₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
Back in the early to mid 90s, I met a pregnant 10-year-old girl when I went to spend vacation with an uncle of mine. Her mother was a full-time nurse and single mother who rarely had time to spend with her children since their dad was dead. Imagine the mother considering getting her child an abortion at that age? And in Nigeria at that?

Each child needs to be started as early as is necessary and healthy, and that is what parents are there for.

You mean a 10- year old child got pregnant?

Fab21:
➜You mean a 10- year old child got pregnant?

Yes, even 10-year-olds can get pregnant and yes, children as young as 10 need to be given sex education so they know all they need to of how to avoid getting pregnant or contracting STDS.

buttlover:
It's better than unwanted pregnancy and shame to the family. I believe their parents are aware. It's not bad, it is measures to curb shameful early child bearing without proper marriage. My worries is prolonged sexual intercourse amongst them since they know that they won't get pregnant anytime soon.

What about getting deadly sexually transmitted diseases like hiv which is even far worse?

Mrexcell:
➜What about getting deadly sexually transmitted diseases like hiv which is even far worse?

Both are bad, that is why boys and girls are also handed condoms and educated on how to use them if and whenever they decide to have sex.

Kobojunkie:
Stop telling lies for Pete's sake! 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Gosh, you people are so chuck full of misinformation that one does not even know a lot of times what the intention really is. To win arguments for the sake of it or to deceive for the sake of maintaining status quo? 😩😩😩😩

I’ve come to realize that it can be difficult to have a balanced conversation when perspectives are tied to political sentiments. For this reason, I prefer not to engage further on a matter that seems to be approached from only one angle

Kobojunkie:
The implant is specifically meant for preventing unwanted pregnancies. STDs require additional protection, and that is why both boys and guys are handed condoms to use whenever they decide to have sex.

I hope that protect them as well from emotional breakdown that follows betrayal of trust when the relationship goes south. Don't forget we are talking of children here.

saintmm:
➜I hope that protect them as well from emotional breakdown that follows betrayal of trust when the relationship goes south. Don't forget we are talking of children here.

With or without sexual protection, children are bound to experience betrayal of trust when relationships goes south.

Don't allow what is clearly stewpidity keep you from doing all you can to minimize the devastation that such an experience on your children could cause to their emotional and physical well-being.

Kobojunkie:
With or without sexual protection, children are bound to experience betrayal of trust when relationships goes south.

Don't allow what is clearly stewpidity keep you from doing all you can to minimize the devastation that such an experience on your children could cause to their emotional and physical well-being.

Train yours the way you like dooo

saintmm:
➜Train yours the way you like dooo

Well, the problem is the way you train your child impacts, not just you and the child, but all those around that child in some way. Sit down and look around at the people who cross paths with you every day. They are the sum of the mistakes and possibly successes of their upbringing.

Kobojunkie:
Well, the problem is the way you train your child impacts, not just you and the child, but all those around that child in some way. Sit down and look around at the people who cross paths with you every day. They are the sum of the mistakes and possibly successes of their upbringing.

The reason there must be minimum standard for morality, but if civility embraced gives a disdainful outlook to morality, then, no one should complain about the depravity of the society.

Some of those climes that facilitated our so-called civilization still has minimum standard that must not be crossed but if we say morality is old-school and discipline is hatred, no problem, we shall all see what our society becomes in a decade's time.

I rest my case

saintmm:
➜The reason there must be minimum standard for morality, but if civility embraced gives a disdainful outlook to morality, then, no one should complain about the depravity of the society.
Some of those climes that facilitated our so-called civilization still has minimum standard that must not be crossed but if we say morality is old-school and discipline is hatred, no problem, we shall all see what our society becomes in a decade's time.
I rest my case

. This reads like senseless gibberish! 🙄🙄🙄

What clime facilitated the having of sex with children as young as 10 and sometimes below, without regard for the emotional, psychological and physical effects on the minds and bodies of those young individuals?

Where has your standard of morality and civility been all this time, while many young people have been allowed to have sexual intercourse literally devastate their lives and futures before they have even begun?

AareGaa:
Fabricated story!

it's not.

Kobojunkie:
. This reads like senseless gibberish! 🙄🙄🙄

What clime facilitated the having of sex with children as young as 10 and sometimes below, without regard for the emotional, psychological and physical effects on the minds and bodies of those young individuals?

Where has your standard of morality and civility been all this time, while many young people have been allowed to have sexual intercourse literally devastate their lives and futures before they have even begun?

