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MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

There is no other way to know a us3less son than what you have done here. If you don't have a change of mindset your father will be far better than you. You're probably the first son and that is how some of you will keep blaming your parents for your own failure until your younger ones become millionaires while you roam around expecting them to empower you. If life is that simple, you should have married by now and start preparing your children's futures.

Act fast before it's too late.

Omo ti o ni
Baba on ola
Omo to ni
Baba oun o ni owo lowo
Enu e lo kosi yen

Like you said all these things about your father and family? Really?


Haaaa, the world has indeed gone MAD

Kobojunkie:
Rubbish! He is actually on the right path by acknowledging the failures of his parents before him, rather than internalizing or ignoring them.

2. OP's life is also a result of the choices made by his dad and his mother. Over 130 million Nigerians today find themselves stuck in abject poverty because of bad decisions made by their fathers and mothers before them. Ignoring this fact is not going to solve the problem.

He has no excuse now.

MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

Lakshmi

MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

All this names you are calling your father have you achieved much in your pursuit.

Being a civil servant you should understand surviving will not be easy except he has opportunities to embezzle funds.

Na when you old you go understand why your papa dey sit outside alone most times .

MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

Your dad was just a lazy man, who can't help himself and can't plan for himself or his family there by subjecting the entire family to something else which has affected you some how

Bro always appreciate your father he no easy, the 12 years that he was working before he got married to your mom maybe his mind isn't on those things you are talking about and he isn't a materialistic person and since when he is working, he was using the money to bring u and your siblings up, bro life isn't that easy some time, try and appreciate your dad, no matter what happen he is still your dad

Omo ti o ni Iya ohun o la ti o ni baba o lu, enu e lohun naa wa yen

MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

Stop complaining! You are now in his shoe, change the narrative to better stories. You can be born poor, you can walk out of it through hardwork or remain there and keep complaining. Those with tories worse than yours have succeeded in life. Is there anybody who doesn't want to get those things? If it easy , start your own so that you will not hand over poverty to your own children too. Correct the wrongs.

Most times, salary is just for feeding especially as junior workers that don't even have access to loan. Don't hate your father or disrespect him the way you are doing, that way you are getting it wrong too. If himself inherited fortunes from his father, the story might be different today. But as it is, he tried without success. Break the poverty in your lineage through legitimate hardwork too, don't handover complaint to your own children too

MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

Blaming your parents is easy.
it’s comfortable. But comfort never built a man.

Your father may have not invested wisely Your mother may have made mistakes. Maybe they didn’t teach you about money, discipline, or self-worth. But here’s the brutal truth: The world doesn’t care.

You weren’t taught financial literacy? The internet is free. Learn.

Grew up in a toxic home? Now it’s your responsibility to create peace.

No one showed you what love looks like? Then learn to love yourself first.

Some men turn pain into excuses. Others turn it into fuel. The choice is yours.

You can’t undo your childhood, but you can decide how the rest of your story goes. Every day you blame your parents is another day you hand them the pen to write your future.

Grow up. Own it. Fix it. Because no one’s coming to save you.
Cut it!
quit pinning your mess on Mom and Dad.

You’re a man now; own your stumbles, your scars.

Parents dealt the cards, sure, but you’re playing the hand.

Grown means accountable
stop crying, start fixing.

Up is on you, bro.

Now.

PuZZyNegro:
Did his father leave any wealth for him as you expect him to leave for you? If he was born in a poor background and you are also born in the same poor background, then do what you expected him to do so your children will not be born in a poor background too.

You're blaming your father alone, what happened to your mother? She's also an adult with complete body, so she's capable of working and giving you the good life.

Sometimes people don't think. I'm sure you're an adult already so get up and create the life you desire and stop blaming your father.

May God bless you for this comment. In fact, you've said every truth he needs to hear. Likes of them are usually being misguided and turned against their father by their mums

Lighterx:
Oga no need to hate your father
U sef go born
U sef take responsibility.
Nobody is perfect, you didn't know the problems he had as at then. He did what he did with the limited knowledge he has then.

