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Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by dangoteinlaw: 12:47pm On Aug 13, 2025
ravensckar:
Watch how SIMPS will be advising the man to be strong that "his wife needs him more than ever".

If reverse was the case, I doubt any woman would have advised their fellow gender to do the same.

Anyways, unless it's a court wedding, I don't think this issue is up for debate. Me I'll first secure my future by impregnating another woman outside while I and my wife continues to search for her own fruit of the womb. cheesy cheesy
“her own fruit”😂😂😂 man u are savage but its the fact. Op doesn’t realize the journey he is about to embark. If you try herbs i pity you. Bros u will spend real money not those 4m fuel money.
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by kingthreat(m): 12:47pm On Aug 13, 2025
KobeMan:
Thank You for this, Please do you have any Reliable Herbal fertility treatment or contact That works? I'll really appreciate it.
Be careful, many recommendations you will get on the internet are scams.
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by Smart2023(m): 12:47pm On Aug 13, 2025
If u are in eastern part I have a traditional herb for u
The universe will answer u
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by cococandy(f): 12:47pm On Aug 13, 2025
advanceDNA:
Baba is down with his mental health impaired, and limited resources that isn't enough to for all this fertility issues.....
But His wife needs him ??Who does he need?? Abi man nor need help.??
They need each other.
This is actually what for better for worse means.
Not when the man is cheating or beating her then yall will remember they took an oath.

That oath is for times like this when they face challenges that they couldn’t have predicted or prevented
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by qtx(m): 12:47pm On Aug 13, 2025
KobeMan:
We married A Year ago. We decided to wait for a year before having kids. We started trying 3 few months but no success. I told both of us needs to get tested. I did Sperm Analysis & the result is good, I'm very fertile.

She did pelvic scan, and in the scan, She has fibroid (Submocousal fibroid 5.5cm). The news broke me and I was very sad, I never imagined I'll be in this kind of situation. We went to the gynecologist and He told us to go for HSG to check her fallopian tube, The result showed that Both Tubes are blocked.

I've not been myself for the last couple of days. I had to pretend to be strong because She was down & has been crying as well. This are two serious fertility issues and Her chances of conception is very low. Even if The gynecologist tells us to do the IVF(Which I don't even have money for it cause it's vey expensive) They'll still have to remove the fibroid.

This are very expensive procedures that are not even guaranteed that it will work and She will conceive. I'm the only male child in my family, in my early 30's. Pressure will start coming from all directions and also considering my my age, I don't pray to experience delay with child birth. I just decided to pour own my mind here. I'm really down, I don't know what to do.
Not so bad a case there, bro. Cool down. Follow these guys on Facebook, chat them on whatsapp. I used to hear testimonies of their alternative medicine for fertility and Fibroid solution. I pray it works for you too. https://www.facebook.com/p/Milyash-Clinic-100076169800206/ Good luck
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by hosemujica: 12:49pm On Aug 13, 2025
Ketamine9000mg:
Follow Dawnomike's comment above.

There are actually worst cases of infertility than yours. With the right steps, this can be addressed. Imagine if it were to be severe case of PCOS or non obstructive azoospermia(no sperm cells), it would have been a different ball game.

Please and please, don't go into traditional medicine. You will waste your time,money and probably expose your wife to harm. They usual preach things like delivering fibroid without surgery or making it to shrink with herbs, na scam.

All will be well brother.
op take this advice. Leave traditional medicine out of this.
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by dangoteinlaw: 12:49pm On Aug 13, 2025
G0odharddick:
Fibroid?

Dude why didn't you do medical scan before you married her?

Oga don't waste your time jumping from one herbal centre to the other. Just get yourself a second wife and have children in peace. Besides you're the only son and generations is expected to come out from you
if the woman is good op pls keep her unless otherwise.
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by tony0806: 12:50pm On Aug 13, 2025
It's actually what you have read that is affecting your mental health. Fibroid won't stop your wife from getting pregnant. Virtually most women have fibroid. Just that the size differs. It's nature's way of occupying where has been left empty for years. In Agriculture, it's called "weed". This is from experience. Believe me.

