₦airaland Forum

Itzlinda:
The story doesn't seems true . If a lady really wants to send you to prison for rape, she must have showed you sign before she acts

He only gave what he is facing now and ways to get off.

Having been to the west.. Their law favours woman and is mostly against family union.

Same also the law favours children and vulnerable old people above anyone and assumes children and vulnerable adults dont lie.

If he gets free then he should file for divorce and leave the woman

Thereedemer:
Person talk say him life story
You talk say if this is true

I said so because people create stories here, may be I was wrong though

Bestman241:
Last week Friday I started begging my wife for us to have sex since it’s been over a year we had it. Anytime I requested for sex, it’s always one excuse on top another about how she’s lost drive for sex completely. Mind you, I’m not inconveniencing her at all as I do most of the house chores and foot 100% of the billings. The only thing I sometimes refused to do is send money to her parents due to heavy demands from her.

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex. On Saturday, I received German police at my door asking about my wife. I called her out and before I knew what was happening, they started asking her if she’s safe which she told them she’s not. They took her to a makeshift apartment pending when they finish investigation on me. I have received a case file which I must respond to and present myself this morning (Monday).

I’ve never treated my wife badly even when it’s obvious I lost control of the home . She’s the one always insulting, always speaking to her male colleagues at late hours, not joining her to do anything at home.

Tired. I don’t know what to do from here

Survive this situation first then send her to her parents.nut then get a good lawyer now.

How do you look physically
Look into the mirror

Assess yourself

Start visiting the gym
Eat healthy
Good oral hygiene

Get good wears... Get correct body spray and perfumes

Start to do solo outings once every two or three weeks

Watch her react

Give us feedback

This is nothing but tales by moon light.

Kalulu44:
Good talk, but the immediate issue for him now is how to convince the German police that he didn't do what his wife claims he did

He can do that by telling his story, ask for a lawyer and share all his experience in the presence of a police officer

Nigeria men pls if you know that you don't treat your wife very very well in Nigeria, pls and pls don't take her along with you to abroad. Most of these women misbehaving overseas are doing so because of the manner and ways their husbands treated them while they were in Nigeria. A stitch in time saves ......

koladata:
Only God knows how some men end up with these kinds of women. But honestly, why wait until things have completely fallen apart before you start thinking of an exit strategy? Marriage is not a life sentence, and it is not by force. Nigeria did not send you to exile so if it comes to this, you can return home and rebuild your life with dignity instead of waiting till one woman put you into trouble and get deported

[b]When a woman no longer loves you, it shows. Depriving you of Intimacy is one of the oblivious signs and no matter how much you try to manage or salvage the situation, it’s neither wise nor safe to remain where you're not valued. [/b]Love isn’t something you can force; it’s like a reflex, natural, effortless, and undeniable. And when it fades, as painful as it is, you can’t really blame anyone. The heart wants what it wants, and sometimes, that means letting go.

So my brother I pray that God continues to direct your steps

You are spot on. At this point, she could consider him as standing in the way and could decide to get rid of him in a way that could harm, or possibly kill him.

ayoncox:
I said so because people create stories here, may be I was wrong though

OP conveniently left out on explaining what he meant by the part in bold -- heavy persuasion. 😩

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex.

Instead of asking for more details, people have been reacting in ignorance.

jerrybabasam:
Nigeria men pls if you know that you don't treat your wife very very well in Nigeria, pls and pls don't take her along with you to abroad. Most of these women misbehaving overseas are doing so because of the manner and ways their husbands treated them while they were in Nigeria. A stitch in time saves ......

OP conveniently left out on explaining what he meant by the part in bold -- heavy persuasion. 😩

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex.

Instead of asking for more details, people have been reacting in ignorance.

ednut1:
New account with a likely fake story. Dey deceive yaself

You maybe right! Because he said he has not had sex with his wife for more than one year, so how have he been coping without reporting the matter to his wife's mother.

Na wa oo, before we can judge this let's hear from the other side , na so Bible tell us about Satan but still we didn't hear from Satan side of the story . lest hear from both parties before judging.

Nigerian men are now getting wiser. No more taking your wife abroad for relocation.

Trophy12:
✓ Na wa oo, before we can judge this let's hear from the other side , na so Bible tell us about Satan but still we didn't hear from Satan side of the story . lest hear from both parties before judging.

Why hear from the servant when his Maste, YHWH, is the one who speaks of him -- YHWH'S will is what Satan carries out... that's what the book says?

I pray OP gets relief from his predicament. From his narration I can see his brain is going through factory reset. He will either stay single forever or marry at least 3 wives. Polygamy is mankind’s only salvation from the fraud called marriage.

oglalasioux:
I pray OP gets relief from his predicament. From his narration I can see his brain is going through factory reset. He will either stay single forever or marry at least 3 wives. Polygamy is mankind’s only salvation from the fraud called marriage.

OP conveniently left out on explaining what he meant by the part in bold -- heavy persuasion. 😩

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex.

Instead of asking for more details, people have been reacting in ignorance.

