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This is so sad. This is a very devastating situation. I pray you all handle it carefully

illicit:
Your sister

Your cousin

That side no clear but notwithstanding, someone was raped



Mobilize and locate that nihha now...

Abi u are in Kubwa Abuja ni?

Another complication:

She is the first of two daughters
Next, her only brother (older)...

Na wa

Take the girl to the hospital asap. This is getting late. Who knows if the rapist is HIV/hepatitisB/C positive. Get her to the hospital to start treatment and post exposure prophylaxis asap. You can get the police involved from there. Do no delay further.

Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).

I stay with them for now. She's 18, the first of two daughters and was still virgin (as far as I know). Her only [older] brother is in school.

She's been acting funny since on Sunday evening. She couldn't hold it in anymore and, since there is no one else she could actually confide in, she confided in me. Now she's begging me not to tell anyone and not to cause trouble. She only wants me to help her get a drug (if any) that will prevent pregnancy.

She told me about the man coming to see her in her mother's restaurant and said she was going to talk to the man about getting me a job, but when she went into his car, he forced himself on her.

Honestly I am angry right now! I am angry at three things:

First, I am angry at my family. I have a family where the children are afraid to open up, because if you do, you will be blamed and castigated upon. I understand her fear and apprehension about letting other people know, but I just can't let this go.

Secondly, I am angry at our society. How can a man confidently feels he can force himself on a lady and get away with it? What kind of society do we have?

Thirdly, I am angry at myself. I am angry because I feel helpless. I can't let this thing go. I have to deal with this man, but I don't know how to do it without putting my cousin in a difficult position. I have tried to let her know that it is not her fault and that the man needs to pay for this, but she's been begging me to just let it go. She only confided in me because she's really scared of getting pregnant.

According to her though, there was never any real penetration, but the man (who is a high ranking government official) actually "released" ON her, not IN her. (Does that even make sense?)
How can I handle this issue right now? For me, I am planning to go all out and let hell break loose and let the heavens fall if they have to.

No penetration?

She's still a a virgin?

Firstly, take the gal to a government hospital for thorough examination not for pregnancy alone but sti. If she's still a virgin and there's no penetration, then it will be hard to accuse the man of rape

Rape is a very serious offence.

If you want to shift a lady's pant you must first obtain her consent

Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).

I stay with them for now. She's 18, the first of two daughters and was still virgin (as far as I know). Her only [older] brother is in school.

She's been acting funny since on Sunday evening. She couldn't hold it in anymore and, since there is no one else she could actually confide in, she confided in me. Now she's begging me not to tell anyone and not to cause trouble. She only wants me to help her get a drug (if any) that will prevent pregnancy.

She told me about the man coming to see her in her mother's restaurant and said she was going to talk to the man about getting me a job, but when she went into his car, he forced himself on her.

Honestly I am angry right now! I am angry at three things:

First, I am angry at my family. I have a family where the children are afraid to open up, because if you do, you will be blamed and castigated upon. I understand her fear and apprehension about letting other people know, but I just can't let this go.

Secondly, I am angry at our society. How can a man confidently feels he can force himself on a lady and get away with it? What kind of society do we have?

Thirdly, I am angry at myself. I am angry because I feel helpless. I can't let this thing go. I have to deal with this man, but I don't know how to do it without putting my cousin in a difficult position. I have tried to let her know that it is not her fault and that the man needs to pay for this, but she's been begging me to just let it go. She only confided in me because she's really scared of getting pregnant.

According to her though, there was never any real penetration, but the man (who is a high ranking government official) actually "released" ON her, not IN her. (Does that even make sense?)
How can I handle this issue right now? For me, I am planning to go all out and let hell break loose and let the heavens fall if they have to.

I trust your are Aware rape is a capital offence right now, and you should be careful about how you go about it

Secondly, from your write up, there is no forced penetration, or if there is your write up doesn't stated

Since the man in question is a high ranked govt office, caution should be your watch world


Finally you should confirm if your cousin is still a Virgin or not, if the hayman is broken, there must/will be the man fluid around her Area,
But the problem is she her probably clean up, so evidence will be very hard to establish

This is unbelievable...

Go to the police if she is really sure.

yesloaded:
No penetration?

