₦airaland Forum

Mindlog:
You do most of the house chores and still foot 100% of the billings in Germany?

Of all things that never happened, this story never happened the most.

This generation of men are somehow ooo

Your wife is speaking to her male colleagues even at late hours, and has begun to treat you in a manner that suggests she’s no longer into you, yet you went to be begging her for sex! You are not even scared of your life

ALISMILE:
This generation of men are somehow ooo

Your wife is speaking to her male colleagues even at late hours, and has begun to treat you in a manner that suggests she’s no longer into you, yet you went to be begging her for sex! You are not even scared of your life

Its not as straight to the house as you indicated
Very easy to point problem from the back, side,front no one prays to find himself or herself in a relationship that is not working

Obrigardo:
I dont know who'd believe this. Is the dead internet theory now working on nairaland?

Your first topic and your first post.

Shift!

The forum is dead.

RhemaJet7:
God hates divorce. He could take her to marriage counselor, show her in the bible where God commanded couple never to deprive each other sex, and wife should be submissive, and pray for God intercession to heal their marriage

What if the man is not going to church himself

Rexymania:
It can...it can take 5 years o, but I will achieve it. Tt

Naaaaaaa
Police case
Then investigate by the police
Then charge tp court and all sorts

CharlotteFlair:
Honestly 😅
Heavy persuasions there could be violently physical.

Him use konikoni no explain am at all. 🥱🥱🥱

baralatie:
Would you like the real people to die of this silently

That’s what they do. The only way we hear of these are from third hand accounts just like OP’s “experience.”

meobizy:
That’s what they do. The only way we hear of these are from third hand accounts just like OP’s “experience.”

And you are very confident that none pf those people come to narate thepr ordeal because knows of at least two n nairaland that were real people who literally find themselves on abog mess .they were frustrated and posted theory ordeal here
One pf the two was lucky that je missed prison term bot jost jejeli left the woman.the other was a long battle with a very bad ending

Type from today till Nairaland close, the story in the post is a lie and will never be true.

baralatie:
And you are very confident that none pf those people come to narate thepr ordeal because knows pf at least two pn nairaland that were real people who literally find themselves on abog mess .they were frustrated and posted theory ordeal here
One pf the two was lucky that je missed prison term bot jost jejeli left the woman.the other was a long battle with a very bad ending

koladata:
Only God knows how some men end up with these kinds of women.

married based on desperation

But honestly, why wait until things have completely fallen apart before you start thinking of an exit strategy?

that's what marriage is, do or die

Marriage is not a life sentence,

til death do you part, except adultery , so may work sense not just heart

and it is not by force.

not by force before not after

Nigeria did not send you to exile so if it comes to this, you can return home and rebuild your life with dignity instead of waiting till one woman put you into trouble and get deported

if he could build his life in Nigeria he would not have gone to germany

When a woman no longer loves you, it shows.

she never loved him but him longer throat no gree am see front

Depriving you of Intimacy is one of the oblivious signs and no matter how much you try to manage or salvage the situation, it’s neither wise nor safe to remain where you're not valued.

you think is Nigeria where you can go work no consequence? Is obodo o.

Love isn’t something you can force; it’s like a reflex, natural, effortless, and undeniable. And when it fades, as painful as it is, you can’t really blame anyone.

yeah you can, yourself.

The heart wants what it wants, and sometimes, that means letting go.

is not about the heart
It's about the wallet

So my brother I pray that God continues to direct your steps

did he listen to God when he married the jezebel?

Is it possible for legal husband to Rape his wife ? Is there any constitution in the world that legalized sexual affairs between husband and wife as rape? Lawyer in the house over to you. As far as am concerned the woman has breached the agreement, shows act of wickedness for denied are husband his right

meobizy:
Type from today till Nairaland close, the story in the post is a lie and will never be true.

A fictitious story.....maybe

An intrue story........maybe

Bit the two man witnessed that happened here on nairaland back then ,.hmmm
Not to small matter because the actions they took really landed them on a very special problem

auduadeniyi:
Is it possible for legal husband to Rape his wife ? Is there any constitution in the world that legalized sexual affairs between husband and wife as rape? Lawyer in the house over to you. As far as am concerned the woman has breached the agreement, shows act of wickedness for denied are husband his right

O
n the western country.a married woman can call police on her husband for eexial assault
And if found guilty can to jail
Different from the norm in Nigeria where the man can do anyhow and walk free

auduadeniyi:
Is it possible for legal husband to Rape his wife ?

yup in the west

Is there any constitution in the world that legalized sexual affairs between husband and wife as rape?

