₦airaland Forum

Kingray10:
Go get a girlfriend that can be leaving with you. Have sex in place of masturbation.
Besides you are the one wrecking your life. Masturbating is messing with head also.

what’s the difference between masturbation and having sex appart from being that one is between two people and the other is within one person

Excessive masturbation is usually as a result of underlying psychological or stress issues. Treat that 1st otherwise, you will just be treating symptoms and not the disease.
If you think having a healthy sexual drive is a problem, try erectile dysfunction or impotence. Just do everything in moderation and you are a normal human being. Sort out the hidden issues before tackling the masturbation.

JagaLove:
My name is XYZ I graduated from secondary school at 15 in year 2010. That was the same year I first masturbated; I was in my room one day and all of a sudden I started stroking my genitals; after a little while I felt the release of semen. The feeling was enjoyable and soothing or so I thought not knowing the Devil had crept into my life. I curse the day I got to do this first.

I was staying alone with my dad in a single room apartment and dad would always leave early for work and return late. Immediately dad leaves for work I start masturbating. Sometimes once in a day, sometimes twice, even thrice at most.

I got admission into the university and this didn't stop. It was easier for me since I stayed off campus. Sometimes I masturbate before going to class and feel dizzy when in class through out my stay in the university I was masturbating. I started developing negative consequences like anxiety, guilt, tiredness and weakness, I thought some of these things were normal or so inability to associate with people especially ladies. I could just see a girl then and I want to have sex with her and sunce i can't I'd wait till my spare time and do the deed. I would think people were seeing through me that I masturbate. I had this false confidence like I was the man.

I moved in to the school hostel in my third year and that didn't stop. I masturbated in my hostel room and even in the open field in school. Just trying to skip a lot of details. There's no place of family or friend I've visited where I did not masturbate. Even during my NYSC in year 2022 I masturbated all through the scheme.

I try to stop and can go off for I week or three days and i'd be back to it. I masturbate with my productive time and It has been 15 years now since I started masturbating I don't have good social skills, my relationship with people is faint, i don't have a job and its even a scandal now. People around me say it because I don't have a girlfriend I don't have friends and I don't talk to anybody. Not having a girlfriend is not my problem Worst of it all is I missed my purpose. I can't say it to anybody cause I'm ashamed of it so I came here to pour my heart and advice anyone who is tempted. I t ruins life. I'm supposed to be a role model but I'm the opposite. I used to have high hopes but now my intelligence level has dwindled.

Masturbation is a demon and an evil spirit. I just pray God helps and heal me and restore me. Praise God.

Too much of everything is bad. never allow anything to control you else it will destroy you.

I can see a lot of people trying to defend mastaubation but the truth is, you dont know his level of mastaubation.

A chronic mastaubator can spend his entire working days on ponography and mastaubation and the remaining time he is so tired or too weak to do anything meaningful for himself.

Mastaubation is so energy draining more than s*x. especially for a chronic mastaubator.

JagaLove:
My name is XYZ I graduated from secondary school at 15 in year 2010. That was the same year I first masturbated; I was in my room one day and all of a sudden I started stroking my genitals; after a little while I felt the release of semen. The feeling was enjoyable and soothing or so I thought not knowing the Devil had crept into my life. I curse the day I got to do this first.

I was staying alone with my dad in a single room apartment and dad would always leave early for work and return late. Immediately dad leaves for work I start masturbating. Sometimes once in a day, sometimes twice, even thrice at most.

I got admission into the university and this didn't stop. It was easier for me since I stayed off campus. Sometimes I masturbate before going to class and feel dizzy when in class through out my stay in the university I was masturbating. I started developing negative consequences like anxiety, guilt, tiredness and weakness, I thought some of these things were normal or so inability to associate with people especially ladies. I could just see a girl then and I want to have sex with her and sunce i can't I'd wait till my spare time and do the deed. I would think people were seeing through me that I masturbate. I had this false confidence like I was the man.

