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| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by Blitzking: 4:37pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
MarkNsukkaBread:No other solution except he goes for side chick or side hen.. but know dat she fit give u another man pikin..no be one man dey service side chick/hen. |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by josite: 4:38pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
I'm sure you will.notbevrn consider impregnating another lady with the consent of your wife to reduce the pressure on her to have kids . It is even the pressure on the wife that complicates issue.have a chat with her .some women jus want a baby daddy and not a hubby . |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by TOPMAN4LIFE: 4:38pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
ravensckar:What will you now do if you are the one having problem. I know you will want the wife to be patient with you |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by Berankis: 4:43pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
The blocked fallopian tubes is the issue here and not really the fibroid. The blocked tubes can be unblocked by very good gynaecologist using tubal cannulation and other techniques. You don't need to panic, we have been there before and we conquered. Research more on good Gynecologists. Share your issues with your good friends that have given birth, they will share their experiences with you and where to go to for proper help. |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by NotOfThisWorld(f): 4:51pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
May God answer your prayers soon, IJN. Amen. |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by papyjaypaul: 4:53pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
A4alpha:I hope you know that if your mind is not at rest, your science will not work Or you don't know that stress and worry affects those who have fertility issues? Could Your Mindset Affect How Well A Treatment Works Anxiety about side effects can keep people from starting or sticking to drug regimens or medical procedures. A group of researchers at Stanford University wanted to find out whether a simple mindset shift could help patients tolerate an uncomfortable treatment. They learned that when physicians make the effort to reframe potentially unpleasant symptoms in a positive light, it helped patients to stay calm and persevere. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OxImL1_Hjr4 |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by papyjaypaul: 4:55pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
For those who don't know the importance of your mindset when it comes to conceiving, educate yourself.
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| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by KTiana: 5:02pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
Let me comment to encourage you😊😊😊😊 let me smile first. Oga calm down first! Except if you do not love your wife. Let me start by admitting that it is a scary news for both husband wife, but let me share my testimony as one who was in the exact same shoes but the Lord has proven himself this year 2025. I got married in 2015 and before then in 2010, I had gone with my younger sister who is married at the time and I did not come for any checkups as I was very well. She had gone for a scan and I only accompanied her. Well, the Dr we met I guess was trying to be friendly Na so he asked I also get a scan and I obliged. Low and behold my sister was okay and I was not, he observed the presence of fibroid in me,Va word I have heard associated with women with fertility issues. He had advised that I quickly get married and have some babies before the fibroid grows and I begin to have issues with conception. That single advice almost destroyed me but for God's mercy. I began to date desperately trying to get married and it did not happen until 2015. By then the fibroids had grown and you can feel it. Unknown to me, what was only 1 then was now 7 in number, 2 large ones and 5 small. I got married out of desperation and to a man I never would have looked at twice. Well true to the Drs words, I couldn't conceive. My ex was patient the first year, before our anniversary I conceived but the fibroids grew alongside the pregnancy and at 2 months I looked 6 months and the fibroids pushed it out. Well for lack of power to type let me cut my story short. I had to undergo a myomectomy to remove the fibroids still no conception. My ex cheated and impregnated a young girl of 19 that was towards the second year of our marriage, he had started sleeping out for weeks and not come home. Well the marriage was destroyed and we ended up divorced. On getting back to my parents house I wanted to know why there was no conception after the marriage and that was when I was told after a HSG that my tubes had what is known as tubal adhesion during my recovery after the surgery. Imagine when a pipe melted at several points and it joins together, meaning Sperm can't enter. I can never conceive naturally except via IVF the Dr said. Note before the surgery I did not the HSG and of course due to the sizes of the fibroids which were laying on some of my organs the HSG dye did not flow out when they used the normal amount, it took the Dr who was quite seasoned to say try a bigger syringe and increase the concentration of the dye, once they did it, the dye came out showing that my tubes were patent before surgery and that was why I did not conceive early in the first year but I still did before our first year anniversary. Of course the news that I could not conceive was devastating, I had lost my marriage and I decided to leave the conception matter and focus my energy of furthering my education. I dated on and off some men after my marriage, ☺️☺️☺️ not a single conception. Well, last year I met to this man and started dating, I opened up after 8 months and told him the truth about my situation and man looked me dead in the face and said, unless I do not serve a living God and it's not me, you shall conceive without IVF, well I have heard you and in the future we can still explore the IVF if that is what it comes to but I am sure you will conceive. I do not know if it was how he said it, I agreed and said Amen!! February came of this year of course we had been doing it (sex), we continued, in March my period did not show but due to the length of years it has been since I last conceived, I do not check, I don't keep dates cos my period has never failed to show up. It was in April I remembered e be like say last month I no see period and so I went to check my pack of sanitary towels and they were well intact I said Lord, do not let me enter early menopause, I also said maybe it is hormonal imbalance due to stress let me wait. An extra week came and went no period. I finally summoned courage and asked my younger brother to go buy me 2 pregnancy strips. I checked with my hands shaking seriously, 1 line appeared first the next thing I saw another second line following behind. Lo and behold Na 2 fat lines, I had to read and re-read , look and re-look, I am pregnant like this ooo. I told my man and he could not believe it, he came and picked me from work and we went for a scan, indeed see gestational sac. I am pregnant, no IVF no nothing. I am pregnant like this. Please my brother, stand by your wife. Do you guys have NHIS registration that is insurance, if no go and do it. Go to a good government hospital and let her remove the fibroids if they are large it will cost you guys only 10% of the original cost using NHIS. After that, keep making love to your wife in faith, remove your mind you and your wife from pregnancy and just enjoy companionship and great sex, the day way e go happen e go shock you. Fibroid is not death sentence. A lot of women conceive after removing the fibroids immediately. All the best. |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by Freelancer247: 5:03pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
