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Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Belurved1(m): 9:07pm On May 17, 2025
She gat no love for her husband again.


She is in love with her side dude but got tide down with marriage. Naa to divorce straight be the next move.

Just don't come back home, you're 100% free to move on with your new lover.

Shameless woman.
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Denko2721987(m): 9:13pm On May 17, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Why is a woman likened to a padlock though, one with different keys at that? What is the connection? Or do we liken her to a rock that can be picked with many different tools? I don't get it. huh huh huh

2. Not true at all, given that women are able to move on from one relationship to another, like men are able to. undecided
You just never get it do you.. Or u always wanting to rebel against common sense and logic.. What do you call a key that can open several doors? And what do you call a door that can be opened by several keys?? And why is it so?? In reality do you reward what is easy or what is hard??
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by OlawaleBammie: 9:21pm On May 17, 2025
SAMBARRY:
grin

As much as I find her request ridiculous and distasteful, I like the way men are fully getting a taste of their medicine and being mirrored so that they will know how they sound and have a 1st hand experience of how women feel when they say they want another woman or bring in another woman grin

When you have been begging, praying and hoping for a person to change and act right and they don't act right, start mirroring their behaviour so that they will understand the law of cause and effect since research shows that men don't understand words,they understand actions better


P.S: I know the culprits will come to my mention to cry me a river.be my guest grin tongue
single mother calm down grin
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Kobojunkie: 9:25pm On May 17, 2025
Denko2721987:
➜You just never get it do you..
➜ Or u always wanting to rebel against common sense and logic..
➜ What do you call a key that can open several doors? And what do you call a door that can be opened by several keys?? And why is it so??
➜ In reality do you reward what is easy or what is hard??
1. I am not tiny-brained that is why these silly analogies that defy logic cannot be forced even on me. undecided

2. But absolutely nothing of what you wrote is commonsense, as it all has gender bias written over it. undecided

3. These analogies of yours hold no real meaning, as I already explained earlier. undecided

4. Both! angry
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Noblemanonpoint: 9:27pm On May 17, 2025
SAMBARRY:
grin

As much as I find her request ridiculous and distasteful, I like the way men are fully getting a taste of their medicine and being mirrored so that they will know how they sound and have a 1st hand experience of how women feel when they say they want another woman or bring in another woman grin

When you have been begging, praying and hoping for a person to change and act right and they don't act right, start mirroring their behaviour so that they will understand the law of cause and effect since research shows that men don't understand words,they understand actions better


P.S: I know the culprits will come to my mention to cry me a river.be my guest grin tongue
Side man, that's cheating.
If the court dissolves that marriage, socially, romantically and economically, she stands to lose more at the end.

You women don't seem to get it, it's a man's world no matter how you look at it and try to ignore the facts.

The husband will be free to start another life, side man most times just there for the thrill. He would run when its time for commitment and she'll be lonely in old age.

This is a script we've seen too many times. These sort of women end up with hard life lessons. grin
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Kobojunkie: 9:32pm On May 17, 2025
Noblemanonpoint:
➜Side man, that's cheating. If the court dissolves that marriage, socially, romantically and economically, she stands to lose more at the end. You women don't seem to get it, it's a man's world no matter how you look at it.
➜The husband will be free to start another life, side man most times just there for the thrill. He would run when its time for commitment and she'll be lonely in old age. This is a script we've seen too many times. These sort of women end up with hard life lessons.
Aren't you being quick to assume here that the woman is not herself the breadwinner in the marriage, the reality for what seems almost 50% of marriages in Nigeria? undecided

Unfortunately, that script of yours does not tell us the whole story a lot of times. The reason why men do not divorce their wives outright is usually so they can have something to run back to if it does not work out for them elsewhere. That is why the divorce rate in Nigeria remains artificially low even to this day, while the spousal abandonment rate remains significantly high. undecided

This story states the woman had already been caught by the husband, and it is this same she is now attempting to convince him to let her continue keeping her side-dick, meaning the husband has yet to find his way since for reasons best known to him. undecided
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by BondRiv: 9:38pm On May 17, 2025
You will be sent back to your father's house.
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Ouchbabe(f): 9:38pm On May 17, 2025
Funny as her question may sound but she could be going through a lot in her marriage.
Before you judge her, go and watch this movie FINDING ME featuring Funke Akindele.
As someone said up there NOBODY HAS MONOPOLY OF MADNESS
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Denko2721987(m): 9:41pm On May 17, 2025
Kobojunkie:
1. I am not tiny-brained that is why these silly analogies that defy logic cannot be forced even on me. undecided

2. But absolutely nothing of what you wrote is commonsense, as it all has gender bias written over it. undecided

3. These analogies of yours hold no real meaning, as I already explained earlier. undecided

4. Both! angry
Arguing with you defies logic in itself so no need continuing. If far more intelligent and brilliant women than yourself have come to understand this biological reality and i am not taking about abuse becos both genders are capable of abuse, then you are inconsequential to trying to validate what's been established as facts .. So shalom Madam Kobojunkie..
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by viodemus: 9:43pm On May 17, 2025
Without being genderistic, I will say many people I know, no send. Plastic engineering dey turn dem to addicts. For my view, e be like say men just send them own side, dey better themselves.



