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cococandy:
I encourage women to take this route more often but I truly don’t blame the women who can’t do it. Because sometimes it doesn’t end well for the kids.

Some men will go dump your kids with a relative you can’t trust. Or bring in a stranger who won’t have their best interests at heart. That’s how kids end up molested or dead.

You are right . Children suffer in any form of divorce. It is just sad

cococandy:
I encourage women to take this route more often but I truly don’t blame the women who can’t do it. Because sometimes it doesn’t end well for the kids.

Some men will go dump your kids with a relative you can’t trust. Or bring in a stranger who won’t have their best interests at heart. That’s how kids end up molested or dead.

that may be why she could pull it in uk. there are state services that actually monitor these things.

Dzzzz:
You can see the man was right about the laziness and irresponsible character of the woman cause why leave abroad for Nigeria?..In abroad the man must pay child support so you can see the woman is irresponsible..

She was "lazy", yet she was nurturing 5 kids? Okay.
Now, the man will test and know the real definition of laziness.

While the woman was out putting her life on hold, and raising his descendants, he was out there being ungrateful.

casualobserver:
we can also see how eradication of the traditional roles of men has done to the societies in the west and the rise in gay men, single mothers etc in Nigeria.

The west is still ruling over you. You are nothing without them.

The air you breath is owned by them.


Ga' y full northern Nigeria. Its not hidden.
You get society?

Your society is filled with evil men. Men so dark in heart that when they cross a bridge,they will break it instead of allowing others to pass.
Nigeria today is a dysfunctional society.

Single motherhood is better than men who fathers other men's chikd in nigeria and pretend they are innocent. That's why when they travel,they end up in jail cos they think it's biz as usual.

This is not about gender war, a woman who loves her children will never leave them. Even if it is to prove a point.

Smartcitizen:
For you to have five children at this challenging times shows how irresponsible and useless you are.

This is just disgusting, people should take children spacing and birth control very seriously o!



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Why will you say such a thing

It's just all about financial capacity, if you have money, u are free to get 10 children

I dont think its a true story, but regardless, the children must be taken care off.


They are his children, they are her children. You love your children and will do what is good for them.

Simple

SeriouslySense:
I dont think its a true story, but regardless, the children must be taken care off.


They are his children, they are her children. You love your children and will do what is good for them.

Women have stronger mind than men in terms of relationship

descarado:
The west is still ruling over you. You are nothing without them.

The air you breath is owned by them.


Ga' y full northern Nigeria. Its not hidden.
You get society?

Your society is filled with evil men. Men so dark in heart that when they cross a bridge,they will break it instead of allowing others to pass.
Nigeria today is a dysfunctional society.

Single motherhood is better than men who fathers other men's chikd in nigeria and pretend they are innocent. That's why when they travel,they end up in jail cos they think it's biz as usual.

blocked

blaise26abj:
She took their passports too . So until he is able to apply for replacements , he cannot ship them to Naija . Wallahi that woman get sense

She ready for am gan ni!
Make she sef go vacation for Naija, go rest small.

After every, I'm sure the man will be ready to talk.
By then, im body go don calm down.

I'm sure the side-chic he wanted to run to would've fashy'd him with his "excess baggage" by now.
He thought he had sense.

Honestly, if men were more involved with their children, they wouldn't even have time/energy to look at other women.

You no get time, yet you dey do piom piom piom!

I chuckled reading this. It's good that women are going this route. I admire her audacity.

These men think raising children is a walk in the park.

Ordinary my friend's 6months baby, I almost ran mad when I visited and stayed briefly with her, she was cute and all but the stress mehnnnn.

The man said he believed the wife told the children to frustrate him.
Oga, that is a llie. You may not have bn present in the lives of those children. So, you are finding it difficult to adapt to a life you are not used to.
Men should try as matter of responsibility be fully present in the life of their children.

Don't just believe that attending to children is only for your wife. Learn how to attend to them too. Learn how to do other chores even if you are the one providing everything for the family.
Be at peace with your wife. I keep wondering how someone will not be at peace with his/her partner. How do ppl cope with that. Trouble outside. When you comes back home, war in the house.