She's still a a virgin?

Firstly, take the gal to a government hospital for thorough examination not for pregnancy alone but sti. If she's still a virgin and there's no penetration, then it will be hard to accuse the man of rape

Exactly, it will be very hard, and it will also look like defamation


And seuuuunnnnnn till 40th


Exactly 💯




And seuuuunnnnnn

She told me about the man coming to see her in her mother's restaurant and said she was going to talk to the man about getting me a job,

Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).

I stay with them for now. She's 18, the first of two daughters and was still virgin (as far as I know). Her only [older] brother is in school.

She's been acting funny since on Sunday evening. She couldn't hold it in anymore and, since there is no one else she could actually confide in, she confided in me. Now she's begging me not to tell anyone and not to cause trouble. She only wants me to help her get a drug (if any) that will prevent pregnancy.

She told me about the man coming to see her in her mother's restaurant and said she was going to talk to the man about getting me a job, but when she went into his car, he forced himself on her.

Honestly I am angry right now! I am angry at three things:

First, I am angry at my family. I have a family where the children are afraid to open up, because if you do, you will be blamed and castigated upon. I understand her fear and apprehension about letting other people know, but I just can't let this go.

Secondly, I am angry at our society. How can a man confidently feels he can force himself on a lady and get away with it? What kind of society do we have?

Thirdly, I am angry at myself. I am angry because I feel helpless. I can't let this thing go. I have to deal with this man, but I don't know how to do it without putting my cousin in a difficult position. I have tried to let her know that it is not her fault and that the man needs to pay for this, but she's been begging me to just let it go. She only confided in me because she's really scared of getting pregnant.

According to her though, there was never any real penetration, but the man (who is a high ranking government official) actually "released" ON her, not IN her. (Does that even make sense?)
How can I handle this issue right now? For me, I am planning to go all out and let hell break loose and let the heavens fall if they have to.

Whatever you do, it sounds like that man had raw sex with her, so get her to a hospital NOW. She needs to take certain emergency treatments to prevent potential HIV and other STD transmission. The medical report is also essential in case you report the case to the police. Time is of the essence as some of the medication she needs will not work after some days have passed, so do it NOW!

Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).

I stay with them for now. She's 18, the first of two daughters and was still virgin (as far as I know). Her only [older] brother is in school.

She's been acting funny since on Sunday evening. She couldn't hold it in anymore and, since there is no one else she could actually confide in, she confided in me. Now she's begging me not to tell anyone and not to cause trouble. She only wants me to help her get a drug (if any) that will prevent pregnancy.

She told me about the man coming to see her in her mother's restaurant and said she was going to talk to the man about getting me a job, but when she went into his car, he forced himself on her.

Honestly I am angry right now! I am angry at three things:

First, I am angry at my family. I have a family where the children are afraid to open up, because if you do, you will be blamed and castigated upon. I understand her fear and apprehension about letting other people know, but I just can't let this go.

Secondly, I am angry at our society. How can a man confidently feels he can force himself on a lady and get away with it? What kind of society do we have?

Thirdly, I am angry at myself. I am angry because I feel helpless. I can't let this thing go. I have to deal with this man, but I don't know how to do it without putting my cousin in a difficult position. I have tried to let her know that it is not her fault and that the man needs to pay for this, but she's been begging me to just let it go. She only confided in me because she's really scared of getting pregnant.

According to her though, there was never any real penetration, but the man (who is a high ranking government official) actually "released" ON her, not IN her. (Does that even make sense?)
How can I handle this issue right now? For me, I am planning to go all out and let hell break loose and let the heavens fall if they have to.

First ask details...like how she met him,where it happened.situation that led to that...

Tell her to call NAPTIP Official helpline on 07030000203 or 627 ASAP.

Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).

I stay with them for now. She's 18, the first of two daughters and was still virgin (as far as I know). Her only [older] brother is in school.

She's been acting funny since on Sunday evening. She couldn't hold it in anymore and, since there is no one else she could actually confide in, she confided in me. Now she's begging me not to tell anyone and not to cause trouble. She only wants me to help her get a drug (if any) that will prevent pregnancy.

She told me about the man coming to see her in her mother's restaurant and said she was going to talk to the man about getting me a job, but when she went into his car, he forced himself on her.

