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Celestialsword:
Elumelu's mom is 97years
Otedola's mom is 103years
Jonathan's mom is 88years
Saraki's mom is 99years
Dangote's mom is 90years

Where are their father's, Long gone in most cases.

Food for thought

Treat yourself well, they will survive without you

it's still men that will take care of their mothers more than their fathers. The ball stops at your Court

erad:
Do you know the age difference of between husbands and wives back then?

Must every nonsense be farmed for engagement?

Just like someone waking up and asking where is Ojukwu after seeing Bianca.

Let's use simple IQ to explain this
U don't expect the men ( husband's) to still be alive don't u?
Giving the life expectancy age of an African and a Nigerian at that also not neglecting the fact that most African men marry thier wives with geometric age gaps
U don't expect the men to be alive.
Take one of age of women 103 or perhaps 97 years giving the African nature of age differential In marriage how old do u think the husband will be at this time.
Note: we hv not even factored the previous life stress marital and fatherly burdens to age indifference in govt care, inadequate health structures.

U will be wicked to still expect the father's to be alive at this point

You people are dull normally. Men usually marry women a lot younger than they are in most cases.

Celestialsword:
men should take care of themselves, because many men struggled and laboured for the family upkeep and they didn't get the rewards

They were stressed up and most of them died before their wives.

When the man has passed on, those he left behind will still survive and become somebody in life.

The Irony of it all ,is that it's the woman that now enjoy the fruits of the man's labour.

So,men should wise up and always take care of yourself, when the load is too heavy, please drop it.

Lols...

Abeg, who help you put the load for head in the first place?

You got it, na by yasef.

Even those of us without a wife still have women we care for and carry some of their loads for our head. So you see, man na élèrú town council.

Lols

highchief1:
I disagree with u again.enjoyment also kills men too.go and check ur organs for example and check your wife’s own.urs may not be as healthy as ur wife’s own.as u Dey go eat pepe soup and cold beer Dey think say u Dey enjoy u Dey destroy ur health.i am not saying pressure is not real.but there’s a clause.after all irresponsible men that refuse to face pressure still die.Most of the billionaires when e mention their name der their fathers didn’t train them.i am from almost the same community with elumelu.we know the story.na their mama train dem

Don't mix_up what I chatted.
Summary of I posted is that men should take care of themselves.
Care can be medical,nutritional, phycological, physical and many more.
Don't conclude with your reasoning.
Pressure is the main problem of majority of men.
75% men take care of their family.So don't mix up with few exceptions and generalize it.

Nonexisting1:
You didn't have to explain all that to the agbado agent. They always rush to comment without reading and understanding.

Truthfully so.

favour32:
Don't mix_up what I chatted.
Summary of I posted is that men should take care of themselves.
Care can be medical,nutritional, phycological, physical and many more.
Don't conclude with your reasoning.
Pressure is the main problem of majority of men.
75% men take care of their family.So don't mix up with few exceptions and generalize it.

Only seriously insecure people would pretend they don't understand the facts in the message.

It's a common fact that men everywhere kick jerrycan before their female counterparts.. In my over 4 decades of existence, I can count more men (including my own old man) whom I personally know that have kicked jerrycan more than women let alone over time.

Abeg, if talk dey too much e no dey make sense again.

Ok.
Meaning Bukola Saraki’s grandmother is the only Yoruba among them, and could only have given half Yoruba blood to Olusola Saraki. And Olusola gave 25% Yoruba blood to Bukola and Gbemi. Bukola married Toyin Ojora.
Hmm! It’s important to know where our leaders are from.

coputa:
Olusoka Saraki's mother is from Iseyin in Oyo state and his father was from Mali,but he studied Islamic studies (ille kewu) in illorin.His paternal ancestors were fulanis

Softmirror:
What are you trying to say? That we shouldn't care for our parents in their old age?!


MODIFIED:

He didn't mention men any where in the message he was trying to pass. If he did please show me. Hence, it wasn't gender specific. Which of course is not a good communication.

So, in essence a man will outlive his wife simply because he runs away from his responsibility of taking care of his family? How does a responsible man care for his family while neglecting himself?

There us no way a 'responsible' man can care for family without neglecting himself. So go ahead and care for your family and neglect yourself. Nobody is stopping you, but you will soon get wiser, albeit very late.

RevenuesBoost:
I spoke about this last week with hubby.

Hubby asked, why do women in most cases live longer than men.
I answered, the woman exercises herself from morning till evening.

He asked how, I said, I'm an example.

If I am not working online, I'm cooking or sweeping or doing the dishes or laundry or cleaning the house or baby-sitting.
It's always from one work to the other.

A man doesn't do much exercises.
Most men that exercises, have young looks and live longer.