I don't find this appealing.

You sef go born is the beginning of poverty..

For anyone who seems to love the growth and development of a place country family or people should find its underlying problems first before taking good steps to resolution

It's not jus lamentations,
Hope e get wetin u learn from this?

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Thazard:
✓ I remember I went through that stage. Now I'm giving excuses for his every mistakes.

Why excuses?

Commentor:
✓He has no excuse now.

Excuse for what exactly?

I know ur mother have spoiled ur mindset towards your dad, don't worry when you marry you will know what it is to be a man

Mistersolar:
APC E-ratttt.......tell me the percentile of people making dough this regime,where govt officials cant fuel car or middle class are been wiped

I have never been a supporter of APC ,and I will never be. People dey make money,dey there dey play and blike op's father ..

Poverty E-pig

MrHandsome2013:
You see why I blame him, he knew he was from a poor background, he still went to marry from a poor background.
He knew he was from a polygamous family, he still went to marry from a polygamous family.
He knew he was from a family where dey hate each other , he still went to marry from such family.
That seed of hatred still exists among our siblings.

Baba this man is evil and worst than Lucifer

Now you have opportunity to right the wrongs, what have you been able to do?
Your father married from.polygamous, poor family and so on doesn't make him.an evil man.
You are simply frustrated, like a black man, you seek to blame someone else rather than yourself..you expect some load of wealth, Albert stolen ones, but didn't see. Now born in same condition like your father, what have you achieved?

mightyhaze:
So u be man. Why bear female on your moniker

am a woman not a man

You are here already! Quit complaining and turn the tide or else it turns to a pattern!

MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

Kobojunkie:
Why excuses?

Because I now understand what it takes to wear his shoes.

MrHandsome2013:
He should have been a rev father,
He knew his kids will find life unbearable why did not first sort his life before getting married,

You are here now go and become a rev father, u are damaged you need help. When you retire yiu can compare yourself to your father and you ve surprised he will do better than you. I can see he invested heavily in your education else you won't have the guts to write these paragraphs.

MrHandsome2013:
You see why I blame him, he knew he was from a poor background, he still went to marry from a poor background.
He knew he was from a polygamous family, he still went to marry from a polygamous family.
He knew he was from a family where dey hate each other , he still went to marry from such family.
That seed of hatred still exists among our siblings.
Baba this man is evil and worst than Lucifer

Gi and di yours before comparing

Kobojunkie:
That makes no sense! Are you insinuating that if one's father did not leave any wealth behind for his own children, he therefore cannot be expected to do otherwise? Are you OK at all?

2. Definitely, the women who reward these bad fathers with children they are aware will not live a life better than theirs are equally to blame.

3. He can still live his life while ensuring he places blame where it belongs, which is with his father and mother failed at being better parents and providers.

Women make uns go work ooo, its not a man's fault that you are not rich or wealthy, since yiu guys are alien to accountability why won't you be entitled and be blaming? No one owes you anything in life apart from giving you basic educating, not doing this id what will bring the government against you. Think like an adult and be responsible for once

An illiterate woman who may never have the opportunity to even go past her illiterate cycles is being taken off from the village by someone higher in status but for somehow its the man's fault because the woman is a minor or physically challenged to change her financial status isn't it? Okonjo get two heads abi? Ir is it okonjo's husband that sent her to school? Make una get sense for once

louken:
Dude, I wanted to call you the real name you deserve but I don't want nairaland uncles to ban me.
Did your father train you in school? Did he provide food and other basic needs? Are you bitter that he didn't provide luxury?

How old are you? Are you married with children? When you become a man you will understand your father's side of the story.

His father owes him nothing except basic education, all these entitled babies calling themselves adults, this is pathetic

It is your turn,leave your father alone do your part .change the narrative .