I moved in to the school hostel in my third year and that didn't stop. I masturbated in my hostel room and even in the open field in school. Just trying to skip a lot of details. There's no place of family or friend I've visited where I did not masturbate. Even during my NYSC in year 2022 I masturbated all through the scheme.

I try to stop and can go off for I week or three days and i'd be back to it. I masturbate with my productive time and It has been 15 years now since I started masturbating I don't have good social skills, my relationship with people is faint, i don't have a job and its even a scandal now. People around me say it because I don't have a girlfriend I don't have friends and I don't talk to anybody. Not having a girlfriend is not my problem Worst of it all is I missed my purpose. I can't say it to anybody cause I'm ashamed of it so I came here to pour my heart and advice anyone who is tempted. I t ruins life. I'm supposed to be a role model but I'm the opposite. I used to have high hopes but now my intelligence level has dwindled.

Masturbation is a demon and an evil spirit. I just pray God helps and heal me and restore me. Praise God.

turn to Jesus Christ. He is the Lord over all. He is the Almighty and He alone is the one that can deliver you from the sin of maturbation. It has become an addiction to you and there is a demon behind that addiction of masturbation that you are currently doing. Cry out sincerely from the depths of your heart and call upon Jesus Christ to save and deliver you from the sin of masturbation. Ask God to cast out every demon behind the masturbation out of your life entirely. U must be sincere and very serious to God for nothing is hidden from God Almighty and everything in your thoughts and intents are naked and lay bare before the God of Abraham, Jacob and Issac. Ask God Almighty to give you the Holy Spirit to fill your body and clean you of all those sexual and evil thoughts that lead to masturbation. Ask God that the Holy Spirit dwells and remain in you so that there will be no space for any demonic spirit in your life. Furthermore, obey the gentle, quiet voice of God whenever you hear Him speak to you either in dreams, in your heart, in the Holy Bible and in visions. Lastly, flee from sexually provoking topics, sexual materials on the internet, avoid lusts by all means, avoid and cut off from bad friends that bring unclean ,vulgar and sexual contents to you. Reas your Bible constantly and always learn to pray. U can even listen to the programs that focuses your mind always on Jesus Christ, on godliness and a victorious Christian living. I will recommend you watch programs about apostle arome osayi, apostle Joshua selman, pastor w. F kummuyi, pastor E.A Adeboye, Pastor Lazarus Mouka , Evangelist Reihard bonke e.t.c. You can read books on watchman nee, God's generals, William Seymour, Apostle Ayo babalola e. t. c. Above all, trust in the Holy Spirit and love Jesus Christ with all of our heart , soul and body. Masturbation makes God angry with us. It is a terrible sin that can lead to death, please avoid it, run away from it and Don't trust in men, or in counseling or in science or what ever earthly and vain knowledge. Put your trust in Yahweh who created you and knows your in inward parts, God was the one who wrought you in secret and made you in your mother's womb. The Bible says in Philippians 4:8 KJV
[8] Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
[9] Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.

https://bible.com/bible/1/php.4.8.KJV

Finally, I beseech you brethren by the mercies of God to flee from masturbation as God delivers you from it. May the peace and love of God go with you wherever you are and I pray that God Almighty who has all the powers in heaven and on Earth deliver you from the bondage of masturbation of which I was once a victim of. God bless you sir.

JagaLove:
My name is XYZ I graduated from secondary school at 15 in year 2010. That was the same year I first masturbated; I was in my room one day and all of a sudden I started stroking my genitals; after a little while I felt the release of semen. The feeling was enjoyable and soothing or so I thought not knowing the Devil had crept into my life. I curse the day I got to do this first.

I was staying alone with my dad in a single room apartment and dad would always leave early for work and return late. Immediately dad leaves for work I start masturbating. Sometimes once in a day, sometimes twice, even thrice at most.

I got admission into the university and this didn't stop. It was easier for me since I stayed off campus. Sometimes I masturbate before going to class and feel dizzy when in class through out my stay in the university I was masturbating. I started developing negative consequences like anxiety, guilt, tiredness and weakness, I thought some of these things were normal or so inability to associate with people especially ladies. I could just see a girl then and I want to have sex with her and sunce i can't I'd wait till my spare time and do the deed. I would think people were seeing through me that I masturbate. I had this false confidence like I was the man.

