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My elder sis gave out her phone to my neighbor kid because the mum said he needs it due to the BECE examination for jss3. That after examination he will return it.
Now the other issue is that my cousin sister kids who are little use that phone for movies and cartoon.
But still we agreed to give them my cousin sister wanted to go to PTA and asked the boy to give it to her then it was already Friday evening as per say weekend no school.
Saturday they'll have PTA she didn't want to take the kids so they'll be busy on the phone.

My elder sister came home and saw the phone with her kids no greeting, she refuse to even accept greetings... In front of the woman other 2 kids inside she started shouting why did you collect the phone, what will their mother think? Is it your own it's mine leave the phone.

My cousin sister tried to explain next she started crying and she started saying did she do anything wrong to it was just for 1 day... From the incidence she started crying then she cried herself to sleep saying the insult that my elder sister said to her in language that she was a burden and very soon she would be do everything to make her leave.

I finally asked her not to go and took a plea on her behalf because the next morning her eyes were swollen.


From that day onward the mother of the boy brings food stuff we even reject some at times... Now since 2weeks examination has been done and dusted nobody from my neighbors house has come to return this phone... My cousin sister was warned at work after she explained everything to remove her mind for the phone and give her kids hers... She told them why she doesn't give her kids. Because the screen was pulling out but she will try to get them a little children tab.

My elder sister is complaining saying next time they'll Come for it. Her boyfriend was so angry he wanted to collect it but she started saying it's hers then he told her he doesn't want to hear her complaint period.

Jozilinn:
➜My elder sis gave out her phone to my neighbor kid because the mum said he needs it due to the BECE examination for jss3. That after examination he will return it.
Now the other issue is that my cousin sister kids who are little use that phone for movies and cartoon.
But still we agreed to give them my cousin sister wanted to go to PTA and asked the boy to give it to her then it was already Friday evening as per say weekend no school. Saturday they'll have PTA she didn't want to take the kids so they'll be busy on the phone.
My elder sister came home and saw the phone with her kids no greeting, she refuse to even accept greetings... In front of the woman other 2 kids inside she started shouting why did you collect the phone, what will their mother think? Is it your own it's mine leave the phone.
➜ My cousin sister tried to explain next she started crying and she started saying did she do anything wrong to it was just for 1 day... From the incidence she started crying then she cried herself to sleep saying the insult that my elder sister said to her in language that she was a burden and very soon she would be do everything to make her leave. I finally asked her not to go and took a plea on her behalf because the next morning her eyes were swollen.
➜ From that day onward the mother of the boy brings food stuff we even reject some at times... Now since 2weeks examination has been done and dusted nobody from my neighbors house has come to return this phone... My cousin sister was warned at work after she explained everything to remove her mind for the phone and give her kids hers... She told them why she doesn't give her kids. Because the screen was pulling out but she will try to get them a little children tab. My elder sister is complaining saying next time they'll Come for it. Her boyfriend was so angry he wanted to collect it but she started saying it's hers then he told her he doesn't want to hear her complaint period.

1. Your cousin-sister is in the wrong. The phone does not belong to her. She had no right to then go collect it from the neighbor whom the owner gave it to. Your cousin-sister should apologize to your elder sister. Boundaries exist for a reason, and your cousin-sister overstepped them.

2. Crying does not make her faults disappear in this. She is not a child and should know not to act in the manner that she did.

3. Allow the person wey get phone handle her own matter, abeg!

Women are wahala,she never know human being despite all the good na hatred and insult dem go use pay her back.

Kobojunkie:
1. Your cousin-sister is in the wrong. The phone does not belong to her. She had no right to then go collect it from the neighbor whom the owner gave it to. Your cousin-sister should apologize to your elder sister. Boundaries exist for a reason, and your cousin-sister overstepped them.

2. Crying does not make her faults disappear in this. She is not a child and should know not to act in the manner that she did.

3. Allow the person wey get phone handle her own matter, abeg!

For just a one day thing besides the my sis said it's okay to collect it every weekend as there are still few things that needed to be transferred.

No one was feeling entitled to her phone in the first place,she should stop disturbing us about them not returning it simple.

Jozilinn:
✓ For just a one day thing besides the my sis said it's okay to collect it every weekend as there are still few things that needed to be transferred.
✓ No one was feeling entitled to her phone in the first place,she should stop disturbing us about them not returning it simple.

It is her phone, not family property. Your elder sister said it's okay to collect it every weekend yet your OP says otherwise?

2. Tell her not to disturb you with whining but still it is her phone to do with as she pleases.

Kobojunkie:
It is her phone, not family property. Your elder sister said it's okay to collect it every weekend yet your OP says otherwise?

2. Tell her not to disturb you with whining but still it is her phone to do with as she pleases.

someone should pls summerise everything

Kobojunkie:
It is her phone, not family property. Your elder sister said it's okay to collect it every weekend yet your OP says otherwise?

2. Tell her not to disturb you with whining but still it is her phone to do with as she pleases.

what's op

Omor.
This your write-up is tiring and confusing

Jozilinn:
what's op

Original poster or original post.

Stay calm and don’t let emotions lead her actions.

Let go of the phone emotionally—it’s no longer hers to manage.

Focus on her kids by planning to get them a basic tablet or phone.

Set boundaries with your elder sister and avoid future misunderstandings.

Accept help without guilt from the neighbor, but stop expecting the phone back.

Respond calmly if your sister keeps complaining: “I’ve moved on, let’s not revisit it.”


The key is to protect her peace, maintain her dignity, and avoid further conflict.

Jozilinn:
My elder sis gave out her phone to my neighbor kid because the mum said he needs it due to the BECE examination for jss3. That after examination he will return it.
Now the other issue is that my cousin sister kids who are little use that phone for movies and cartoon.
But still we agreed to give them my cousin sister wanted to go to PTA and asked the boy to give it to her then it was already Friday evening as per say weekend no school.
Saturday they'll have PTA she didn't want to take the kids so they'll be busy on the phone.

My elder sister came home and saw the phone with her kids no greeting, she refuse to even accept greetings... In front of the woman other 2 kids inside she started shouting why did you collect the phone, what will their mother think? Is it your own it's mine leave the phone.

My cousin sister tried to explain next she started crying and she started saying did she do anything wrong to it was just for 1 day... From the incidence she started crying then she cried herself to sleep saying the insult that my elder sister said to her in language that she was a burden and very soon she would be do everything to make her leave.

I finally asked her not to go and took a plea on her behalf because the next morning her eyes were swollen.


From that day onward the mother of the boy brings food stuff we even reject some at times... Now since 2weeks examination has been done and dusted nobody from my neighbors house has come to return this phone... My cousin sister was warned at work after she explained everything to remove her mind for the phone and give her kids hers... She told them why she doesn't give her kids. Because the screen was pulling out but she will try to get them a little children tab.

My elder sister is complaining saying next time they'll Come for it. Her boyfriend was so angry he wanted to collect it but she started saying it's hers then he told her he doesn't want to hear her complaint period.

AngelSlay:
Stay calm and don’t let emotions lead her actions.

Let go of the phone emotionally—it’s no longer hers to manage.

Focus on her kids by planning to get them a basic tablet or phone.

Set boundaries with your elder sister and avoid future misunderstandings.

Accept help without guilt from the neighbor, but stop expecting the phone back.

Respond calmly if your sister keeps complaining: “I’ve moved on, let’s not revisit it.”


The key is to protect her peace, maintain her dignity, and avoid further conflict.

Thank you 🙏