I would not have answered you but, you will think you made a point if I don't.

Firstly, real education comes with objectivity not only big grammar and yearning to be heard. I've engaged people on this forum with divergent views and they neither take it personal nor engage with insult. It was a mutual respect for each others opinions from which we both learn.
Secondly, you only give what you have, I don't have insult, so sorry, I can't insult you, what I have is objectivity and respect for other's opinion whatsoever it is and no matter how you express it. It only defines who you are to me.
Thirdly, that an evil has been going on and it's on the increase does not suddenly changes it's nomenclature to good, no matter when there's an awakening to it, it must still be called what it is and fight it appropriately.
That this particular topic only take care of a minute section of the hydra-headed issue is clear to any one that chose to see it that way.
That as a society and as a people we can choose to accept this as a menace that we must all device means of solving wholistically to save our daughters and future generations is a must.
Fourthly, has it bother you to know the high figures of people living positively, the age range and the permanent psychological effects, financial effect, physical effects that comes with such a realization...
I can go on and on but, I choose to stop here.
Meanwhile, I won't respond to you again on this topic.

Good day

erico2k2:
I think you need to read and comprehend B4 you post, I don't think you even k now what this kind of family planning entails.
Some of you have not even seen what the implant looks like and how it works.

I used jadelle implant to space my kids, and I tell you it can mess up ones system. This is a faceless forum and you just don't make assumptions about people.

In my opinion, implants are best suited for married couples who want to prevent pregnancy. In societies where girls can marry at 14, it seems acceptable for them to use these implants as well. However, for a parent to ask a medical professional to insert an implant in an unmarried teenage girl, it suggests they have failed in their parental duties and are relying on a medical device to guide their daughter.

ceeceeuwa:
I used jadelle implant to space my kids, and I tell you it can mess up ones system. This is a faceless forum and you just don't make assumptions about people.

This is why I asked that you read and understand, Nigerians we assume too much and always rush to claim morality when we do not have moral ground to push such argument 4ward.There is no one Medication on earth that does not have a side effect to it,so I'm sure that addresses your concerns to the last words i n your post.

IyaTola:
A Growing Moral Challenge Among Secondary School Girls

A disturbing incident recently occurred in a secondary school that calls for the urgent attention of parents and society at large.

A female student in SS2 committed an offense that led her teacher to discipline her. During the process, blood was unexpectedly seen dripping from her arm. She was taken to the principal’s office, where she was asked to remove her shirt.

To everyone’s shock, it was discovered that the bleeding came from an implant device lodged in her upper arm.

The implant, medically known as a contraceptive device, is designed to prevent pregnancy during sexual intercourse. Once inserted, it can remain in the body for up to three years.

Upon questioning, the student confessed that she was not the only one carrying the device. A school-wide investigation revealed that at least 40 female students were found with similar implants.

This raises critical questions:

What business does a girl under the age of 17 have with such a device?

How did these secondary school students gain access to it?

What is the role of medical practitioners inserting such devices into minors?

The implications are alarming. If left unchecked, this trend threatens the moral upbringing of children and the future of our society. Parents cannot afford to remain silent.

The Role of Parents and Society

Parents have a divine and moral duty to nurture, monitor, and guide their children. Failure to do so not only leads to societal decay but also carries accountability before God.
Equally concerning is the role of health workers who administer such implants to underage girls. By doing so, they indirectly promote immorality and compromise the values of the younger generation.

Way Forward
Parents must intensify close monitoring of their children, both at home and in school.
Open communication between parents and children on moral, religious, and social issues must be prioritized.
Community leaders, religious leaders, and schools should work together to restore discipline and moral guidance.
Where possible, girls who are of age and have responsible suitors should be encouraged to marry, as marriage helps curb immoral behavior.
What was once thought to be a challenge only among university students is now creeping into secondary schools. This calls for urgent action from parents, schools, health authorities, and society at large. The moral future of our children depends on the decisions we make today.

The Decay.!!

The Moral Decadence.!!

BluntCrazeMan:
The Decay.!!

The Moral Decadence.!!

E shock you?

IyaTola:
E shock you?

I no fit talk abbegg..

What of prolonging intercouse among them
What of other sexual disease?
Is it only pregnancy sex can cause?
What if when they are ready to get pregnant, hope it will work?

Hamachi:
I hear your frustration, but let’s also look at it from another angle.

Yes, society has its issues — corruption, immorality, parenting challenges — but that’s not the whole story. There are still young people building businesses, raising their voices for justice, choosing to live responsibly, and parents who sacrifice daily to raise children with values.

