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neolboy:
This is my life story
I am sharing my experience here about marriage life, some of you might call me a Simp or weakling but need to share it for those who asked me to share it when I write on a topic about what i regretted so far in 2025, was getting married last year December and ending it this Year January will pick one or two things from my story.

I met this girl 2023 through a mutual friend, we became an acquaintance and later start dating. She is from Delta state likewise myself, she comes from Ndokwa west specifically Kwale by tribe. In 2024 i proposed to her, by May I went to see her family while she came to meet mine also.

Early September i asked her family for the traditional list. We both agreed for traditional marriage and court wedding, After collecting the list we start planning towards the traditional marriage which was fixed on December 29 on a Sunday afternoon. That faithful day, i went with my people to pay the bride price and other things, and the court wedding was fixed on January 17.

January 7th, we were together discussing but something strange happened, her phone rang and i saw her going outside to answer some calls, after sometimes she came back inside not composed. I asked her what the problem was but she downplayed it and told me it was nothing, but i was not comfortable, after a while her phone rang again, it was her brother's wife calling her and asking her if she has told me about the pregnancy. I was shocked and asked her what pregnancy is she talking about.

Here comes the shock of my life, i discovered that she was some weeks pregnant, I asked her who got her pregnant, to my surprise, it was her ex boyfriend. I was enraged, mad and furious, something was whispering into my ear to go into the kitchen take a knife and stab her. Luckily for me, my younger sister called me at that moment, if not i don't know what i would have done to her. Because it was late i left the house for her.

In the morning, i came back, she was already in tears crying and asking me for forgiveness. I told her to leave my house, I picked up my phone call all her family members, called mine also.
Her family were trying to persuade me to forgive her but i told them it was unforgivable. My family asked for the refund of the bride price which was later refunded after they discovered that i did not bulge to their request of accepting her back.

It was a painful moment and a painful experience too, but i was able to pull through by the help of my family members some friends.

It was a long story i had to cut it short. It is my life story

Moral lesson: Do pregnancy test even on the day you are to tie the knot, do not trust to the extent of ignoring little things.

Extra: The guy who got her pregnant was aware and even told the girl's sister that his property with them he is coming in future to collect it. Na so I for dey look after another man's property

If she had opened up to you, would you still have accepted her?

Watcharena:
No marriage deal if she is not a virgin


Only simp can marry a non virgin


Never you in your life Marry a non virgin

A non virgin is not worth been a wife

Your virgin campaign is primitive bro, you can Mary virgin and still have marital problems and trust me, you can Mary non virgin and still have peace. Peace is all we want in a family, once that peace is ensured , the rest is simple.

This is one of the reasons first children usually give issues in the family. Some first borns are strange blood and spiritually this is a curse.

Men should learn to spot if a lady desperately want to settle down with you because you're ready, for her survival or for societal validation. Ladies have now coined a phrase marry who's ready and not who you Love - they'll still be knocking who they love inside marriage

I wrote about this here: https://www.nairaland.com/8375720/men-before-marry-check-she

Chickensoup:
➜That's their preference. Everybody is allowed to seek for what they want. That doesn't make them perverts.

It actually does! For someone who is not a virgin to demand another meet that requirement before marriage means the person is not only disconnected from the reality of life and living, but has a perverted fixation on that which is unreasonable to begin with.

neolboy:
My people told me I got lucky that I was able to pull out on time

You really are.

A friend of mine is wishing till date he had had the mind to pull the plug when he noticed some bullsh*ts, but was too bothered with what will people say and is living in a hell of a marriage.

Thank God you discovers early.

Me I'm on the last lap of my ongoing divorce. I would have left the bride price with the family but people say the implication is that you are still legally married until it's fully refunded.

neolboy:
This is my life story
I am sharing my experience here about marriage life, some of you might call me a Simp or weakling but need to share it for those who asked me to share it when I write on a topic about what i regretted so far in 2025, was getting married last year December and ending it this Year January will pick one or two things from my story.

I met this girl 2023 through a mutual friend, we became an acquaintance and later start dating. She is from Delta state likewise myself, she comes from Ndokwa west specifically Kwale by tribe. In 2024 i proposed to her, by May I went to see her family while she came to meet mine also.