I moved in to the school hostel in my third year and that didn't stop. I masturbated in my hostel room and even in the open field in school. Just trying to skip a lot of details. There's no place of family or friend I've visited where I did not masturbate. Even during my NYSC in year 2022 I masturbated all through the scheme.

I try to stop and can go off for I week or three days and i'd be back to it. I masturbate with my productive time and It has been 15 years now since I started masturbating I don't have good social skills, my relationship with people is faint, i don't have a job and its even a scandal now. People around me say it because I don't have a girlfriend I don't have friends and I don't talk to anybody. Not having a girlfriend is not my problem Worst of it all is I missed my purpose. I can't say it to anybody cause I'm ashamed of it so I came here to pour my heart and advice anyone who is tempted. I t ruins life. I'm supposed to be a role model but I'm the opposite. I used to have high hopes but now my intelligence level has dwindled.

Masturbation is a demon and an evil spirit. I just pray God helps and heal me and restore me. Praise God.

Stop posting nonsense. You are who you are not because you hold your dick or not. What then would you say about people like Bobrisky that have been sleeping with men! Is that not worst than masturbation! Is Bobrisky not rich due to his activities? Wether you masturbate or not, it will not change who you are because you're an introvert.

Yo, I know a lot of people say “masturbation isn’t the problem,” but honestly, I think it is—just that most folks don’t realize why. Pleasure from sex is there for a reason: to make sure we reproduce and continue the species. But after that pleasure comes serious responsibilities—pregnancy, parenting, lifelong commitment. So yeah, the pleasure’s real, but it’s supposed to be tied to purpose.

Now with masturbation, it’s like you’re getting the reward without doing anything meaningful. You’re not creating life, not bonding with someone—you’re just triggering pleasure in isolation. The body doesn’t really know the difference though, so it still dumps dopamine (that “feel-good” hormone) as if you achieved something major. Problem is… you didn’t.

Over time, that starts messing with your system. You keep getting rewarded without effort, and your brain gets lazy. Like, your motivation drops, energy crashes, and even when you want to grind or push yourself, there’s just no fuel. You end up tired during your most productive hours, and it’s not just random—it’s that dopamine overload clashing with other hormones like adrenaline.

And bro, semen isn’t just “waste.” It’s loaded with nutrients—zinc, selenium, stuff your brain and muscles actually need. So when you're constantly draining that through frequent masturbation without balancing it out nutritionally, you're slowly depleting resources your body depends on. Some people might not feel it right away because:

1. They’ve never tried going without it to see the difference.


2. They’re not self-aware enough to notice the change.


3. They eat well and replenish what they lose.


4. They balance it out with real sex, so it doesn’t build up into addiction.


5. They don’t show symptoms.


6. They live chill lives with little stress or pressure.


7. And some are just built different.



But honestly, most of the signs—low energy, procrastination, brain fog, lack of drive—line up with what a lot of regular masturbators experience. It's just not talked about enough, or people are too quick to dismiss it.

And yo, not to throw shade, but even doctors don’t always get it. A lot of them go by the book, and this stuff doesn’t always show up in studies—especially when it’s more about long-term effects or how your drive changes over time.

Anyway, there’s so much more I could say on this. Maybe one day I’ll write a book about it lol.

Wait, masturbation is why you have no job, girlfriend, friends, social life and indeed, a good life? Masturbation is why you’ve derailed in life and haven’t achieved any meaningful success? As in fore real? How can just wanking off while alone be responsible for this?

Bro, get up and hustle hard and stop looking for useless excuses for your failures.

Ttipsy:
what’s meat? lol -…… I assume you have so much to advise him on

Hon, stop acting ignorant. You know exactly what I'm talking about.

