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It is suitable for both to attend sane church for their bond and children upbringing. It shows unity.

tunapawizzy:
Honest question here and i am asking you this respectfully, why MUST husband and wife attend the same church. What is the trouble that is likely to happen if they don't attend same church, and why

InfernoNig:
Honestly, stuff like this is why couples need to stop skipping the real convos before the wedding. Love is great, but it won’t fix deep differences like this. I don’t think it’s fair to expect the woman to just switch churches—marriage should be about compromise, not control. Both need to meet halfway, or it’s gonna be problems down the line.

A single lady doesn't have a church!

tunapawizzy:
Honest question here and i am asking you this respectfully, why MUST husband and wife attend the same church. What is the trouble that is likely to happen if they don't attend same church, and why

We all say that we are Christians ( bearing from different ministry and churches) but do we have the same doctrine and beliefs systems though we claim our roots is from Christ Jesus.
Many are practicing religion and not necessarily Christians.


The trouble can't be discussed or deliberated upon.
But imagine one who believes in prosperity gospel as we see it and the other disagrees on such........do you not know that alone is a problem.
These things are spiritual in nature and not the natural way we term it.

Isn't the man the head of the family? Yes she should go to her husband's church because there can only be one boss, so that order is maintained. However decision making is a joint decision making venture. Why is ythis even up for discussion, it's a no brainer! Assuming she has common sense and not fish brain!

When you marry a man, you move into his apartment. You take his surname as yours, you take all he has as yours but you don't want to take his faith...
Please, before marriage let's this discussion be settled properly to avoid story...
Reason why I advice same faith marriage...

The major reason why we are even discussing such is because many of us are just a religious people with religious beliefs, systems and practices handed to us.
We have no true relation with God, Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit though many will claim that they have.

Many are walking and operating under the influence of religious and doctrinal spirits handed down to the churches or ministries we belong to.

LawWithEbele:
Vanguard, 7th April edition, reported how a wedding was called off because the bride allegedly refused to follow the groom to his church. Both were Christians but of different denominations.

This is a sober reminder of the need to address certain issues before saying “I do.”
Don’t assume all is well just because you’re in love. Infatuation fades, but the issues you ignore today may become the cracks in your marriage tomorrow.

Ask the hard questions:

What church will we both attend?

How will we handle finances, joint account or separate?

How involved will in-laws be in our decisions?

What’s our stance on parenting and discipline?

Are we on the same page about roles and expectations in marriage?

Most divorce cases don’t start with big fights. They begin with these “little foxes” that go unchecked and gradually eat away at the foundation.

So what’s your take, must a woman follow her husband to his church? Or should they both find a common ground?

What other important matters do you think couples should settle before tying the knot?

Let’s talk. You just might help someone avoid a broken engagement or a broken home.

YES or Don't marry him

There is a lady who attended one of the less popular churches that I know. Mammon, Seventh Day, ECWA, etc are what I meant by less popular. Less than 0.0005% of the world population attend such denominations. And she wants her man to quit his church and follow her. I asked the lady why she can't find a man in her church, and why she has to look outside and convert the man when she knows that her denomination is less popular. Frankly, I am not against her wish because she said its what she desires, but in a cultural setting like Nigeria where women follow men to their churches might not be possible. The fact that the denomination is less popular makes it extremely difficult.

Also, most catholic ladies desire it too, and the goodnews is that there are many men in their denomination who they can marry.

To my friend who I talked about in the first paragraph, I pray God speaks to her. Personally, I don't understand why some people are glued to a particular denomination. It's strange. Christ is the church, and not the denomination. She claimed that's where she is growing. Lol. Have she tried other places when she is already a matured Christian to conclude that just a particular church is where she can grow? I doubt it.

We are our own problems in this world. We have set denominations above Christ, and it is just too bad. Destinies are altered because of this. Marriages made from heaven are made not to happen because of this misconception the devil sowed in us.

God will help us all. Amen.

LawWithEbele:
Vanguard, 7th April edition, reported how a wedding was called off because the bride allegedly refused to follow the groom to his church. Both were Christians but of different denominations.

This is a sober reminder of the need to address certain issues before saying “I do.”
Don’t assume all is well just because you’re in love. Infatuation fades, but the issues you ignore today may become the cracks in your marriage tomorrow.

Ask the hard questions:

What church will we both attend?

How will we handle finances, joint account or separate?

How involved will in-laws be in our decisions?