Secondly, the part of the blocked fallopian tube. That's where I can't advice. But if you ask her questions like; have you done abortion before? And she says NO. If she's saying the truth, then relax man. As long as there's God, believe me, she'll conceive.

But if you are in a hurry to get a child, Nature will humble you. so just love her and take things easy. Trust me, just enjoy this time you're both alone. Because of kids start coming, you'll never have the freedom you have now.

Pls, don't listen to the advice of removing fibroid. IT WILL GROW AGAIN.

Before I forget, what drug or family planning did she use for the 1 year that she didn't get pregnant?
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by thisisit: 12:51pm On Aug 13, 2025
YOU FORGOT !..... YOU DID NOT MENTION YOUR SIDE CHICK!
SHE WILL NATURALLY SOLVE THE PROBLEM
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by cococandy(f): 12:51pm On Aug 13, 2025
OP blocked fallopian tubes can be treated surgically and fibroids can be removed. It’s good that the cause is known and the treatment is possible. Some people have infertility issues but don’t even know why which makes their case even more difficult.

You know the cause and the cause is treatable.
So start planning on how to actualize it.
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by thisisit: 12:53pm On Aug 13, 2025
The solution is in your hand not nairalanders.
Just try and be nicer to your SIDE CHICK.
SHE WILL NATURALLY SOLVE THE PROBLEM.
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by Opeabioye: 12:55pm On Aug 13, 2025
You and your wife should go for harbal treatment. Contact this number 0816 249 7993
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by iyababs: 12:57pm On Aug 13, 2025
Thank you for encouraging the man in question and for making yourself available for moral support. More blessings for you.Amen.

quote author=dawnomike post=136440168]I understand how you feel bro... But, first calm down.
It is not as bad as it sounds... You both just have to determine to work through this challenges together.
First and foremost, go and register for a comprehensive HMO (choose a package that covers major surgery). This will greatly reduce the medical bills and make things easier for both of you.
Discuss with the gynaecologist on the best way to proceed with the necessary medications and surgery then go for it.

Your wife needs you now more than ever before... You can reach out for moral support at anytime and any day by just mentioning me in your comments.

I wish you all the best and the strength to weather the storm!!![/quote]
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by diamendiaz: 12:58pm On Aug 13, 2025
Your wife truly needs your support during this difficult time. Remember the love that brought you together; it can be a powerful source of strength as you both navigate through this storm. I gently encourage you not to discuss this with anyone else, including her family and friends, as their well-meaning intentions may unintentionally add more pressure.

Building a strong friendship in your marriage is crucial. Be there for your wife, and let her see you as a trusted friend. When she's feeling down, having someone to confide in can make all the difference, and you can be that person for her.

As someone in the medical field, we understand that bilateral tubal occlusion often means that IVF is the best route to conception. It's essential to talk with your gynecologist, who can guide you on the best options for your family moving forward.

Wishing you both all the best during this challenging time.

Take care.
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by MrsApositive: 1:00pm On Aug 13, 2025
This is a phase i have passed through and i can bet it with you that, with God and your unity as husband and wife, you will come out strong and it will happen before you know it .

i will advice she go for the surgery and after the surgery, the gynae can recommend supplements that aids conception.
This is the time madam need you most, with God it will sooner than expected.
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by blackgold2018(m): 1:00pm On Aug 13, 2025
First of all. Who between you initiated the one year wait before having kids??
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by Ketamine9000mg(m): 1:01pm On Aug 13, 2025
otizs:
You don't know what you're saying. Any issues from husband need just a life style changing and it will resolve on it's own. In my own case, it was low spam counts and I stop drinking anything spirit and sugar, after 1 month, it rose to millions, after three months it rose to 7millions, about 5 month, my wife took in.
Low sperm count is different from non obstructive azoospermia. There are two very different cases. Also low sperm count get low sperm count. You can't compare 8million to 1million low sperm count.
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by WesleyPepper: 1:01pm On Aug 13, 2025
KobeMan:
Thank You for this, Please do you have any Reliable Herbal fertility treatment or contact That works? I'll really appreciate it.
Please please please
Don’t listen to him . He’s only going to worsen the situation
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by B3sty(m): 1:03pm On Aug 13, 2025
KobeMan:
We married A Year ago. We decided to wait for a year before having kids. We started trying 3 few months but no success. I told both of us needs to get tested. I did Sperm Analysis & the result is good, I'm very fertile.