This is lame. If a man likes he should exercise 24/7. If the financial responsibility and family commitment/pressure is unbearable, he will die early.

Men live to please women. And the women don't make it easier. Always manipulating the man and using carrot and stick approach. You see men sef forming I'm a good man, I'm a strong man, I'm a family man. Nobody is saying men shouldn't be family men but also prioritize your existence too. Women can't reason men's plights. See an example above where a woman is even using the situation to exonerate herself. Let men be men, don't allow current manipulative schemes in society get to you e.g. if you man up too much, they'll say toxic masculinity. 😅

This is a lesson to all men, yes it is good even it's God's will we take care of our family but not at sinning against him, many men put their hands into many ungodly things because they want to satisfy their family especially their wife, you alone will face judgement of God in the last day for every evil things you put your hands to because you want to satisfy your family or wife.

My prayer for every family man this morning is that we will not labour in vain and we shall eat the fruit of our labour in Jesus mighty name.

Men are endangered specie. Know this, pay more attention to your health and wellbeing and do the utmost to live longer.
The stress of daily hustle, years of neglect of personal health, stress from unappreciative partners and children and finally neglect from those one have sacrificed for will most times cut a man's life short.
Man, beware of thyself and care accordingly.

Yet another thread by Nigerian married men. It seems Agbado economics is biting harder than I thought.

Well, well, well, you folks would see why I've been preaching fewer children for more than a decade on Nairaland. If there's one thing I'm proud of, it's being consistent when the facts are well-thought of.

Softmirror:
What are you trying to say? That we shouldn't care for our parents in their old age?!


MODIFIED:

He didn't mention men any where in the message he was trying to pass. If he did please show me. Hence, it wasn't gender specific. Which of course is not a good communication.

So, in essence a man will outlive his wife simply because he runs away from his responsibility of taking care of his family? How does a responsible man care for his family while neglecting himself?

Typical of you to comment with understanding or reading.

Focusmind:
As a man, if you don't want to take care of yourself, na you sabi. The pressure and demands of the society are already stacked against us. Don't over do yourself all in the name of providing for your children and unborn kids. Be selfish and indulge yourself on things you like, that may likely prolong your life. Spend that money and get yourself quality fruits all the time, eat healthy, exercise, go out solely and enjoy yourself. Slow down and take it easy. If your body is not strong for any hustle, shelve it and regain your mojo and health before anything. Finally, if you don't have the means to cater for a family, don't marry yet, or better, postpone it till you are better prepared, financially. Financial stress and pressures have ruined many young men in their quest to meet up with the demands of the family.

Thank you, sir. But the most important aspect isn't included: fewer children. Nothing, absolutely nothing (this is globally referenced) defeats having fewer children.

The average Nigerian family shouldn't have more than two children.

datola:
Almost everybody is the child of their mother not of their father. Always my mommy my mommy even though the father might be going through hell to build the family.

And some say it's a man's world. Indeed!

It's not a man's world anymore o. It's only a man's world if the said man is financially stable.

The world today is owned by the female gender. E get why na only men dey transgender to women, not the other way round.

Gerrard59:
Yet another thread by Nigerian married men. It seems Agbado economics is biting harder than I thought.

Well, well, well, you folks would see why I've been preaching fewer children for more than a decade on Nairaland. If there's one thing I'm proud of, it's being consistent when the facts are well-thought of.

Interestingly, the OP of this thread quoted me on the other thread to say a man should work harder to handle his responsibilities of plenty kids. That even bachelors are starving.
They like suffer ehn. They think there is an award for suffering parents. With their receding hairlines and funny-looking shoes.

RevenuesBoost:
I spoke about this last week with hubby.

Hubby asked, why do women in most cases live longer than men.
I answered, the woman exercises herself from morning till evening.

He asked how, I said, I'm an example.

If I am not working online, I'm cooking or sweeping or doing the dishes or laundry or cleaning the house or baby-sitting.
It's always from one work to the other.

A man doesn't do much exercises.
Most men that exercises, have young looks and live longer.

Actually, men take more risks and marry much younger women. Those are the major reasons husbands kpeme before their wives. Men are the ones engaged in military conflicts and do more harder/physical jobs.

As for the bold, mostly men above their 50s. I want to believe many young men - 20s and 30s - now see regular exercises as essential to their wellbeing. No be everyday beer and shayo 🙄

udemzyudex:
Tell us the age difference then since you know it.

Most men marry women who are much younger than them. No be Nairaland men dey scream marry 18 - 26 year old ladies even when the man is 30+ or 40+?

Statistically, the men would kpeme before the women.

hakeemhakeem:
Mostly irresponsible men live long than responsible men

According to who? Define irresponsible and responsible in this context.

pocohantas:
Interestingly, the OP of this thread quoted me on the other thread to say a man should work harder to handle his responsibilities of plenty kids. That even bachelors are starving.
They like suffer ehn. They think there is an award for suffering parents. With their receding hairlines and funny-looking shoes.