All do. We just don't enforce

Lawyer in the house over to you. As far as am concerned the woman has breached the agreement,

The law does not care how far you are concerned?

shows act of wickedness for denied are husband his right

better may with sense of you want to travel to obodo

auduadeniyi:
✓ Is it possible for legal husband to Rape his wife ? Is there any constitution in the world that legalized sexual affairs between husband and wife as rape? Lawyer in the house over to you. As far as am concerned the woman has breached the agreement, shows act of wickedness for denied are husband his right

Please, with this mind in 2025, never leave the shores of Nigeria where this sort of stewpidity is literally protected or you will likely end up behind bars.

baralatie:
O
n the western country.a married woman can call police on her husband for eexial assault
And if found guilty can to jail
Different from the norm in Nigeria where the man can do anyhow and walk free

Anyhow includes killing the woman set. 😩😩😩

Bestman241:
Last week Friday I started begging my wife for us to have sex since it’s been over a year we had it. Anytime I requested for sex, it’s always one excuse on top another about how she’s lost drive for sex completely. Mind you, I’m not inconveniencing her at all as I do most of the house chores and foot 100% of the billings. The only thing I sometimes refused to do is send money to her parents due to heavy demands from her.

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex. On Saturday, I received German police at my door asking about my wife. I called her out and before I knew what was happening, they started asking her if she’s safe which she told them she’s not. They took her to a makeshift apartment pending when they finish investigation on me. I have received a case file which I must respond to and present myself this morning (Monday).

I’ve never treated my wife badly even when it’s obvious I lost control of the home . She’s the one always insulting, always speaking to her male colleagues at late hours, not joining her to do anything at home.

Tired. I don’t know what to do from here

is there a rape case between couple?

trentslawson:
✓ Take her to court it seems thats the best option now since she can't listen to you. Because she's already planning to leave you.
Afteral both of you have tried working it out. My advice is let court handle the situation. Be ahead of her o.

Take a woman who accused him in courts for rape to court? Many of you are simply disjointed in your thinking.

my brother, you deserve to be happy, divorce her fast fast, and live your life

You lost your wife when because of overseas life, you tied wrapper and exchanged roles with a woman! What is wrong with you men sef? The home that you reversed your gender trying to keep, have you not still lost it? You turn yourself to foot mat trying to please a woman and still expect her to respect u... those house chores u are helping her to do at home, she will still go and do it for another man outside! Mr man, that your wife is gone o... nothing you can do about that one now but you can still salvage what is left of your dignity. Allow her to go please. When her eyes clear, she will still come n beg u. If u like, take her back.. then we will know the true nature of the thing that is doing you.

Bestman241:
Last week Friday I started begging my wife for us to have sex since it’s been over a year we had it. Anytime I requested for sex, it’s always one excuse on top another about how she’s lost drive for sex completely. Mind you, I’m not inconveniencing her at all as I do most of the house chores and foot 100% of the billings. The only thing I sometimes refused to do is send money to her parents due to heavy demands from her.

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex. On Saturday, I received German police at my door asking about my wife. I called her out and before I knew what was happening, they started asking her if she’s safe which she told them she’s not. They took her to a makeshift apartment pending when they finish investigation on me. I have received a case file which I must respond to and present myself this morning (Monday).

I’ve never treated my wife badly even when it’s obvious I lost control of the home . She’s the one always insulting, always speaking to her male colleagues at late hours, not joining her to do anything at home.

Tired. I don’t know what to do from here

Be patient and wait for the right time.. Right time of what, even me I don't know.
But sure opportunity will come that you will get back at her.

How do you people allow women to put you in this kind of terrible way?

The mistake most of you make is that, you put your women on pedestal, you will be doing house chores, sending money like mugu, she didnt sleep with you, and you keep begging instead of going outside to enjoy yourself.

Normally, a man is not supposed to have one sexual partner, married or not because one can be misbehaving and you can quickly use the other one to guide, but with the way you sound, even if you have side babe, you will still be a mumu for her and will turn out the same way your wife turns out.

Respect your wife, make her happy but have several options. Dress well, smell nice, be happy, go out and have ,mad fun, dont allow any woman use you to shine.

