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Bestman241:
Last week Friday I started begging my wife for us to have sex since it’s been over a year we had it. Anytime I requested for sex, it’s always one excuse on top another about how she’s lost drive for sex completely. Mind you, I’m not inconveniencing her at all as I do most of the house chores and foot 100% of the billings. The only thing I sometimes refused to do is send money to her parents due to heavy demands from her.

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex. On Saturday, I received German police at my door asking about my wife. I called her out and before I knew what was happening, they started asking her if she’s safe which she told them she’s not. They took her to a makeshift apartment pending when they finish investigation on me. I have received a case file which I must respond to and present myself this morning (Monday).

I’ve never treated my wife badly even when it’s obvious I lost control of the home . She’s the one always insulting, always speaking to her male colleagues at late hours, not joining her to do anything at home.

Tired. I don’t know what to do from here

Some of you are weak and do not rate yourselves. She dey insult you, she dey talk to male colleagues in your house.
Una sha wan sacrifice everything(ur honour, glory, sanity, confidence, finances, progress) just to still retain that title of, still married. God still help u, ur erection still dey, which is not the case for a lot of men, u r now managing life with one daughter of jezebel u call wife. She will now start respecting you and valuing you and honoring you again after she has lost everything(beauty, attention from her male colleagues, confidence). She will come back to loving u and u will gladly welcome her back into your arms, as the mop that you are, always ready to mop shit.

i can bet my balls that this is a romance fiction!!!!


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Bestman241:
Last week Friday I started begging my wife for us to have sex since it’s been over a year we had it. Anytime I requested for sex, it’s always one excuse on top another about how she’s lost drive for sex completely. Mind you, I’m not inconveniencing her at all as I do most of the house chores and foot 100% of the billings. The only thing I sometimes refused to do is send money to her parents due to heavy demands from her.

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex. On Saturday, I received German police at my door asking about my wife. I called her out and before I knew what was happening, they started asking her if she’s safe which she told them she’s not. They took her to a makeshift apartment pending when they finish investigation on me. I have received a case file which I must respond to and present myself this morning (Monday).

I’ve never treated my wife badly even when it’s obvious I lost control of the home . She’s the one always insulting, always speaking to her male colleagues at late hours, not joining her to do anything at home.

Tired. I don’t know what to do from here

You said you do most of the house chores and foot 100% of the bills and beg her for sex over a year and she also works?

Are you gay or is this fiction? Because you're not making sense

Btruth:
......this is deep 🤔. Why is that women always change their behaviors when they get to oyinbo land?

because 80% of them are emotional being are easily cajole by other people's opinion.

Juoflife1:
This is your version. We need her version. Then the truth. There are three versions to every story.

You right there are different versions of the story

My cousin faced worse than this, but he endured. If you have an unmarried brother, pray for him in advance to get a good woman.

I take it you married her in Nigeria and while you were in germany for many years, and she only agreed to move in with you because you were in germany.
She is Nigerian girl abi.

Let me break it down for you:

If she is making rules for you on when to have sex, she is sleeping with someone else.

She is about to ditch you , you better start preparing yourself for eviction. Given the time you spent in Germany you should have married a german machine, they like Africans.

Next time she prepares a meal for you dont eat, see reason why.

What did I just watch?? pic.twitter.com/aGwWslKcJh

— A Man Of Memes (@RickyDoggin) June 29, 2025

franchasng:
Honestly I am still in shock and always wondering how men meet and marry these kind of witches disguised as women



Na wa oh, is this story even real or another episode of things that never happened we do read here on Nland?

You can never know a woman attitude until you both get married.

To finally see the beast in woman, just japa to a sane country where woman comes first

Go and listen to "When a woman is feed up" by R. Kelly.

You saw the red flags but you had hope, false hope for that matter. Please put yourself together because that is what you need in this trying time.

Itzlinda:
The story doesn't seems true . If a lady really wants to send you to prison for rape, she must have showed you sign before she acts

One year of unfriendly marriage and no intimacy is not enough sign?

If the story is true...he should have seen this coming several miles away

Juoflife1:
This is your version. We need her version. Then the truth. There are three versions to every story.

my dear,if u live in Europe ,this accusation is very common...I think the over-persusive nature of the begging made the woman open her legs against her wish.

My classmate once told me how his friend almost got into jail after him and his sex had a rompy sex. The man received police at his door steps the next morning

Sorry bro but why didn't you try escort instead of begging her. If my wife try that bro, that will be like who let the dogs out by ludacris.