I no dey pity any Nigerian married man (below 40) who complains unnecessarily. The Internet is available - the greatest invention after electricity. People should use it to develop and broaden their knowledge base.

Gerrard59:
Thank you, sir. But the most important aspect isn't included: fewer children. Nothing, absolutely nothing (this is globally referenced) defeats having fewer children.

The average Nigerian family shouldn't have more than two children.

Most Nigerian families would never agree on fewer families, especially, our old school mothers and their persistent pressure on you and your wife to add another one, since Mama Ifeoma's son or daughter has put to bed, their fifth child and you are still on number two, more than three years after you had your second. As a man the pressure is on you. Raising a child is not just providing the child with food. It is your ability to be able to be committed to the child and put him or rather, prepare him or her for success in the future

The Men are usually older than the women during marriage. It is an obvious fact Men will pass on before their wife's if they're older.

My father died at 101age 25 years ago while my Mum -the youngest wife is now 103.

nairalanda1:


My maternal grandfather was 19-20 years older than his wife. In that case his dying before his wife was because he did not take care of himself? LOL...the man was healthy till the day he passed on at 89.

My paternal grandfather died in his sixties. Oh yes, he overworked himself...but not just for his family, he was also involved in many acitivies for and on behalf of the village. All his wives (he was a polygamist), were some 20-30 years younger than him

Nigerians of fifty to sixty years ago, the men married women much younger than them. So, even if they took care of themselves, they would have died before their wives. Long before their wives. Especially in the North...dangote's mum was probably married to her husband when she was 13, and he was in his forties..lol. That's why the women outlive them so to speak.

Your comment is good...but I also detect hate for women in it. You ought to stop looking at women as bad and evil people. They are not. My paternal grandffather's wives were also his chief helpers on his various farms , and some of them worked alongside him. And the man had brothers who lived to 100 years old...in two cases.

You men on this site, better stop hating women. Yes, we should take care of ourselves, but that does not mean we should not take care of the women in our lives. And your examples are very poor examples.

They would say you're a simp. God knows I would have been a billionaire for everytime I get called that name.

I once posted here some years back when I wanted doing something good for my Dad. I asked mum what daddy likes, mum couldn't even name something precise. I asked his friends and sisters, none could name anything and when I asked my Dad, he said Ahhhh No one cares about that jare ma worry.


I understood the level of weight he carries, unloved, uncared for except with food and very underappreciated. This is a man who sent 8 kids to private university. Both biological, relations and many others. This is a man people will come to for help when they need urgent school fees or so... And no one knew what he loves, not even his wife. (Meanwhile, he's my foster Dad.)

Gerrard59:
I no dey pity any Nigerian married man (below 40) who complains unnecessarily. The Internet is available - the greatest invention after electricity. People should use it to develop and broaden their knowledge base.

Most men are older than their wives with at least 5yrs. A Nlder of 40yrs was asking if he can marry a 20yrs old lady. Is she supposed to die before him? Also men take on riskier careers and lifestyles. When it comes to health, my mum would rush to the hospital for slight headache, but we have to drag my dad to same hospital.

As for family/financial stress, it ages a man like crazy. I know men who are going through it and everything is their fault. I don't pity them.

Trymeee:
I once posted here some years back when I wanted doing something good for my Dad. I asked mum what daddy likes, mum couldn't even name something precise. I asked his friends and sisters, none could name anything and when I asked my Dad, he said Ahhhh No one cares about that jare ma worry.


I understood the level of weight he carries, unloved, uncared for except with food and very underappreciated. This is a man who sent 8 kids to private university. Both biological, relations and many others. This is a man people will come to for help when they need urgent school fees or so... And no one knew what he loves, not even his wife. (Meanwhile, he's my foster Dad.)

Sad! Really sad!
I hope women do better.

What did you finally do for him?

wowcatty:
Bukola Saraki’s Jamaican mom has integrated well.
Wait, father is fulani and mother is Jamaican, so where did they get all the Yoruba names, Olusola, Bukola, Gbemi and Tosin from?

Maybe because Bukola's mom is from Oyo state. Where did you get the information that his mom is Jamaican?

Also, maybe because Bukola's grandfather studied Islamic studies in illorin.

Softmirror:
What are you trying to say? That we shouldn't care for our parents in their old age?!


MODIFIED:

He didn't mention men any where in the message he was trying to pass. If he did please show me. Hence, it wasn't gender specific. Which of course is not a good communication.

So, in essence a man will outlive his wife simply because he runs away from his responsibility of taking care of his family? How does a responsible man care for his family while neglecting himself?

you are not making any sense here or may be I don't understand your grammar