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Wondering if there's possibility for one to learn new behavior, like an introverted person changing to be an extrovert through learned habits? How long on average does it take for habit to be ingrained as behavior in an individual? Will the old and new behavior conflict in the individual's disposition?

The false assumption here is that a behaviour is innate, when behaviours are actually things you learn by repeatedly behaving.

If an introvert decides to stop behaving introvertishly, and instead learns and starts practicing the behaviours of an extrovert, that person will stop being an introvert and become extrovertish.

As for how long, that depends on the individual and how much work you put in to changing your behaviour. And for conflict, a wise person would know when it pays to be an introvert or an extrovert, and will see them more as tools or weapons in their armour to be used when circumstances require.

verminnel:
Wondering if there's possibility for one to learn new behavior, like an introverted person changing to be an extrovert through learned habits? How long on average does it take for habit to be ingrained as behavior in an individual? Will the old and new behavior conflict in the individual's disposition?

Yes, an introverted person can adopt extroverted behaviors through consistent practice and exposure, as behavior is malleable.

On average, it takes about 2-3 months of repeated effort for new habits to take root, and while old and new behaviors may initially conflict, they can eventually coexist as the individual adapts.

verminnel:
➜Wondering if there's possibility for one to learn new behavior,
➜like an introverted person changing to be an extrovert through learned habits?
➜How long on average does it take for habit to be ingrained as behavior in an individual?
➜Will the old and new behavior conflict in the individual's disposition?

1. All behaviors are learned. So, first, determine why you became an introvert and what benefits being one affords you. Then consider why you wish to change and if a complete switch is what you really need.

2. Yes, an introvert can work on being less introverted if he chooses to do so. But doing that which is counterintuitive can pose some discomfort.

3. It is typically claimed that it takes an average of 21 days, but when I started working on converting from being introverted to being extroverted, it took me way longer than that ... many months. But after a while, I realized, that there is nothing with being introverted when I need to be and extroverted only when I need to be.

4. That depends on the reason behind the change. For instance, if you do things simply to please others and not yourself, you are likely to find yourself fighting new battles regularly instead of keeping the old piece you may have originally had.

I'm an introvert throughout the year, but come December, I put on my alter ego, go out, and have some fun with everyone.

You wouldn't believe that I'm an introvert if you meet me in December and vice versa... ... I spend the whole year indoors preparing for December.

Thanks for ur input

SoftSport:
Yes, an introverted person can adopt extroverted behaviors through consistent practice and exposure, as behavior is malleable.

On average, it takes about 2-3 months of repeated effort for new habits to take root, and while old and new behaviors may initially conflict, they can eventually coexist as the individual adapts.

Thanks

Kobojunkie:
1. All behaviors are learned. So, first, determine why you became an introvert and what benefits being one affords you. Then consider why you wish to change and if a complete switch is what you really need.

2. Yes, an introvert can work on being less introverted if he chooses to do so. But doing that which is counterintuitive can pose some discomfort.

3. It is typically claimed that it takes an average of 21 days, but when I started working on converting from being introverted to being extroverted, it took me way longer than that ... many months. But after a while, I realized, that there is nothing with being introverted when I need to be and extroverted only when I need to be.

4. That depends on the reason behind the change. For instance, if you do things simply to please others and not yourself, you are likely to find yourself fighting new battles regularly instead of keeping the old piece you may have originally had.

Behavior can be learnt. Infact, new behaviors are learnt everytime.

Samantha125:
I'm an introvert throughout the year, but come December, I put on my alter ego, go out, and have some fun with everyone.

You wouldn't believe that I'm an introvert if you meet me in December and vice versa... ... I spend the whole year indoors preparing for December.

it would'nt be so easy for me to pull that lol. The few times I tried hanging out , I didn't really find it enjoyable I get bored up outdoors but I'm the life of the party indoors

budaatum:
The false assumption here is that a behaviour is innate, when behaviours are actually things you learn by repeatedly behaving.

If an introvert decides to stop behaving introvertishly, and instead learns and starts practicing the behaviours of an extrovert, that person will stop being an introvert and become extrovertish.

As for how long, that depends on the individual and how much work you put in to changing your behaviour. And for conflict, a wise person would know when it pays to be an introvert or an extrovert, and will see them more as tools or weapons in their armour to be used when circumstances require.

In summary, you limit yourself when you put a label on yourself.

