born... Sh even bought the guy a car..

Another is a. Guy who is young like 35, handsome can hold his own , but long throat if marrying good working class lady made him marry a 39 year old lady who is a doctor in a state hospital, they live an elite life.. but it's been 7 years.. no pikin..

Another is a 4p year old farmer, sh delved into at say age 27, built her poultry farm to one of the biggest in my local government, sh get over 80crates of eggs per day..sh has buses for her business, ride a clean Toyota Corolla car, built her parents house and have several workers.. hardworking, independent, but sh realize late sh needed marriage also...now sh married another failed guy who failed to secure permanent staff status from a marketing possible at fcmb..the guy is frustrated...they are now 4years,no child....

Another is a primary skl male teacher who went for a lady who is 38, sh works for a federal university as non teaching staff and can hold her own and have access to good loan... They are 4 years them never born...

All these I listed , believe me, it's not concocted.. they all live in my neighborhood... Plz be careful my man... We are Africans ND like children...

If we as men now start to reject those old ladies, there will b awakening of concern to get married on time.. but if we keep taking them in cuz eventually they made money, we keep encouraging more to toll their paths..

Nice advice bro. Thanks for revealing a true life story for us to learn.
But bros no vex o... You be amebo sha!

MORIERA:
Menopause typically occurs in women between the ages of 45 and 55, with the average age being around 51 years old. However, it can start as early as a woman's mid-30s or as late as her early 60s....

Keep in mind that every woman's experience with menopause is unique, and the age range can vary depending on various factors, such as lifestyle, genetics, and if juju level lol

Why settle for a lady that has been bleeped by different guys in different positions you can't imagine. She might have even started fucking as early as 17 yrs bro.

That pussy has seen it best days bro. Look for a fresh blood.
Forget her niceness and kindness. Who wouldn't be at that age just to settle down.

AliEzeOlu:
Hello friends, so I met this lady in 2022 and we plan to settle down early next year. But the problem is, she's gonna clock 36 in December.

I heard about ladies and their biological clock plus menopause etc. I dont know, considering women's biological clock, is it advisable for a 40 year old man to marry a 36y/o?

It's not applied to all women. If she's good, settle down with her. You're 40, she's 36, what are you guys still waiting for?

bigpicture001:
Go for ladies that will expressly give u children.. leave ladies who has wasted their time all cu they are looking for rich guyz...

If the clock turns ND sh happened to b 25 ND u are middle income guy.. sh will never ever listen to u talk less of agree to marry u...

same young girls are following married older men na.

She must have dated and suffered heartbreaks before. Not all of them are over-used, man.

If na your sister, how you go feel?

The simple sure thing to do is check your fertility status and other things like genotype, blood group, rhesus factor etc. One okay, go ahead.

Caseless:
same young girls are following married older men na.

She must have dated and suffered heartbreaks before. Not all of them are over-used, man.

If na your sister, how you go feel?

All my sister's... Married in their mid twenties.. except our last born.. who refused to marry.... Sh continue to turn middle income guyz down... Guyz dt are very very serious... Sh was waiting for a rich abroad based guyz who usually toast and flex her .. sh is very fine... Sh waited until sh turned 36 .. ND later went to one of those guyz dt HV been on her case for 8years ND said yes... They are now married now for 5 yes...


Guess what! No child

My mom birthed our last born at the age of 55😆😆 while I was 34 years old nd being a middle child as well . she didn’t even know she was pregnant . Mom gave birth to healthy and a very brilliant son . He is in JSS 3 and the head boy of his class 😃😃

Women biological clocks differs. What works for A won’t work for B

All you need is to check her fertility status . And yours too

Make I chook mouth for this matter. Kids should be the priority of anyone who didn't make it to the seminary, conventrary and monastery. On what grounds should na normal man or woman be postponing child bearing? s for marriage, it's a discussion for another day.

1Sharon:
What are you on about? Why tell a woman to get pregnant before you marry her to prove she is fertile and proceed to not marry her?

There are medical tests to determine fertility, you can do it w/o making a fool of a woman.

it's her baby too. Children also belong to the mothers. She can wait around until they are able to get money for marriage and maybe by then she will already be menopausal.
Tell me, what is more important, having your own child or wearing fancy clothes and cooking for strangers for one day just so you can tell people you are a married woman? People that will still laugh at you and call you barren?

Flexyup:
Nice advice bro. Thanks for revealing a true life story for us to learn.
But bros no vex o... You be amebo sha!

