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There's this lady am in relationship with for more than a year now, we meet online and we have not seen for once due to the distance between us, the lady is physically challenge she's on wheelchair and and she can't walk but I lover her so much, she is is from Kogi state while am in Lagos and we have been talking about getting married and settling down, but when I told my siblings about they kicked against it, that how can I go and marry such a person like that and are there no other woman around, and that really discouraged me, they said how will she cooks, do house chores and stuffs like, although my parents are late so it's my eldest sister that said I shouldn't do it.. and the lady said I should come over to Kogi state to come and see her parents Wich am still considering, and another this is..even if I go ahead with her, I doubt if any of my family members will follow me to Kogi state, looking at the distance and all like that.. and she is a very nice person with a good heart. Honestly am confused at this point.

Sunnyrado:
➜There's this lady am in relationship with for more than a year now, we meet online and we have not seen for once due to the distance between us, the lady is physically challenge she's on wheelchair and and she can't walk but I lover her so much, she is is from Kogi state while am in Lagos and we have been talking about getting married and settling down, but when I told my siblings about they kicked against it, that how can I go and marry such a person like that and are there no other woman around, and that really discouraged me, they said how will she cooks, do house chores and stuffs like, although my parents are late so it's my eldest sister that said I shouldn't do it.. and the lady said I should come over to Kogi state to come and see her parents Wich am still considering, and another this is..even if I go ahead with her, I doubt if any of my family members will follow me to Kogi state, looking at the distance and all like that.. and she is a very nice person with a good heart. Honestly am confused at this point.

It seems the expectations of your siblings matter so much to you in this way that you would rather date someone they approve of than someone they don't approve of. Isn't that already an obvious red flag for you? Set the woman free so she can go find herself a man who does not need the approval of your siblings, please.

Kobojunkie:
It seems the expectations of your siblings matter so much to you in this way that you would rather date someone they approve of than someone they don't approve of. Isn't that already an obvious red flag for you? Set the woman free so she can go find herself a man who does not need the approval of your siblings, please.

best answer ever!!!!

Op, your siblings concerns are valid. You're only writing these because you're both far, by the time you live together, then your love will be tested.
My advice is seek Godly counsel. If I were in your shoes, I'll talk to God about it. If I get the conviction of the Holy Spirit, I'll proceed & ask God to touch the hearts of my siblings so they agree.

dahmie2013:
➜Op, your siblings concerns are valid. You're only writing these because you're both far, by the time you live together, then your love will be tested.
My advice is seek Godly counsel. If I were in your shoes, I'll talk to God about it. If I get the conviction of the Holy Spirit, I'll proceed & ask God to touch the hearts of my siblings so they agree.

Stop hiding behind the mentions of God when you all know that at the end of the day, it is all your very own decisions to make.

dahmie2013:
Op, your siblings concerns are valid. You're only writing these because you're both far, by the time you live together, then your love will be tested.
My advice is seek Godly counsel. If I were in your shoes, I'll talk to God about it. If I get the conviction of the Holy Spirit, I'll proceed & ask God to touch the hearts of my siblings so they agree.

God will not come down from heaven to make decisions for you. It is your responsibility not God.

Sunnyrado:
There's this lady am in relationship with for more than a year now, we meet online and we have not seen for once due to the distance between us, the lady is physically challenge she's on wheelchair and and she can't walk but I lover her so much, she is is from Kogi state while am in Lagos and we have been talking about getting married and settling down, but when I told my siblings about they kicked against it, that how can I go and marry such a person like that and are there no other woman around, and that really discouraged me, they said how will she cooks, do house chores and stuffs like, although my parents are late so it's my eldest sister that said I shouldn't do it.. and the lady said I should come over to Kogi state to come and see her parents Wich am still considering, and another this is..even if I go ahead with her, I doubt if any of my family members will follow me to Kogi state, looking at the distance and all like that.. and she is a very nice person with a good heart. Honestly am confused at this point.

Go ahead if truly you love her

Villa12:
God will not come down from heaven to make decisions for you. It is your responsibility not God.

God can do anything ooo

Sunnyrado:
There's this lady am in relationship with for more than a year now, we meet online and we ...

Don't stress yourself. This is how e dey be wen you won marry person wey your family no expect. But if you go through what others like you did then they just have to respect your decision and remember that you are an adult

You haven't met her in real life, so there should be no talk of marriage for now. Go and meet her in real life, see her in person. Come back home and have a long think (over several weeks) and speak to your family again.

Best of luck to you, no matter your decision

Onegai:
You haven't met her in real life, so there should be no talk of marriage for now. Go and meet her in real life, see her in person. Come back home and have a long think (over several weeks) and speak to your family again.

Best of luck to you, no matter your decision

Thanks

The Op is not serious , if you ask me . You are yet to meet the lady physically you are talking about marriage.

I Hope you are in your right senses , first thing first , see her one on one before any other decision taking pls

Copy and paste from years back.

Sunnyrado:
There's this lady am in relationship with for more than a year now, we meet online and we have not seen for once due to the distance between us, the lady is physically challenge she's on wheelchair and and she can't walk but I lover her so much, she is is from Kogi state while am in Lagos and we have been talking about getting married and settling down, but when I told my siblings about they kicked against it, that how can I go and marry such a person like that and are there no other woman around, and that really discouraged me, they said how will she cooks, do house chores and stuffs like, although my parents are late so it's my eldest sister that said I shouldn't do it.. and the lady said I should come over to Kogi state to come and see her parents Wich am still considering, and another this is..even if I go ahead with her, I doubt if any of my family members will follow me to Kogi state, looking at the distance and all like that.. and she is a very nice person with a good heart. Honestly am confused at this point.

Does the lady have money or is her family rich?? This is what women will ask about you if you are on a wheel chair before marrying you.

Don't go and marry a poor girl on a wheel chair ooo. Or you listen to your sister. The only time a woman will give a man good advice in such matter is when it involves her son or brother or father. Better listen

Sunnyrado:
There's this lady am in relationship with for more than a year now, we meet online and we have not seen for once due to the distance between us, the lady is physically challenge she's on wheelchair and and she can't walk but I lover her so much, she is is from Kogi state while am in Lagos and we have been talking about getting married and settling down, but when I told my siblings about they kicked against it, that how can I go and marry such a person like that and are there no other woman around, and that really discouraged me, they said how will she cooks, do house chores and stuffs like, although my parents are late so it's my eldest sister that said I shouldn't do it.. and the lady said I should come over to Kogi state to come and see her parents Wich am still considering, and another this is..even if I go ahead with her, I doubt if any of my family members will follow me to Kogi state, looking at the distance and all like that.. and she is a very nice person with a good heart. Honestly am confused at this point.

This is a very big one and is good to fall in love

My question is can you alone take care of your family with the challenges that even both parents are working but can't still take care of family

You see most people getting married to PWD, majority of them are from a wee to do family and so for the sake of their child, they will provide enough support and I mean financial support to breech that disability

So if you are rich enough and will not complain go ahead

If she us from a rich family and you have their support go ahead

If you are struggling with source of income and still find it difficult to meet up, think twice

Whatever decisions you take will either help you or put you to worried state of mind

Marriage, is a place where you carry your load by yourself after wedding every one leaves you to paddle your own canoe