This reminds me of one of my colleagues in the office. This guy is working in a station outside the town his wife and children live. He will join office vehicle to go and visit his family only to divert to another place only him knows. The wife started complaining that her husband do not come back home. We told her that he's granted off every weekend to travel home and he has bn traveling. The wife said she had not seen him for weeks and he doesn't pick his calls.

When we spoke to the guy about the complaint from his wife, he started behaving as if we are interfering with his personal life. We told the wife to stop calling us but find a way to settle with her husband. The was was disappointed on hearing this.

Trust women, they will always have that plan that will throw you off balance.
One early morning, the wife came unannounced to the office with the 3 children.
Behold, the guy was sitting comfortably in the office premises with one of his office crush.
The will quietly met him their and told him that he just came to know if all is well with him as she has not seen him for a while.
She told the kids to stay with their father so that she will buy something and come back to take them back home.

Madam, left and travel back home, leaving the kids with her husband.
Guy man waited and did not see his wife, he called and the wife told him that he has traveled back home and that he should take care of his children.
Lol , Guy man ran mad instantly. He wanted to shout at her on the phone, she switched of the phone on him. He tried to call and got, "the number you are calling is currently switched off". He became confused and broke down in tears. He was humbled, humiliated and confused at the same time. He started crying.

You know what, he was living in the company guestroom with other staff. There is no how he can go to that place with the children.
How will he feed the children that afternoon and night. How will he get them prepared in the morning the next day and still come to work?
Will he come to work with them in the morning or leave them wherever he will take them to that night.
The more he think of these, the more tears roll down his cheeks

He summoned courage and met us and requested that we grant him off the next day to take the kids back home. He was granted that and immediately he left, he was put on transfer to our branch located in the town where his family resides.

It's so disheartening how a man will will be detached from his family.

In addition to Toke's pregnancy news, I am proud of this mother of 5 and the female comments on this thread.

Give them!!!

Sounds like fables. If it's true, you man should go and check yourself. Look in the mirror. Get a godly counsellor. You may be the architect of your own problems without knowing it!

I read this story with only left eye because it dey too unreal🤣

What will get him stuck and drive him crazy most is if he found out later that those children are not his.

Chopbeleful100:
See what all this transgendered are saying,ok let us turn the table upside down can that woman start paying for the children upkeep

The courts decide how much is to be paid for upkeep. And it is typically based off of how much one makes/has, etc,. Contrary to aot of what you hear in male dominated circles, it isn't that much even here in the U.S, talk less of UK or Nigeria.

Kobojunkie:
https://www.msn.com/en-us/family-and-relationships/parenting/man-who-planned-on-leaving-wife-with-their-5-children-surprised-when-she-leaves-him-first/ar-AA1CURA6

I have come to understand that sometimes it pays to be a wayward father. If the guy had those traits, she wouldn't have the boldness to leave. Generally, it doesn't pay to be nice in today's world. Even in a family setting, the most responsible one gets the most responsibility.

She beat him to it and now he is crying. What type of man plans to leave five children and move out? Well, he planned to but he did not get the chance to prove to us if he meant it or was just playing tantrums with the wife. My bigger worry now is, what type of woman had the heart to leave five children without looking back? I mean she just walked and never cared or worried about them. This is the greatest height of wickedness I've ever seen. Such a woman can kill. Tụfịakwa

Smartcitizen:
For you to have five children at this challenging times shows how irresponsible and useless you are.

This is just disgusting, people should take children spacing and birth control very seriously o!



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I am wondering too. Five kids??!

casualobserver:
i find this kind of talk nauseating especially coming from a man.

the role of a man is to procreate and provide. the role of a woman is to procreate and nurture. if a woman decides to have other "dreams" outside her role, it is for her to make it work without disturbing the balance in her home.

the children belong to both parents. stop this nonsense of your children. The reality is that in life the children benefit the mother more than the father. most men end up ignored later by the wife and children in life despite having children wherasmost women end up being looked after by their children so stop this emotional gaslighting of "your children".

if you let your wife gaslight you with this "your children" nonsense by the time you find out youve been manipulated and what marraige is really about it will be too late. Most men who live to old age die miserable and with regret despite having children because they didnt prioritize themselves.

