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How did you find out that your friend wasn't really your friend?

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Just a year ago,I was sunk in debts to the extent that I had to sell my Keke just to clear some parts of it........A very good female friend of mine whom I used to consider as my bestie, someone whom I took and saw as more than a sister borrowed me a sum of 70k......Tho initially I promised to pay back within a period of 2 weeks but all my expectations were cut short as I was even unable to make my own ends meet.........

When it was time to refund the money,I was even the first person to call her to explain what I was passing through at that moment...That I was even into police problem to the extent that I had to leave town for my safety sake........But guess what? She rained insults on me via WhatsApp messages.....This is someone whom i could give my last dime just to make her happy.....but now I've paid all my debts and the friendship is no more cuz I feel so betrayed..

I put so much faith in friends

Sonnobax15:

Just a year ago,I was sunk in debts to the extent that I had to sell my Keke just to clear some parts of it........A very good female friend of mine whom I used to consider as my bestie, someone whom I took and saw as more than a sister borrowed me a sum of 70k......Tho initially I promised to pay back within a period of 2 weeks but all my expectations were cut short as I was even unable to make my own ends meet.........

When it was time to refund the money,I was even the first person to call her to explain what I was passing through at that moment...That I was even into police problem to the extent that I had to leave town for my safety sake........But guess what? She rained insults on me via WhatsApp messages.....This is someone whom i could give my last dime just to make her happy.....but now I've paid all my debts and the friendship is no more cuz I feel so betrayed..

Holly Gram Fear no catch u, u de take woman do bestie..

U don learn the hard way shar..

LITE UP my WEED in peace

WTF MAN!

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram Fear no catch u, u de take woman do bestie..

U don learn the hard way shar..

LITE UP my WEED in peace

WTF MAN!

. Bro,na female bestie sweet pass especially when nothing like sexual attraction is attached.......I know what I'm talking about..........I don experience am many times but this particular one really pain my reach my blokos cuz I no expect am at all

Chilipepper:
How did you find out that your friend wasn't really your friend?

This one forgot to tell us whether he had, in the past, bilked the same friend of money and/or trust. I would consider most of these stories as half-truths, as the storytellers forgot to mention how they had in the past helped those very same besties out of situations of similar magnitude or close. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Sonnobax15:
. Bro,na female bestie sweet pass especially when nothing like sexual attraction is attached.......I know what I'm talking about..........I don experience am many times but this particular one really pain my reach my blokos cuz I no expect am at all

Holly Gram "This is someone whom i could give my last dime just to make her happy"

And no sexual attraction ;

Which means she go don bill u heaven and earth in the name of bestie..

U could give ur last dime.. Damm this alone took me de hell out.

WTF MAN!

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram "This is someone whom i could give my last dime just to make her happy"

And no sexual attention ;

Which means she go don bill u heaven and eat in the name of bestie..

U could give ur last dime.. Damm this alone took me de hell out.

WTF MAN!

. You be indeed a joker . Lemme leave you to your own imaginations..

Business wasn't doing too well...

Asked this paddy...my real paddy o. To borrow me cash. He said he didn't have. Infact, he was struggling.

I wanted to sell property this paddy was the first to offer a bid with cash. And the worst part was he was offering an amount way below the value because he knew I was stranded.

That period of my struggles I was owing him small money that wasn't even enough for our usual expenses for beer. Or money I usually will gift him. Or that he himself will usually ignore.

That small amount almost resulted in big problem the way he 'stood on my head to collect. Why at that particular time...? And he knew the challenges I was going through in business.

After I sorted myself I gradually withdrew from him.

So many experiences I can't share here. But till today those experiences still affect my relationship with people in terms of my ability to trust friends.

Most times I just stay on my own these days. Like this I hardly keep close friends now!