Meat... As in meat na

chigoziri2403:
How is he right.?
Please explain the reasons how masturbation caused his unemployment

He was addicted so he spend so much of his time isolating himself instead of going out to look for work

I suffered the same here....but I discovered life without masturbation is sweeter and peaceful.keep trying when it's time for you to stop God will help you.....Am free now, it's actually very nasty habbit to d core it will drain your potential, make you feel guilty for just 5sec enjoyment .
When you stop it you will discover how happy life is....your body structures regain,you will be More focused about life itself. I pray God will help u.

SlayQueenSlayer:
Leaving with him to where? So a woman has to come and take him away before he could stop to masturbate?

No, it's not a must, but it will help more than when he is leaving alone. Besides I think his mind is too idle.

Lanretoye:
what’s the difference between masturbation and having sex appart from being that one is between two people and the other is within one person

Sex brings excitement pleasure and fun just to say the least.
Masturbating come with regret frustration and many more negativity Lik he is complaining about.

You are only lazy guy.
What have you been eating in 15 years?
You better be serious with your life ooo.

Stop blaming it on the poor masturbating, you are your own problem, even so great men still masturbate...if you really want to stop, only you can make it happen

The things is this, semen is very precious, yes so engaging in excess masturbation will score you cheap dopamine, that's why you lack the motivation to do things that will better your life. Also the guilt you are feeling is not helping matters. Masturbating once in a while is not bad as it's better than engaging in sex with these call girls and hookups, you could develop deadly STDs.
What you should do now is draw a life plan and goals and keep yourself busy. Avoid being alone, go out and make friends, don't look at porn. Just try it for a month and see the changes

Get yourself busy and Stop viewing porn sites. Try nairaland.com and laff your heart out with foolish comments instead of xnxx or xvideo!

Kingray10:
Go get a girlfriend that can be leaving with you. Have sex in place of masturbation.
Besides you are the one wrecking your life. Masturbating is messing with head also.

Someone that says he has no job you’re encouraging him to have a girlfriend…..shey na san san dem go dey eat?

stormborn28:
Addiction started from small. Let me do it once become two three .... Iet it just be two minutes become three four minutes, one week two weeks

You can say the same thing of sex, control is key

citee:
Someone that says he has no job you’re encouraging him to have a girlfriend…..shey na san san dem go dey eat?

His life is too idle that's why he thinks about masturbating

NetbizBoss:
Masturbation is demonic. Anyone who masturbate will find it difficult to progress in life

Wack mentality...
Those who don't masturbate, do they find it easy to progress in life?

Now, bro, you need to calm down. You're speaking like an 80-year-old man giving his final confessions on his deathbed. You're in your twenties—or worst case, your thirties. Life hasn't ended. In fact, it's just beginning. You can fix your life. Whatever you think is missing, you can build: confidence, social skills, productivity—it’s all trainable.

And guess what? You've already taken the first and hardest step—acknowledging the problem for what it is and the full ramifications of its impact. The next step is deciding on a plan and starting the work of change. That is life, my friend: Kaizen—constant, incremental improvement.

A little practical advice: compulsive masturbation rarely happens on its own. It's almost always accompanied by porn use. That’s the root you need to dig out. Masturbation is just scratching the itch...but what’s causing the itch?

Start there. Clean up your digital diet. Drop SM. Cut off the triggers. Replace the habit with something active—exercise, journaling, learning a skill. When the urge hits, retreat to your spirit and anchor there. Urges are like waves: they rise, peak, then pass. If you can ride the wave without giving in, you win.

You said, "I missed my purpose."

Brother, listen:
as long as you're breathing, it’s not too late to find it—or build it. You don't need to be perfect to start. You just need to start.

You're not alone. You're not beyond redemption. And you're not done yet. You're just starting.

Let's go! 💪🏿

Sponsored Post.

You haven't discovered your problem yet.

Ten06:
He was addicted so he spend so much of his time isolating himself instead of going out to look for work

It's his laziness ,not masturbation that is the cause

Let me ask... Is it only Christians that mastubate... Why do we always see this thread on Sundays..?

Masturbation is an evil thing and should be stopped else I can tell you for free that you will be struggling from mouth to mouth.

I masturbated for over 10yrs and during that time I was just struggling, facing disappointment almost everyday, in fact anything I put my hand wasn't working.

