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We're Not Your Wives, Stop Using Us As Bedmates– Rev'd Sister Tells Priests, Exposes Sexual Harassment in Catholic Church

Rev’d Sr. Kinse Anastasia of Veritas University, Abuja, has raised alarm on social media, accusing some Catholic priests and church authorities of sexually harassing and maltreating Reverend Sisters.

According to her, Sisters are often demeaned and reduced to “ornaments in Habits,” treated as though their sole purpose is to satisfy priests’ desires.

She revealed that some priests even go as far as telling them that “Sisters are meant to be priests’ wives,” a claim they act upon without shame.

Anastasia also alleged that many Church leaders deliberately silence Sisters and make them vulnerable, while some superiors misuse their positions of authority.

However, she did not spare Sisters who compromise their vows, warning that such actions weaken the dignity of consecrated life.

In her words, “Religious Sisters are not priests’ wives. We are not bedmates. We are women of God. The Church must do better because God is watching.”

Religious Sisters Are Not Priests’ Wives or Bedmates

By Sr. Kinse Annastasia

Religious Sisters are not ornaments in Habits. We are not commodities for priests to use at will, nor are we mistresses in veils. We are women called by God, consecrated to service, prayer, and the mission of the Church.

Yet too often, behind stained glass windows and polished marble altars, we are treated as less. A priest once told me without shame: “Sisters are meant to be priests’ wives.” He did not say it in jest. He meant it. And he acted on it.

This is not an isolated case. Too many Sisters know the pain of being reduced to temptation instead of being respected as collaborators in Christ’s vineyard. Too many know the silent wounds of manipulation—when a cleric uses “spiritual direction” as a cover for advances, or when financial benefactors expect our dignity in exchange for support.

But it does not end there. The abuse is not only from outside. Within our own congregations, superiors sometimes wield authority as a weapon. Sisters are silenced and maltreated leaving them vulnerable to predators. Others, instead of guiding with integrity, flirt with power and position while the rest are crushed under obedience without justice. We see this and stay silent.

And let me be equally clear: to those Sisters who abandon their vows for promiscuity—whether to gain favor, material advantage, or pleasure—you too wound the Body of Christ. You weaken the prophetic witness of consecrated life and betray the very dignity we demand from the world. It is betrayal from within, and it hands the enemies of truth more reasons to sneer at our vocation.

The scandal is not only in the sin itself, but in the silence that protects it. A Church that preaches purity while tolerating the defilement of its consecrated women is a Church that mocks its own Gospel.

I write this, not out of hatred for the Church but I love my Church too much to stay silent. Such silence has never protected the innocent it only feeds the wolves.

Religious Sisters are not priests’ wives I say again. We are not bedmates. We are not bargaining tickets used to gain benefactors for the community. We are women of God, and until the Church begins to honour this truth, it will continue to rot from within.

To those priests, I say: your vocation does not give you ownership over ours. To superiors, I say this: authority is not a license for cruelty. To Sisters, I say: fidelity is not optional—it is the very soul of our consecration. And to the Church I still love dearly, I cry: Do better because God is watching.

And finally, I make this pledge: provide a better platform and a safe channel for reporting abuse without intimidation, and I promise to delete my personal Facebook account and work wholeheartedly with such an organization. Because we do not seek scandal or validation, likes or comments—we seek truth, justice, and dignity in the house of God.

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Whether priests bed sisters or not, I don't think this post is real. No Reverend Sister will come out to make this kind of comment unless she has lost her brain.

I don't mean to say that priests are not sleeping with women or Reverend Sisters. Priests might actually be committing that very sin. But my point is that, if this post is real, this reverend sister should mention the priests that try to bed her.

Kobicove:
Sometimes when a person gets repeatedly violated it gets to a point when he/she just damns the consequences and fights back!

Let her fight effectively. Failing to identify the perpetrators only amounts to noise and false victimisation of innocent priests. Announcing that some priests bed sisters makes every priest a suspect because the guilty ones are not identified. It also makes the public suspect that every sister sleeps with a priest.

Body no be firewood, it need rest and enjoyment sometimes. We cannot deceive ourselves

🤭
I’m not sure I have 40 words to describe how this makes me feel 🤭

Normal normal, some of this sisters sexy die. Glowing skin, neat, they too sweet, God when 😩.
It just biological response, nothing else. I am presently cabling a choir band member now 😎

immortalcrown:
Weather priests bed sisters or not, I don't think this post is real. No Reverend Sister will come out to make this kind of comment unless she has lost her brain.

I don't mean to say that priests are not sleeping with women or Reverend Sisters. Priests might actually be committing that very sin. But my point is that, if this post is real, this reverend sister should mention the priests that try to bed her or that have bedded her.

Sometimes when a person gets repeatedly violated it gets to a point when he/she just damns the consequences and fights back!

Many are called, few are chosen.


