₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
How many of the men are able to fully provide for their household without fail? Isn't it better to share responsibilities rather than pretend you can have what you are not qualified/entitled to have. -- a traditional wife?

Most times you just argue for your name to be in comment section,baseless points.

Even in the olden days our great grand mothers were up and doing. There was nothing like stay at home wife, farming is the general job for every household. 6 to 6 these women are in the farm, checking their cassava, cocoyam and vegetables. The men of the house, proudly lead the household to farm. It was totally a collective effort of both husband, wife and kids.

My grandma told us stories of how, during harvest, my grandpa will harvest his Yam, my grandma will harvest cocoyam. Together they process palm oil from there palm fruit harvest. They carry these things to Portharcourt all the way from East. Sell, make money, buy things needed at home and return.

A look into the above clearly showed our ancestors had great and supportive wives for them to achieve greatness we enjoy today.

Such can't be said of some women today, because people like you are deceiving younger girls online.

Well na for Men that are blinded, we still have some girls traditionally raised just like our grand mothers and ancestors who supported there Husbands.

I thank God I have one, and I am on journey to greatness.

Lanruze:
Have you noticed that wedding ceremonies and events have reduced Post-covid ?

There is an imminent endemic on unmarried women and single mothers based on the factor stated.

The devil is so smart that it uses feminist as agents to recruit new gullible converts to the frustrating, confused and depressing world of Feminism.

I have a single mother of three (3) boys who prides herself as Hotmum on Facebook dishing out advice on singlehood and enduring divorce to gullible young women.

She had a high algorithm on her page with many likes, shares and comments but now her audience has reduced as she found love herself again after advising gullible Women on the benefits of singlehood.

Unfortunately for the Hotmum as she calls herself on Facebook the new Man abandoned her and she has resumed her crappy long epistle advice again on FB.

Women are only loyal to their emotions...when men start to grab this ...they will know how to handle them

Truths9ja:
you should be very careful with her here. Hmm 🧐, she blocked her dad cos' they correct her, this is very bad. Her dad gan gan. Definitely, she's an hypocrite and should be closely monitored.

Thats not an issue. She is naturally defiant and stubborn.

But it's not an issue. All I care about is faithfulness to me and trust. If we trust each other, it's easier to open up to each other.

She is very stubborn normally and proud. But, she listen to me.

Initially she listens cause she was scared of losing me. I hate leading people with fear because it's dangerous, they will turn against me. So, I had to ease up.

She is free to open up to me because she trust me. I don't trust anyone, but I make sure I convince her that I do. And I find reasons to trust her, so that it will be convincing enough.

But regardless, we are best friends, so we can weather any situation together.

EmperorIsaac:
Same with me. But the asking why can be frustrating at times. They are interesting though!

It's actually a good thing to ask questions. If we have an intelligent leader that we trust. And we follow all his commands blindly, how would we know when he starts making mistakes.

No man is an island. I may have some rules, but that doesn't mean they are always right. So, it's best as they ask why.

If you blindly make decision without asking why, they asking you why will force you to rethink and either modify or reinforce your decision.

I also won't do anything if it doesn't make sense to me. I am even worse. I will never listen to you. Never.

MissOpe:
Let's assume there's 50-50 shared responsibility at home, you still need the lady to submit abi, after she don change her name to your own, after she done born for u and her children dey use Ur name, and most times she'll do more of the chores and still go to work like u, u still need her to say yes sir to all your demands and request .
Mr man, make I no knack u wetin dey my mouth..

When they say women don't have sense...u areca typical example.... so u think the marriage will work without the woman submitting...u are a child ... that's if u even have the opportunity of experiencing marriage, u will learn the hard way ... the way men are attacked when he fails to provide, is the same way a woman gets attacked I she fails to submit ... carry this ur mentality and enter marriage, u will end up full of regrets ... I hv 7 siblings and the least is in her 21 year of marriage... social media will destroy alot of women like it did to Toke , Tonto , Tiwa and Annie ... women with ur mentality usually end up regretting in their 40s and 50s

CorperKola:
✓ U like saying what you do not know becos of arrogance
My grandfatt had 10 wives and each wife was responsible for feeding her own children
So stop saying rubbish
Just admit arrogance is your problem

. What your grandfather had was not a traditional marriage, but a slavish kind of marriage. Basically, your grandfather was like a P-I-M-P to all 10 of his wives. Ask any sane woman whether they would enter into such an arrangement, and they might call the police on you for just asking. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Jakpon:
✓ Share responsibilites which also includes paying your husband Groom Price before Marriage, right?