I got married 7yrs ago but during my first and second years of my marriage, I was still struggling with masturbation, but finally am free, and seriously it was only God that rescued me.

Masturbation takes you backwards if you don't know. You will see your mate striving but you will just be struggling to achieve anything.

Bro. Run away from from this because if you are not careful you will end up achieving anything in life

uote author=JagaLove post=135835947]My name is XYZ I graduated from secondary school at 15 in year 2010. That was the same year I first masturbated; I was in my room one day and all of a sudden I started stroking my genitals; after a little while I felt the release of semen. The feeling was enjoyable and soothing or so I thought not knowing the Devil had crept into my life. I curse the day I got to do this first.

I was staying alone with my dad in a single room apartment and dad would always leave early for work and return late. Immediately dad leaves for work I start masturbating. Sometimes once in a day, sometimes twice, even thrice at most.

I got admission into the university and this didn't stop. It was easier for me since I stayed off campus. Sometimes I masturbate before going to class and feel dizzy when in class through out my stay in the university I was masturbating. I started developing negative consequences like anxiety, guilt, tiredness and weakness, I thought some of these things were normal or so inability to associate with people especially ladies. I could just see a girl then and I want to have sex with her and sunce i can't I'd wait till my spare time and do the deed. I would think people were seeing through me that I masturbate. I had this false confidence like I was the man.

I moved in to the school hostel in my third year and that didn't stop. I masturbated in my hostel room and even in the open field in school. Just trying to skip a lot of details. There's no place of family or friend I've visited where I did not masturbate. Even during my NYSC in year 2022 I masturbated all through the scheme.

I try to stop and can go off for I week or three days and i'd be back to it. I masturbate with my productive time and It has been 15 years now since I started masturbating I don't have good social skills, my relationship with people is faint, i don't have a job and its even a scandal now. People around me say it because I don't have a girlfriend I don't have friends and I don't talk to anybody. Not having a girlfriend is not my problem Worst of it all is I missed my purpose. I can't say it to anybody cause I'm ashamed of it so I came here to pour my heart and advice anyone who is tempted. I t ruins life. I'm supposed to be a role model but I'm the opposite. I used to have high hopes but now my intelligence level has dwindled.

Masturbation is a demon and an evil spirit. I just pray God helps and heal me and restore me. Praise God.[/quote]

So masturbation is a sin and can affect you but fornication and adultery do not have any conciquences on you.
Some pastors even preach about masturbation and tag it evil but leave out fonication.
addiction is the sin here bro

stormborn28:
Everything is wrong with masturbation. I know a young girl that masturbate. She does it right in my presence but codedly. I take her lesson. It's affecting her academically. I have observed she is strongly addicted to it

Like what you said addictions....... This is the culprit

Why masturbation no dey affect oyibo and porn stars. Abi dem get juju wey dey prevent them from the side effects our African men have when they masturbate?

chigoziri2403:
Brother,Masturbation isn't the cause of your predicaments
If you want to stop it because it's addictive, it's understandable
Addiction is very very bad,even people that take hard drugs swear they won't go back

Your attitude is the issue,masturbation won't stop your unemployment
We've learnt to demonise our misfortunes in this part of the world, we tend to shift blames instead of looking at the cause

If you want to quit,it starts and ends with you

Read through his epistle and didn't see the correlation he was trying to make, thanks for this comment

chigoziri2403:
Brother,Masturbation isn't the cause of your predicaments
If you want to stop it because it's addictive, it's understandable
Addiction is very very bad,even people that take hard drugs swear they won't go back

Your attitude is the issue,masturbation won't stop your unemployment
We've learnt to demonise our misfortunes in this part of the world, we tend to shift blames instead of looking at the cause

If you want to quit,it starts and ends with you

Well spoken
Seun take the rest..........

Well to me, it can be a strong reason for you not to be progressive in life. I know all of us have weaknesses here and there and but remember, character is what makes us or destroys us. Sir try and stop, its demonic and so the enemy will tie you to it so you don't become successful in all your endeavors