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If this was after the fight
You are not yet forgiven Uncle.
She sees you now as ordinary room mate
YOU ARE NOT YET FORGIVEN TOTALLY SIR

🤣🤣🤣🤣Una too get bad mouth for this NL...kai

Ewo ni meeeeh...na goat e be🤣

Quality advise sha...which one is end marriage because she changed ur name?

You change her own on your phone too.

But seriously, it seems there are still lingering issues that need to be addressed.

Myrepublic:
Dele my guy No part ways jare.

The next one you go meet fit save ur name as meeeh. Oga fix ur home,make ur marriage work.

As a woman, I will say she is still angry.
Did you apologize to her or you are claiming right by calling elders to judge a matter??
For me, I believe in sorting out issues rather than calling the whole world to judge the matter.
Discuss the issue with her

Simp spotted

Oga be a man u are the head everything in your house belong to u and subject to scrutiny by you and you alone.

If u are putting ur wife in check i tell u go and do DNA check for ur children now simp

If na 5 4 no be ur own Women are like kids, they can drift away in seconds with ur knowledge.

Grow up man and be a man not a woman

Its ur woman that is not suppose to go close to ur phone at all not the otherway round

muyico:
So you checking your wife phone?? Oun oju wa, loju ri, stay away from your wife phone!

muyico:
So you checking your wife phone?? Oun oju wa, loju ri, stay away from your wife phone!

Please can you educate me why he should stay
away from his wife phone, are they not husband and wife?

influenz:
My wife and I had some misunderstanding that resulted in heated arguments.

With the intervention of some elders, the issue was sort of resolved. However, weeks later, I observed that my wife changed the way she saved my number on her phone from "Hubby" to "Dele - Airtel" (not real name, but something like this - assuming I worked in Airtel).

I am thinking of parting ways with her, but children are involved.

Small small, she will go out there to satisfy herself sexually anytime you have any issues, that's the type of woman she is.

She will always use your issues with her to be with other men in their beds

PUNANI01:
No carry your family matter enter this forum they will scatter your home for you. Go make peace with your wife

If the Op is serious. He should heed your advise and run.

Folks here will dilute his mind.



Though we have many wonderful people here.

Boss no follow simp way oo put ur woman in check, not ur woman putting u in check, there is a reason why u are the man, u have every right to hold ur phone and never let her check na u won marryam no be she won marry u.

Sonnobax15:

Was chatting on Whatsapp just two days ago when my banny walked in and asked me who I was chatting with, cuz the way I focused on my phone wasn't it at all.....she tried to collect the phone from me but I refused and the next thing,she kept malice with me all through the rest of that day . But I no really send her papa

Let it go if u know say na knacking join una too then there is no need but if na serious banny guy once u don reason with her say na marriage thing u dey look for omo from that day dey put her in check else, she will sleep away like Davido faraway, na water go carryam go


I knew hell would have been let lose if I had given her the phone cuz what I was doing at that moment was very close to cheating even tho I was only kinda playing around

She tried to claim right,that I was hiding something away from her by not giving her my phone to see who I was chatting with,but I held my ground . Then I asked her,have I ever checked or asked to check your phone before,even tho I know you will never be innocent? . She couldn't give me a reply....and that was what brought calmness upon her nerves.

Op,the truth is that, checking each other's phones especially couples or would-be couples is a nice thing,but it's only advisable to those who have strong hearts

muyico:
So you checking your wife phone?? Oun oju wa, loju ri, stay away from your wife phone!

Why?

You want to part ways with your wife because of that minor issue. The devil you know is better than the one you do not know.

Resolve the issue bro.

As long as she no dey cheat good but if she cheat oga breakaway like broken plate or slippers wey cut if not na ur death u dey waith for be that

Any woman wey u don marry get mind cheat omo OYO is ur name

Myrepublic:
Dele my guy No part ways jare.

The next one you go meet fit save ur name as meeeh. Oga fix ur home,make ur marriage work.

You have been sacked, you can leave on your own accord or with a cord....

Thanks for that answer guy.

Staying away from ur wife's phone is leaving ur child to play alone close to the road side, oga motor or bike go kill am for u.

oz4real83:
why should he stay away from his wife's phone? That was how Adam stayed away from Eve and gave her all the unnecessary freedom which later cost him everything

Not really, it could be anger, once she calms down all that would change, guy if u can see this make peace with ur wife, take a cool place talk to her let her know how much u love her.