She did pelvic scan, and in the scan, She has fibroid (Submocousal fibroid 5.5cm). The news broke me and I was very sad, I never imagined I'll be in this kind of situation. We went to the gynecologist and He told us to go for HSG to check her fallopian tube, The result showed that Both Tubes are blocked.

I've not been myself for the last couple of days. I had to pretend to be strong because She was down & has been crying as well. This are two serious fertility issues and Her chances of conception is very low. Even if The gynecologist tells us to do the IVF(Which I don't even have money for it cause it's vey expensive) They'll still have to remove the fibroid.

This are very expensive procedures that are not even guaranteed that it will work and She will conceive. I'm the only male child in my family, in my early 30's. Pressure will start coming from all directions and also considering my my age, I don't pray to experience delay with child birth. I just decided to pour own my mind here. I'm really down, I don't know what to do.
Hmmmm, I experienced the same thing when I got married in 2015. She did Fibroid operation in 2016, no results. We both went to test ourselves, Doctors found out I've no fertility issues...My wife did HSG , we found out both Fallopian tubes are block. Omo, we tried many herbal remedies, no way. By December this year (2025), my marriage will be 10 years. Only God know what my Mother (RIP MAMA, 2023) went through for my cause.
Anyway, My girlfriend is currently Pregnant, we did it just once and she picked...
Bro, the ball is in your court. No time to waste time !
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by clockwisereport: 1:04pm On Aug 13, 2025
KobeMan:
Thank You for this, Please do you have any Reliable Herbal fertility treatment or contact That works? I'll really appreciate it.
Don't exacerbate your case by taking any herb. Don't add Liver problem to her condition.
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by clockwisereport: 1:05pm On Aug 13, 2025
blackgold2018:
First of all. Who between you initiated the one year wait before having kids??
She run the guy street
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by Dada4me: 1:07pm On Aug 13, 2025
This was my exact state in 2013.

Her fibroid was growing to the point that people were congratulating us thinking it was pregnancy.

We surgically removed the fibroid and she conceived only three months after, even though the doctor said six months minimum.

The tubes opened on their own.

I advise you take things easy, a step at a time. Do not rush into any kind of treatment, consult widely and narrow down on what you believe will work.
Also, she needs to be stable emotionally and let her have her say in deciding on how to address the problem.

You will be fine.

I have two beautiful kids now through natural conceptions.
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by AkhereOkaka(m): 1:08pm On Aug 13, 2025
KobeMan:
We married A Year ago. We decided to wait for a year before having kids. We started trying 3 few months but no success. I told both of us needs to get tested. I did Sperm Analysis & the result is good, I'm very fertile.

She did pelvic scan, and in the scan, She has fibroid (Submocousal fibroid 5.5cm). The news broke me and I was very sad, I never imagined I'll be in this kind of situation. We went to the gynecologist and He told us to go for HSG to check her fallopian tube, The result showed that Both Tubes are blocked.

I've not been myself for the last couple of days. I had to pretend to be strong because She was down & has been crying as well. This are two serious fertility issues and Her chances of conception is very low. Even if The gynecologist tells us to do the IVF(Which I don't even have money for it cause it's vey expensive) They'll still have to remove the fibroid.

This are very expensive procedures that are not even guaranteed that it will work and She will conceive. I'm the only male child in my family, in my early 30's. Pressure will start coming from all directions and also considering my my age, I don't pray to experience delay with child birth. I just decided to pour own my mind here. I'm really down, I don't know what to do.
Sorry for your plight, but are both of you not suppose to do all these test before you commit??
To find out how fertile both of you are, so to make informed decision whether to go ahead or not if she isn't fertile then you know what you're entering.