What’s our stance on parenting and discipline?

Are we on the same page about roles and expectations in marriage?

Most divorce cases don’t start with big fights. They begin with these “little foxes” that go unchecked and gradually eat away at the foundation.

So what’s your take, must a woman follow her husband to his church? Or should they both find a common ground?

What other important matters do you think couples should settle before tying the knot?

Let’s talk. You just might help someone avoid a
broken engagement or a broken home.

Then what exactly did she compromised to have accepted to marry him?

She is not a true faith bible believing Christian... She is antichrist wifey.

No, let her remain in her church.

LawWithEbele:
Vanguard, 7th April edition, reported how a wedding was called off because the bride allegedly refused to follow the groom to his church. Both were Christians but of different denominations.

This is a sober reminder of the need to address certain issues before saying “I do.”
Don’t assume all is well just because you’re in love. Infatuation fades, but the issues you ignore today may become the cracks in your marriage tomorrow.

Ask the hard questions:

What church will we both attend?

How will we handle finances, joint account or separate?

How involved will in-laws be in our decisions?

What’s our stance on parenting and discipline?

Are we on the same page about roles and expectations in marriage?

Most divorce cases don’t start with big fights. They begin with these “little foxes” that go unchecked and gradually eat away at the foundation.

So what’s your take, must a woman follow her husband to his church? Or should they both find a common ground?

What other important matters do you think couples should settle before tying the knot?

Let’s talk. You just might help someone avoid a broken engagement or a broken home.

Wrong question!
The question should be -
Must there be more than one Churches in the world?

Chummynoni:
Why must husband and wife attend the same church? Which law says that? Some people and stupidity sha.

I will attend same church or mosque withy husband because of our children. Different places of worship breeds differences in homes.

[quote author=LawWithEbele post=134906892][/quote]Please don't quote me.I won't respond.
I am only following a principle.

BIBLE VERSE FOUNDATION

Deuteronomy 22:10 (KJV)
“Thou shalt not plow with an ox and an ass together.”

Here:

God uses this farming law to teach spiritual wisdom.

Don’t mix what’s not meant to be mixed — it brings frustration.

Therefore to avoid frustration
1.Catholic Church should marry their members
2. Anglican Church should marry their members
3. Methodist Church Nigeria should marry their members
4. Nigerian Baptist Convention should marry their members
5. Presbyterian Church of Nigeria should marry their members
6. Christ Apostolic Church (CAC) should marry their members.
7. The Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG) should marry their members
8. Living Faith Church Worldwide (Winners Chapel) should marry their members
9. Deeper Life Bible Church should marry their members
10. Mountain of Fire and Miracles Ministries (MFM) should marry their members
11. Christ Embassy (Believers’ Loveworld) should marry their members
12. The Lord's Chosen Charismatic Revival Movement should marry their members
13. Synagogue Church of All Nations (SCOAN) should marry their members
14. Dunamis International Gospel Centre should marry their members
15. House on the Rock should marry their members
16. Daystar Christian Centre should marry their members
17. Common Wealth of Zion Assembly (COZA) should marry their members
18. Salvation Ministries should marry their members
19. Omega Fire Ministries should marry their members
20. Foursquare Gospel Church Nigeria should marry their members
22.Others

Note. If you are based in Lagos and you have check ✅ your area and didn't find your spec go to all your church branches in Lagos and all state your church is located you go find your spec.

With the way the guys here are going on about church, you will think they actually follow what is preached from the pulpit.

penearth:
Most of these problems are caused by women because they REFUSED to marry from dia same church instead go for dia heart. Now dia heart has condition of which church they should go or d hrt doesn't include attending man's church

So a woman should marry for Church and not for love?

tunapawizzy:
Children are practicing different religion from their parents, their father and mother are not loving them less.the children are not loving their parents less

Siblings are practicing different religion, they are going through life together loving one another and sacrificing for one another.

But when it comes to marriage, even inside same religion, it suddenly becomes a problem to go to a different church as your spouse.

majority of the people in marriage just want to fulfill the expectations of the society. Are you really in a marriage or in a camp.

If your partner MUST attend the same church as you, why not marry your church member

Must the woman marry?
She can remain single

joinnow:
Please don't quote me.I won't respond.
I am only following a principle.

BIBLE VERSE FOUNDATION

Deuteronomy 22:10 (KJV)
“Thou shalt not plow with an ox and an ass together.”

