₦airaland Forum

pocohantas:
Nothing to be scared of.
Men do not benefit from marriage.
You will be better off single and young virgins will rush you. Tell her the truth. Be a man.

you want her to divorce him so you go n marry him ba?

Nna2025:
I don't have the virus. The risk is still minimal and here has not been any recorded case, but to just allay my fears I opted for PEP.

You may have to choose your words carefully

Nna e, go for brain test rather.

PROPEACE:
Mark my word, she will end up being the side chick of a married man.

lol ..na plenty mad misogynistic men full this nairaland oh. All the mentions have had keep saying she'll regret. Bros she's happily married now and not a side chick. So I no understand your point.

Nna2025:
Hello Nairalanders, I know we are very sensitive to cheating so I ask for forgiveness.

I had a fling with a girl I have known for sometime now, I used CD but at some point, I used my finger. I started reading about Hiv and the possiblity of contracting it through fingering. Although my readings says % is very low provided there is no fresh injury, however I opted for PEP to calm my nerves. ( Pep is a drug used, when you suspect an exposure to HIV, remember you have 36hours to take it or else it won't work)

I tore off the pack, hid it in something and kept it in my bag. My wife for whatever reason searched my bag, saw it googled it and came back shouting and screaming since last night. My only comment to her is let's go for hiv test And that the drug was for my asthma, I know she wants to take it somewhere for verification.

My only fear now is if I disclose the reason for taking PEP, then my marriage is in danger.


Anything I can do to salvage this situation, I do not have time. Please my people

Telling more lies means you’re up to no good for your self as a person.
Tell her the truth and face the tune.

yemmit90:
Your cousin don't love her husband or probably being keeping plan B before the incidence. Women don't divorce their husbands because of cheating except she is tired of the marriage before.

Women in their subconscious minds knows that men are polygamous by nature, the ones that left only use it as an excuse to quit the marriage.

That's a bleeped up excuse sir, nothing like men are polygamous in nature. She loved her husband dearly, from my point of view anyways.

Can you take back a cheating wife? Am sure 99.9% of we men won't accept such, so why should your wife tolerate it? Some women get self worth sir, if you wanna cheat marry women who understand your ""men are polygamous sh!t talk"". Some women won't take such and they make it clear to you before marriage. It's your choice to make

So upon all the problems in this Nigeria married people still get mind Dy cheat

Abeg allow that woman be jae no Dy stress person pikin with Ur own if you had succeeded on this one you would be continued probably even add more bannies to Ur purse

richie240:
Come hear biko.
That it worked for your 'cousin' doesn't mean it will work for the vast majority of women abeg.

The ones wey still dey 'cha-cha' sef never see husband how much less 'tokunbo'.
Your cousin is the outlier here - the exception to d rule! For every 10 women that divorce, far less than the average remarry.

Some women are just in marriage just to have the "Mrs" title. They go through hell and treat infections from their randy husbands. Some women will prefer to live alone with their kids if they have their way but as per say money no dey , they'll choose to endure with the man.

nathpope:
IF SHE'S THREATENING YOU WITH A DIVORCE because OF THIS...BE SURE SHE HAS BEEN PUTTING UP WITH YOU ALL THIS WHILE AND WAITING FOR THE OPPORTUNITY TO GET WAT SHE WANTED.

YOU MESSED UP BUT IF YOUR MESS IS NOT UP TO YOUR FRAGRANCE.. SHE NO SUPPOSE GO DAT FAR AS A DIVORCE

OR HAVE YOU NOT BEEN LIVING UP TO EXPECTATIONS AS A HUSBAND ALL THIS WHILE??

IF YES... THEN THERE IS MORE TO MEET THE EYE THAN YOU THINK..

Lol... I like as you stylishly turn the table around and made the victim the villain. Kunduns to you sir.

Paragonpric:
lol ..na plenty mad misogynistic men full this nairaland oh. All the mentions have had keep saying she'll regret. Bros she's happily married now and not a side chick. So I no understand your point.

As we don't know your aunty, she will definitely be married, the ex husband may even be her driver.

richie240:
Females and brash reasonings.
When d woman divorces him finish, sebi na u and your husband go help her feed the children, pay house rent and pay their school fees - amongst other responsibilities - abi??

Keep playing!

My man if you marry woman way get money all this things no concern her oh. She'll comfortably foot the bills and tell you to Bleep off. Na y some men dey feel threatened when their wife get better money for hand. I no dey cap

PROPEACE:
As we don't know your aunty, she will definitely be married, the ex husband may even be her driver.

Lol you fit believe anything way you won believe. But if you marry woman way get money and come still get self worth then you'll understand what am saying. Cheat on such women and she'll dump your sorry ass.

Nna2025:
Hello Nairalanders, I know we are very sensitive to cheating so I ask for forgiveness.