Early September i asked her family for the traditional list. We both agreed for traditional marriage and court wedding, After collecting the list we start planning towards the traditional marriage which was fixed on December 29 on a Sunday afternoon. That faithful day, i went with my people to pay the bride price and other things, and the court wedding was fixed on January 17.

January 7th, we were together discussing but something strange happened, her phone rang and i saw her going outside to answer some calls, after sometimes she came back inside not composed. I asked her what the problem was but she downplayed it and told me it was nothing, but i was not comfortable, after a while her phone rang again, it was her brother's wife calling her and asking her if she has told me about the pregnancy. I was shocked and asked her what pregnancy is she talking about.

Here comes the shock of my life, i discovered that she was some weeks pregnant, I asked her who got her pregnant, to my surprise, it was her ex boyfriend. I was enraged, mad and furious, something was whispering into my ear to go into the kitchen take a knife and stab her. Luckily for me, my younger sister called me at that moment, if not i don't know what i would have done to her. Because it was late i left the house for her.

In the morning, i came back, she was already in tears crying and asking me for forgiveness. I told her to leave my house, I picked up my phone call all her family members, called mine also.
Her family were trying to persuade me to forgive her but i told them it was unforgivable. My family asked for the refund of the bride price which was later refunded after they discovered that i did not bulge to their request of accepting her back.

It was a painful moment and a painful experience too, but i was able to pull through by the help of my family members some friends.

It was a long story i had to cut it short. It is my life story

Moral lesson: Do pregnancy test even on the day you are to tie the knot, do not trust to the extent of ignoring little things.

Extra: The guy who got her pregnant was aware and even told the girl's sister that his property with them he is coming in future to collect it. Na so I for dey look after another man's property

I can’t vouch that yours is a true story (not doubting you, either) but I know that worse things happen. With daughters of Eve, expect the unthinkable.

Watcharena:
non virgins are fighting back ,even the Bible said only virgins can be married

Vawulence

Gandollar:
Huncle be calming down..

What you guys see as body count is not truly body count.

Any man that fails to make a lady reach orgasm can't be counted ok.

Are you a virgin yourself? Or you want to pound fresh palm fruits in a rotten mortar?

@Op, sorry for your experience. I hope you can love again?

Try and love again.

If all men are not the same, then all women can't be the same.

Don't carry trauma everywhere you go like stretch marks.

Try again.

Body count doesn't mean orgasm. It means the number of sex partners the person have had throughout their life. The lady that had sex with 1000 men didn't have orgasm from all of them yet it was added to her body count.

congratulation brother.

NotOfThisWorld:
God saved you. If you hadn't heard the phone call that day, she would've entered the marriage with her ex's pregnancy. This also means the whole time you were dating and doing marriage preparations, she was seeing her ex and sleeping with him. Well, thank God for your life.

I know a girl that was sleeping with her ex even when she was planning marriage. My cousin,her would be husband later caught her, but wedding was already fixed. Some months after the wedding, the useless girl confessed that she even did an abortion for her ex some weeks before the wedding. The marriage was almost called off, but the guy's parents were begging him to forgive the bitch.

LordBiden:
She is a good lady,at least she didn't try to pin the pregnancy on you,she even had plans to confess to you.

Not like you're even a virgin sef.

Mtcheewww...

Na madness dey your head

Kobojunkie:
It actually does! For someone who is not a virgin to demand another meet that requirement before marriage means the person is not only disconnected from the reality of life and living, but has a perverted fixation on that which is unreasonable to begin with.

Ok let me make some examples. Women that are short seeking only tall men, women that are fat only seeking fit men, women that are broke only seeking filthy rich men. Those are their preferences. A pervert is a hyper sexual hungry individual. If they find a virgin then good for them however getting a partner needs more than just virginity seeking so good luck to them.

It has been long since we read a fake story on FP

NaijaNaWaa:
I can’t vouch that yours is a true story (not doubting you, either) but I know that worse things happen. With daughters of Eve, expect the unthinkable.