But if na cheat she cheat oga run oo

flokii:
That's not a good thing atal.. it means her mind is no longer in the marriage.
BTW what caused the fight or is it quarrel?.. who was at fault?

influenz:
My wife and I had some misunderstanding that resulted in heated arguments.

With the intervention of some elders, the issue was sort of resolved. However, weeks later, I observed that my wife changed the way she saved my number on her phone from "Hubby" to "Dele - Airtel" (not real name, but something like this - assuming I worked in Airtel).

I am thinking of parting ways with her, but children are involved.

It's nothing. She's is just still angry with you, she will change it when she calm down. Your write up reminded me of my early year in marriage, that's what I used to do, my husband never even bothered.

eniteden:
Simp spotted

Oga be a man u are the head everything in your house belong to u and subject to scrutiny by you and you alone.

If u are putting ur wife in check i tell u go and do DNA check for ur children now simp

If na 5 4 no be ur own Women are like kids, they can drift away in seconds with ur knowledge.

Grow up man and be a man not a woman

Its ur woman that is not suppose to go close to ur phone at all not the otherway round

can you brag like this at home 🏡🏘️?

Last time I had issue with my wife, she told me that my name was changed to something funny,.

It doesn't even bother me..

If you like put "goat" there. When I called you, it is you that will contend with people looking at you..

" madam, one Goat is calling you o"

Then you won't be able to speak freely cos they will deduce who the caller is through your response.

pneumaticos:
For real

My wife knows my banking pass and I know her own too

Infact we use same.pass on phone

She sees all the people calling me.for money
Including the amount sent to them
But I no get escaped
Some time she dey vex
But she met me doing father Christmas

So she no get choice because I dey settle her own too

But some times I check her phone too
Like maybe once every month to see those disturbing her and the status of her business

I seriously don't know why husband and wife can't access each others phone

So when you see those disturbing her,what do you do?
Just curious

I'm really sorry you're going through this. That kind of change—something as small but symbolic as a contact name—can carry a lot of unspoken emotion, especially after conflict.

Here’s what this might mean and how you can think about next steps:

What Could That Change Mean?

Changing your contact name from “Hubby” to a neutral label like “Dele – Airtel” could suggest:

Emotional distance: She might still be hurt or emotionally withdrawing. Symbol of unresolved resentment: Even if the elders helped "resolve" things, she might still feel unheard or unsafe.

A silent protest: Sometimes people change small things to express dissatisfaction without starting another fight.

Protective wall: It may be her way of not being vulnerable with you anymore—especially if trust was bruised. It doesn’t necessarily mean she’s given up—but it does show that something still isn't healed.

The Children Factor

Wanting to part ways is a serious thought. But children change the stakes:

They need stability, even if the parents aren’t in a loving relationship.

But they also absorb tension, even when no one’s yelling. If there's a cold war in the home, it affects them. Your emotional health matters too. If you’re deeply unhappy or walking on eggshells, that’s not “sacrifice”—that’s slow erosion.

Consider Before You Decide:
1. Have you asked her why she changed your contact name?
Not in an accusatory way—just calm curiosity. Her response will reveal a lot.
2. What do you want: Peace, Connection, or Exit?
Are you hoping she comes back emotionally? Or have you checked out yourself.
3. Would you both be willing to try counseling?
Even if it’s just once or twice, it can reveal hidden hurts and help both of you think clearly.
4. What are your non-negotiables?
If respect, affection, or communication have collapsed completely—and she’s unwilling to work on it—then leaving may not be selfish, but wise.

What You Can Do Now:

Have one honest conversation. No blame, no drama. Just say something like:
“I noticed you changed how you saved my contact, and I feel like something between us still isn’t okay. I want to know if we can talk about how to rebuild or where we stand. I’m not looking to fight—I just want clarity.”

Protect your peace. Whether you stay or leave, make decisions rooted in calm—not pain or ego.

Document your thoughts. Write out your feelings privately—it helps you gain clarity about what exactly is hurting and what you want.

Whatever happens, you're not alone—and you’re not weak for hurting. You're human.

influenz:
My wife and I had some misunderstanding that resulted in heated arguments.

