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I came back from work yesterday to see my Wife’s younger Sister in my house.

I was surprised because no one told me she was coming. I greeted and welcomed her.

I later called my Wife aside and asked her why she did not inform me that her sister was coming to pay us a visit. That was when she broke the news to me that the girl was 3 months pregnant and had to leave the village because of shame.

My Wife begged me and even called the girl to come and kneel and beg me to allow her stay until she puts to bed.
I was very angry at my wife for that.

I would love to help the girl but the problem is

1) My Father-in-law is not aware that his Daughter is pregnant. Only my Wife and Mother-in-law knows.

2) My Mother-in-law has not called to plead with me to let the Girl stay under my roof. My Wife asked me to call their mother to confirm but I think it should be the other way around.

3) I am currently managing a one room apartment with my Wife and 7 children. The place might not be conducive for a first time pregnant Girl. Feeding her is not a problem.

4) I am afraid I would be the one to pay her Medical bills, antenatal and all. When I asked my Wife she said her mother would pay but I don’t believe this judging from personal experience.

5) What if the girl suffers miscarriage or complications? God forbid. I might be held responsible.

Please advise me on what to do. My creator sees my heart that I would love to help but I am afraid. Should I let her stay or send her away?
How do I do this without losing the respect of my Wife and Mother-in-law. What is the best way to help the Girl?

Nitori olorun. Who’s sleeping with a 14 years old😭😭

It really hurts my mind anytime I see something like this. How does a 14 years old girl arse raise a grown man JT?

Obavoh:
I came back from work yesterday to see my Wife’s younger Sister in my house.

I was surprised because no one told me she was coming. I greeted and welcomed her.

I later called my Wife aside and asked her why she did not inform me that her sister was coming to pay us a visit. That was when she broke the news to me that the girl was 3 months pregnant and had to leave the village because of shame.

My Wife begged me and even called the girl to come and kneel and beg me to allow her stay until she puts to bed.
I was very angry at my wife for that.

I would love to help the girl but the problem is

1) My Father-in-law is not aware that his Daughter is pregnant. Only my Wife and Mother-in-law knows.

2) My Mother-in-law has not called to plead with me to let the Girl stay under my roof. My Wife asked me to call their mother to confirm but I think it should be the other way around.

3) I am currently managing a one room apartment with my Wife and 7 children. The place might not be conducive for a first time pregnant Girl. Feeding her is not a problem.

4) I am afraid I would be the one to pay her Medical bills, antenatal and all. When I asked my Wife she said her mother would pay but I don’t believe this judging from personal experience.

5) What if the girl suffers miscarriage or complications? God forbid. I might be held responsible.

Please advise me on what to do. My creator sees my heart that I would love to help but I am afraid. Should I let her stay or send her away?
How do I do this without losing the respect of my Wife and Mother-in-law. What is the best way to help the Girl?

i won't be surprised if i see this post on nairaland frontpage

You might be seun or one of the mod alt moniker

Use your tongue to count your teeth. Let her go to her fathers house.

lordm:
Use your tongue to count your teeth. Let her go to her fathers house.

what happened to the person that impregnate her

No be one house dey copulate sex that lead to pregnant

The only problem I see his the number of kids you have, the population is already big for your space, but you still need to show sympathy, allow a life come to earth ...Give her a place to stay while you sort family issues with the father, it would be worse if you send her out , she might not be in right frame of mind ..You need to seat her down and find out who scored the goal.

Zonefree:
OP's wife is below 23 years with 7 children. Ask OP when he started sleeping with wife, you'll be surprised.

I am only 6 years older than my Wife.

I did not marry my Wife as a virgin. I was trying to make her my girlfriend when she got pregnant for another man who later abandoned her with pregnancy.

I paid her bride price in full with another man’s pregnancy, she unfortunately lost the child after a few months. That child bore my name.

Before you insult Northerners and our lifestyle, open your mind to know the reason why we do what we do.

Obavoh:
I am not running away from my responsibilities. I see the girl as my younger sister. I am just afraid that my good might bring trouble

You still have to inform the father, your father in law but in a mature way. That removes any liabilities from you . She is 14 for christ sake.

SpencerForbes:
Nitori olorun. Who’s sleeping with a 14 years old😭😭

It really hurts my mind anytime I see something like this. How does a 14 years old girl arse raise a grown man JT?

OP's wife is below 23 years with 7 children. Ask OP when he started sleeping with an his wife, you'll be surprised.

Zonefree:
OP's wife is below 23 years with 7 children. Ask OP when he started sleeping with wife, you'll be surprised.

My hands are not there oo. Before Seun bot will start banning up and down

Zonefree:
OP's wife is below 23 years with 7 children. Ask OP when he started sleeping with wife, you'll be surprised.

lack of family planning

This happened in Northern part of Nigeria

Obavoh:
I came back from work yesterday to see my Wife’s younger Sister in my house.

I was surprised because no one told me she was coming. I greeted and welcomed her.

I later called my Wife aside and asked her why she did not inform me that her sister was coming to pay us a visit. That was when she broke the news to me that the girl was 3 months pregnant and had to leave the village because of shame.

My Wife begged me and even called the girl to come and kneel and beg me to allow her stay until she puts to bed.
I was very angry at my wife for that.