Every generation has thought the world was getting worse, but each one has also produced people who stood for what’s right. Social media isn’t only a tool for immorality — it has also spread the gospel, given opportunities to the poor, reunited families, and educated millions for free.

Instead of just lamenting, the real call is for us to model the difference we want to see. Jesus indeed makes the difference, but He does it through people who decide to live out His teachings in their homes, schools, businesses, and communities.

It’s not only “end times things”… it’s also “our time things.” What we plant now will determine what grows tomorrow.

I am forced to comment. Well written. Thumbs up

You are right for the balance.
It is a matter of the good, the bad and the ugly. What proportion is each I don't know but suspect that the % of the good is still more than the rest while it is, however, gradually shrinking because of declining morals and attendant frustrations...As Christ is disregarded more darkness sets in fulfilling the scripture...

Hamachi:
I hear your frustration, but let’s also look at it from another angle.

Yes, society has its issues — corruption, immorality, parenting challenges — but that’s not the whole story. There are still young people building businesses, raising their voices for justice, choosing to live responsibly, and parents who sacrifice daily to raise children with values.

Every generation has thought the world was getting worse, but each one has also produced people who stood for what’s right. Social media isn’t only a tool for immorality — it has also spread the gospel, given opportunities to the poor, reunited families, and educated millions for free.

Instead of just lamenting, the real call is for us to model the difference we want to see. Jesus indeed makes the difference, but He does it through people who decide to live out His teachings in their homes, schools, businesses, and communities.

It’s not only “end times things”… it’s also “our time things.” What we plant now will determine what grows tomorrow.

[quote author=Hamachi post=136546268]I understand where you’re coming from, and I respect your conservative view, but I think we need to look at this issue carefully.

First, Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) is not “organic” or safe. It is not a cultural cure for high libido, neither is it a protection for our girls. Medical experts all over the world — including doctors right here in Nigeria — have shown that FGM can cause lifelong complications: chronic pain, severe infections, difficulties during childbirth, and yes, even infertility. It’s not just “the western world” saying this; it’s African doctors, midwives, and women who have lived with the trauma.

Secondly, calling implants “foreign bodies” ignores the fact that the real issue is not the method but why teens seek them in the first place. If parents are intentional, as you rightly said, and create that strong bond with their children, then conversations about sex, choices, and consequences can happen openly. That way, the child doesn’t feel the need to hide or secretly use dangerous or unsuitable options.

Pregnancy should never be seen as a “blessing in disguise” for a teenager. A teenage pregnancy often derails education, causes emotional stress, and can trap a young girl in cycles of poverty or unhealthy relationships. Yes, some women rise above it, but for many, it closes doors that could have led to a better life.

As for contraceptives, while overuse or misuse can have side effects, modern medicine provides safer, reversible options when guided by a professional. The real solution is balanced education — teaching our daughters about their bodies, self-worth, and decision-making, while also ensuring boys are taught responsibility too.

In short, protecting our girls doesn’t mean cutting them or leaving them exposed to risky situations. It means empowering them with knowledge, guidance, and love so that they don’t have to depend on secrecy, fear, or desperation to make choices about their bodies.


Thank you for your response. It's engaging, polite, interesting and very articulated.

But you will agree with me, that he who pays the piper, dictates 90% of the tune? Our health care system in this part of the world look up to the developed world for aids. So, you can't expect those African doctors, midwives and health practitioners to tell you otherwise.

I have a medical friend, I shared my post with him. The first thing he said was...man, you goofed big time, don't you know that the new visa policy is that you have to disclose all your social media handle? What does that tell you? Indrectly, whatever one says or believe that is contrary or perceived to be anti- western beliefs will definitely affects the chances of one getting visas.

I'm not anti West. We owe them a lot for development they bring to the world. But, as a conservative minded person, what am against is demonizing other people's culture and traditions. Every practice has its merits and demerits.

Scientifically speaking, statistics has shown that circumcized women are prone to have tier during child birth more than uncircumcised women. Due to rate of dilation. That's the only proven 'cons' of female circumstitions. Others are hugwash ....our grandmother's gave birth to multiple children and had fewer case of fertility issues. In terms of infection, if it's made legal, just the way male circumstitions is done in the government approved hospitals. The infection cases won't arise.

To me, bottom line, still remains good parenting, educating and showing love and care to the girl child. Every other practice be it contraceptives, female circumstitions and what have you...has its merits and demerits. Whatever works for one, should be upheld and not demonized. Shalom