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Hello everyone, I’m in a tough situation and would really appreciate your thoughts.

I’m 25 years old, and ever since I got an unconditional admission offer my father has been determined to sell his only house to fund my travel to the UK. Despite my repeated attempts to convince him otherwise, he insists that this is the best way to secure my future. While I deeply appreciate his sacrifice and belief in me, I can’t help but worry about the risks.

Selling his only home means he will have nowhere to fall back on if things don’t go as planned. And as much as I want to explore better opportunities abroad, I don’t want to see him struggle or regret this decision later.

What would you do in my situation? Do you think this sacrifice is worth it? I’d love to hear different perspectives, especially from those who have been in a similar position or understand the realities of starting over in a new country.

Thanks in advance for your advice!

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Wrong idea

Please dont allow him sell his home

Tolezy001:
Hello everyone, I’m in a tough situation and would really appreciate your thoughts.

I’m 25 years old, and ever since I got an unconditional admission offer my father has been determined to sell his only house to fund my travel to the UK. Despite my repeated attempts to convince him otherwise, he insists that this is the best way to secure my future. While I deeply appreciate his sacrifice and belief in me, I can’t help but worry about the risks.

Selling his only home means he will have nowhere to fall back on if things don’t go as planned. And as much as I want to explore better opportunities abroad, I don’t want to see him struggle or regret this decision later.

What would you do in my situation? Do you think this sacrifice is worth it? I’d love to hear different perspectives, especially from those who have been in a similar position or understand the realities of starting over in a new country.

Thanks in advance for your advice!

he should not try it o. Uk is likely one chance because after studying no guarantees. If its USA you can risk it

Your concerns are valid and that is a very risky move for him. Having his own home will make his life easier in his olden age, but having to rent makes life a lot harder. And the UK is not a sure thing nowadays, many people struggle to get good paying jobs after graduation especially because they need to be sponsored for work permit so its not guaranteed to say you will be in a position to buy or build him another house in a few years.

What are your alternative options, can you source the money from somewhere else or can you get through your undergrad in Nigeria and work towards masters later? Or consider other countries with lower costs?

Having said all that, at the end of the day it's his decision if he continues to insist, you can only make sure you work hard and try to get yourself earning so that the sacrifice is not in vain and you can repay him in the future.

Tolezy001:
Hello everyone, I’m in a tough situation and would really appreciate your thoughts.

I’m 25 years old, and ever since I got an unconditional admission offer my father has been determined to sell his only house to fund my travel to the UK. Despite my repeated attempts to convince him otherwise, he insists that this is the best way to secure my future. While I deeply appreciate his sacrifice and belief in me, I can’t help but worry about the risks.

Selling his only home means he will have nowhere to fall back on if things don’t go as planned. And as much as I want to explore better opportunities abroad, I don’t want to see him struggle or regret this decision later.

What would you do in my situation? Do you think this sacrifice is worth it? I’d love to hear different perspectives, especially from those who have been in a similar position or understand the realities of starting over in a new country.

Thanks in advance for your advice!

Tolezy001:
Hello everyone, I’m in a tough situation and would really appreciate your thoughts.

I’m 25 years old, and ever since I got an unconditional admission offer my father has been determined to sell his only house to fund my travel to the UK. Despite my repeated attempts to convince him otherwise, he insists that this is the best way to secure my future. While I deeply appreciate his sacrifice and belief in me, I can’t help but worry about the risks.

Selling his only home means he will have nowhere to fall back on if things don’t go as planned. And as much as I want to explore better opportunities abroad, I don’t want to see him struggle or regret this decision later. What would you do in my situation? Do you think this sacrifice is worth it? I’d love to hear different perspectives, especially from those who have been in a similar position or understand the realities of starting over in a new country. Thanks in advance for your advice!

Don't sell!

One of the best things my mum did was insisting that she would never sell any of her properties to fund my studies. For that reason, I had to search for countries with considerable tuition fees (I am not the only child) and hunt for scholarships. It depends on what you study and the job you get after graduation (not a guarantee these days for int'l students), but it would take you time to earn enough to afford a similar property as a replacement. This is even before thinking of your own property if you wish to own one in Nigeria.

I also recall a video on Facebook where a dude, looking haggard, lamented how he sold off both his properties to fund his japa trip (I think the Netherlands or thereabouts), but it took him four years to be able to buy one as a replacement. The video, according to him, was a warning to those in Nigeria not to japa. Although he did not explain how he got the funds to build those properties in Nigeria before he japa'd. But hey, that is the reality - it will take you some time to get a replacement if it is sold to sponsor you. Another thing too is if you are the only child, then it could be done. But if you got siblings, you cannot be that selfish.

You are a good child.


I was told of a widow who sold her house to sponsor 2 of her kids for Healthcare Visa . Sadly enough, their families are not able to join them due to UK Laws.


UK is not so great a place to school because the possibility of getting a job and staying back legally is low.

Let me comment because of your dad.

Give it to fathers. A father can do anything to see his son succeed. Your father would be happier staying in his house at old age, being able to walk around his compound without anyone disturbing him. Being in your own house at old age is quite soothing and reassuring, even if you don't have much at that time.

As people have advised you, UK is no more "profitable " as a japa destination. Lots of nigerians that have graduated have returned back to Nigeria empty because of inability to secure a job that could keep them back in the country. Are you going there to study one of those business or arts course that cannot guarantee any meaningful job? Are you a first class student that has the potential to compete for the highly competitive graduate entry positions? If you are just an average student who believes in ordinary hustle power to succeed in the UK, then think twice.

Your father's pain would be minimal if he is living in his house at old age, while you may be struggling to make it in life. At least, he still has his house to cherish and bequeath to you when he passes on. The pain would be worse if had sold his house and you have nothing to show later after your studies.

Please, explore alternative funding for your japa or better still, keep hopes alive in Nigeria and continue hustling. If you are a first class or second class upper graduate, keep applying to companies in Nigeria, especially in their graduate recruitment exercises. The fact that you are not comfortable with your father selling off his properties is a good one.