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"Be cautious, as some mothers may unconsciously burden their children with unfulfilled dreams, exerting pressure that can impact their lives. Recognize the signs and set boundaries to protect your well-being and pursue your own path."

AngelSlay:
I travelled to Italy by land and crossing the Mediterranean Sea twice but God saved me. I saved almost 8 million with my mother while in Europe and my father never knew about it. I was deported after 5 years and guess what; she squandered my money to the last kobo and she couldn’t even send me 30k to travel from Lagos to my state which made me slept everywhere possible in the streets of Lagos for 9 days till my father was able to send me transport fare and for the first time in my life I felt like I have over-wronged my dear and I knew I owe all the apologies. My mother on the other hand turned my 4 siblings against me especially the last born that’s not even half my age, attacking me wherever they see me because my mother told them I wanted to kill her but God knows I was really angry at her but I have no intention of hurting her, Never.


At some points I even forgave my younger brother without him apologizing and brought him to live with me because he was constituting nuisance in the village and after about 3 months of staying with me he took my ATM and cleared my account and left with my valuables and at first I didn’t believe my eyes and I immediately called my mother to tell what has happened and guess what; she connived with the rest of my siblings and her sister to tell the village that I have used my brother for rituals but he returned after a month. because I was deported with nothing and they knows how much I need money but I was 100% innocent and there was only one person who stood by me at the time and that was my FATHER. I left my family with her before traveling but she chose to dehumanize my children by sending them back to where I never wanted to be (in my in-laws house where worshipping idol is the norm). My children was fed with proceeds from the shrine which I never liked.

Since 2019 after my deportation till now I have proved them all wrong by acquiring an enviable mansion in the heart of the city and numerous landed properties and I currently have 2 SUVs one for outing with my kids and the other strictly for church and vacations. They dont know how to start apologizing…No need sha

Congratulations to you, you can forgive all of them but this time around be more careful as pulling you down maybe part of their plans

Just don't let them know your next plan at all

AngelSlay:
I travelled to Italy by land and crossing the Mediterranean Sea twice but God saved me. I saved almost 8 million with my mother while in Europe and my father never knew about it. I was deported after 5 years and guess what; she squandered my money to the last kobo and she couldn’t even send me 30k to travel from Lagos to my state which made me slept everywhere possible in the streets of Lagos for 9 days till my father was able to send me transport fare and for the first time in my life I felt like I have over-wronged my dear and I knew I owe all the apologies. My mother on the other hand turned my 4 siblings against me especially the last born that’s not even half my age, attacking me wherever they see me because my mother told them I wanted to kill her but God knows I was really angry at her but I have no intention of hurting her, Never.


At some points I even forgave my younger brother without him apologizing and brought him to live with me because he was constituting nuisance in the village and after about 3 months of staying with me he took my ATM and cleared my account and left with my valuables and at first I didn’t believe my eyes and I immediately called my mother to tell what has happened and guess what; she connived with the rest of my siblings and her sister to tell the village that I have used my brother for rituals but he returned after a month. because I was deported with nothing and they knows how much I need money but I was 100% innocent and there was only one person who stood by me at the time and that was my FATHER. I left my family with her before traveling but she chose to dehumanize my children by sending them back to where I never wanted to be (in my in-laws house where worshipping idol is the norm). My children was fed with proceeds from the shrine which I never liked.

Since 2019 after my deportation till now I have proved them all wrong by acquiring an enviable mansion in the heart of the city and numerous landed properties and I currently have 2 SUVs one for outing with my kids and the other strictly for church and vacations. They dont know how to start apologizing…No need sha

If she come crying begging and rolling on the floor, will you still forgive her, knowing fully well set backs and allegations she has done to you?

1. Heal, But Don't Harden
You have every reason to be bitter — but bitterness is a slow poison. What your mother and siblings did is unforgivable by human standards, but if you hold onto anger, they still control your peace. You don’t have to let them back into your life, but forgive for yourself, not for them. That way, your success won’t just be material — it will be spiritual too.

2. Protect Your Heart & Your Children
Your biggest responsibility now is to your children. They’ve suffered indirectly from all this, and they need your emotional presence, not just a good home and SUVs. Guide them, love them, and break the cycle of trauma. Don't let what happened to you affect how you raise them — give them the safety and clarity you never had.

3. No Need for Revenge or Proving Points
You’ve already won. Your house, cars, properties — they speak louder than any argument. You no longer need to "prove them wrong." If they feel guilt, let them deal with it. If they want to apologize, they will. If not, live in peace knowing you’ve done right by God and by your conscience.

4. Set Boundaries — Strong Ones
Never allow them back into your life without repentance, humility, and accountability. Even family can be toxic. You don’t owe anyone access to your blessings just because they share your blood.

5. Honor the One Who Stood by You
Your father stood by you when no one else did. Keep honoring him. Spend time with him. Let him know how much that meant — especially now that things are better. That kind of loyalty deserves love and recognition.

6. Focus on Legacy, Not Just Wealth
What you’ve built is admirable, but the true legacy is the values, strength, and lessons you pass down. Share your story — not with bitterness, but with wisdom — so others can learn that survival is possible, and success is still possible after betrayal.

7. One Last Word on Your Mother
She may never say sorry. Some mothers misuse the power of that title and forget that motherhood is not ownership — it's stewardship. If she reaches out one day, weigh her intentions. Be civil, but not blind. Sometimes, peace means loving from a distance.


You were broken, but not buried. You were rejected, but not destroyed. Now that you’ve risen — stay up. Not just financially, but emotionally and spiritually. Don’t let their actions dictate your joy anymore.

You’ve already turned pain into power. Now turn that power into purpose.

AngelSlay:
I travelled to Italy by land and crossing the Mediterranean Sea twice but God saved me. I saved almost 8 million with my mother while in Europe and my father never knew about it. I was deported after 5 years and guess what; she squandered my money to the last kobo and she couldn’t even send me 30k to travel from Lagos to my state which made me slept everywhere possible in the streets of Lagos for 9 days till my father was able to send me transport fare and for the first time in my life I felt like I have over-wronged my dear and I knew I owe all the apologies. My mother on the other hand turned my 4 siblings against me especially the last born that’s not even half my age, attacking me wherever they see me because my mother told them I wanted to kill her but God knows I was really angry at her but I have no intention of hurting her, Never.


At some points I even forgave my younger brother without him apologizing and brought him to live with me because he was constituting nuisance in the village and after about 3 months of staying with me he took my ATM and cleared my account and left with my valuables and at first I didn’t believe my eyes and I immediately called my mother to tell what has happened and guess what; she connived with the rest of my siblings and her sister to tell the village that I have used my brother for rituals but he returned after a month. because I was deported with nothing and they knows how much I need money but I was 100% innocent and there was only one person who stood by me at the time and that was my FATHER. I left my family with her before traveling but she chose to dehumanize my children by sending them back to where I never wanted to be (in my in-laws house where worshipping idol is the norm). My children was fed with proceeds from the shrine which I never liked.

Since 2019 after my deportation till now I have proved them all wrong by acquiring an enviable mansion in the heart of the city and numerous landed properties and I currently have 2 SUVs one for outing with my kids and the other strictly for church and vacations. They dont know how to start apologizing…No need sha

marlow1962:
If she come crying begging and rolling on the floor, will you still forgive her, knowing fully well set backs and allegations she has done to you?

if you were in my shoes what would you do?