Community service coming to your area.
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Kobojunkie: 9:44pm On May 17, 2025
Denko2721987:
➜Arguing with you defies logic in itself so no need continuing. If far more intelligent and brilliant women than yourself have come to understand this biological reality and i am not taking about abuse becos both genders are capable of abuse, then you are inconsequential to trying to validate what's been established as facts .. So shalom....
But your claims so far are devoid of logic and lacking in intelligence and brilliance. So, wetin concern women and biology with that?? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by theredaddy: 9:53pm On May 17, 2025
Kobojunkie:
1. Similar to a padlock? Is that like saying a man is a padlock that is designed to be opened— disvirgined— by one woman? I really don't get this idea since a woman can be disvirgined either via the front, back, or both. grin

2. Yet, for many of you, your wives have more than proven they are capable of going outdoors to get and bring back babies for you to raise indoors? Is it me, or that many of you are irreparably densely minded? huh

3. Isn't that pretty much the same thing many men can do... move from woman to woman, bodywife, and not really by heart each time? What the heck is wrong with you people? huh
seems callin you a virgin is an understatement ..
good luck with your jamb exams. ciao
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by JTCHI: 9:53pm On May 17, 2025
Imagine that audacity to manipulate your husband. I believe this is what Nigerian ladies would crave for... Thanks to Kitty for that wonderful response.
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Lezzlie(m): 9:54pm On May 17, 2025
Nairaland should be ashamed of itself
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Kobojunkie: 9:54pm On May 17, 2025
theredaddy:
➜seems callin you a virgin is an understatement .. good luck with your jamb exams. ciao
I scaled the JAMB during my time, and the SAT was a breeze! grin

Now, if it ain't too painful for your head there, go ahead and proceed to explain to us how women, able to divirgin themselves using artificial dicks, or even two men at once, can be likened to padlocks. 😏
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by almarthins(m): 9:55pm On May 17, 2025
franchasng:
the world is evolving bro, you should be prepared for the changes that will come with the new evolving world we live in today.


As a married man in the world today, don't ever rule out the possibility of your wife cheating on you with another man, have it in mind that it can happen so that if it happens and you find out, you won't be shattered or broken because you were prepared for the worst.


Every human is a suspect, trust only yourself.


Nobody is holy. The faithful people haven't been tempted enough by their spec in a secure environment.


Those that feel they are faithful haven't been exposed to real temptation, and the opportunities haven't presented itself.


Please prepare for the worst in whatever you do in life, that way, nothing will surprise you in life
I don't know about this spoilt generation that re given to change. But where I am coming from it is an abomination by tradition and culture. And I don't belong to this age and time so I am not willing or ready to accept any nonsense in the name of "change"
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by MightySparrow: 9:55pm On May 17, 2025
She is tired of the marriage, the only conviction is to let the husband know why it is good for them to go separate ways.
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Kobojunkie: 10:15pm On May 17, 2025
Pawa100:
cool It's a two way permission 😃😁😃😁 The husband too go dey Nackk em Side-Chicks grin grin grin
A possible scenario is that her husband already had his side-chicks which the wife was forced to accept. She then followed up by finding herself her own side-dick, and now that her husband has discovered it, she intends to convince him to equally allow her have her way. grin grin grin grin
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by ufotunang: 10:30pm On May 17, 2025
gratiaeo:
There is no law stopping a married woman from having a side guy in Nigeria. If I'm not mistaken
...but the bible is against it
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by jojothaiv(m): 10:33pm On May 17, 2025
Many things no really concern me Sha, a man without head has little to no worry about caps.
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Kobojunkie: 10:33pm On May 17, 2025
ufotunang:
...but the bible is against it
The same bible was not against men having side-chicks but is against women having side-dicks? sad
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Kobojunkie:
almarthins:
➜I don't know about this spoilt generation that re given to change.
➜ But where I am coming from it is an abomination by tradition and culture.
➜ And I don't belong to this age and time so I am not willing or ready to accept any nonsense in the name of "change"
. Ah! This generation is spoiled because, unlike those before it, women did it without talking about it, abi? undecided