Only those who are close to me knows it's my life story, most people i tell thinks it's a movie

neolboy:
This is my life story
I am sharing my experience here about marriage life, some of you might call me a Simp or weakling but need to share it for those who asked me to share it when I write on a topic about what i regretted so far in 2025, was getting married last year December and ending it this Year January will pick one or two things from my story.

I met this girl 2023 through a mutual friend, we became an acquaintance and later start dating. She is from Delta state likewise myself, she comes from Ndokwa west specifically Kwale by tribe. In 2024 i proposed to her, by May I went to see her family while she came to meet mine also.

Early September i asked her family for the traditional list. We both agreed for traditional marriage and court wedding, After collecting the list we start planning towards the traditional marriage which was fixed on December 29 on a Sunday afternoon. That faithful day, i went with my people to pay the bride price and other things, and the court wedding was fixed on January 17.

January 7th, we were together discussing but something strange happened, her phone rang and i saw her going outside to answer some calls, after sometimes she came back inside not composed. I asked her what the problem was but she downplayed it and told me it was nothing, but i was not comfortable, after a while her phone rang again, it was her brother's wife calling her and asking her if she has told me about the pregnancy. I was shocked and asked her what pregnancy is she talking about.

Here comes the shock of my life, i discovered that she was some weeks pregnant, I asked her who got her pregnant, to my surprise, it was her ex boyfriend. I was enraged, mad and furious, something was whispering into my ear to go into the kitchen take a knife and stab her. Luckily for me, my younger sister called me at that moment, if not i don't know what i would have done to her. Because it was late i left the house for her.

In the morning, i came back, she was already in tears crying and asking me for forgiveness. I told her to leave my house, I picked up my phone call all her family members, called mine also.
Her family were trying to persuade me to forgive her but i told them it was unforgivable. My family asked for the refund of the bride price which was later refunded after they discovered that i did not bulge to their request of accepting her back.

It was a painful moment and a painful experience too, but i was able to pull through by the help of my family members some friends.

It was a long story i had to cut it short. It is my life story

Moral lesson: Do pregnancy test even on the day you are to tie the knot, do not trust to the extent of ignoring little things.

Extra: The guy who got her pregnant was aware and even told the girl's sister that his property with them he is coming in future to collect it. Na so I for dey look after another man's property

If she didn't tell you, would you have known? NO! I guess you wouldn't.

I am beginning to agree with my friend Dolu who said that no good deed goes unpunished.

Man would often get punished for the good (and kindness) which he does to his fellow man.

Court marriage?! Well, NO.

As an African Man, why two marriage occasions? I mean, traditional and then court?! WTF!??

Just saying tho

Kobojunkie:
But you are equally a non-virgin yourself, proof that this claim of yours is clearly born of a private delusion.

2. Yet another private delusion of yours since the Bible never said any such.

It never said it exactly the way he put it , but it is in the Bible. But let’s not be religious about this issue , else we will make a mess of it the way I made a mess of someone’s traditional marriage.

LordBiden:
She is a good lady,at least she didn't try to pin the pregnancy on you,she even had plans to confess to you.

Not like you're even a virgin sef.

Mtcheewww...

one of my guy Scot his girlfriend who was 4month pregnant. She move into my guy house in August, and leave October, and she give birth in January... When told my guy the girl was pregnant but he keep saying she was not.

LordBiden:
She is a good lady,at least she didn't try to pin the pregnancy on you,she even had plans to confess to you.

Not like you're even a virgin sef.

Mtcheewww...

There's always an Id10t somewhere waiting to disgrace his family

Chickensoup:
➜Ok let me make some examples. Women that are short seeking only tall men, women that are fat only seeking fit men, women that are broke only seeking filthy rich men. Those are their preferences.
➜ A pervert is a hyper sexual hungry individual. If they find them good for them however getting a partner needs more than just virginity seeking so good luck to them.

What in the world is this about? What you have listed here are choices to provide better chances to their offspring, is it not? Nothing perverted about that.

2. Nonsense! Fixating on that which one has none of, cannot afford, and has no real use for, except for the sexual satisfaction— and maybe the deluded boost in ego— one hopes to gain from the encounter is part of what makes such people perverts.

