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Before You Get Married, Know This: How to Share Bills Fairly

One of the most common causes of stress in marriage is money — not just how much, but how fairly it’s shared.
Here’s a smarter way couples can handle living expenses, especially when one person earns more:

Use the Proportional Income Method

Instead of splitting bills 50/50 (which can feel unfair), do this:

[(Individual Income ÷ Total Combined Income) × Total Bills

Let’s say:

The husband earns ₦700k
The wife earns ₦200k
Monthly household cost = ₦400k


Break it down:
Total income = N700+N200=₦900k

Husband pays (700/900) × 400k = ₦311k
Wife pays (200/900) × 400k = ₦89k


That way, both contribute fairly, based on capacity.

Why This Works:

1.It removes pressure from the lower earner.

2.It builds financial teamwork, not silent resentment.

3.It keeps both parties responsible.


Marriage is not just love — it’s structure, balance, and fairness.

Think about this now. It’s easier to start right than to fix tension later.

Fergie001 nlfpmod

Wrong.

The formula is good but it should be based on disposable income ie after calculating how much it costs to get them to work after each month else, you are still being unfair and the person earning less will be pressured

I like this.....it is becoming unrealistic for men to be the sole providers, the woman needs to provide as well especially now that both genders potentially have the same shot at the financial markets.

If the couple would be contributing fairly to the household finances according to their income,how do you propose they handle the domestic chores and decision making?

Fairness and expectation need to be all rounda for better marriage success

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sisisioge:
I like this.....it is becoming unrealistic for men to be the sole providers, the woman needs to provide as well especially now that both genders potentially have the same shot at the financial markets.

If the couple would be contributing fairly to the household finances according to their income,how do you propose they handle the domestic chores and decision making?

Fairness and expectation need to be all rounda for better marriage success

domestic chores could also be shared.
Most domestic chores are just sweeping, washing and cooking.
Many people with fridge cooks once a week, so cooking is not very stressful at homes with fridge

richmond500:
domestic chores could also be shared.
Most domestic chores are just sweeping, washing and cooking.
Many people with fridge cooks once a week, so cooking is not very stressful at homes with fridge

Loool....I like how you summarized most domestic chores to sweeping, washing and cooking . Anyways, it would be nice if couples actually do a time sheet for those chores and split them. I was unpleasantly surprised to find out that taking care of one tiny baby is a huuuge deal. Gosh, those tiny humans are a two-man job mehn . Imagine households with more than one of those plus all of the chores. Not easy. A spotless toilet requires a weekly thorough cleaning and a bi-weekly minor cleaning if all users clean up after themselves in a small household fa.

Enjoy your day

sisisioge:
Loool....I like how you summarized most domestic chores to sweeping, washing and cooking . Anyways, it would be nice if couples actually do a time sheet for those chores and split them. I was unpleasantly surprised to find out that taking care of one tiny baby is a huuuge deal. Gosh, those tiny humans are a two-man job mehn . Imagine households with more than one of those plus all of the chores. Not easy. A spotless toilet requires a weekly thorough cleaning and a bi-weekly minor cleaning if all users clean up after themselves in a small household fa.

Enjoy your day

this is for family without a child.

But seriously those babies are household terrorists.
I remembered years ago when my elder sis gave birth and I went to visit, I stayed for a month. One day they went out and I was alone with the child, the child defeacate, I thought it was just to remove the dirty pampers and put her another pampers.

I no know how e happen but na so shit crawl comot for pampers climb my hand, I tried to clean shit for my hand, na so I look mirror, see shit hang for my eye lashes, my face was full of shit, I tried to clean it, only to realize the pikin don pack shit for hand, I had to fight with the baby so she doesn't put her hand in her mouth, before I knew, shit deh my trouser, before I could say jack, shit full for couch, tv remote, the entire house was full of shit. The only safe part is my mouth and the child's mouth. After 2hrs, I was able to change the diapers.

From that day, I respect anybody that can change pampers.

richmond500:
this is for family without a child.

But seriously those babies are household terrorists.
I remembered years ago when my elder sis gave birth and I went to visit, I stayed for a month. One day they went out and I was alone with the child, the child defeacate, I thought it was just to remove the dirty pampers and put her another pampers.

I no know how e happen but na so shit crawl comot for pampers full the house, my face was full of shit, the couch, the tv remote, the floor.

From that day, I respect anybody that can change pampers.

This gave me a good laugh 😂 😂 😂

richmond500:
this is for family without a child.

But seriously those babies are household terrorists.
I remembered years ago when my elder sis gave birth and I went to visit, I stayed for a month. One day they went out and I was alone with the child, the child defeacate, I thought it was just to remove the dirty pampers and put her another pampers.

I no know how e happen but na so shit crawl comot for pampers climb my hand, I tried to clean shit for my hand, na so I look mirror, see shit hang for my eye lashes, my face was full of shit, I tried to clean it, only to realize the pikin don pack shit for hand, I had to fight with the baby so she doesn't put her hand in her mouth, before I knew, shit deh my trouser, before I could say jack, shit full for couch, tv remote, the entire house was full of shit. The only safe part is my mouth and the child's mouth. After 2hrs, I was able to change the diapers.

From that day, I respect anybody that can change pampers.

....you are so funny!

sisisioge:
I was unpleasantly surprised to find out that taking care of one tiny baby is a huuuge deal. Gosh, those tiny humans are a two-man job mehn . Imagine households with more than one of those plus all of the chores. Not easy. A spotless toilet requires a weekly thorough cleaning and a bi-weekly minor cleaning if all users clean up after themselves in a small household fa.

Enjoy your day

You had me laughing out loud at this part of your post. I have always known from mere observation and babysitting stints that birthing and taking care of a child is not an easy feat and a very challenging one too.

I'm usually baffled by people who go from one child to two, then three to four and from four to more, in this present age. I keep thinking your first child alone ought to have shown you that this is capital intensive, time consuming, exhausting and serious business, and parenting is not a walk in the park.

I will never forget the 2 year old who ran circles around me (an adult) and had me going to bed tired and waking up tired and I am not a lazy person fa, she was a very active and energetic toddler.

Even in that exhausted state I still had to do chores, like cook, clean the house, do laundry etc. Occasionally, I reminisce on that moment and think to myself if one tiny human being had you that beat what would you have done if they were two as twins or three as triplets?

Regardless, I have fond thoughts and pleasant memories of that time because she was a sweet child who loved to cuddle and hug. Those tiny humans are an awesome wonder sha.

Klass99:
You had me laughing out loud at this part of your post. I have always known from mere observation and babysitting stints that birthing and taking care of a child is not an easy feat and a very challenging one too.

I'm usually baffled by people who go from one child to two, then three to four and from four to more, in this present age. I keep thinking your first child alone ought to have shown you that this is capital intensive, time consuming, exhausting and serious business, and parenting is not a walk in the park.

I will never forget the 2 year old who ran circles around me (an adult) and had me going to bed tired and waking up tired and I am not a lazy person fa, she was a very active and energetic toddler.

Even in that exhausted state I still had to do chores, like cook, clean the house, do laundry etc. Occasionally, I reminisce on that moment and think to myself if one tiny human being had you that beat what would you have done if they were two as twins or three as triplets?

Regardless, I have fond thoughts and pleasant memories of that time because she was a sweet child who loved to cuddle and hug. Those tiny humans are an awesome wonder sha.

Kids are so sweet but so much work...May God bless them fa. The best thing is for couples to split the work half way.