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I see people saying you shouldn’t care about what people say but I’ve been trying it not working because people might say bad thing about me and I will start thinking about it for days

How do I get that I don’t care attitude
I know inot possible not to care but at least I don’t want people opinions to weigh we down

How do you guys do it
Please suggest guys
It weighing me down

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You can just IGNORE them bro,if you can't then that's your own cup of coffee

A lot of people have insulted how I look,type,dress and even talk but I don't give a darn about it

If you are listening to what people are saying you are gradually hurting yourself mentally 😊

I guess you haven't face real life challenges believe you won't even care when someone talk bad at you. Because all your mind will be how to make this money because money give the real boundaries and respect you deserve

Start by focusing on what builds your confidence.
Know who you are, and affirm it constantly.
Speak life into your spirit, let your voice drown every negative voice.

Most importantly, free and feed your mind, and you will not have the time to notice what does not matter.

Nobody can make you feel less without your permission.

Lol. It's hard to explain.

I feel you, though. I struggled with people's opinions of me for decades. But it's a process. It doesn't happen all at once, though there'll be notable milestones where you worry less and about what people think about you.

I saw some things that just made me really pissed off.

Um... I think a big factor is also your background. The words that were used in reference to you as a child matters a lot and forms your personal belief system.

I don't remember who made the statement but there's a popular saying that no one can make you feel bad about yourself or less of yourself without your own approval or permission.

It's not what other people are thinking that's the issue; it's what you subconsciously believe about yourself that's the problem.

There are some things you know that you know that you know, and no one can take that from you.

For instance—I'm 6'1"

No man can insult me that I'm short. Lol. I'll just laugh it off because I KNOW within me that I'm not. Evidence is too much.

No one can insult you or laugh at you that you're a white man, because you KNOW you are not.

That's what self belief looks like. You have to have strong opinions about your sense of self worth.

No one can insult me that I'm dull and then their opinions would move me or make me feel bad. I have academic accolades that say otherwise.

So if someone thinks lowly of you, or if you think they think lowly of you, and that assumption/reality has the ability to change your belief about yourself, the other person isn't the problem—you are.

It can change how you feel about yourself BECAUSE some part of you believe it's true. If no part of you has any negative opinion of yourself, people's thoughts would mean nothing to you.

So you have to begin the long journey of getting to truly know who you are and the value inherent in you; the impact you make in this world. As you develop strong opinions and convictions about your own value, the impact of other people's feelings and assumptions about you start to diminish.

I don't know if this makes sense.

Send me a message on Whatsapp if you wish to talk more.

Hope this helps you. ✌🏻

Cheers.

You no get serious responsibilities that's why you care about what people say

There is a famous quote by Winchston Churchill (ex Biitish prime minister) where he infamously said

''When you're 20 you care what everyone thinks, when you're 40 you stop caring what everyone thinks, when you're 60 you realize no one was ever thinking about you in the first place.”

The ability to not care about what people think comes with maturity, a consequence of growing up. It is easier for older people to not give a shit, because alot have happened in their life, that some gossip or even hate doesnt make them loose sleep.

If you have been through a lot, pulled yourself from the dark, being in situations where you have to show what you are made up, and see the dirty side of people, you will get to a point where you wont worry at all.

Most importantly, the key to stand tall in the face of an army of critics is to do well for yourself. When you are successful, you will realise that gossip is a low energy vibration, and you will naturally look down on gossipers.

Christianoir:
I see people saying you shouldn’t care about what people say but I’ve been trying it not working because people might say bad thing about me and I will start thinking about it for days

How do I get that I don’t care attitude
I know inot possible not to care but at least I don’t want people opinions to weigh we down

How do you guys do it
Please suggest guys
It weighing me down

Sincerely tell me how old are you and I will sincerely give information you desire

When you’re ready to change yourself, you will do so.

There is no way way you can stop. Just don't take it too personal

In a nutshell, how do you stop seeking the validation of people that are not feeding you or paying your bills?


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By showing that things don't get to you.

Before you engage some people, give it time, and do not jump to prove yourself to anyone.

That is where many people miss it.

Here on Nairaland, I used to mistake and respond to some fellows. After baiting you with insults, they'd now report you to the moderators, and you'd earn a ban. When I realized the game, I told myself that someone at my level or better than me would not insult me. It is only those who are below and feel inadequate who say nasty things about others. There was one case where someone was attacking me. I realized later that the person had personal struggles of depression and petulant behavioural disorder. It doesn't reflect on you; it reflects on them. So disengage so you don't put yourself under their power.

Instead of engaging, see them as those not doing enough and need validation from your acknowledgement of their insults. Withdraw that acknowledgement and watch them frustrated. Their frustration is your victory.

Finally, read books on mind control and meditation. It would help you take control of your thoughts. Please never let anyone provoke you with insults. Someone insulted me, threatened me that I'd be fired and said all sorts. All he wanted was a fight to claim assault. I was within my rights to punch him. But punch him hard and he hits the back of his head on a hard surface and blood follows. You'd be held in prison. So before you allow any fellow push you to react because of the things they say, picture yourself in prison uniform. Then ask yourself if you want to ruin your life for a nobody.