HawkTuahGirl:Hmmm... If the idea of the initial waiting is hers, then she knows something about it. Bro, just calm down and follow the medical procedures along side prayers. |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by JayEdm: 5:06pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
KobeMan:What would you want to be done to you if you were in her shoes If you had azoospermia or any other problems,what would you want her to feel about you? Do unto others what you would want them to do for you. Empathy first ...Shalom!!! |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by Ow0eg0kudi: 5:18pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
KobeMan:@KobeMan Pray you and your family divine strength as you navigate this period. She NEEDS you the most now. Search for fibroid on @HerbalistChief page on X/Twitter. HERBalist pertaining to plants for healing. You may with to check @g_diets also on X/Twitter regarding nutrition. Regards |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by Ibadanfarmroad: 5:28pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
KobeMan:reach out to the popular kokorokoman on nairaland, his herbs opened my wife's blocked fallopian tubes. We are two months pregnant now. |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by Rexymania(m): 5:29pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
Omo this is health breaking. Allah is your strength |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by Bribri: 5:30pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
If I say give woman Belle first before marriage they will say am a bad person. This remains the most feasible thing to do to avoid this sort. HawkTuahGirl: |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by BodyCount: 6:08pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
Paulpaulpaul:Nature can also be the greatest killer if you fall into the wrong hands They'll drain you of you money and make you take all sort of nonsense and poisons that might end up ending you.... Be very careful! |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by BodyCount: 6:12pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
HawkTuahGirl:This is one of the main EVIL AND DISADVANTAGE YOU GET WHEN YOU DON'T MARRY A VIRGIN... You can't know her true BODYCOUNT You can't know all the programmings different men have done on her You can't know how many belle she don comot or how badly damaged her womb is. |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by advanceDNA: 6:14pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
codedly:.....I paid serious shipping fees get that called Jinja herbal..it's just repackaged oroki herbal mixture....that shit doesn't work for anything other than constipation |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by Hotguy27: 6:35pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
KobeMan:Please be sincere. How long did you guys date before the marriage? Most women are aware of such situation before their marriage. I knew a lady who was having fibroid and got married without telling the husband. Their marriage is about 7 years now and nothing to show. You can divorce her on the ground of deception if she knew her condition before marriage and she didn't tell you. It is better that one person suffers than 2 people suffering such pain for too long. It might sound very brutal but just think about it. |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by descarado: 6:37pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
This is so sad. E hug to you and your wife. |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by bixton(m): 6:38pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
advanceDNA:You paid shipping fees from where to where and what year was tihs to get the Jinja herbal to you? This is the new story to me to hear..... |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by descarado: 6:40pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
Hotguy27:Most black women have fibroid. Like more than 70%. It depends ds on where it is located. Some are just there. It does not disturb anything. Some are located at the worst parts of the uterus and it's environs. So before you start blaming, know that those ladies in your life even if they have kids have more than 50% chances of having fibroid when examined. Thank you. |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by descarado: 6:43pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
KobeMan:Im more worried about the fibroid cos of where it's located than the blocked tubes. If you love her so much, go for surrogate. As she may not be able to carry without miscarriage cos of the position of the fibroid. If you dont, you 2 should look for plan C. |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by descarado: 6:47pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
Acidosis:The problem is the position of the fibroid. Some have given birth to kids with fibroid. He is highly tensed up. 3 months and he is already worried this much. Now the fear has materialised to reality. How you dey?. My babies are doing well,right? |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by Amumaigwe: 6:50pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
advanceDNA:Hope the wife also sticks around when the man is down and needs her too |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by Testimony1988(m): 6:54pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
She needs your support as this time, her case is not a critical one, the fibroid needs to be removed urgently. |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by BigBrother54321: 6:56pm On Aug 13, 2025*. Modified: 6:39pm On Aug 14, 2025 |
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| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by femi4: 7:01pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
KobeMan:The fallopian tube is the real issue ...hope she didn't hide this from you |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by tomju2(m): 7:05pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
My brother. Go an adopt. First things first. Then follow other medical procedures after adoption. Or do Surrogacy! Thank me later. |
| Re: My Wife's Serious Fertility Issue Is Affecting My Mental Health by Mokole2023: 7:13pm On Aug 13, 2025 |
Kobeman! I am currently in your situation. Marriage is over 3yrs now. We even tried IVF recently and the Doctor said they couldn't find any eggs for "harvesting". Millions gone, although there were positive signs. But let me tell you: this situation is gonna mess up your mind and it will take a great deal of restraint not to resent your wife. I am an only son too, late 30s and thinking when am I gonna have my own kids and time to train them. There's a lot I can write here but this is what i did: I linked with a younger ex and she's now 6months pregnant. My mental health is now better in the house and i tend to be more loving with my wife. Although its costing me more to maintain the other lady with her pregnancy, its all worth it. I'm still supporting my wife in our own journey but i av assurance. So, it depends cos yours is still early but jumping from one clinic to another and cost of these medications might drain you. Do alot of research and keep praying! Shalom. |
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Or you don't know that stress and worry affects those who have fertility issues?