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CodeTemplarr:
Maybe error. Reach him on line.

Chram:
I don't know if bringing this here is a wise decision or not, but I've been left very angry about this.

This is a cousin whom we haven't spoken on the phone or seen for 9 solid years. Once in a blue moon, we chat briefly on Facebook. This guy is two years plus older than me.

Look at the date I sent him money. He reached out to me and sought for help of 10k but I wasn't having up to that amount, and I pleaded with him to accept 5k from me and that when situations improve, I'll do better than that. He's a student just like me, has both parents alive and they give him enough money to sch. I mean enough. He likes to live above his means and also tries to make people think he's very rich even when it is not true. Since childhood till date, he has never worked anywhere and received a salary or wages. He solely lives off people.
His last demand was that I send him urgent 2k. I didn't have at the time and even till now, I still don't have. I'm the type that doesn't complain even when I'm dying cos I don't even have anybody to complain to. Whereas, my cousin has a lot of people to cry to. I've been the one responsible to myself without any help. At the time I sent him 5k, I only had 2k left on me without any hope. But for the sake of brotherliness, I had to give it out. The next day day, I even sent him 2G of data when he requested. After making the next demand and I couldnt respond, this guy blocked me. I just noticed it this morning and I'm still shocked.
Is this how the life is?
I don't even know what to say, but it's well.
Someone that doesn't know what I'm battling here.

P1PrinceKT:
Reading your post I understand that you're a very good person. Anyway don't help anyone especially long-distance relative for more than two times consecutively. At least show them theirs a time of Yes and theirs a time of No, and don't fear the outcome. They would abuse you even if you helped them, which is what you're receiving now... Just continue with your life.

What he did was emotional blackmail trying to set you up so that he will be constantly demanding from you.

If you want to truely know who he is, reciprocate the same By showing that this time you're in need just like how he asks you and see his reaction, if he help you, he's a good person if he's not he's definitely not worth helping.....

Biqsahm:
Dis kind matta no suppose vex u like dis bro, chill till him unblock u na dat time u go block am back bro. no worry him go soon need ur help again.

Chram:
Thanks bro. People can be so irrational at times. No conscience at all

Biqsahm:
u welcome boss

Chram:
Don't know if u can help

Biqsahm:
in wat way boss?

Chram:
One or two, so I can get something to survive on. Since daybreak, nothing

Biqsahm:
no vex bro meself dey guide like dis ni

Rexymania:
Did you reply him?
The guy was disappointed because you didn't reply him

yyba:
May be you ignored him instead of replying you don't have, it's better to reply you don't have than to ignore message.

Chram:
So the best he could do was to block me?

Chram:
I'm really very angry right now.

What offence did I commit here?

ChybuzzDD:
But why did you read the message and ignored it?
You should have preferably replied that you didn't have.
It's not good to read people's messages and not respond; unfortunately, a lot of people do it.

Chram:
Its always easy for some of you to give advice when you're not the one directly involved. I hope u won't be angry when a family member does same to you. You think it's everyone that finds it easy to tell someone that they don't have funds?