I had a fling with a girl I have known for sometime now, I used CD but at some point, I used my finger. I started reading about Hiv and the possiblity of contracting it through fingering. Although my readings says % is very low provided there is no fresh injury, however I opted for PEP to calm my nerves. ( Pep is a drug used, when you suspect an exposure to HIV, remember you have 36hours to take it or else it won't work)

I tore off the pack, hid it in something and kept it in my bag. My wife for whatever reason searched my bag, saw it googled it and came back shouting and screaming since last night. My only comment to her is let's go for hiv test And that the drug was for my asthma, I know she wants to take it somewhere for verification.

My only fear now is if I disclose the reason for taking PEP, then my marriage is in danger.


Anything I can do to salvage this situation, I do not have time. Please my people

Do hiv test n give her the result

Stop taking medication when you are not sure of your status

cococandy:
Don’t speak for women. I have news for you, being single or a single mother is not the worst thing that can happen to a woman. Many single women are better off than those living with their enemies in the name of husband. Who needs enemies when your husband is the number one person putting your heart and health at risk?

If my husband can leave me for cheating on him, I too can leave him for the same offense . Do you think this is a gotcha question? Maybe you’re used to women who are scared of being divorced that you think this kind of question will trip them up. You get the energy you give!

We are either in an open marriage or we’re not. It can’t be open on his end and closed on mine.

Women are not naturally created to be on the receiving end of heartache and abuse. I don’t know who lied to you all but you need to start unlearning all that BS.

If you don’t like my response, kiss a lit dynamite 😘

In Islam, it's permissible for a man to marry four wives and have multiple concubines. 😉

Nna2025:
Hello Nairalanders, I know we are very sensitive to cheating so I ask for forgiveness.

I had a fling with a girl I have known for sometime now, I used CD but at some point, I used my finger. I started reading about Hiv and the possiblity of contracting it through fingering. Although my readings says % is very low provided there is no fresh injury, however I opted for PEP to calm my nerves. ( Pep is a drug used, when you suspect an exposure to HIV, remember you have 36hours to take it or else it won't work)

I tore off the pack, hid it in something and kept it in my bag. My wife for whatever reason searched my bag, saw it googled it and came back shouting and screaming since last night. My only comment to her is let's go for hiv test And that the drug was for my asthma, I know she wants to take it somewhere for verification.

My only fear now is if I disclose the reason for taking PEP, then my marriage is in danger.


Anything I can do to salvage this situation, I do not have time. Please my people

Just use the closest rope

Sissy man don go cheat, he is now afraid of his husband eehm! Sorry wife...🤣🤣🤣

Nna2025:
Hello Nairalanders, I know we are very sensitive to cheating so I ask for forgiveness.

I had a fling with a girl I have known for sometime now, I used CD but at some point, I used my finger. I started reading about Hiv and the possiblity of contracting it through fingering. Although my readings says % is very low provided there is no fresh injury, however I opted for PEP to calm my nerves. ( Pep is a drug used, when you suspect an exposure to HIV, remember you have 36hours to take it or else it won't work)

I tore off the pack, hid it in something and kept it in my bag. My wife for whatever reason searched my bag, saw it googled it and came back shouting and screaming since last night. My only comment to her is let's go for hiv test And that the drug was for my asthma, I know she wants to take it somewhere for verification.

My only fear now is if I disclose the reason for taking PEP, then my marriage is in danger.


Anything I can do to salvage this situation, I do not have time. Please my people

u are a foolish man.hiv no easy to contact like that.when u no get tear for finger.ur wife supose run leave u.u be mugu.

Nna2025:
Hello Nairalanders, I know we are very sensitive to cheating so I ask for forgiveness.

I had a fling with a girl I have known for sometime now, I used CD but at some point, I used my finger. I started reading about Hiv and the possiblity of contracting it through fingering. Although my readings says % is very low provided there is no fresh injury, however I opted for PEP to calm my nerves. ( Pep is a drug used, when you suspect an exposure to HIV, remember you have 36hours to take it or else it won't work)

I tore off the pack, hid it in something and kept it in my bag. My wife for whatever reason searched my bag, saw it googled it and came back shouting and screaming since last night. My only comment to her is let's go for hiv test And that the drug was for my asthma, I know she wants to take it somewhere for verification.

My only fear now is if I disclose the reason for taking PEP, then my marriage is in danger.


Anything I can do to salvage this situation, I do not have time. Please my people

You bought it for someone. Arrange with your friend to call and ask you for the drug in a very aggressive way. That he needs the sample he sends you to buy for a supply in a hospital in Benue or carlabar. He can come to house and rake, that you want to corner the contract for someone.

But go and sin no more pls.

Story sef get as e be

I hate cheating.
I made a vow to God to destroy me if I ever cheat on my wife.

Amusing responses.

Nna2025:
I don't have the virus. The risk is still minimal and here has not been any recorded case, but to just allay my fears I opted for PEP.

You may have to choose your words carefully

The worst thing a person can do is to lie in an anonymous platform yet is desirous of getting the correct advice.

Who is a child here, you fingered a girl with a finger that doesn't have a cut and you are apprehensive that you could have been exposed to HIV. Yeah right?

Same way you can't lie smartly is the same way you can't hide anything smartly.

