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You may call me a Weakling, you may call me any name, but I will never feel Bad about letting this out. God knows I'm not weak.
I've kept quiet for a long Time. The universe, right from when I was birthed, hasn't been kind to me.

I feel really good and happy seeing my agemates with their parents, merrying together and showing love to one another. The love, the bond and unity that exist within them is something I cherish so well.

I have a lot of questions to ask about why some events happen in life. But nobody can give me any convincing response. If I ever get married and have kids, I pray for long life so I can take care of my kids have them with me until they are of age and can defend themselves before living with someone else. I was never cared for. Didn't know my parents. The hurts are too many to mention. I never enjoyed childhood, I hate life.
What does it mean when people talk about fatherly or motherly love?
What is family bond?
What does it mean when they say "family is everything" ?

The family is the first agent of socialization, so what happens when you are unable to have an experience of the first?

Asuun:
➜You may call me a Weakling, you may call me any name, but I will never feel Bad about letting this out. God knows I'm not weak. I've kept quiet for a long Time. The universe, right from when I was birthed, hasn't been kind to me. I feel really good and happy seeing my agemates with their parents, merrying together and showing love to one another. The love, the bond and unity that exist within them is something I cherish so well.
I have a lot of questions to ask about why some events happen in life. But nobody can give me any convincing response. If I ever get married and have kids, I pray for long life so I can take care of my kids have them with me until they are of age and can defend themselves before living with someone else. I was never cared for. Didn't know my parents. The hurts are too many to mention. I never enjoyed childhood, I hate life.
➜What does it mean when people talk about fatherly or motherly love?
➜ What is family bond?
➜ What does it mean when they say "family is everything" ?

1. Did you know that there are at least 30 million Nigerians who grew up without a father and a mother? There are at least 8 million children currently growing up under similar circumstances, even right now.

2. There are millions more out there who have a father and a mother but don't know the meaning of fatherly or motherly love. Having a father or mother does not guarantee any of that.

3. Millions live without any of that. Even right now, someone is dreading getting a call from a family member or relative. Familial bonds—between blood-related individuals— are theoretically great to have, but not all those who have them are happy as a result. And this is the same all over the world, mind you.

Just last week, I happened upon a video where a nurse was asked by her hospice patient to contact his own son for him so that they could speak before he took his last breath. This man and his son had not spoken for over 10 years before then. The son refused, demanding he never receive such a call again. The nurse had to relay the message to her client, who was, of course, furious and proceeded to pour out his anger on the nurse. She, in turn, said there was no way she was going to do anything else because she does not know what sort of person her client was before all of this. And was not ready to be accused of opening up old wounds for anyone — she meant the man's son.

4. That claim is a myth. If you are as old as I am, you realize a lot of these are lies we have mainly told people to keep them controlled and ignorant of the many realities and truths before them. 😏

Family is what you make of those you have or find around you. Family doesn't have to be blood; those around you, whom you have chosen to form close bonds with, can be all the family you need. So, consider connecting with other like-minded individuals who have similar experiences and form the bonds you desire with them.

Hunt like a lone wolf, bleep the family bonds that never existed. The past is right behind you so all you need do is to look forward to those things before you.
The life becomes what you make of it, if you eventually own a family of your own then you'll derive all what you've always wished for.

I hope this isn’t one of the products of my oat-sowing days.

You think every child is lucky to have good parents? It is better to be an orphan than have evil parents. Accept your situation and work hard to get a good life. I do not have the energy to narrate a particular story for you right now.

This one still dey lament.

Great points.

When a family functions as advertised, it is a great thing indeed, but it doesn't always function this way.

Kobojunkieee:
1. Did you know that there are at least 30 million Nigerians who grew up without a father and a mother? There are at least 8 million children currently growing up under similar circumstances, even right now.

2. There are millions more out there who have a father and a mother but don't know the meaning of fatherly or motherly love. Having a father or mother does not guarantee any of that.

3. Millions live without any of that. Even right now, someone is dreading getting a call from a family member or relative. Familial bonds—between blood-related individuals— are theoretically great to have, but not all those who have them are happy as a result. And this is the same all over the world, mind you.

Just last week, I happened upon a video where a nurse was asked by her hospice patient to contact his own son for him so that they could speak before he took his last breath. This man and his son had not spoken for over 10 years before then. The son refused, demanding he never receive such a call again. The nurse had to relay the message to her client, who was, of course, furious and proceeded to pour out his anger on the nurse. She, in turn, said there was no way she was going to do anything else because she does not know what sort of person her client was before all of this. And was not ready to be accused of opening up old wounds for anyone — she meant the man's son.

4. That claim is a myth. If you are as old as I am, you realize a lot of these are lies we have mainly told people to keep them controlled and ignorant of the many realities and truths before them. 😏

Family is what you make of those you have or find around you. Family doesn't have to be blood; those around you, whom you have chosen to form close bonds with, can be all the family you need. So, consider connecting with other like-minded individuals who have similar experiences and form the bonds you desire with them.

dollypi:
➜Great points. When a family functions as advertised, it is a great thing indeed, but it doesn't always function this way.

It rarely does. Most people who claim their family is this fantastical union that others should envy are lying, like the many family portraits on Facebook!

Bro you aren't weak, it's normal to feel that way. It's part of the emotional attributes instilled in we humans from our creator. Nobody might really understand how you feel. Life's not fair on the normal scale, we just have know that and live with it but whatever comes at you should not overwhelm you. Just live life bro. ✌️

9182736455O1999:
✓ Bro you aren't weak, it's normal to feel that way. It's part of the emotional attributes instilled in we humans from our creator. Nobody might really understand how you feel. Life's not fair on the normal scale, we just have know that and live with it but whatever comes at you should not overwhelm you. Just live life bro. ✌️

It is OK to be weak. All humans are made of moods with emotions coloring the stage of our being; our vulnerabilities are part of what makes us humans. And there is everything alright with that.

A lot of parents traumatize their kids for life. Even the good ones because parenting does not end and as parents, we don’t know it all. We just pray to make the right decisions. See yourself as a blank slate, even though you have been hurt by strangers. At least you had no expectation that they were obligated to love you! Focus on your life and count your blessings.

Try to live a good life with discipline and commitment, so you can have a family some day! Sorry about your experience, but if it makes you feel better, everyone in life has their own struggles and hurt! Wishing you a great life and loving family which you will create, with all the knowledge you have acquired as an orphan.

9182736455O1999:
Bro you aren't weak, it's normal to feel that way. It's part of the emotional attributes instilled in we humans from our creator. Nobody might really understand how you feel. Life's not fair on the normal scale, we just have know that and live with it but whatever comes at you should not overwhelm you. Just live life bro. ✌️

Thank you Sir 🙏

2mch:
A lot of parents traumatize their kids for life. Even the good ones because parenting does not end and as parents, we don’t know it all. We just pray to make the right decisions. See yourself as a blank slate, even though you have been hurt by strangers. At least you had no expectation that they were obligated to love you! Focus on your life and count your blessings.

Try to live a good life with discipline and commitment, so you can have a family some day! Sorry about your experience, but if it makes you feel better, everyone in life has their own struggles and hurt! Wishing you a great life and loving family which you will create, with all the knowledge you have acquired as an orphan.

You're actually 2much just like your Moniker for this piece. I appreciate your input. God bless you. It's not easy at all.