Kobojunkie:
OP conveniently left out on explaining what he meant by the part in bold -- heavy persuasion. 😩
Instead of asking for more details, people have been reacting in ignorance.

If OP had 3 wives he wouldn’t need ‘heavy persuasion’ before having sex with a woman.

oglalasioux:
✓ If OP had 3 wives he wouldn’t need ‘heavy persuasion’ before having sex with a woman.

Go ask polygamists for North whether dem dey beat Dem wives or not before reaching such conclusions.

Kobojunkie:
You ask your mama dem wey dey do endurance marriage for Nigeria, some for many decades their husband never touch them. The same men go out to claim they are happily married. I am reminded of Akpabio's wife who has probably not been touched by her husband for decades as the man prefers touching other women. No be married man una dey call that kind man for Nigeria? Abeg! 🥱🥱🥱

Which kind mumu comment be this one ?

Abeg don't mention me again if you don't have anything sensible to type...

Why would you even insinuate that Akpabio have not touched his wife for decades...

Don't use your personal or parental marital experience to generalize every other marriage out there..

Not everyone approach marriage from your lenses or experience..

No Real African man will leave the wife untouched when he is not sick and they are in good terms under one roof...

It is better to send her to her parents than leaving her under your roof unattended to.

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Na only mumu man go still dey marry woman he never touch for over a year

If your wife denies you sex[b] for a month[/b] (without any valid medical reasons) then know that somebody outside is touching her.

Only a big Mugu will still keep such woman in his house as a wife especially when she is always talking to male colleagues at late hours.

That male colleague is now the new husband.

As for me and my house, we are not part of that generation of weak men that tolerate nonsense from adulteress

Bestman241. Let me be open to you. A fellow Nigerian be it your wife friends/ur own inner friends are behind this.Their objective is to RUIN/DESTROY U.I'm sure they are either from Eðò/ipodo yoots side.When it comes to something like this/wickedness to fellow countrymen, they are ever reliable in this kind of wickedness.

I pray no case for u

ayoncox:
He can do that by telling his story, ask for a lawyer and share all his experience in the presence of a police officer

Hmmm... I pray they hear him out o

If your story is exactly how it happened.

Probably she has gotten her papers through you. Hence , the show of power and ingratitude.

Your life is more important to you and your family members. Gently collapse the union. There are many sensible woman out there please.

You both had a serious issue before now hence the 1 year gap sex thing..what's kept you from settling that issue before now as the head of the house How do you guys cope, like how?? married couple for that matter Oga she didn't just call police on you cos of this incident, she has been nursing it before now and you refuse to man your home..not like I like what she did anyway

If you invited her over then you have just used your hands to destroy life. Never bring your wife abroad. She will turn u to destitute.

Helpout12345:
1. My first advice to you is to get a good lawyer quickly. This allegation can cause you your career, reputation and everything you had worked for.

2. Divorce. Yes. I hardly give a divorce advice to couples but your case is very familiar based on several cases I have seen in diaspora. Once it gets to this level you are with your wife, the marriage cannot be salvaged.

She appears cheating already, done with you and the union but you refused to let her go. Then she has progressed to false accusation through the laws. It's never going to get better from here. It will get worst.

LEAVE HER NOW. LET HER GO before it's too late for you. Count your loss and move on.

The first advice given to men by men is to divorce, but to a female is to endure.

ayoncox:
If this is true, I really feel your pain, my advice is that you try your best to make peace with her, report the the real issue to a third party, like therapists or even necessary government bodies, although it's obvious your wife's goal is separation. If you can switch towards going into monk mode may be it will be helpful. A lot of lady get poisoned by the cultural patterns in Europe that exposes the true possibilities they have in them

report to a third party ke … I advice he quickly flings her back into the streets and move on.

If your woman hasn’t let you touch her for a whole year and suddenly calls the police on you, open your eyes—something isn’t right. She might be cheating and setting you up so you get deported, clearing the [/b]way for her to move on completely. And here’s the scary part: if you survive this police case, don’t relax. The next accusation could be even worse—like her [b][[b][/b]/b]claiming you tried to kill her. Once she’s crossed the line of reporting you, the next lie will stick no matter how crazy it is.

Here’s what you need to do:

1. [b] Expose the Game – Call her people AND your people. Let everyone know what’s happening before she spins the story her way.
2. Protect Yourself – After this police mess is over, make the best decision for YOU and your family. If she’s willing to go this far, staying with her is playing with fire.
3. Gather Proof – If you can, set up hidden cameras in your place. You might catch her in lies or even catch her with someone else. Either way, you’ll know the truth.


Above all, get a lawyer to seek legal advice even before filling the document they sent.

This situation is dangerous, bro. Don’t wait until she destroys your life—move smart now. Good luck.

Why can you file for divorce?? You're not saying the whole true

STOP TAKING NIGERIAN WOMEN/WIVES ABROAD UNA NO GO HEAR

Op you are on your own.

There are two ways to handle this immediately but it depends on the answer to this question;

Is she an oyibo German?