Most people never paid bride price in the first place. Ask and you will find this out for yourself. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Truths9ja:
✓ in the Nigeria settings we are running, is the couple not going to do traditional wedding before the marriage start?

I never attended a single traditional marriage in my whole life het I have lots of married Nigerian friends. Look, many people in who you think are married are not even married on paper. So, what makes you think that your traditional marriages are a mistake,abeg! 😩😩😩😩🙄

Fryx:
It's actually a good thing to ask questions. If we have an intelligent leader that we trust. And we follow all his commands blindly, how would we know when he starts making mistakes.

No man is an island. I may have some rules, but that doesn't mean they are always right. So, it's best as they ask why.

If you blindly make decision without asking why, they asking you why will force you to rethink and either modify or reinforce your decision.

I also won't do anything if it doesn't make sense to me. I am even worse. I will never listen to you. Never.

She will last with you! I see that you have capacity to manage them while maintaining your principles.

MissOpe:
✓ Let's assume there's 50-50 shared responsibility at home, you still need the lady to submit abi, after she don change her name to your own, after she done born for u and her children dey use Ur name, and most times she'll do more of the chores and still go to work like u, u still need her to say yes sir to all your demands and request .
Mr man, make I no knack u wetin dey my mouth..

It isn't even the changing of the name, but the outright unfairness/belittling of the woman by the act. When marriage is instead meant to be a partnership --an agreement/contract between a man and a woman, insinuating that both partners equally enter in order to seek out the benefit of both the individual and the whole.

Imagine another poster telling me that his grandfather's 10 wives were each responsible for feeding the children they he fathered. And all of these women had to submit to the whims of this same man after all of that? Just imagine such an arrangement in this day and age?

Truths9ja:
please don't hide from the truths here. Men is the first person that submit in marriage, it's the egos of women that makes them not to submit. We can see the results of women that are submissive and the ones that are not submissive in the family's.

Results of woman that are submissive? Are you ok at all? Are any women more submissive than women in Northern Nigeria for instance? What is the result there? Do they have great homes and great marriages with a divorce rate as high as 81% in many places thanks to the religion? Isn't it time to snap out of this sordid delusion by now?

So na common cooking that is a normal in Nigerian families is making this girl go wild like this chaii, same cooking that my 10 years old niece usually do by herself really tinubu is making many Nigerians go crazy because she's crazy right now

Lanruze:
✓ Have you noticed that wedding ceremonies and events have reduced Post-covid ? There is an imminent endemic on unmarried women and single mothers based on the factor stated. The devil is so smart that it uses feminist as agents to recruit new gullible converts to the frustrating, confused and depressing world of Feminism.
✓ I have a single mother of three (3) boys who prides herself as Hotmum on Facebook dishing out advice on singlehood and enduring divorce to gullible young women. She had a high algorithm on her page with many likes, shares and comments but now her audience has reduced as she found love herself again after advising gullible Women on the benefits of singlehood. Unfortunately for the Hotmum as she calls herself on Facebook the new Man abandoned her and she has resumed her crappy long epistle advice again on FB.

The devil.is the Nigerian economy plaguing the pockets of many Nigerians leading to many more choosing cohabitation over documented marriages?

2. Ah, I see! So because she was abandoned by the one guy,that means she is unworthy and at fault, abi? 😩😩😩😩

Blackdisciple:
✓ So na common cooking that is a normal in Nigerian families is making this girl go wild like this chaii, same cooking that my 10 years old niece usually do by herself really tinubu is making many Nigerians go crazy because she's crazy right now

Normalized bullsheet is still bullsheet, isn't it? 🥱🥱🥱🥱

funsho75:
✓ What is your definition of submission
I want to understand things from your view

There are not that many definitions to the term. So what aspect of the meaning are you having a hard time with?

Truths9ja:
✓ sincerely men submit, the generation of ladies aren't lady again. Why? Is that not a curse niii?

Men submit to what exactly? If you really believe this crock of bull, then why have a problem with the partnership arrangement in marriage?

Truths9ja:
✓ As if it's the lady that will carry the responsibility of the family. This mentality doesn't add up at all. You should understand how family works

But most women do carry the responsibility of the family. In the traditional setting, all that the man focuses on is the financial which removes him from much of what is the actual family responsibilities.. It seems you don't even realize or understand the topic at all.

nwakibie3:
Make una leave her by the time she gets to Shiloh age nobody go tell her.