I'm also the life of the party indoors... My father used to tell me how being a partygoer would suit me with they way I like dancing around the house...😂😂😂... And whenever the parents are not around, I'd be dancing on top of the family's dinner table, the music always hits different when dancing on top of something else aside the floor...🤣🤣🤣

I now find myself dancing on top of my husband's dinner table... It's like I'm possessed with the spirit of dancing on top of dinner tables...😅😅😅

verminnel:
it would'nt be so easy for me to pull that lol. The few times I tried hanging out , I didn't really find it enjoyable I get bored up outdoors but I'm the life of the party indoors

Samantha125:
I'm also the life of the party indoors... My father used to tell me how being a partygoer would suit me with they way I like dancing around the house...😂😂😂... And whenever the parents are not around, I'd be dancing on top of the family's dinner table, the music always hits different when dancing on top of something else aside the floor...🤣🤣🤣

I now find myself dancing on top of my husband's dinner table... It's like I'm possessed with the spirit of dancing on top of dinner tables...😅😅😅

lol

verminnel:
Wondering if there's possibility for one to learn new behavior, like an introverted person changing to be an extrovert through learned habits? How long on average does it take for habit to be ingrained as behavior in an individual? Will the old and new behavior conflict in the individual's disposition?

Every behaviour can be learnt, innate or otherwise, it would only take time but you cannot be good as the one God originally deposited into your body as genetic makeup.

That's why you see some people single or acting effortlessly while others would be struggling to do it, but both are still doing it.

Meanwhile, if an introvert wants to become extrovert, he would start going outside more, and be interacting with people, to make it easier,start with "friends of ur friends", you will become friend with them and the chains continue.


NB. My good advice to you is,.....better be an introvert and have few friends than extrovert with many friends, having lots of friends won't be beneficial to you, if you wish to progress and go far in life, so many people are bad and parasites, the more you have them, the more the chance to enter you negatively.

budaatum:
The false assumption here is that a behaviour is innate, when behaviours are actually things you learn by repeatedly behaving.

If an introvert decides to stop behaving introvertishly, and instead learns and starts practicing the behaviours of an extrovert, that person will stop being an introvert and become extrovertish.

As for how long, that depends on the individual and how much work you put in to changing your behaviour. And for conflict, a wise person would know when it pays to be an introvert or an extrovert, and will see them more as tools or weapons in their armour to be used when circumstances require.

Your submission is 100% inaccurate, if not fallacy, some behaviours are innate, most especially introvert and extrovert in which it's almost impossible to learn, a jovial person would just be seen herself/himself friendly with people around him effortlessly,while someone who is not jovial would be struggling to be friendly with people, infact, the more he tries to do, the more he behaves abnormally or even end up embarrassing himself.
Gift/Tallent that God not embedded in you, wen doing it, you would notice that, no matter how resilient or practice you put up, you will "never-ever" meet up with person who has it as innate.

In local parlance they do say...........ABINIBI DIFFERENT FROM ABILITY!

According to psychology books, some behaviour are inate while some can be learned.

Check more on behavioural psychology.
Psychology people, this na your fort

Fiscus105:
Your submission is 100% inaccurate, some behaviour are innate, most especially introvert and extrovert, a jovial person would just be seen herself/himself friendly with people around him effortlessly while someone who is not jovial would be struggling to be friendly with people, infact, something that God not embedded in you, wen doing it, you would notice that, no matter how resilient or practice you put up, you will never-ever meet up with person who has as innate.

In local parlance they do say...........ABINIBI DIFFERENT FROM ABILITY!

The introvert can't wait to be alone

If you force an extrovert to behave like an introvert, that's volcano in the making
You will definitely regret it especially kids.
Imagine telling extroverted kids to stay at home during holiday period.
Goodluck to you if they don't burn down your house. Or forcing an introverted kid to become a cheerleader

You are very correct. Its as bad that I can live in a street for a year and you will never know such person lives in the neighborhood,i dont like being noticed or any thing that would draw attention.if I have a visitor and they stay over 2hours with me I would start becoming restless, we could just sit and stare at each other cos I don't like talking much I enjoy being alone

descarado:
The introvert can't wait to be alone

If you force an extrovert to behave like an introvert, that's volcano in the making
You will definitely regret it especially kids.
Imagine telling extroverted kids to stay at home during holiday period.
Goodluck to you if they don't burn down your house. Or forcing an introverted kid to become a cheerleader

verminnel:
Wondering if there's possibility for one to learn new behavior, like an introverted person changing to be an extrovert through learned habits? How long on average does it take for habit to be ingrained as behavior in an individual? Will the old and new behavior conflict in the individual's disposition?

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Fiscus105:
Your submission is 100% inaccurate, if not fallacy, some behaviours are innate, most especially introvert and extrovert in which it's almost impossible to learn, a jovial person would just be seen herself/himself friendly with people around him effortlessly,while someone who is not jovial would be struggling to be friendly with people, infact, the more he tries to do, the more he behaves abnormally or even end up embarrassing himself.
Gift/Tallent that God not embedded in you, wen doing it, you would notice that, no matter how resilient or practice you put up, you will "never-ever" meet up with person who has it as innate.