2. Are we talking about the same traditions and cultures that allowed women to bring in the consequences of their side-dick forays into marriages? undecided

3. You belong instead to a fantastical age that never existed since you deny the reality of things even during the time of generations past, abi? Anyways, a lot of your ancestors also said the same, and we all know how it ended for many of them. Abiola and his many wives with so many children who were not biologically his come to mind. He was not of this current generation. grin
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Mrexcell(m): 10:39pm On May 17, 2025
I love how the moderator responded to the shameless cheating woman never knew such God fearing beautiful american ladies still exist.
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Kobojunkie: 11:05pm On May 17, 2025
Belurved1:
She gat no love for her husband again. She is in love with her side dude but got tide down with marriage. Naa to divorce straight be the next move. Just don't come back home, you're 100% free to move on with your new lover. Shameless woman.
But when a man cheats on his wife and even leaves her no option but to accept his cheating, he is regarded as one who loves his wife still. 😩😩
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by rapheal5(m): 11:31pm On May 17, 2025
I do not rate the opinion of anyone who's not bold enough to specify his or her gender.
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by ufotunang: 12:21am On May 18, 2025
Kobojunkie:
The same bible was not against men having side-chicks but is against women having side-dicks? sad
.. those men disobeyed God instruction and commandments..the bible says in Hebrew 13:4..let marriage be held in honour among all..let the marriage bed be undefiled..for God will judge the sexual immoral and adulterous

And Leviticus 20:10 says..a man should not have adultery with another woman or another man's wife..both he and the woman will be put to death because of adultery
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Mypeople2(m): 12:24am On May 18, 2025
I just love the answer the lady gave that lady that asked that question. I am speechless
Glimpsetv:
Shockwaves rippled through the audience when a woman, who has been married for 15 years, asked an unexpected and controversial question during a live episode of Tonight’s Conversation: Live & Uncut with Kittie Rose.

The woman revealed that her husband recently discovered she’s been in a relationship with another man. Rather than expressing regret, her concern was how to persuade her husband to allow her to continue seeing the other man.

In her words, she asked, “How can I convince my husband to let me keep the side dude?”

The crowd erupted in disbelief, with mouths agape and gasps of astonishment filling the room.

However, order was soon restored as relationship coach and show host Kittie Rose offered a firm, thought-provoking response, addressing the woman’s question with clarity and conviction.

Watch the full video to hear the discussion.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ri3xn2f1FMo?si=4ZgOwqGTvq7R1RIe
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Kobojunkie: 12:25am On May 18, 2025
ufotunang:
➜.. those men disobeyed God instruction and commandments..the bible says in Hebrew 13:4..let marriage be held in honour among all..let the marriage bed be undefiled..for God will judge the sexual immoral and adulterous
And Leviticus 20:10 says..a man should not have adultery with another woman..that the adulterer and adulteress will be put to death
. You invoke the words of a God whose presence is missing in the reality of life and living for all of these people, expecting what? undecided

If this God, whose name you invoke, did nothing for all this time, many generations, that men cheated on their wives with abandon and without consequence, why invoke his name against women who have chosen to no longer live as victims? undecided
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by Kobojunkie:
Noblemanonpoint:
➜Being a bread winner doesn't stop her from losing emotionally.
➜ Also, She's a black American, who marries those anyways? undecided
➜Isn't there a reason why their society is dysfunctional despite being 14% of the American population.
➜No one's right thinking person is using rachet African American lifestyle to gauge how a marriage should be anyway.
➜They're straight up crazy.
1. When it comes to emotions, everyone loses. undecided

2. Many of them do get married. undecided

3. That dysfunctional society continues to wax strong compared to other black groups worldwide. undecided

4. You are the only one here suggesting such, to begin with. undecided

5. According to a Nigerian whose people are not really considered to be any better off. huh
Re: Woman Seeks Advice On How To Convince Her Husband To Let Her Keep A Side Man(pix by 7arrows: 3:44am On May 18, 2025
SAMBARRY:
grin

As much as I find her request ridiculous and distasteful, I like the way men are fully getting a taste of their medicine and being mirrored so that they will know how they sound and have a 1st hand experience of how women feel when they say they want another woman or bring in another woman grin

When you have been begging, praying and hoping for a person to change and act right and they don't act right, start mirroring their behaviour so that they will understand the law of cause and effect since research shows that men don't understand words,they understand actions better


P.S: I know the culprits will come to my mention to cry me a river.be my guest grin tongue
It's obvious you are doing the same. I hope ur hubby is reading your comment, that's if you are married. I wish u good luck.
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