Do you know that, even in Nigeria, approximately 30% of men and women in Nigeria never marry at all -- not even in Old age? And remaining unmarried in Nigeria is not a criminal offense or blight to society? 🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱

Inclusively the men and the woman (Gen z) are not fit for marriage becos of their shallow understanding in marriage. Relationship is based on understanding, wisdom and knowledge. Absenteeism of these factors brings forth bad fruit in return. Discover with your partner how you both want the home to be governaned.

free2ryhme:
✓ Dey should stay unmarried and ib their fathers house

Unmarried people don't remain in their fathers/mother's houses. They have lives they live and love. On average, 1 out of every 3 Nigerian's never get married-- remain unmarried even in old age. So, stop pretending that they are an invisible crowd when they are all around you.

Truths9ja:
✓ it's becoming 50:50 already. Its just that the submission from women has reduced tremendously. It's very unfortunate situation in our families.

Why do you keep not making any sense at all in this? If you want any kind of submission then what you do is be a traditional man with absolutely no financial aide coming from your traditional woman throughout the course of the marriage. That is what the traditional model of marriage stipulates. If, however, you admit that life has ups and downs and you might need your wife to contribute financially with the freedom of negotiating all other areas. then you should opt for and marry only women who want the partnership model of marriage. Why are you struggling with grasping this simple information?

Truths9ja:
✓ when you know that life is transactional why giving full responsibilities to men alone.
✓ If not because the men of this generation are wising up on responsibilities here. You can't think in that line before. The rate men died on top responsibility is alarming.

The traditional marriage model was created by men in order.to allow men by themselves, by way of 100,% financial contributions to the marriage, the right to be head of household/master over the woman in the marriage. It was a wholly patriarchal move so query your forefathers on the why. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

2. Wising up is far from what is taking place. You, for example, are here busy arguing over how can eat your cake and still have it --- You don't need any to carry 100% financial responsibility throughout the marriage, and you still expect the woman to submit to you even at that. That is stewpidity! 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Submission is only a requirement if the man is a traditional man in a traditional marriage.

✓ A traditional wife should never have to "do little thing" in her traditional marriage. Again, the man is meant to be the sole provider in that model. Having the woman carry the man's weight at any point renders the marriage nontraditional. That the generation before this one accepted the unfair practice of women contributing to their traditional marriages is one thing. The current generation rightly chooses not to enslave themselves to similar stewpidity..

In a traditional setting
The man provides accommodations
He provides the farm the women must farm to feed themselves
And bring some to the barn
The traditional man provides only land for farming
While he adds up what he can

But that's the truth though. If you want a traditional man be a traditional woman and if you want a modern marriage be a modern woman or man. Simple. This shouldn't be an issue.

Contractor79:
✓ In a traditional setting The man provides accommodations
He provides the farm the women must farm to feed themselves And bring some to the barn The traditional man provides only land for farming
While he adds up what he can

How many men have farms enough to feed themselves let alone their families these days, abeg? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Look, the long and short is that the man is 100% in charge of providing financially for his wife in a traditional marriage arrangement -- rent, bills, food, school fees, etc., --- paid for by the man. 🥱🥱🥱

Why can't men decide not to get married, at least have a baby mama and pay her Off based on agreement 🤝 and take your child and train,trust me you'll live a very happy life rather than marrying any GEN Zof this ERA, I'll open a social handle for the movement let's stop getting married!!!!!!!!!

Kobojunkie:
Do you know that, even in Nigeria, approximately 30% of men and women in Nigeria never marry at all -- not even in Old age? And remaining unmarried in Nigeria is not a criminal offense or blight to society? 🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱

Madam you can stay in your father's house that's your business count others out

nwakibie3:
➜Madam you can stay in your father's house that's your business count others out

So, it is OK for you to talk ignorantly about others, but not OK for me to stress the realities that apply to many others out there? 🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱

lovebird65:
➜Why can't men decide not to get married, at least have a baby mama and pay her Off based on agreement 🤝 and take your child and train,trust me you'll live a very happy life rather than marrying any GEN Zof this ERA, I'll open a social handle for the movement let's stop getting married!!!!!!!!!

There is also the option of men marrying other men as a way of escaping Gen Z women. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

The options available are indeed plenty so there really shouldn't be a need for all these attacks against women. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
What your grandfather has was not traditional marriage but slavery kind of marriage. Basically, your grandfather was like a love-vendor to all 10 of his wives. Ask any same woman whether they would enter into such an arrangement and they might call the police on you for just asking. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Economy where people are struggling to survive
We will see whether the millionnaires will go round everyone of you natural biological leeches