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chigoziri2403:
Brother,Masturbation isn't the cause of your predicaments
If you want to stop it because it's addictive, it's understandable
Addiction is very very bad,even people that take hard drugs swear they won't go back

Your attitude is the issue,masturbation won't stop your unemployment
We've learnt to demonise our misfortunes in this part of the world, we tend to shift blames instead of looking at the cause

If you want to quit,it starts and ends with you

Hahjascho:
Oga,

He has been able to identify his source of problem and you are still in disagreement.

Several feedbacks received from different people have shown that’s he’s clearly right…just go to YouTube or google and check the brutal consequences of Masturbation.

Adegbem01:
The truth is, it sounds like you're using masturbation as a scapegoat for the challenges and disappointments in your life. There are countless people; successful leaders, socially active individuals, even billionaires, who also masturbate. The act itself isn't inherently destructive.

What is harmful is compulsive addiction or attaching guilt and shame to it based on certain belief systems. When the act is viewed only through a lens of sin or secrecy, it creates internal conflict; not because of the act itself, but because of the mindset surrounding it.

It's important to distinguish between real problems; like poor life choices, laziness, lack of discipline, or a sense of direction, and a convenient target like masturbation. Blaming it might feel easier, but it won’t fix the underlying issues. Taking responsibility, adjusting your mindset, and developing discipline will.

chigoziri2403:
Brother,Masturbation isn't the cause of your predicaments
If you want to stop it because it's addictive, it's understandable
Addiction is very very bad,even people that take hard drugs swear they won't go back

Your attitude is the issue,masturbation won't stop your unemployment
We've learnt to demonise our misfortunes in this part of the world, we tend to shift blames instead of looking at the cause

If you want to quit,it starts and ends with you

chigoziri2403:
Consequences including unemployment

AntiChristian:
Masturbation is haram!

Just go get married or keep fasting!

Adegbem01:
The truth is, it sounds like you're using masturbation as a scapegoat for the challenges and disappointments in your life. There are countless people; successful leaders, socially active individuals, even billionaires, who also masturbate. The act itself isn't inherently destructive.

What is harmful is compulsive addiction or attaching guilt and shame to it based on certain belief systems. When the act is viewed only through a lens of sin or secrecy, it creates internal conflict; not because of the act itself, but because of the mindset surrounding it.

It's important to distinguish between real problems; like poor life choices, laziness, lack of discipline, or a sense of direction, and a convenient target like masturbation. Blaming it might feel easier, but it won’t fix the underlying issues. Taking responsibility, adjusting your mindset, and developing discipline will.

Hahjascho:
While it doesn’t directly cause unemployment…it can kill your will power.

Most especially for men, it’s hard to be purpose-driven if one is an addict.

JagaLove:
My name is XYZ I graduated from secondary school at 15 in year 2010. That was the same year I first masturbated; I was in my room one day and all of a sudden I started stroking my genitals; after a little while I felt the release of semen. The feeling was enjoyable and soothing or so I thought not knowing the Devil had crept into my life. I curse the day I got to do this first.

I was staying alone with my dad in a single room apartment and dad would always leave early for work and return late. Immediately dad leaves for work I start masturbating. Sometimes once in a day, sometimes twice, even thrice at most.

I got admission into the university and this didn't stop. It was easier for me since I stayed off campus. Sometimes I masturbate before going to class and feel dizzy when in class through out my stay in the university I was masturbating. I started developing negative consequences like anxiety, guilt, tiredness and weakness, I thought some of these things were normal or so inability to associate with people especially ladies. I could just see a girl then and I want to have sex with her and sunce i can't I'd wait till my spare time and do the deed. I would think people were seeing through me that I masturbate. I had this false confidence like I was the man.

I moved in to the school hostel in my third year and that didn't stop. I masturbated in my hostel room and even in the open field in school. Just trying to skip a lot of details. There's no place of family or friend I've visited where I did not masturbate. Even during my NYSC in year 2022 I masturbated all through the scheme.

I try to stop and can go off for I week or three days and i'd be back to it. I masturbate with my productive time and It has been 15 years now since I started masturbating I don't have good social skills, my relationship with people is faint, i don't have a job and its even a scandal now. People around me say it because I don't have a girlfriend I don't have friends and I don't talk to anybody. Not having a girlfriend is not my problem Worst of it all is I missed my purpose. I can't say it to anybody cause I'm ashamed of it so I came here to pour my heart and advice anyone who is tempted. I t ruins life. I'm supposed to be a role model but I'm the opposite. I used to have high hopes but now my intelligence level has dwindled.

Masturbation is a demon and an evil spirit. I just pray God helps and heal me and restore me. Praise God.

chigoziri2403:
Your lack of conviction, debased mindset, defeatist mindset is what kills your purpose,when hunger catch him for a week,he will leave his meat and go get busy, seems someone is sponsoring his lifestyle

chigoziri2403:
Brother,Masturbation isn't the cause of your predicaments
If you want to stop it because it's addictive, it's understandable
Addiction is very very bad,even people that take hard drugs swear they won't go back

Your attitude is the issue,masturbation won't stop your unemployment
We've learnt to demonise our misfortunes in this part of the world, we tend to shift blames instead of looking at the cause

If you want to quit,it starts and ends with you

Kingray10:
Go get a girlfriend that can be leaving with you. Have sex in place of masturbation.
Besides you are the one wrecking your life. Masturbating is messing with head also.

donkach:
Yo, I know a lot of people say “masturbation isn’t the problem,” but honestly, I think it is—just that most folks don’t realize why. Pleasure from sex is there for a reason: to make sure we reproduce and continue the species. But after that pleasure comes serious responsibilities—pregnancy, parenting, lifelong commitment. So yeah, the pleasure’s real, but it’s supposed to be tied to purpose.