I'm married for 2years 3 months with a daughter. We did all the test before our nuptial.


We rise by lifting others
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by AgainstIslam: 1:11pm On Aug 13, 2025
Let me share a secret:

3 scans showed my wife had fibroid and she could not conceive for about a year. Someone recommended Tetrapleura tetraptera popularly called àìdan in Yorùbá.

After few months of drinking the infusion, she went for two separate scans which confirmed the fibroid has disappeared.
She conceived few weeks later and now, she's a proud mother of three boys.

You can try it too if it will work for you.
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by hothire(f): 1:12pm On Aug 13, 2025
There are natural ways of managing fibroids but hospitals prefer to surgeries because it generates revenues girl them.

Send me a message on WhatsApp 090-9055-1098, or click the link below to get alternative natural cures this page us not accepting links.


KobeMan:
We married A Year ago. We decided to wait for a year before having kids. We started trying 3 few months but no success. I told both of us needs to get tested. I did Sperm Analysis & the result is good, I'm very fertile.

She did pelvic scan, and in the scan, She has fibroid (Submocousal fibroid 5.5cm). The news broke me and I was very sad, I never imagined I'll be in this kind of situation. We went to the gynecologist and He told us to go for HSG to check her fallopian tube, The result showed that Both Tubes are blocked.

I've not been myself for the last couple of days. I had to pretend to be strong because She was down & has been crying as well. This are two serious fertility issues and Her chances of conception is very low. Even if The gynecologist tells us to do the IVF(Which I don't even have money for it cause it's vey expensive) They'll still have to remove the fibroid.

This are very expensive procedures that are not even guaranteed that it will work and She will conceive. I'm the only male child in my family, in my early 30's. Pressure will start coming from all directions and also considering my my age, I don't pray to experience delay with child birth. I just decided to pour own my mind here. I'm really down, I don't know what to do.
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by Jman06(m): 1:14pm On Aug 13, 2025
This is the problem men inherit from women when they allow the woke mentality get a better part of them. If you had married a much younger girl, she would have gotten pregnant before fibroids overtake her reproductive system. NATURE DOESN'T SUPPORT WOMEN WAITING LONGER BEFORE HAVING CHILDREN

Meanwhile, this problem is very common among the woke wannabe southern Nigerians. Many couples are battling with infertility issues due to fibroids.

As you don enter the wahala, na to manage carry the cross and pray for God's intervention.
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by WesleyPepper: 1:14pm On Aug 13, 2025
dawnomike:
I understand how you feel bro... But, first calm down.
It is not as bad as it sounds... You both just have to determine to work through this challenges together.
First and foremost, go and register for a comprehensive HMO (choose a package that covers major surgery). This will greatly reduce the medical bills and make things easier for both of you.
Discuss with the gynaecologist on the best way to proceed with the necessary medications and surgery then go for it.

Your wife needs you now more than ever before... You can reach out for moral support at anytime and any day by just mentioning me in your comments.

I wish you all the best and the strength to weather the storm!!!
kobeman
Follow this advice please.
Your wife would be needing comprehensive specialist care.
Get a proper HMO bro.

- The location of that fibroid coupled with the infertility makes surgery almost certain. Even if you do an IVF, it becomes more difficult with a submucus fibroid

- Also, the fibroid has to be sorted out before they go after the tubal blockage.

Lastly , you shouldn’t be under any undue pressure.
Changing your wife or getting another one won’t solve the problem .
You guys are still relatively young and definitely have time to figure things out .

You don’t even know what the next woman would be coming with .
Life is more than child bearing . What if you come down with a deadly cancer or life altering injury ? Would you be happy if she left you because of that ?


No one can leave your life for you . Don’t let anyone push you
Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by Evidenx(m): 1:15pm On Aug 13, 2025
KobeMan:
Lagos
Are you and your wife a Christian?
Do you believe in miracles?
Do you believe God can do this for your wife?If you do reply and I will direct you.


#Nothing Weh Big Pass God.
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