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One of the most debated questions in modern family life is, "how best can a child be disciplined?". Some school of thoughts think spanking a child is very important while others think it is outdated and a form of abuse.

But the question is, "can a parent successfully train a wholesome child without some spanking at one time or the other?"

From what I have read and seen all my years, I have not seen a child that was not spanked in correction in some way that turned out very whole in every sense of the word.

You may have seen but I have not seen.

And I have found a solid ground and evidence for my belief in the tips given by people who wrote the scriptures under inspiration.

Kids not spanked always seem to turn out very disrespectful starting from their home.

A lot of them treat their parents like rags because there's no parental awe that can discourage them from being disrespectful.

Here's what an experienced writer captured;

"Don't hesitate to discipline a child. A good spanking won't kill him. As a matter of fact, it may save his life". Proverbs 23: 13 GNT

It has come to my realization that there's no substitute for discipline, no matter which angle you try to use to boycott it.

Nothing can make up for discipline of any kind.

So whenever you try to substitute discipline with any other virtue or gift, it will always be a disaster because every other virtue and gift thrives on discipline.

A child may be very intelligent, but very undisciplined.

And When real life matters arise, intelligence cannot shield the disaster from happening. Indiscipline is a killer of greatness.

Discipline is the master of all virtues. A well disciplined child is a gift to both the parents and the society at large.

One effective way to inculcate discipline is through spanking, and it has to start from childhood. It is more effective than always raising voices and shouting at the children.

Your child goes to school and innocently comes back with a pencil that's not his. As a parent, you notice it and tell him not to pick someone's item again but he repeats it soon after.

Will you keep talking to the child or show total disapproval by spanking that child?

First off, the child has disrespected you, second off, he thinks you are not decisive.

Spanking is a sign of decisiveness and total disapproval when training a child.

It is the most effective way you can show a child that you totally disapprove something they did. A lot of times, just talks don't pass the message.

Children guess a lot and nothing squashes negative guesses like a good spanking.

If you keep talking without spanking, they may think you are not very much serious with trying to stop them from doing something. So they'll repeat it.

And this is how children become very stubborn and disrespectful.

You don't start early to discipline them, including spanking when necessary. All you do is talk or even ignore.

After a while, they'll get used to your talking, especially as they grow older. And the older the grow, the less likely you are going to spank them because they'll be more defiant.

The ability of a man to be obedient and respectful to his parents starts from how he's trained from childhood.

A child you didn't correct his mistakes from childhood will definitely resist attempts to do that when he is matured.

Spanking is done out of love and the desire to have a disciplined child. Anything outside that is abuse.

So when you see a parent spanking their children out of love, don't call it abuse.

Ironically, not disciplining a child is a high form of abuse because, you may not know this, but you are not trying to make the child be better.

And whatever children exhibit outside, they'll definitely replicate in the home. In fact, it starts from the home.

A child starts disrespecting people in the home before he comes outside.

Spanking is a law.

Check out the majority of the family cultures or values of nations that frown against spanking, you'll understand better. And that stinking culture is gradually creeping into African families.

The spirit of correction is the spirit behind spanking.

Neglect correction, and you can be sure you are raising a child that will most likely give you troubles and disgrace in the future.

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EmekaStanley:
➜One of the most debated questions in modern family life is, "how best can a child be disciplined?". Some school of thoughts think spanking a child is very important while others think it is outdated and a form of abuse. But the question is, "can a parent successfully train a wholesome child without some spanking at one time or the other?" From what I have read and seen all my years, I have not seen a child that was not spanked in correction in some way that turned out very whole in every sense of the word. You may have seen but I have not seen.
➜ And I have found a solid ground and evidence for my belief in the tips given by people who wrote the scriptures under inspiration. Kids not spanked always seem to turn out very disrespectful starting from their home. A lot of them treat their parents like rags because there's no parental awe that can discourage them from being disrespectful.

If Nigerian context is all you have, then your argument is severely flawed, given the country is riddled with corruption at all levels, an indicator that spanking does not raise what you refer to as [i]wholesome/disciplined [/i]children/adults.

2. Nonsense! 🙄🙄🙄

Spare the rod and spoil the child

Ladiesdoctor:
➜Spare the rod and spoil the child

Yet the vast majority of Nigerians raised with that in mind turn out more corrupt & undisciplined individuals when compared to their counterparts in countries where using the rod is notoriously frowned upon, why?