In 2015, I obtained a dredging contract with Setraco through a close friend who is a chief. However, I faced funding challenges, as both First Bank and Union Bank, along with another institution, declined to finance the project. Seeking assistance, I was introduced to someone else by the same chief, who turned out to be an old friend. He agreed to undertake the job, and we decided on a 50/50 profit-sharing arrangement upon completion.

He requested a copy of the purchase order to review the project scope overnight before drafting an agreement, and I complied.

We were scheduled to sign the agreement the following morning. I tried reaching Emeka multiple times, but he didn’t answer. I hoped he would return my calls.

By evening, when I still hadn’t heard from him, I contacted the chief, who mentioned that he had also been trying to get in touch with Emeka without success.

Two days later, I discovered that Emeka had secretly met with the community's PG to conspire against me by changing my company's name.

Upon learning of his betrayal, I visited his shop five times, only to find him missing each time. Eventually, I decided to let things unfold naturally.

On the 27th day, the chief called to inform me that the dredger rented by Emeka had sunk and was beyond rescue.

Emeka is now responsible for the cost of the dredger, and the contract has been terminated.

That’s how fate chose to resolve the situation.

The dude is extremely broke now, and he has been pleading for mercy.

Time will decide that too.

us way no get friends nko

brain54:
Business wasn't doing too well...

Asked this paddy...my real paddy o. To borrow me cash. He said he didn't have. Infact, he was struggling.

I wanted to sell property this paddy was the first to offer a bid with cash. And the worst part was he was offering an amount way below the value because he knew I was stranded.

That period of my struggles I was owing him small money that wasn't even enough for our usual expenses for beer. Or money I usually will gift him. Or that he himself will usually ignore.

That small amount almost resulted in big problem the way he 'stood on my head to collect. Why at that particular time...? And he knew the challenges I was going through in business.

After I sorted myself I gradually withdrew from him.

So many experiences I can't share here. But till today those experiences still affect my relationship with people in terms of my ability to trust friends.

Most times I just stay on my own these days. Like this I hardly keep close friends now!

Reminds me of this friend who asked me to borrow him 50k last year. I did 'cos he had a family emergency. Last week I was in bad health and asked this same guy to borrow me 5k and he said he doesn't have. Okay, no wahala.

The next day, this guy sent a video to our group chat we created for we close friends to communicate with each other.
In the video, this guy took his car to the mechanic and spent 65k on repairs. After then, he went to a boutique to get clothes.
I was like "damn, nothing spoil"

This guy in question is a friend I've known since JSS1

Wait, people still dey get friends?

LoL 😆😆

brain54:
Business wasn't doing too well...

Asked this paddy...my real paddy o. To borrow me cash. He said he didn't have. Infact, he was struggling.

I wanted to sell property this paddy was the first to offer a bid with cash. And the worst part was he was offering an amount way below the value because he knew I was stranded.

That period of my struggles I was owing him small money that wasn't even enough for our usual expenses for beer. Or money I usually will gift him. Or that he himself will usually ignore.

That small amount almost resulted in big problem the way he 'stood on my head to collect. Why at that particular time...? And he knew the challenges I was going through in business.

After I sorted myself I gradually withdrew from him.

So many experiences I can't share here. But till today those experiences still affect my relationship with people in terms of my ability to trust friends.

Most times I just stay on my own these days. Like this I hardly keep close friends now!

Those kinds of people can kill

WhiteIverson:
Reminds me of this friend who asked me to borrow him 50k last year. I did 'cos he had a family emergency. Last week I was in bad health and asked this same guy to borrow me 5k and he said he doesn't have. Okay, no wahala.

The next day, this guy sent a video to our group chat we created for we close friends to communicate with each other.
In the video, this guy took his car to the mechanic and spent 65k on repairs. After then, he went to a boutique to get clothes.
I was like "damn, nothing spoil"

This guy in question is a friend I've known since JSS1

Some friends aren't loyal...