Honestly I am angry right now! I am angry at three things:

First, I am angry at my family. I have a family where the children are afraid to open up, because if you do, you will be blamed and castigated upon. I understand her fear and apprehension about letting other people know, but I just can't let this go.

Secondly, I am angry at our society. How can a man confidently feels he can force himself on a lady and get away with it? What kind of society do we have?

Thirdly, I am angry at myself. I am angry because I feel helpless. I can't let this thing go. I have to deal with this man, but I don't know how to do it without putting my cousin in a difficult position. I have tried to let her know that it is not her fault and that the man needs to pay for this, but she's been begging me to just let it go. She only confided in me because she's really scared of getting pregnant.

According to her though, there was never any real penetration, but the man (who is a high ranking government official) actually "released" ON her, not IN her. (Does that even make sense?)
How can I handle this issue right now? For me, I am planning to go all out and let hell break loose and let the heavens fall if they have to.

oga she's lying just forget she knows what she did
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Let her go for PEP immediately in any hospital fast...

This is a police case oo

No use am play

And the more time is wasted the less evidence u get

Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).

I stay with them for now. She's 18, the first of two daughters and was still virgin (as far as I know). Her only [older] brother is in school.

She's been acting funny since on Sunday evening. She couldn't hold it in anymore and, since there is no one else she could actually confide in, she confided in me. Now she's begging me not to tell anyone and not to cause trouble. She only wants me to help her get a drug (if any) that will prevent pregnancy.

She told me about the man coming to see her in her mother's restaurant and said she was going to talk to the man about getting me a job, but when she went into his car, he forced himself on her.

Honestly I am angry right now! I am angry at three things:

First, I am angry at my family. I have a family where the children are afraid to open up, because if you do, you will be blamed and castigated upon. I understand her fear and apprehension about letting other people know, but I just can't let this go.

Secondly, I am angry at our society. How can a man confidently feels he can force himself on a lady and get away with it? What kind of society do we have?

Thirdly, I am angry at myself. I am angry because I feel helpless. I can't let this thing go. I have to deal with this man, but I don't know how to do it without putting my cousin in a difficult position. I have tried to let her know that it is not her fault and that the man needs to pay for this, but she's been begging me to just let it go. She only confided in me because she's really scared of getting pregnant.

According to her though, there was never any real penetration, but the man (who is a high ranking government official) actually "released" ON her, not IN her. (Does that even make sense?)
How can I handle this issue right now? For me, I am planning to go all out and let hell break loose and let the heavens fall if they have to.

He ejaculated into her. Samples of his semen can be taken for DNA test purpose while a medical examination is done to establish bruise or violent penetration. The man can then be arrested and served a court paper after. He will be left to rot in jail

Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).

I stay with them for now. She's 18, the first of two daughters and was still virgin (as far as I know). Her only [older] brother is in school.

She's been acting funny since on Sunday evening. She couldn't hold it in anymore and, since there is no one else she could actually confide in, she confided in me. Now she's begging me not to tell anyone and not to cause trouble. She only wants me to help her get a drug (if any) that will prevent pregnancy.

She told me about the man coming to see her in her mother's restaurant and said she was going to talk to the man about getting me a job, but when she went into his car, he forced himself on her.

Honestly I am angry right now! I am angry at three things:

First, I am angry at my family. I have a family where the children are afraid to open up, because if you do, you will be blamed and castigated upon. I understand her fear and apprehension about letting other people know, but I just can't let this go.

Secondly, I am angry at our society. How can a man confidently feels he can force himself on a lady and get away with it? What kind of society do we have?

Thirdly, I am angry at myself. I am angry because I feel helpless. I can't let this thing go. I have to deal with this man, but I don't know how to do it without putting my cousin in a difficult position. I have tried to let her know that it is not her fault and that the man needs to pay for this, but she's been begging me to just let it go. She only confided in me because she's really scared of getting pregnant.

According to her though, there was never any real penetration, but the man (who is a high ranking government official) actually "released" ON her, not IN her. (Does that even make sense?)
How can I handle this issue right now? For me, I am planning to go all out and let hell break loose and let the heavens fall if they have to.