I don't know why women wey u don knack for maybe more than 5 years go still dey do shakara wey fresh vegetables full outside.

For you guys abroad, if you notice this kind of behaviour from your wife, it's simple, work hard, save money and relocate to another country we're you will live like a bachelor while she will be with the kids in another country, and face the challenge of child minding alone, you can be visiting once in 6 months.

Also try and invest in your country naija, so that when you are kicked out, you can come back have have a place to stay to bounce back bro. Let's use our brain.

As for you bro, your wife is cheating on you. Not having sex with her for a year alone is a red flag. Sorry for that. After the case, divorce her if you don't have kids, but if you have kids, leave the country for her and the kids and relocate to another country where you can live your live to the fullest.

Happiness is free

Well this is not very new to me but you have to just answer your case first and come back to her own case. If you need to divorce her by now you should know. She is not your wife and she is just a single woman living with you. It would be called a rape case because she isn't your wife any longer like you think. Another things is that sometimes you need to learn to balance things. Why you need to be assisting her family sometimes is because of a day like this, you don't have to always satisfy all her needs financially. You only do what you can do for her and also do some for her family. I don't think it would be easy for you now to call her family. But if still know any of them you can call go ahead and report her. As small I am, if she is my sister and you report this kind of case to me, I will stop her easily.

ayoncox:
If this is true, I really feel your pain, my advice is that you try your best to make peace with her, report the the real issue to a third party, like therapists or even necessary government bodies, although it's obvious your wife's goal is separation. If you can switch towards going into monk mode may be it will be helpful. A lot of lady get poisoned by the cultural patterns in Europe that exposes the true possibilities they have in them

Person talk say him life story
You talk say if this is true

ayoncox:
If this is true, I really feel your pain, my advice is that you try your best to make peace with her, report the the real issue to a third party, like therapists or even necessary government bodies, although it's obvious your wife's goal is separation. If you can switch towards going into monk mode may be it will be helpful. A lot of lady get poisoned by the cultural patterns in Europe that exposes the true possibilities they have in them

You didnt read the piece, did you? She already called police on him and making a case for rape! The fact is that this guy waited too late. Has he been keeping records of her misbehaviours? Late calls? Were there no CCTV cameras in the house or vicinity? He should have initiated an exit strategy. When a woman starts giving excuses to deny you intimacy, count your teeth with your tongue.

harsysky:
I can only believe you when I read your wife's comment. People only blame others but themselves. When the wife says her own, alot would be shocked that they even believed the one the husband wrote. When you hear from both parties, you can easily know who is at fault.

My friend with all due respect abeg shift to one side

[My wife did same to me in Germany also last year .she lied that I assaulated her sexually.i was kicked out of the house ,case was investigated and then dismissed.i think it's a pattern among Nigeria women in Germany now .they have this Facebook group where they learn all those trucks on getting rid of their men.i pray your case also get dismissed .I think we live in a generation of very heatless and ruthless women without conscience author=Bestman241 post=135932000]Last week Friday I started begging my wife for us to have sex since it’s been over a year we had it. Anytime I requested for sex, it’s always one excuse on top another about how she’s lost drive for sex completely. Mind you, I’m not inconveniencing her at all as I do most of the house chores and foot 100% of the billings. The only thing I sometimes refused to do is send money to her parents due to heavy demands from her.

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex. On Saturday, I received German police at my door asking about my wife. I called her out and before I knew what was happening, they started asking her if she’s safe which she told them she’s not. They took her to a makeshift apartment pending when they finish investigation on me. I have received a case file which I must respond to and present myself this morning (Monday).

I’ve never treated my wife badly even when it’s obvious I lost control of the home . She’s the one always insulting, always speaking to her male colleagues at late hours, not joining her to do anything at home.

Tired. I don’t know what to do from here[/quote]

Bestman241:
Last week Friday I started begging my wife for us to have sex since it’s been over a year we had it. Anytime I requested for sex, it’s always one excuse on top another about how she’s lost drive for sex completely. Mind you, I’m not inconveniencing her at all as I do most of the house chores and foot 100% of the billings. The only thing I sometimes refused to do is send money to her parents due to heavy demands from her.