Now with masturbation, it’s like you’re getting the reward without doing anything meaningful. You’re not creating life, not bonding with someone—you’re just triggering pleasure in isolation. The body doesn’t really know the difference though, so it still dumps dopamine (that “feel-good” hormone) as if you achieved something major. Problem is… you didn’t.

Over time, that starts messing with your system. You keep getting rewarded without effort, and your brain gets lazy. Like, your motivation drops, energy crashes, and even when you want to grind or push yourself, there’s just no fuel. You end up tired during your most productive hours, and it’s not just random—it’s that dopamine overload clashing with other hormones like adrenaline.

And bro, semen isn’t just “waste.” It’s loaded with nutrients—zinc, selenium, stuff your brain and muscles actually need. So when you're constantly draining that through frequent masturbation without balancing it out nutritionally, you're slowly depleting resources your body depends on. Some people might not feel it right away because:

1. They’ve never tried going without it to see the difference.


2. They’re not self-aware enough to notice the change.


3. They eat well and replenish what they lose.


4. They balance it out with real sex, so it doesn’t build up into addiction.


5. They don’t show symptoms.


6. They live chill lives with little stress or pressure.


7. And some are just built different.



But honestly, most of the signs—low energy, procrastination, brain fog, lack of drive—line up with what a lot of regular masturbators experience. It's just not talked about enough, or people are too quick to dismiss it.

And yo, not to throw shade, but even doctors don’t always get it. A lot of them go by the book, and this stuff doesn’t always show up in studies—especially when it’s more about long-term effects or how your drive changes over time.

Anyway, there’s so much more I could say on this. Maybe one day I’ll write a book about it lol.

donkach:
Yo, I know a lot of people say “masturbation isn’t the problem,” but honestly, I think it is—just that most folks don’t realize why. Pleasure from sex is there for a reason: to make sure we reproduce and continue the species. But after that pleasure comes serious responsibilities—pregnancy, parenting, lifelong commitment. So yeah, the pleasure’s real, but it’s supposed to be tied to purpose.

Now with masturbation, it’s like you’re getting the reward without doing anything meaningful. You’re not creating life, not bonding with someone—you’re just triggering pleasure in isolation. The body doesn’t really know the difference though, so it still dumps dopamine (that “feel-good” hormone) as if you achieved something major. Problem is… you didn’t.

Over time, that starts messing with your system. You keep getting rewarded without effort, and your brain gets lazy. Like, your motivation drops, energy crashes, and even when you want to grind or push yourself, there’s just no fuel. You end up tired during your most productive hours, and it’s not just random—it’s that dopamine overload clashing with other hormones like adrenaline.

And bro, semen isn’t just “waste.” It’s loaded with nutrients—zinc, selenium, stuff your brain and muscles actually need. So when you're constantly draining that through frequent masturbation without balancing it out nutritionally, you're slowly depleting resources your body depends on. Some people might not feel it right away because:

1. They’ve never tried going without it to see the difference.


2. They’re not self-aware enough to notice the change.


3. They eat well and replenish what they lose.


4. They balance it out with real sex, so it doesn’t build up into addiction.


5. They don’t show symptoms.


6. They live chill lives with little stress or pressure.


7. And some are just built different.



But honestly, most of the signs—low energy, procrastination, brain fog, lack of drive—line up with what a lot of regular masturbators experience. It's just not talked about enough, or people are too quick to dismiss it.

And yo, not to throw shade, but even doctors don’t always get it. A lot of them go by the book, and this stuff doesn’t always show up in studies—especially when it’s more about long-term effects or how your drive changes over time.

Anyway, there’s so much more I could say on this. Maybe one day I’ll write a book about it lol.

chigoziri2403:
Brother,Masturbation isn't the cause of your predicaments
If you want to stop it because it's addictive, it's understandable
Addiction is very very bad,even people that take hard drugs swear they won't go back

Your attitude is the issue,masturbation won't stop your unemployment
We've learnt to demonise our misfortunes in this part of the world, we tend to shift blames instead of looking at the cause

If you want to quit,it starts and ends with you

Hahjascho:
While it doesn’t directly cause unemployment…it can kill your will power.

Most especially for men, it’s hard to be purpose-driven if one is an addict.

DeGLORIOUS:
I don't know what gives you the authority to speak this way but I can confirm to you as an ex_masturbator that I have seen this distroy my plans. At times when I have prospering plans and promises, when masturbation sets in, everything will give way or rather vanish. Well, I can't say that you are totally wrong in all your submissions because there is human factor too but one thing is certain from my observation, there's something that is not normal with masturbation.

Maitunbi:
May God open your eyes to see. You won't have said this if you had understanding

flexyrule:
Hon, stop acting ignorant. You know exactly what I'm talking about.

Meat... As in meat na

Hahjascho:
✓ While it doesn’t directly cause unemployment…it can kill your will power.
Most especially for men, it’s hard to be purpose-driven if one is an addict.

opalu:
Do 3 days dry fasting and it will go. This kind only goes by prayer and fasting