Support your wife yes but as a man dont be gaslighted into adding a role that is not yours, life is hard enough for men with little benefits or appreciation.

took me experimenting and few life reality to understand how this work. As a man, it doesn’t matter how much u labor on ur family and kids, you’re not reaching any fruit of ur labor at old age. The children will chose their mothers no matter how low effort she was. Invest in ur future as a man and only do so much. Children send their mother abroad all the time you rarely see fathers in the picture. Now they’ll tell you it’s because u didnt treat them and their mother right, they isn’t true dong let them gaslight u. I’ve seen two different life scenarios where a man who labor so much only to get nothing. The woman enjoy everything.


Invest in urself as man.

Mariangeles:
She was "lazy", yet she was nurturing 5 kids? Okay.
Now, the man will test and know the real definition of laziness.

While the woman was out putting her life on hold, and raising his descendants, he was out there being ungrateful.

What life on hold?..He wanted a divorce and she ran away but if na woman do am now,una call am “Mother of Dragons”..Abroad no be Nigeria where you can just run out of marriage..That’s why child support is there to help her..How does running back to Nigeria not show she’s irresponsible and lazy?

descarado:
Tell that to the court. This is not Nigeria.parenting is 50/50.
We can see how a man's security and financial roles have shaped Nigeria. Pathetic

We can see what single motherhood and alienating fathers and men did to the western world. Kids raised by single mothers are less successful generally than those raised by men. This is in our everyday life.

took me experimenting and few life reality to understand how this work. As a man, it doesn’t matter how much u labor on ur family and kids, you’re not reaching any fruit of ur labor at old age. The children will chose their mothers no matter how low effort she was. Invest in ur future as a man and only do so much. Children send their mother abroad all the time you rarely see fathers in the picture. Now they’ll tell you it’s because u didnt treat them and their mother right, they isn’t true dong let them gaslight u. I’ve seen two different life scenarios where a man who labor so much only to get nothing. The woman enjoy everything.

Western men have it worse the most. The only way you can live in the west without ur self worh being questioned is never procreate, never marry, do protection for urself so ur sperm don’t get to give anyone oregano and never discus this, that way u can enjoy sex without the bs that come after it. Invest in ur looks


Invest in urself as man.

Onlinetutor7:
The worst, is when they say Alright.
You see that Alright, For some it can mean "The Battle Line has been Drawn"

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Mariangeles:
She was "lazy", yet she was nurturing 5 kids? Okay.
Now, the man will test and know the real definition of laziness.

While the woman was out putting her life on hold, and raising his descendants, he was out there being ungrateful.

She ought to be paying child support to the man she left with 5 kids to feed and nurture alone.

She is a real example of an irresponsible and laid back spouse. The husband should sue her if she is eventually traced in Nigeria.

GloriousGbola:
that may be why she could pull it in uk. there are state services that actually monitor these things.

oh yea. Easier to identify and protect kids from abuse in the UK than it would be in Nigeria for sure.

pocohantas:
In addition to Toke's pregnancy news, I am proud of this mother of 5 and the female comments on this thread.

Give them!!!

It's Get them!!!! Nor change am.

appleous:
When I read to this point, laughter wan tear my belle:

"I started to have a temperature like I'm falling sick,"

I rolled on the ground till I fell into my neighbor's soup pot in the next compound.

The woman should better not return, because if she does, this man will immediately abandon the family.

Let him raise the kids.

They are his 😂😂😂

In this hard economy, the woman you fell into her soup pot should have kukuma garnish you with hot peppers and seasonings on a hot stove. Free lunch don ready be dat.

The Man shouldn't forget to go for DNA test for all the five children for him to ascertain that he's their biological father. It's possible that he's not their father.