Bro I think you need to start admit that you may be not be the smartest Alec.

Paragonpric:
That's a bleeped up excuse sir, nothing like men are polygamous in nature. She loved her husband dearly, from my point of view anyways.

Can you take back a cheating wife? Am sure 99.9% of we men won't accept such, so why should your wife tolerate it? Some women get self worth sir, if you wanna cheat marry women who understand your ""men are polygamous sh!t talk"". Some women won't take such and they make it clear to you before marriage. It's your choice to make

The earlier you understand or accept that men and women are not the same, the better for you all. The way women see sex is quite different to the way men see it, and that explains why women don't care to share a man, while a man can't share his wife with anyone. It also explains why women can't boldly tell their ugly past in public, while men can proudly do and still be call hero.

You can't cheat nature, the failure to follow this proper natural arrangement is what brought family dysfunction in our society. A woman can divorce her husband on the grounds of domestic violence or irreconcilable difference but not because of cheating( especially if her husband take good care of the family). Men will cheat at some point in their lives, it is inevitable, so the person you are going to marry again will also cheat.

hakeemhakeem:
Not everybody dey take nonsense if you like acquired the wealth in the world

If you understand what value means, you'll know it's not only wealth.

How many people with value in Nigeria have you seen divorce?
We are not in western countries that divorce automatically makes women wealthy.

maestro299:
In Islam, it's permissible for a man to marry four wives and have multiple concubines. 😉

And that’s their problem. I’m not Islamic so none of my business

pocohantas:
Congrats on that.

Someone already said your initial statement is sarcasm.
So no more probing.

cococandy:
We don’t give af if men chose not to settle down. You guys are the ones complaining about women being single. Nobody cares but you guys. You spend morning and evening crying about women being single. @bold, Have you paused to wonder why those women chose to keep their homes yet their husbands still cheat on them? Their reward for staying is more heartbreak. What’s in it for them?




Natural according to who? The way you guys just come online and make unfounded claims is astonishing to me. Yes if I leave a cheating husband and the man I marry later cheats, I’ll leave him too. It’s not your legs I’ll be using for the leaving. Besides who said leaving is the only option? You think married women’s puccis are sown shut? Two can play. Simple and short. You get what you give.



How about we encourage men to stay faithful? To treat their wives how they want to be treated? Is that asking for too much? Single mothers are happy enough. Married women are not any happier than them. Especially not the ones with disrespectful husbands.

Not only should married women with cheating husbands leave, if they chose to stay, I hope they cheat enough that 3 out of their 4 kids are fathered by outside men.

Go preach that mess to someone who cares.

I gave up on you, it is obvious you can't change. Perhaps you should seek advise from elderly women concerning this topic and see the advice they will give you.

May God judge you if you are a submissive wife offline but came online to preach this.

yemmit90:
I gave up on you, it is obvious you can't change. Perhaps you should seek advise from elderly women concerning this topic and see the advice they will give you.

May God judge you if you are a submissive wife offline but came online to preach this.

It’s not today we know y’all’s definition of submission is a woman who lets you cheat on them Willy nilly.
But don’t be afraid, A good man will get a good woman to treat him right.
If he’s not, then he will get the version of the woman he’s creating by his own actions/inactions. I wish you guys learn this.

I donot really like creepy women. But unfortunately for me my wife is just like that too and it's making me not to really fancy her so much again. She goes through my phone when I am asleep (will open so many apps and forget to close them). Searches through my bags... I mean... What the Bleep is this?
It has never crossed to check her phone.
She has trust issues even though I do not cheat and it's very irascible and nauseating.

You used your finger? You think everyone here is stupid or what?

Nna2025:
I don't have the virus. The risk is still minimal and here has not been any recorded case, but to just allay my fears I opted for PEP.

You may have to choose your words carefully

But when you were fingering didn't the fear allay your mind I don't like it when people don't take responsibility for the actions they knowingly took. Should be able to marry that girl you've known for sometime if your wife choose to leaves you for leaving her by flinging with another lady. If you found this in your wife's bag what will be your reaction? Be honest with yourself

My advice be a good liar by sticking to your first lie no matter what even if a doctor say it's for HIV and not for asthma don't argue with that after all you're not a doctor someone mentioned it as a cure for asthma and you decided to try it and that's the more reason you're hiding it somewhat, somewhat because if you were really hiding it from her she wouldn't have seen it, would she... Keep reinforcing your love for her after every sentence that's if you truly still love her which I doubt

Shalommy:
Chaiii..guyz with lies! Op, just admit that you have the virus simple. Pls, divorce that innocent woman. Carry your cross in PEACE!

You no see women, lol, where is the place of "for better for worse" that was sworn to at the alter?

Obakoolex:
I don't know why people fear divorce this much

The truth is that if you are very valuable no one leaves you.... This goes to both husband and wife.

Another one is, once you have sex raw with a woman you are not married, you have automatically contracted HIV and some STDs, so every unmarried daughters out there are all infected, Lol. What a myth,