ComradeKunle:
I don't know if she used jazz on him or outright stupidity. Even his siblings are using it to mock him at any slightest provocation. Imagine another man's child being your first son? Imagine the generational abnormally?

The boy will not even be 12 before he knows the story.

They just want to damage this poor child.

Though this story is fake, but it's a lesson never to trust women

Her family were trying to persuade me to forgive her but i told them it was unforgivable. My family asked for the refund of the bride price which was later refunded after they discovered that i did not bulge to their request of accepting her back[color=#990000][/color][/b][b].they are mad in that family if you are the son from the family will they ask you to marry the gal thank God for your life

hosemujica:
➜ It never said it exactly the way he put it , but it is in the Bible. But let’s not be religious about this issue , else we will make a mess of it the way I made a mess of someone’s traditional marriage.

Wrong! It is not according to the Bible.

Gandollar:
Huncle be calming down..

What you guys see as body count is not truly body count.

Any man that fails to make a lady reach orgasm can't be counted ok.

Are you a virgin yourself? Or you want to pound fresh palm fruits in a rotten mortar?

@Op, sorry for your experience. I hope you can love again?

Try and love again.

If all men are not the same, then all women can't be the same.

Don't carry trauma everywhere you go like stretch marks.

Try again.

So every meter that goes into the 'mileage' shouldn't be counted🤨. It's only in folds of 'ten' that it should be counted 👀?

Watcharena:
non virgins are fighting back ,even the Bible said only virgins can be married

True that,comrade

Kobojunkie:
What in the world is this about? What you have listed here are choices to provide better chances to their offspring, is it not? Nothing perverted about that.

2. Nonsense! Fixating on that which one has none of, cannot afford, and has no real use for, except for the sexual satisfaction— and maybe the deluded boost in ego— one hopes to gain from the encounter is part of what makes such people perverts.

No it's not for ego. Most promiscuous ladies tend to have higher chances of bad events. Their tube getting blocked due to too much sex with multiple men, less chances of STD, less chances of traumatic experience from bad men, less chances of unknowingly marrying a single mom, the list can go on.
My point is that depending on who you ask, the response will differ. Men will say well I can't change my height so it's unrealistic to bounce me because of that and a woman will say it's unrealistic for me not to experience sex until marriage.
So seeking virgins is a valid preference.

LordBiden:
She is a good lady,at least she didn't try to pin the pregnancy on you,she even had plans to confess to you.

Not like you're even a virgin sef.

Mtcheewww...

Modified:i was only catching cruise o,chai I never knew this will make FrontPage,see over 8 mentions,with some insulting me.

When you as a woman starts sponsoring marriages then you can say this ans would be valid. You can't have 10 k in your account and so a wedding ans still have same 10 k in your account after the wedding and expect men and women are the same as yiu depicted at bolded. When you do what men do then you have the right to do equality bullshit, you are not equal with your employer

D funny part is, it is when the girls meet a serious relationship dat ex will start popping up from every direction to rekindle their former love n they r so dumb to realize dat it's a manipulation to destroy what they have going on. If I fall in love with a woman again n she is not a virgin, na for parlour I go pay her bride price. Sme women dnt deserve d expensive wedding sme men r going thru hell to do. One non virgin d other day was telling me her ring must be gold, she does not stay in a noisy area, I block her since dat day, nonsense.

Chickensoup:
➜No it's not for ego. Most promiscuous ladies tend to have higher chances of bad events. Their tube getting blocked due to too much sex with multiple men, less chances of STD, less chances of traumatic experience from bad men, less chances of unknowingly marrying a single mom, the list can go on.
My point is that depending on who you ask, the response will differ. Men will say well I can't change my height so it's unrealistic to bounce me because of that and a woman will say it's unrealistic for me not to experience sex until marriage. So seeking virgins is a valid preference.

Your so-called point remains moot! Again, a person whose fixation is on getting a virgin when he is not himself a virgin, and cannot even afford to pay for that virginity, which in the end brings nothing substantial to his existence except sexual gratification, is nothing but a pervert.

EdiskyHarry:
Though this story is fake, but it's a lesson never to trust women

it show that you are still a kid