I would love to help the girl but the problem is

1) My Father-in-law is not aware that his Daughter is pregnant. Only my Wife and Mother-in-law knows.

2) My Mother-in-law has not called to plead with me to let the Girl stay under my roof. My Wife asked me to call their mother to confirm but I think it should be the other way around.

3) I am currently managing a one room apartment with my Wife and 7 children. The place might not be conducive for a first time pregnant Girl. Feeding her is not a problem.

4) I am afraid I would be the one to pay her Medical bills, antenatal and all. When I asked my Wife she said her mother would pay but I don’t believe this judging from personal experience.

5) What if the girl suffers miscarriage or complications? God forbid. I might be held responsible.

Please advise me on what to do. My creator sees my heart that I would love to help but I am afraid. Should I let her stay or send her away?
How do I do this without losing the respect of my Wife and Mother-in-law. What is the best way to help the Girl?

My friend go work for bayelsa... Give 16 years old Belle... Lucky him na man way never marry... D girl big pass her age

Obavoh:
I am only 6 years older than my Wife.

I did not marry my Wife as a virgin. I was trying to make her my girlfriend when she got pregnant for another man who later abandoned her with pregnancy.

I paid her bride price in full with another man’s pregnancy, she unfortunately lost the child after a few months. That child bore my name.

Before you insult Northerners and our lifestyle, open your mind to know the reason why we do what we do.

NOBODY NEEDS TO KNOW THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wtf!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Having 7 kids is not an ideal thing to do especially a man like you that's still struggling. You should stop breeding like rodent!

As regards the girl that's pregnant, send her back to her parents and let them take care of her. She's not your responsibility.

Martinsmine:
My friend go work for bayelsa... Give 16 years old Belle... Lucky him na man way never marry... D girl big pass her age

Your friend should be in jail for statutory rape. Some men lack discipline and self-esteem.

Someone wrote seeking advice for a particular matter but some people left the matter at hand to discuss irrelevant things.smh.
If u don't have any thing to say,shut up.

I know say your preek go enter the story one day..

It is because they feel if you can be able to father and take care of 7 children under one room apartment, there won’t be problem accommodating your pregnant sister in law under your roof.

Obavoh send her back please. Things like these usually go wrong in a split second. Apply wisdom in everything you do

I'm more interested in your having 7 kids plus yourself and a wife making 9 in one room! Haba....You are one of the reasons Nigeria cannot grow. If this is not wickedness, I don't know what else is. I just can't restrain my anger...I wonder what those 7 kids are going through in terms of quality education, feeding, clothing, and medicals! This is evil. Repent from it.

If you can take care of her financially, why not..
If not, send her back and maybe send her some money if you feel guilty abt it.

Make ona go abort the nonsense and send her back to her fathers house so she can continue school and will use that to learn a lesson

Bros better let that girl go. No put your hand inside fire come Dey shout say e Dey burn you. Let her find the man that got her pregnant to take responsibility boss

Guy you don even post the girl photo before. Or no be she be dis?

EmperorIsaac:
I'm more interested in your having 7 kids plus yourself and a wife making 9 in one room! Haba....You are one of the reasons Nigeria cannot grow. If this is not wickedness, I don't know what else is. I just can't restrain my anger...I wonder what those 7 kids are going through in terms of quality education, feeding, clothing, and medicals! This is evil. Repent from it.

Na wetin they ask you be that...?

Funny people!

Best troll on nairaland 🤭 give it to him

Is this not the guy who has about six children?

What you wife did is very wrong and if I were in your position I would immediately send the pregnant girl back to her parents.

You already have a family of 8 that you're taking care of, how do you hope to cope with taking care of an underage pregnant girl who may likely have a difficult pregnancy?

Obavoh:
I came back from work yesterday to see my Wife’s younger Sister in my house.

I was surprised because no one told me she was coming. I greeted and welcomed her.

I later called my Wife aside and asked her why she did not inform me that her sister was coming to pay us a visit. That was when she broke the news to me that the girl was 3 months pregnant and had to leave the village because of shame.

My Wife begged me and even called the girl to come and kneel and beg me to allow her stay until she puts to bed.
I was very angry at my wife for that.

I would love to help the girl but the problem is

1) My Father-in-law is not aware that his Daughter is pregnant. Only my Wife and Mother-in-law knows.

2) My Mother-in-law has not called to plead with me to let the Girl stay under my roof. My Wife asked me to call their mother to confirm but I think it should be the other way around.

3) I am currently managing a one room apartment with my Wife and 7 children. The place might not be conducive for a first time pregnant Girl. Feeding her is not a problem.

4) I am afraid I would be the one to pay her Medical bills, antenatal and all. When I asked my Wife she said her mother would pay but I don’t believe this judging from personal experience.

5) What if the girl suffers miscarriage or complications? God forbid. I might be held responsible.

Please advise me on what to do. My creator sees my heart that I would love to help but I am afraid. Should I let her stay or send her away?
How do I do this without losing the respect of my Wife and Mother-in-law. What is the best way to help the Girl?

7 children with you and your wife 9 in a room apartment....Oga do u want to kill yasef or live long? From the indication, I believe you either sleep on the roof or outside the gatepost....Nonsense story