Why did you say allowing contribute nothing in the marriage is a mistake?
In marriage, man is the one who takes charge and pay bills na.

drehdinho:
If this story is true, no need for panic.
There are few things you need to do. But I can’t disclose them on public forum. You can send me a mail.

However, mistake you probably made is allowing her to contribute nothing into the marriage.

If you travel and stay in another location or city, you may lose your kids to her, even if you do visit dem.
Abi will you get another woman and marry in that new location?

ezegenigbonine:
Sorry bro but why didn't you try escort instead of begging her. If my wife try that bro, that will be like who let the dogs out by ludacris.

I don't know why women wey u don knack for maybe more than 5 years go still dey do shakara wey fresh vegetables full outside.

For you guys abroad, if you notice this kind of behaviour from your wife, it's simple, work hard, save money and relocate to another country we're you will live like a bachelor while she will be with the kids in another country, and face the challenge of child minding alone, you can be visiting once in 6 months.

Also try and invest in your country naija, so that when you are kicked out, you can come back have have a place to stay to bounce back bro. Let's use our brain.

As for you bro, your wife is cheating on you. Not having sex with her for a year alone is a red flag. Sorry for that. After the case, divorce her if you don't have kids, but if you have kids, leave the country for her and the kids and relocate to another country where you can live your live to the fullest.

Happiness is free

She is a german woman?

wealthtrak:
I was about to ask you if she's a German woman but I have the answer now from your writeup. It's better to get separated from her as she's obviously tired of the relationship.

jerrybabasam:
Nigeria men pls if you know that you don't treat your wife very very well in Nigeria, pls and pls don't take her along with you to abroad. Most of these women misbehaving overseas are doing so because of the manner and ways their husbands treated them while they were in Nigeria. A stitch in time saves ......

With all the bile they throw on social media,how many Nigerian men actually treat their wives very well in Nigeria?

Bestman241:
Last week Friday I started begging my wife for us to have sex since it’s been over a year we had it. Anytime I requested for sex, it’s always one excuse on top another about how she’s lost drive for sex completely. Mind you, I’m not inconveniencing her at all as I do most of the house chores and foot 100% of the billings. The only thing I sometimes refused to do is send money to her parents due to heavy demands from her.

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex. On Saturday, I received German police at my door asking about my wife. I called her out and before I knew what was happening, they started asking her if she’s safe which she told them she’s not. They took her to a makeshift apartment pending when they finish investigation on me. I have received a case file which I must respond to and present myself this morning (Monday).

I’ve never treated my wife badly even when it’s obvious I lost control of the home . She’s the one always insulting, always speaking to her male colleagues at late hours, not joining her to do anything at home.

Tired. I don’t know what to do from here

will you have their passport if marrued to German woman? If there is no sign of bruise on her body, how can she establish rape case in court of law? Divorce the idiot and take care of your kid. Always have plan B Incase and don't be fool please.

You believed he actually raped his own legally married wife🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷
[quote author= post=135932142]Why should we believe this story without hearing from the second party.[/quote]

JordanMichael:
You believed he actually raped his own legally married wife🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷

I hope you have no plans to go abroad at all with this nonsense you dey ask?

Is it now a crime for Nigerians guys to move with their spouses to Europe?
Because each time I read online what the men are going through is pathetic and disgusting to read.

Bestman241:
Last week Friday I started begging my wife for us to have sex since it’s been over a year we had it. Anytime I requested for sex, it’s always one excuse on top another about how she’s lost drive for sex completely. Mind you, I’m not inconveniencing her at all as I do most of the house chores and foot 100% of the billings. The only thing I sometimes refused to do is send money to her parents due to heavy demands from her.

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex. On Saturday, I received German police at my door asking about my wife. I called her out and before I knew what was happening, they started asking her if she’s safe which she told them she’s not. They took her to a makeshift apartment pending when they finish investigation on me. I have received a case file which I must respond to and present myself this morning (Monday).

I’ve never treated my wife badly even when it’s obvious I lost control of the home . She’s the one always insulting, always speaking to her male colleagues at late hours, not joining her to do anything at home.

Tired. I don’t know what to do from here

Did you ever record her insulting you? Even if you did not, at this time, I am not sure if counselling will help. Your wife has shown you she is no longer interested in the marriage and I would personally advise you take a stance on if you want to be married to yourself or you want to be single. Do not listen to any noise as her height of selfishness is unbearable.