The first step was to first report the case to a police station, then take your sister to hospital for PostPEP to prevent HIV and also carry out physical medical examinations on her to enable the police gather evidences.

There is more to the story.....thats why your sister is making excuses for the man.
Two things are involved
Report the man at the nearest police station close to you or leave him for God.

Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).

I stay with them for now. She's 18, the first of two daughters and was still virgin (as far as I know). Her only [older] brother is in school.

She's been acting funny since on Sunday evening. She couldn't hold it in anymore and, since there is no one else she could actually confide in, she confided in me. Now she's begging me not to tell anyone and not to cause trouble. She only wants me to help her get a drug (if any) that will prevent pregnancy.

She told me about the man coming to see her in her mother's restaurant and said she was going to talk to the man about getting me a job, but when she went into his car, he forced himself on her.

Honestly I am angry right now! I am angry at three things:

First, I am angry at my family. I have a family where the children are afraid to open up, because if you do, you will be blamed and castigated upon. I understand her fear and apprehension about letting other people know, but I just can't let this go.

Secondly, I am angry at our society. How can a man confidently feels he can force himself on a lady and get away with it? What kind of society do we have?

Thirdly, I am angry at myself. I am angry because I feel helpless. I can't let this thing go. I have to deal with this man, but I don't know how to do it without putting my cousin in a difficult position. I have tried to let her know that it is not her fault and that the man needs to pay for this, but she's been begging me to just let it go. She only confided in me because she's really scared of getting pregnant.

According to her though, there was never any real penetration, but the man (who is a high ranking government official) actually "released" ON her, not IN her. (Does that even make sense?)
How can I handle this issue right now? For me, I am planning to go all out and let hell break loose and let the heavens fall if they have to.

Ask about the clothes and pants she was wearing when he released on her. I hope she hasn't washed them yet.

Try to convince her to get the family informed and get her consent to prosecute the case.

Be very careful, your family should be very careful and protective of her since you said the man involved in a highly placed politician.

Get her legal practitioner's services engaged.

Get the clothes to a competent hospital laboratory to test the Sperm deposits on the clothes for confirmation that the sperms were deposits from the man identified as the alleged rapist.

Get you alibis yo confirm the man actually picked her up, in his car.

Get your cousin sister to go to the hospital for pregnancy test and other STD related tests.

This case should be taken up against the alleged rapist to serve as deterrent to others who may try it. The man must also pay compensation to your sister and dearly (jail time or otherwise). This can only be achieved by building her confidence and desire to share her story and lead the push against rape and non consensual sex.

OMEGA009:
Tell her to call NAPTIP Official helpline on 07030000203 or 627 ASAP.

Best decision so far ..cc@ Op , follow this advice , this is an unfortunate incident

She told you because she trusts you to act on her behalf, please don’t let her down.

report to the police so that they can begin Investigaton. If the man is guilty, he should face justice and if your sister is falsely accusing someone, then she too should face justice.

SoftSport:
Sorry to hear this. Efforts are being made by President Tinubu and his wife to address gender-based violence and support women's rights in Nigeria. Please prioritize your sister's physical and emotional wellbeing for now and report to the authorities.

try to be serious
Please forget whatever Dreams you Had Yesterday, Tinubu and his wife are just campaigning with everything, they don't have a solution

Thread cautiously. In the few years I've spent as an adult I've learnt that most rape stories are actually fabricated. Sit your cousin down and interrogate her properly. If you're satisfied with her answers, involve her parents and take necessary legal actions. Don't take laws into your hands.

Please and please and please and please and please don't let it slide if truly she was raped and not some false allegation bs

Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).

I stay with them for now. She's 18, the first of two daughters and was still virgin (as far as I know). Her only [older] brother is in school.

She's been acting funny since on Sunday evening. She couldn't hold it in anymore and, since there is no one else she could actually confide in, she confided in me. Now she's begging me not to tell anyone and not to cause trouble. She only wants me to help her get a drug (if any) that will prevent pregnancy.

She told me about the man coming to see her in her mother's restaurant and said she was going to talk to the man about getting me a job, but when she went into his car, he forced himself on her.

Honestly I am angry right now! I am angry at three things:

First, I am angry at my family. I have a family where the children are afraid to open up, because if you do, you will be blamed and castigated upon. I understand her fear and apprehension about letting other people know, but I just can't let this go.