With the intervention of some elders, the issue was sort of resolved. However, weeks later, I observed that my wife changed the way she saved my number on her phone from "Hubby" to "Dele - Airtel" (not real name, but something like this - assuming I worked in Airtel).

I am thinking of parting ways with her, but children are involved.

Are you that childish to look at your spouse phone ?.
Who says that name storing has anything to do with reality ?

You are thinking of parting ways with her just because of how she saved your number or for what in particular?

oz4real83:
why should he stay away from his wife's phone? That was how Adam stayed away from Eve and gave her all the unnecessary freedom which later cost him everything

I still wonder why people give such advice that people should not go near their partners phone. That advice is only encouraging people that are cheating.

3kay945:
Last time I had issue with my wife, she told me that my name was changed to something funny,.

It doesn't even bother me..

If you like put "goat" there. When I called you, it is you that will contend with people looking at you..

" madam, one Goat is calling you o"

Then you won't be able to speak freely cos they will deduce who the caller is through your response.

You got that right!

I don't know why people are too serious with minor issues

influenz:
My wife and I had some misunderstanding that resulted in heated arguments.

With the intervention of some elders, the issue was sort of resolved. However, weeks later, I observed that my wife changed the way she saved my number on her phone from "Hubby" to "Dele - Airtel" (not real name, but something like this - assuming I worked in Airtel).

I am thinking of parting ways with her, but children are involved.

She's just mad at u. But u saw all diz flag bfr marriage bfr u went on to this

No be everybody be like u simp, i married a woman that loves and respect me no be brag guy, for where i come from u misbehave u go sharp .

No carry wetin big pass u find a simp like u bro.

muyico:
can you brag like this at home 🏡🏘️?

influenz:
My wife and I had some misunderstanding that resulted in heated arguments.

With the intervention of some elders, the issue was sort of resolved. However, weeks later, I observed that my wife changed the way she saved my number on her phone from "Hubby" to "Dele - Airtel" (not real name, but something like this - assuming I worked in Airtel).

I am thinking of parting ways with her, but children are involved.

So if children are involved, it's enough reason not to part ways with her?
ALL I CAN SAY IS, I PITY YOU...

influenz:
My wife and I had some misunderstanding that resulted in heated arguments.

With the intervention of some elders, the issue was sort of resolved. However, weeks later, I observed that my wife changed the way she saved my number on her phone from "Hubby" to "Dele - Airtel" (not real name, but something like this - assuming I worked in Airtel).

I am thinking of parting ways with her, but children are involved.

Women will always be women, she's only emotional give a her little time please

Greattha:
🤣🤣🤣🤣Una too get bad mouth for this NL...kai

Ewo ni meeeeh...na goat e be🤣

Quality advise sha...which one is end marriage because she changed ur name?

You change her own on your phone too.

But seriously, it seems there are still lingering issues that need to be addressed.

Turu. I also believe there is something Dele Momodu isn't telling us

eniteden:
As long as she no dey cheat good but if she cheat oga breakaway like broken plate or slippers wey cut if not na ur death u dey waith for be that

Any woman wey u don marry get mind cheat omo OYO is ur name

You're right,he need fling her away if it was cheating issues. To treat infection dey expensive these days

Emotional/Relational Shift
If things have been tense lately or emotionally distant, this might reflect that change.

It could be a subtle sign of distancing or seeing the relationship in a less intimate light.

What to do
Hey, I noticed my contact name changed from 'Hubby' to ‘Dele – Airtel’ on your phone. Just curious — anything behind that?

influenz:
My wife and I had some misunderstanding that resulted in heated arguments.

With the intervention of some elders, the issue was sort of resolved. However, weeks later, I observed that my wife changed the way she saved my number on her phone from "Hubby" to "Dele - Airtel" (not real name, but something like this - assuming I worked in Airtel).

I am thinking of parting ways with her, but children are involved.

muyico:
So you checking your wife phone?? Oun oju wa, loju ri, stay away from your wife phone!

This statement infuriates me whenever it comes my way. My wife and I have access to each other's phones at will even before we got married. Oftentimes, I use her phone whenever I need to surf the net in the mid-night and she prefers playing games on mine. However, I respect the fact that one man's meat is another man's poison.

Bad guy infection good nau what if ur 5 children na only 1 be ur own of HIV come join

na to hang ursef be that now

May God save us

Myrepublic:
You're right,he need fling her away if it was cheating issues. To treat infection dey expensive these days