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex. On Saturday, I received German police at my door asking about my wife. I called her out and before I knew what was happening, they started asking her if she’s safe which she told them she’s not. They took her to a makeshift apartment pending when they finish investigation on me. I have received a case file which I must respond to and present myself this morning (Monday).

I’ve never treated my wife badly even when it’s obvious I lost control of the home . She’s the one always insulting, always speaking to her male colleagues at late hours, not joining her to do anything at home.

Tired. I don’t know what to do from here

Wait are you couples not legally married... If you still have your legal marriage certificate proof.. then she as lost the case already because Marital conjugal is part of couple responsibilities and nothing like rape in marriage...

SlavaUkraini:
✓ You are married to a woman you have touched for over a year and you call that one marriage...
You are a joker
Divorce the Jezebel and look for a sweet girl to marry...
A woman that is always talking to male colleagues at late hours is a suspected adulteress

You ask your mama dem wey dey do endurance marriage for Nigeria, some for many decades their husband never touch them. The same men go out to claim they are happily married. I am reminded of Akpabio's wife who has probably not been touched by her husband for decades as the man prefers touching other women. No be married man una dey call that kind man for Nigeria? Abeg! 🥱🥱🥱

Bestman241:
Last week Friday I started begging my wife for us to have sex since it’s been over a year we had it. Anytime I requested for sex, it’s always one excuse on top another about how she’s lost drive for sex completely. Mind you, I’m not inconveniencing her at all as I do most of the house chores and foot 100% of the billings. The only thing I sometimes refused to do is send money to her parents due to heavy demands from her.

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex. On Saturday, I received German police at my door asking about my wife. I called her out and before I knew what was happening, they started asking her if she’s safe which she told them she’s not. They took her to a makeshift apartment pending when they finish investigation on me. I have received a case file which I must respond to and present myself this morning (Monday).

I’ve never treated my wife badly even when it’s obvious I lost control of the home . She’s the one always insulting, always speaking to her male colleagues at late hours, not joining her to do anything at home.

Tired. I don’t know what to do from here

Better run for your ...German police will deal with you oh.. she need freedom better go to Italy or any other countries to save yourself they will make the problem bigger for you if u stop. Nigeria guy stop taking this these abroad because many of them will stop your progress in life.

RagnarLothbrok:
Deny the allegation. It is her word against yours. As far as you know, it was mutual and she probably set you up cos she is having an affair. No bruises and marks on her body

No bruises and marks?

Oga how you take know?

Abi you are the Op ni?

fitinwell:
✓ Wait are you couples not legally married... If you still have your legal marriage certificate proof.. then she as lost the case already because Marital conjugal is part of couple responsibilities and nothing like rape in marriage...

See wetin person dey talk for 2025, abeg! You never spend time in abroad jail be the thing. Never try that conjugal rights bullsheet unless you are in prison or something.🥱🥱🥱🥱

CharlotteFlair:
No bruises and marks?
Oga how you take know?
Abi you are the Op ni?

OP conveniently left out on explaining what he meant by the part in bold -- heavy persuasion. 😩

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex.

Instead of asking for more details, people have been reacting in ignorance.

Baronthecelebri:
Good for you, Jesus Christ said ask it shall be given.
You ask for sex she refuse, divorce her straight up no time for nonsense, but yet you'll still be begging for sex.

you bring Jesus to this matter, you shall be free from foreign religion bondage, leave Jesus for Israeli people,

Bestman241:
Last week Friday I started begging my wife for us to have sex since it’s been over a year we had it. Anytime I requested for sex, it’s always one excuse on top another about how she’s lost drive for sex completely. Mind you, I’m not inconveniencing her at all as I do most of the house chores and foot 100% of the billings. The only thing I sometimes refused to do is send money to her parents due to heavy demands from her.

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex. On Saturday, I received German police at my door asking about my wife. I called her out and before I knew what was happening, they started asking her if she’s safe which she told them she’s not. They took her to a makeshift apartment pending when they finish investigation on me. I have received a case file which I must respond to and present myself this morning (Monday).

I’ve never treated my wife badly even when it’s obvious I lost control of the home . She’s the one always insulting, always speaking to her male colleagues at late hours, not joining her to do anything at home.

Tired. I don’t know what to do from here

I was about to ask you if she's a German woman but I have the answer now from your writeup. It's better to get separated from her as she's obviously tired of the relationship.

harsysky:
I can only believe you when I read your wife's comment. People only blame others but themselves. When the wife says her own, alot would be shocked that they even believed the one the husband wrote. When you hear from both parties, you can easily know who is at fault.