He was to be the Best man at my wedding, but he failed to show up. I had to make an emergency substitution. Almost 20 years now, no explanation, no apology. Whenever we meet, he acts as if nothing happened. Needless to say, our friendship ended a long time ago . . .

I am always very skeptical about stories and experiences like these. Many times, they don't tell the full story. They will only mention how their friend refused to lend them money to pay hospital bill.

They won't disclose the times this friend has come through for them or how they owe money to others and have refused to pay back, how they've earned a reputation for telling all sorts of lies to borrow money they will never pay back. But because agenda must agend, they share only the part that will make readers crucify the other party.

Another one said he's a musician and content creator, now blaming his friends for not sharing his work. Ask him if he has ever shared his friends' content and he might just go d u m b.

Abee79:
He was to be the Best man at my wedding, but he failed to show up. I had to make an emergency substitution. Almost 20 years now, no explanation, no apology. Whenever we meet, he acts as if nothing happened. Needless to say, our friendship ended a long time ago . . .

This one is strong o...

O gidi gan!

FRIENDS ain't always REALLY friends

Kix the truth .

sylve11:
In 2015, I obtained a dredging contract with Setraco through a close friend who is a chief. However, I faced funding challenges, as both First Bank and Union Bank, along with another institution, declined to finance the project. Seeking assistance, I was introduced to someone else by the same chief, who turned out to be an old friend. He agreed to undertake the job, and we decided on a 50/50 profit-sharing arrangement upon completion.

He requested a copy of the purchase order to review the project scope overnight before drafting an agreement, and I complied.

We were scheduled to sign the agreement the following morning. I tried reaching Emeka multiple times, but he didn’t answer. I hoped he would return my calls.

By evening, when I still hadn’t heard from him, I contacted the chief, who mentioned that he had also been trying to get in touch with Emeka without success.

Two days later, I discovered that Emeka had secretly met with the community's PG to conspire against me by changing my company's name.

Upon learning of his betrayal, I visited his shop five times, only to find him missing each time. Eventually, I decided to let things unfold naturally.

On the 27th day, the chief called to inform me that the dredger rented by Emeka had sunk and was beyond rescue.

Emeka is now responsible for the cost of the dredger, and the contract has been terminated.

That’s how fate chose to resolve the situation.

The dude is extremely broke now, and he has been pleading for mercy.

Time will decide that too.

🚬 Na so ... !

Sonnobax15:
. Bro,na female bestie sweet pass especially when nothing like sexual attraction is attached.......I know what I'm talking about..........I don experience am many times but this particular one really pain my reach my blokos cuz I no expect am at all

You still have not learnt your lesson.. trust me.

sylve11:
In 2015, I obtained a dredging contract with Setraco through a close friend who is a chief. However, I faced funding challenges, as both First Bank and Union Bank, along with another institution, declined to finance the project. Seeking assistance, I was introduced to someone else by the same chief, who turned out to be an old friend. He agreed to undertake the job, and we decided on a 50/50 profit-sharing arrangement upon completion.

He requested a copy of the purchase order to review the project scope overnight before drafting an agreement, and I complied.

We were scheduled to sign the agreement the following morning. I tried reaching Emeka multiple times, but he didn’t answer. I hoped he would return my calls.

By evening, when I still hadn’t heard from him, I contacted the chief, who mentioned that he had also been trying to get in touch with Emeka without success.

Two days later, I discovered that Emeka had secretly met with the community's PG to conspire against me by changing my company's name.

Upon learning of his betrayal, I visited his shop five times, only to find him missing each time. Eventually, I decided to let things unfold naturally.

On the 27th day, the chief called to inform me that the dredger rented by Emeka had sunk and was beyond rescue.

Emeka is now responsible for the cost of the dredger, and the contract has been terminated.

That’s how fate chose to resolve the situation.

The dude is extremely broke now, and he has been pleading for mercy.

Time will decide that too.

Served him right, no be every head person dey cheat.