PS: Please invest in yourself. Dress neatly and well. When you are walking, raise your head up and walk as if you own the environment. When you talk to people, maintain eye contact. Think of the times you won things for yourself and proved yourself right, not when you proved others wrong. You are not existing to prove them wrong, but to prove yourself right. Avoid ever capitulating to those saying nasty things because you want them to stop. Just use silence as your weapon, and that would break them. In other words, learn not to send anybody papa. Use these strategies for yourself and it would evoke a strong feeling of confidence and security.

It's kinda hard to explain.

The truth is that, no matter how none chalant you are to what people say about you, some of the things might still get to you once in a while, heck you could even learn a thing or two from their yappings.

But the goal is to not let what they say determine how your day would go, and one of the ways that you could do that is to be obsessed with your progress and growth, that way you are less likely to care about people's opinion about you.

Christianoir:
I see people saying you shouldn’t care about what people say but I’ve been trying it not working because people might say bad thing about me and I will start thinking about it for days

How do I get that I don’t care attitude
I know inot possible not to care but at least I don’t want people opinions to weigh we down

How do you guys do it
Please suggest guys
It weighing me down

Just press the IGNORE button.

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Simple!!
By not listening to what they say about you.
What you don't hear don't hurt you.

Bro, you have to turn that thing off, it kills growth, I just turned my off 3 days ago.

Don't Worry, you will outgrow it. But if the reason na because u dey do bad thing. Pls change o

Okay, listen, people do not care as much about you as you think. Give yourself a chance for happiness by focusing on your happiness.

Stop paying attention to them, what they say how does it affect your life or you are just the attention seeker?

Christianoir:
I see people saying you shouldn’t care about what people say but I’ve been trying it not working because people might say bad thing about me and I will start thinking about it for days

How do I get that I don’t care attitude
I know inot possible not to care but at least I don’t want people opinions to weigh we down

How do you guys do it
Please suggest guys
It weighing me down

It is more than not caring about what they say. It is about building more confidence in yourself. You need to also know that most people are not deep and therefore what they think of you is also not well thought. People will always have their opinions but what you think and how you feel matters. Work on yourself and you will find more reasons to careless of what others think. Mind you sometimes what people think only lag a few minutes or hours after that they move to something else.
Above all validate yourself. That doesn't mean you won't learn from others. Nuff respekt

Christianoir:
I see people saying you shouldn’t care about what people say but I’ve been trying it not working because people might say bad thing about me and I will start thinking about it for days

How do I get that I don’t care attitude
I know inot possible not to care but at least I don’t want people opinions to weigh we down

How do you guys do it
Please suggest guys
It weighing me down

They said a lot of bad thing about Jesus too …you get time sha

Stop listening to them. You can't care about what you don't hear.

You are not busy. If you were busy and too occupied by your finances and family, trust me, what people say would be the least of your worries.

Create boundaries. Distance makes a heart grow fonder.

When you are too available disrespect will be too much.

Live your life, believe in yourself and strive for personal growth.

Only way is in realising that no matter what you do people will talk, even when you die. They'll talk except nothing matters to you anymore. Also depending on your age, you would look back and count reasons for your mistakes and the one that will hurt you would be the ones others influence.

What people say about you matters in some ways. It can make or mar you. So, do you do the right things? Do you respect boundaries? Do you do onto others what you expect of them? Once your conscience is clear then its fvck what they say because it only tells you that people will always talk. Don't forget you talk about others too. Could be a celebrity, could be the footballer you hate the most, or the annoying teacher/lecturer in school. There's no difference between what you say about such people and what they say about you.

Gossip is one thing that makes human stand out. We can discuss, plan and execute together because we gossip. When you see two people seated they are definitely talking about something, could be about you, could be about the person they love the most, could be about food flask, could be about firewood lol. At the end of the day it's just talk. I'd rather people about me than them discussing difference between rat and rabbits. What they discuss about you. That's all on you tho. Strive make dem discuss better things about you. It's all that matters.

the more they say bad things about you, the better. Check the most insulted people online
Buhari, Tinubu, e.t.c......... if they can sleep with those insults and can still function properly, why cant you?

let them talk whatever about you... just stay there relax and be happy. They are just trying to have what God gave you, and, jealousy and badmouthing is their only option. relax and enjoy.... nothing do you

How to Stop Letting People’s Opinions Weigh You Down

1. People will judge no matter what – so live on your own terms.
2. Not all opinions matter – only value feedback from people who genuinely care about you.
3. Pause before reacting – remind yourself their opinion is not fact.
4. Limit exposure – reduce time with negative people or social media.
5. Affirm yourself daily – speak positivity into your mind every morning.
6. Even great people get dragged – you’re not alone.
7. It’s a process – you get stronger with time and practice.

Take back control. Don’t hand people the remote to your peace.

Christianoir:
I see people saying you shouldn’t care about what people say but I’ve been trying it not working because people might say bad thing about me and I will start thinking about it for days

How do I get that I don’t care attitude
I know inot possible not to care but at least I don’t want people opinions to weigh we down

How do you guys do it
Please suggest guys
It weighing me down

By realising that what you think of yourself is what matters

It's not easy humanly speaking. You need the Spirit of Self Control.

Christianoir:
I see people saying you shouldn’t care about what people say but I’ve been trying it not working because people might say bad thing about me and I will start thinking about it for days

How do I get that I don’t care attitude
I know inot possible not to care but at least I don’t want people opinions to weigh we down

How do you guys do it
Please suggest guys
It weighing me down

Just get busy with your life, do something, meaningful once your mind is occupied with alot your won't even remember anyone saying any bull crap about you. They won't stop talking anyways