Muchecheche hahaha 😂

hardknocksng:
My mom birthed our last born at the age of 55😆😆 while I was 34 years old nd being a middle child as well . she didn’t even know she was pregnant . Mom gave birth to healthy and a very brilliant son . He is in JSS 3 and the head boy of his class 😃😃

Women biological clocks differs. What works for A won’t work for B

All you need is to check her fertility status . And yours too

Hmmmmm 🤔

pocohantas:
Women done really suffer for Naija.
If not that FFK and late Alaafin's wives divorced them, we would never have heard the story of how their kids came about. Since both men miraculously expected their young wives to do magic.



Funny I see more young single mothers. As in, really young girls with babies and no husband or present father. So they are running the scam on the young girls, but come online to act like they give these girls silver and gold.

Most of them shoot zero like FFK. When you hear married nigeria women commit adultery. This is one of the reasons. Since society is hostile to divorced women, women have to device means to balance the equation.

Some men can't get it up at all. It might be getting up during courtship,not knowing bobo dey use drug or anything. Post wedding and bliss. Thing dey like cold jelly. Or it will get up and quickly die. Na so you go dey do Mouth Action till your mouth start hurting like hell. Then you start calculating. You will never win. Another unfortunate woman is ever ready to replace you and society, religion, friends and family will come for your head.

When you are OK and man refuses to see a doctor, you will want to try outside to see if it will click. Some are so unhealthy. Children with genetic disorders are as a result of bad egg and sperm squarely.

And as they age, the vibrancy will just start to die.
It takes time to stand. Guy can't even pump for 5 min max. If a man is 40 and above and still active in bed, that's a blessing for the spouse. Medical records don't lie. A woman can freeze her eggs.
Action is still on till she is ready to die. We are yet to talk about midlife crises. Guess many of them don't know what that is.
Imagine a man talking about menopause.

bigpicture001:
U dnt get it brother... She will b ovulating and menstruating... Only problem is miscarriage upon miscarriage... And each of the miscarriage, sh will bleed scarily... Like over two weeks or more ND nearly lose her life.. and some will carry the babe throughout nine months and die at stage of child birth if sh goes natural no process....

N. B, it's not true for ALL aged ladies.. many of them still have save delivery

Is that why surrogacy is good

AliEzeOlu:
Hello friends, so I met this lady in 2022 and we plan to settle down early next year. But the problem is, she's gonna clock 36 in December.

I heard about ladies and their biological clock plus menopause etc. I dont know, considering women's biological clock, is it advisable for a 40 year old man to marry a 36y/o?

It can happen at an age. Just depends on circumstances.

bigpicture001:
Guy be careful ooo if children is among your priorities in marriage... Them plenty for my area ooo.. about 6 of them... they all bullshit relationships faced money making and found the monies , not through runs oo... Real hardwork... Now they are not so attractive for young men to marry, so they all married failed men...

Failed men, as we call them here are men who have tried and tried to make it and failed to make it.. they may still b very good men, but in terms of financial resources, they have failed and are now quite old ... Usually about 40+... These ladies married them, infact made the marriage work... They men are handsome, gentle, and faithful,... Problem b say.. all the 6 ladies no fit born...

One is now 43 working in access bank.. married a 35 year old very handsome failed tailor guy, quite tall and loayal to her..

One is a surveyor, owns her own office ND also a big and good jewelry store... Married a secondary skl very handsome gentle tall teacher it's been 3 years den no born... Sh even bought the guy a car..

Another is a. Guy who is young like 35, handsome can hold his own , but long throat if marrying good working class lady made him marry a 39 year old lady who is a doctor in a state hospital, they live an elite life.. but it's been 7 years.. no pikin..

Another is a 4p year old farmer, sh delved into at say age 27, built her poultry farm to one of the biggest in my local government, sh get over 80crates of eggs per day..sh has buses for her business, ride a clean Toyota Corolla car, built her parents house and have several workers.. hardworking, independent, but sh realize late sh needed marriage also...now sh married another failed guy who failed to secure permanent staff status from a marketing possible at fcmb..the guy is frustrated...they are now 4years,no child....

Another is a primary skl male teacher who went for a lady who is 38, sh works for a federal university as non teaching staff and can hold her own and have access to good loan... They are 4 years them never born...

All these I listed , believe me, it's not concocted.. they all live in my neighborhood... Plz be careful my man... We are Africans ND like children...

If we as men now start to reject those old ladies, there will b awakening of concern to get married on time.. but if we keep taking them in cuz eventually they made money, we keep encouraging more to toll their paths..

I guess that none of the ladies/couples is rich enough to afford IVF and/or surrogacy

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Exceed15:
If this is a big concern for you then reconsider your intention.

if he loves the lady. He should get her pregnant then within space of two months get everything done simple. But in other hand if she didn't conceive, I believe he knows what to do. Or better still they can adopt.