Secondly, I am angry at our society. How can a man confidently feels he can force himself on a lady and get away with it? What kind of society do we have?

Thirdly, I am angry at myself. I am angry because I feel helpless. I can't let this thing go. I have to deal with this man, but I don't know how to do it without putting my cousin in a difficult position. I have tried to let her know that it is not her fault and that the man needs to pay for this, but she's been begging me to just let it go. She only confided in me because she's really scared of getting pregnant.

According to her though, there was never any real penetration, but the man (who is a high ranking government official) actually "released" ON her, not IN her. (Does that even make sense?)
How can I handle this issue right now? For me, I am planning to go all out and let hell break loose and let the heavens fall if they have to.

She is an adult respect her opinion not to involve anyone. Just let her know what you plan to do like involving police, but if she insist what she wants is not letting anyone know respect that cos she is an adult and she might not want the stigma follow her around for the rest of her life

advanceDNA:
Are u sure she's telling you the truth ..this one that's she's saying it's on ur account that she got r@ped?? Are u sure she's not trying to make u feel responsible so you can help her get rid of the pregnancy she suspecting she has...??

U better involve family..don't get her any her drugs oooo ...Sunday is like 72hrs ago, the chance of after sex pill working well has reduced.. na so ectopic pregnancy dey start if she's pregnant to begin with...

She needs to go to a hospital, for proper checkup and so that she can get post exposure pill......some of these r@pist have HIV

Going by her version of the story she told Op, I must confess that she's hiding something. I knw wat she must b hiding.........

Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).

I stay with them for now. She's 18, the first of two daughters and was still virgin (as far as I know). Her only [older] brother is in school.

She's been acting funny since on Sunday evening. She couldn't hold it in anymore and, since there is no one else she could actually confide in, she confided in me. Now she's begging me not to tell anyone and not to cause trouble. She only wants me to help her get a drug (if any) that will prevent pregnancy.

She told me about the man coming to see her in her mother's restaurant and said she was going to talk to the man about getting me a job, but when she went into his car, he forced himself on her.

Honestly I am angry right now! I am angry at three things:

First, I am angry at my family. I have a family where the children are afraid to open up, because if you do, you will be blamed and castigated upon. I understand her fear and apprehension about letting other people know, but I just can't let this go.

Secondly, I am angry at our society. How can a man confidently feels he can force himself on a lady and get away with it? What kind of society do we have?

Thirdly, I am angry at myself. I am angry because I feel helpless. I can't let this thing go. I have to deal with this man, but I don't know how to do it without putting my cousin in a difficult position. I have tried to let her know that it is not her fault and that the man needs to pay for this, but she's been begging me to just let it go. She only confided in me because she's really scared of getting pregnant.

According to her though, there was never any real penetration, but the man (who is a high ranking government official) actually "released" ON her, not IN her. (Does that even make sense?)
How can I handle this issue right now? For me, I am planning to go all out and let hell break loose and let the heavens fall if they have to.

Was your cousin sexually abused or raped. These two thing are not the same.

Without vaginal penetration there is no rape. So examine your cousin medically to ascertain. The medical report will also serve as part of evidence in support of your claim.

Be sure she was truly raped. Or she is just scared of getting pregnant. Hope she have adequate evidences too.


Then I hope you know that if she denies, you land yourself in soup immediately. Don't start any thing until you convince her to get justice and she's ready. Else you will walk alone.

Don't forget that in Nigeria, if corruption fights back, it fights so dirty. You may get a black eye from the punches corruption throws at you.

Please first of all take her to the hospital. There is a medicine that the will give her to prevent STD HIV etc if is not too late now because it counts hourly from when the incident took place

Alert the police,i mean the head not just any police

The posters isn't telling the truth regarding this story or the girl didn't tell him the truth
1) how was she able to wait enough for the man to ejaculate inside the car(in the afternoon) even if the car is tinted
2) why would an 18 years old girl meet with her old man asking him for employment opportunities, that is the job of her mother
3)Did he ask her out before ?
4) why would an 18yrs be asking for drugs to take if there was no penetrative?
This is a pure fiction