In local parlance they do say...........ABINIBI DIFFERENT FROM ABILITY!

You fail to realise that "someone who is not jovial would be struggling to be friendly with people" to start with, but with practice would eventually find it easier, just like you'd struggle when you first learn to ride a bike and become perfect at bike riding through practice.

No one us born with an ability for anything, not even breathing I'd claim. Everything we do is learned behaviour, and usually our reaction to the environment we find ourselves in. And if you want to learn a different behaviour, practice will perfect you.

budaatum:
You fail to realise that "someone who is not jovial would be struggling to be friendly with people" to start with, but with practice would eventually find it easier, just like you'd struggle when you first learn to ride a bike and become perfect at bike riding through practice.

No one us born with an ability for anything, not even breathing I'd claim. Everything we do is learned behaviour, and usually our reaction to the environment we find ourselves in. And if you want to learn a different behaviour, practice will perfect you.

Every human is a social animal irrespective of being jovial or not, everybody will surely have one or two people that would be friendly with, but for jovial, they do it effortlessly, he would be making friends wherever he goes.

Samantha125:
I'm an introvert throughout the year, but come December, I put on my alter ego, go out, and have some fun with everyone.

You wouldn't believe that I'm an introvert if you meet me in December and vice versa... ... I spend the whole year indoors preparing for December.

Omg, I think our traits are almost similar, although for me it's not like until December before I loosen up but I'm free and extroverted with the right persons or setting any time I feel like. December is my best month and Christmas season is my best season though

verminnel:
it would'nt be so easy for me to pull that lol. The few times I tried hanging out , I didn't really find it enjoyable I get bored up outdoors but I'm the life of the party indoors

There is a lot to finding something enjoyable; that has more to do with your mind and mental health than anything else.

I used to struggle with anhedonia, a condition that made it almost impossible to enjoy anything. I was able to, by way of behavioral modifications, accomplish a lot without necessarily enjoying any of it as it was all to fit in. Fortunately, for me, I find help for the condition and now accept that it is ok to do whatever one wants to do without really having to enjoy it.

The only time am extroverted is when I have gulp my alcohol...

Anything can be learnt but success at it, is not guaranteed

Kobojunkie:
There is a lot to finding something enjoyable; that has more to do with your mind and mental health than anything else.

I used to struggle with anhedonia myself a condition that made it almost impossible to enjoy anything. I was able to by way of behavioral modifications accomplish a lot without necessarily enjoying any of it as it was all in order to fit in. Fortunately, for me, I find help for the condition and now accept that it is ok to do whatever one wants to do without really having to enjoy it.

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budaatum:
The false assumption here is that a behaviour is innate, when behaviours are actually things you learn by repeatedly behaving.

If an introvert decides to stop behaving introvertishly, and instead learns and starts practicing the behaviours of an extrovert, that person will stop being an introvert and become extrovertish.

As for how long, that depends on the individual and how much work you put in to changing your behaviour. And for conflict, a wise person would know when it pays to be an introvert or an extrovert, and will see them more as tools or weapons in their armour to be used when circumstances require.

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verminnel:
Wondering if there's possibility for one to learn new behavior, like an introverted person changing to be an extrovert through learned habits? How long on average does it take for habit to be ingrained as behavior in an individual? Will the old and new behavior conflict in the individual's disposition?

If an introvert trains for extroverted behaviors — speaking up in meetings, initiating small talk, attending social events — consistently for 6–12 months, these can become second nature. The emotional energy cost of doing them will drop significantly, even if deep down they still value solitude.

Yes, just like a <a href=https://bizxfactor.com/types-of-parenting-styles-and-effects-on-children/>parenting style</a> can be adjusted over time, individual behaviors can also change with consistent practice. While some traits like introversion or extroversion are partly innate, learned habits can help someone adapt socially. Research suggests it can take weeks to months for new habits to feel natural, and old and new behaviors may coexist for a while until the new approach becomes part of the person’s comfort zone.











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AngelSlay:
If an introvert trains for extroverted behaviors — speaking up in meetings, initiating small talk, attending social events — consistently for 6–12 months, these can become second nature. The emotional energy cost of doing them will drop significantly, even if deep down they still value solitude.

noted🙏

Do you realize some people are a mix of both. I consider myself to be introverted but with the ability to be an extrovert in certain environments under certain conditions.

So if introverts look inwards, and extroverts outwards, where the hell do otroverts look?

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/aug/20/are-you-an-otrovert-why-this-personality-type-could-be-your-greatest-gift