Here:

God uses this farming law to teach spiritual wisdom.

Don’t mix what’s not meant to be mixed — it brings frustration.

Therefore to avoid frustration
1.Catholic Church should marry their members
2. Anglican Church should marry their members
3. Methodist Church Nigeria should marry their members
4. Nigerian Baptist Convention should marry their members
5. Presbyterian Church of Nigeria should marry their members
6. Christ Apostolic Church (CAC) should marry their members.
7. The Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG) should marry their members
8. Living Faith Church Worldwide (Winners Chapel) should marry their members
9. Deeper Life Bible Church should marry their members
10. Mountain of Fire and Miracles Ministries (MFM) should marry their members
11. Christ Embassy (Believers’ Loveworld) should marry their members
12. The Lord's Chosen Charismatic Revival Movement should marry their members
13. Synagogue Church of All Nations (SCOAN) should marry their members
14. Dunamis International Gospel Centre should marry their members
15. House on the Rock should marry their members
16. Daystar Christian Centre should marry their members
17. Common Wealth of Zion Assembly (COZA) should marry their members
18. Salvation Ministries should marry their members
19. Omega Fire Ministries should marry their members
20. Foursquare Gospel Church Nigeria should marry their members
22.Others

Note. If you are based in Lagos and you have check ✅ your area and didn't find your spec go to all your church branches in Lagos and all state your church is located you go find your spec.

Depends on the couple cos people have different mentalities. Some are free thinkers and open to certain untraditional and conservative religious practices.

Either "yes" or "no", this issue should be settled BEFORE marriage.

InfernoNig:
Honestly, stuff like this is why couples need to stop skipping the real convos before the wedding. Love is great, but it won’t fix deep differences like this. I don’t think it’s fair to expect the woman to just switch churches—marriage should be about compromise, not control. Both need to meet halfway, or it’s gonna be problems down the line.

Yeah, they should have both compromise and meet half way at the shrine...

I can bet my left blokkos that the bride knows nothing about Christianity and the Bible.

And which law says they shouldn't?

Chummynoni:
Why must husband and wife attend the same church? Which law says that? Some people and stupidity sha.

You go soon understand wetin the guy dey talk when you marry. Dem no dey tell person. Shey na woman u dey carry play. Give them 1 inch and they will go 5. No worry.

InfernoNig:
Lol abeg no be every issue be “woke generation” matter. Sometimes, respect na mutual thing — no be by force or old school mentality. If a woman no dey respect you, maybe check yourself too. Everything no be “women bad,” sometimes na the person wey no get sense.

If you like allow your wife to be going to another church. Na you sabi. As for me, na my church you go go.

LawWithEbele:
Vanguard, 7th April edition, reported how a wedding was called off because the bride allegedly refused to follow the groom to his church. Both were Christians but of different denominations.

This is a sober reminder of the need to address certain issues before saying “I do.”
Don’t assume all is well just because you’re in love. Infatuation fades, but the issues you ignore today may become the cracks in your marriage tomorrow.

Ask the hard questions:

What church will we both attend?

How will we handle finances, joint account or separate?

How involved will in-laws be in our decisions?

What’s our stance on parenting and discipline?

Are we on the same page about roles and expectations in marriage?

Most divorce cases don’t start with big fights. They begin with these “little foxes” that go unchecked and gradually eat away at the foundation.

So what’s your take, must a woman follow her husband to his church? Or should they both find a common ground?

What other important matters do you think couples should settle before tying the knot?

Let’s talk. You just might help someone avoid a broken engagement or a broken home.

Jesus in one church is different from jesus in the other church?

pacesetting:
It is suitable for both to attend sane church for their bond and children upbringing. It shows unity.

I get where you're coming from

zeestone99:
Jesus in one church is different from jesus in the other church?

Jesu oyingbo is different from Jesu Agege

Tommydare:
You go soon understand wetin the guy dey talk when you marry. Dem no dey tell person. Shey na woman u dey carry play. Give them 1 inch and they will go 5. No worry.

If you like put your woman under your armpit, that thing wey you dey fear ehn if e go happen e go still happen.

Sexual compatibility, family values compatibility, investment compatibility, retirememt plans compatibility, spending compatibility, religion compatibility, now una dun add denomination/parish compatibility again.....and na this kind people dey believe say marriage is a MUST in life.
You go still tell God make e comot one rib from your ribcage, make e quickly help u create your compatible spec