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Knowing that social media is a place for cruise.

Do you judge people based on what they post or comment on the internet? Or do you wait to meet them in person before forming an opinion?

many are quick to draw conclusions from a single post or comment. But is that fair? Can we truly know a person’s heart, values, or character just from what they share online?

Or should we hold off judgment until we’ve encountered them in real life—heard their tone, seen their actions, and understood their background?

What’s your take on this?

What I post online does not matter to me, and if anybody thinks it matter to them then they should go hug a very hot transformer.

I’m only responsible for what I type, and you’re responsible for what you comprehend.

Written words can project a person's image, persona or mindset. They can also be a reflection of people's values, beliefs, etc

There's a human tendency to form opinions or judgments based on what others project through their written communications like emails, online posts or social media comments.

For example I've never met one of our business associates whom we purchase an essential product from for our business. But whenever we exchange emails I feel their warmth and pleasant nature come through in their emails.

Warm and pleasant may not accurately describe her but it's the best description I can think of. She leaves me with such a good feeling from every online interaction that I told her one day what I thought of her and how great she was to work with.

EverydayTipsfor:
Do you judge people based on what they post or comment on the internet? Or do you wait to meet them in person before forming an opinion?

many are quick to draw conclusions from a single post or comment. But is that fair? Can we truly know a person’s heart, values, or character just from what they share online?

Or should we hold off judgment until we’ve encountered them in real life—heard their tone, seen their actions, and understood their background?

What’s your take on this?

Oh yes, you can sense a person's heart, values and character from what they share online. You don't need to reserve judgment until you've met them in person. When people show you who they are, you best believe them!

Once upon a time a male user on this forum insulted me and another female user, without provocation or justification, for sharing our thoughts on a thread, these were harmless opinions ooo.

That was my first time coming across that user ever but he created a negative impression and you know what first impressions can be like. I made a mental note to avoid and not engage with them because in my mind they were razz and vile, something about them as projected in that one post and comment felt off to me.

Fast forward to a later time on the forum, I saw that same character boasting of having 3 kids from 3 different women and looking to have even more kids with other women. He would even compare himself to Tuface and Davido which was laughable because Tubaba & David have money and riches na which I doubt he had or has.

I don't think he had a lot going on for him in his life because he was always on these streets being vile and insulting towards female users. I no longer see him around but I always thought that someone who would behave the way he did from his first post/comment to me wasn't a decent or responsible person.

The guy proved me right with his revelation of 3 kids with 3 women. In my opinion he was a razz and shitty person, and it took only one post for me to form that opinion and he subsequently validated my judgments on his own.

Social media is not just a place for cruise it's a platform that showcases the real you. Whether you want to or not, the real you, as in, who you are at your core will eventually show.

Double0h7:
I’m only responsible for what I type, and you’re responsible for what you comprehend.

You mean whatever interpretation anyone gives to your write up is non of your business?

columbus007:
What I post online does not matter to me, and if anybody thinks it matter to them then they should go hug a very hot transformer.

That's to say what you write online does not really define you.

Klass99:
[b]Social media is not just a place for cruise it's a platform that showcases the real you. Whether you want to or not, the real you, as in, who you are at your core will eventually [/b]show.

Exactly my thoughts too. Social media is like a small world with a long memory. Throwing abusive or hurtful words at people online may seem like nothing in the moment, but those words can return to haunt us in unexpected ways.

I remember recommending a colleague to a family friend who was looking to settle down. Out of curiosity, he quickly checked her Facebook page. Within minutes, he came back to me and said, ''I’m not interested she’s a feminist.” I was surprised and asked, ''How did you know that?” His answer? “Her posts gave her away.

That was a wake-up call. What we post online might not reflect who we are entirely, but unfortunately, many people will judge us based on just that.

EverydayTipsfor:
You mean whatever interpretation anyone gives to your write up is non of your business?

If someone decides that I’m xyz due to my comments then they’re probably right, either way: I don’t concern myself with what people think about me. There’s no pleasing people. Some people will relate and others will recoil; that is life.