The day of judgment will be very interesting!

immortalcrown:
Weather priests bed sisters or not, I don't think this post is real. No Reverend Sister will come out to make this kind of comment unless she has lost her brain.

I don't mean to say that priests are not sleeping with women or Reverend Sisters. Priests might actually be committing that very sin. But my point is that, if this post is real, this reverend sister should mention the priests that try to bed her or that have bedded her.

Are you a member of the Catholic Church bro?
Be honest.

Any body who doesn’t receive a divine calling and forced himself or herself into this ministry will just be an instrument of the devil.

For this same LA a priest molested a young girl, and when the parents took it up, members of the parish became hostile with them to drop the case. The thing be say, like the first comment, Catholics are blinded, they could see every evident that a priest commits sexual abuse and go ahead to criticize the parents of the victim for taking up the case to court. In the 1980s if I'm not wrong Pope John Paul the second paid close to $5billion to cover sexual abuse cases pertaining to Catholic priests. Later in 1983 when the money was getting too high and the priests wouldn't stop telling young girls that it appeals the lord to do whatever his priest ask of them, then he signed a Canon law that says whoever is caught in the act would go in personally for it. So what the sister is saying is true, theirs is a minor case. Na the underage own and alter girls own the pain pass. Any seminary school student in the room go confirm am, e get code way them the call that law.

Very bad,

No Catholic Rev. Sis will come out to say this to the media. Op should lie with shame.

I'm speechless actually I don't have what to comment. I just want to help seun to get his 40 characters so he can cash out.

Bye bye

Kobicove:
Sometimes when a person gets repeatedly violated it gets to a point when he/she just damns the consequences and fights back!

Violated what your meaning of violation, i see no violation in the post

Please call out the name of those Randy priests, make shame catch everybody...


If you like woman, chase woman, if you wanna be a priest, be a priest, no body forced them laa

Kobicove:
Sometimes when a person gets repeatedly violated it gets to a point when he/she just damns the consequences and fights back!

Let her fight effectively. Failing to identify the perpetrators only amounts to noise.

KosiGee:
Are you a member of the Catholic Church bro?
Be honest.

Why this question? Can't a person be rational and logical without being a member of the Roman Catholic?

Mention name please. Stop hiding criminals and making baseless argument.
This might be cruise. I don't trust social media nowadays

The people who I really empathise with are those who still take organised religion seriously. It's all a damn scam, and thankfully, people's eyes are being opened to see the light.

This reminds me of that old Nollywood movie, "Beyond the Vow". This is not a news at all, it is an open secret

nothing dey there

The desire for sweet pain by both men and women of God really needs to be scrutinized by who ever is intrested.

The human mind and body is wired for sex and procreation.
You can't fight it no matter how hard you try.

immortalcrown:
Weather priests bed sisters or not, I don't think this post is real. No Reverend Sister will come out to make this kind of comment unless she has lost her brain.

I don't mean to say that priests are not sleeping with women or Reverend Sisters. Priests might actually be committing that very sin. But my point is that, if this post is real, this reverend sister should mention the priests that try to bed her.

Bro, they are always rebels everywhere. It's like saying soldiers can't come out to call out generals when they know they can be court martial and sent to death or life imprisonment.

Some Rev sisters self go don tire for the work.

I know of a priest who went abroad and got married to his sweetheart,later he was pardoned by cardinal okogie to leave the priesthood.

But seriously how can someone who stands at God's altar and preach knowing fully well you're doing what you're preaching against,and how can you date a man confidently knowing he's a priest.

From what this lady is saying no matter how people say she's might just be catching cruise I believe her but I know it's not all of them that behave this way.
There are still good ones out there.

I've been waiting for one of them to speak up. You see fornication? It's man greatest downfall. If you can deal with it as a man, you will be highly respected

As someone who has worked as a church security in a Catholic church, I know the things I have seen.... These reverend fathers especially the young ones are very Randy but on a coded level.
I no go lie, e get one reverend sister wey been enter me eye during the time I dey work for there.
The sister set die, if she been give me green light I for no refuse.

With the big heavy, soft round yansh some of una dey hide under that garments ...I no blame the priests 🥱

Apparently, this isn't only in Nigeria or the Catholic Church, or the Christian body.

Monks in Thailand are trending for same indulgence.

There'll always be a judas of imperfection amongst the saints.

I think if some Catholic priests can’t keep their vow, they can switch to Anglican or Methodist …. Just any other Orthodox Church and become priests … the others give you room to marry …. But lust is the root of it all …

You might be married, but another woman go Dey hungry you

You won't escape sexxual urge till you are above fifty years of age to say the least.

Thirty's and Fortys period are the most intense.

I laughed so hard when i saw a young boy's post on here recently where he stated he won't have seexx nor mastvrbate till he'll leave earth bla bla bla😂

I laughed so much at his authentic ignorance😂