Dont trust Nigerian woman abroad.

Dont trust them

Ekenem123:
✓ Better run for your ...German police will deal with you oh.. she need freedom better go to Italy or any other countries to save yourself they will make the problem bigger for you if u stop. Nigeria guy stop taking this these abroad because many of them will stop your progress in life.

So, German police can't reach him in Italy is the kain lie you dey feed the OP?

Myrepublic:
And you expect the wife to say what really happened? She will paint it in a way to make you feel sorry for her,and you will definitely do that, because that's what the society encourages. Married folks knows what this man is talking about.. some people thinks getting married is free ticket to sex. Sex when u go dey beg like small pikin.. and when u go out to get your urge satisfied,she will still call you a womanizer. Meanwhile she will be flirting with colleagues and exes .

You've said nothing but the truth bro, all the married men on this forum know exactly what this man is talking about.

wealthtrak:
✓ I was about to ask you if she's a German woman but I have the answer now from your writeup. It's better to get separated from her as she's obviously tired of the relationship.

Desperation will make the case against him disappear? Ha! 🙄🙄

OP conveniently left out on explaining what he meant by the part in bold -- heavy persuasion. 😩

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex.

Instead of asking for more details, people have been reacting in ignorance.

oluayebenz:
You can never know a woman attitude until you both get married.

To finally see the beast in woman, just japa to a sane country where woman comes first

Not true, we too we are married to a woman. So many close friends and siblings are also married to women and majority live abroad with their wives


My brother something is definitely wrong somewhere, it's not just about women, our women are not as bad as we paint them online, and like I said, I am not talking as a single man, I am talking as a happily married man married to a highly career-driven lady whose career ought to make her misbehave yet.


And not just me, I have countless friends, I mean very close friends living abroad too with their wives and living a happy, enviable life as couples. Same with my elderly siblings



So something is wrong somewhere. Most men don't come out completely clean when narrating their marriage ordeal, same with women, they paint it like their partner is the devil whereas it's not always the case if you get closer.


Some men married foolishly even with clear danger signs and red flags during courtship or before wedding. I know of a guy that was in similar situation he put himself by his negligence during courtship and he was lucky they both ended the marriage before they had kids and today he is always thankful to God cos he later married right and ended up with a wonderful lady.


So you see, it's not always the women, some men play roles. Some lie to ladies in Nigeria about who they are and what they do abroad just to lure the lady into marrying them and some of these ladies abandon their relationships in Nigeria to marry this deceptive abroad based guy they thought was living like Elon Musk only to arrive abroad and see a different thing; the Yankee guy they abandoned their long term boyfriend in Nigeria for is just a Janitor abroad or a Walmart security earning peanut. Or farm harvester or offloader that offload trucks abroad or help farmers to pluck fruits, the anger and frustration lead some of these ladies to start misbehaving and become unruly to their husbands abroad.



Bros plenty story de, I am tried, been typing assignment and thesis since last night

ednut1:
New account with a likely fake story. Dey deceive yaself

Don't be daft.

People create new accounts when sharing personal stories to avoid shame and embarrassment.

She is not your wife. It could also mean that you made her to be angry and she wanted to pay you back big time. Oga what did you do to your wife?

Bestman241:
Last week Friday I started begging my wife for us to have sex since it’s been over a year we had it. Anytime I requested for sex, it’s always one excuse on top another about how she’s lost drive for sex completely. Mind you, I’m not inconveniencing her at all as I do most of the house chores and foot 100% of the billings. The only thing I sometimes refused to do is send money to her parents due to heavy demands from her.

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex. On Saturday, I received German police at my door asking about my wife. I called her out and before I knew what was happening, they started asking her if she’s safe which she told them she’s not. They took her to a makeshift apartment pending when they finish investigation on me. I have received a case file which I must respond to and present myself this morning (Monday).

I’ve never treated my wife badly even when it’s obvious I lost control of the home . She’s the one always insulting, always speaking to her male colleagues at late hours, not joining her to do anything at home.

Tired. I don’t know what to do from here

Carry your cross...these are the things you get when you japa

Low sex drive
Low esteem
Your wife will ruin you most times
You will be emasculated
You will not be able to control your children
Sex is a luxury
....

Dude might end up in jail or be deported ...you aren't the first


When you japa there are things you consider....welcome to the wailing men in Europe