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Marrying an unemployed lady who respects you is way better than marrying a successful woman who does not respect you


Sense or Nonsense

Firebox123:
Marrying an unemployed lady who respects you is way better than marrying a successful woman who does not respect you


Sense or Nonsense

That statement is more “sense” than “nonsense” — but it depends on your values.

Why it makes sense (emotional intelligence view):

1. Respect is foundational.
A successful partner who belittles you, talks down at you, or constantly reminds you of your "lower" status will slowly destroy your self-worth. Without respect, even love begins to feel like a transaction or manipulation.

2. Peace of mind is underrated.
An unemployed partner who genuinely respects, supports, and believes in you can bring emotional safety, which is priceless.

3. Success can change. Character rarely does.
Today’s “unemployed” woman might be tomorrow’s CEO. But someone who lacks respect for you will only get worse as they gain more power, not better.

Where it gets tricky:

Respect alone is not enough — shared values, ambition, communication, and purpose also matter. If "unemployed" means no vision, no effort, and total dependency, that’s different.

If "successful" means driven but emotionally toxic, that’s a red flag — not the success itself.

Success without respect is oppression.
Respect without success is potential.
Both together? That’s partnership.

So, yes — the original statement makes sense, especially if your peace, growth, and emotional well-being matter to you.

Why isn't she respecting you?
Remember, behaviour can't be bought or gotten from somewhere.. it is inherent in you...
If she disrespect you, then nothing you do will make her respect you...

Job can be bought or gotten...
So unemployed doesn't mean "Jobless" for life...
So unemployed respect is better than "employed disrespect"...

Garri wey you drink in your comfort zone will digest more and better than fried rice and chicken eaten in a war zone...