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Last week a story trended where a man complained that his wife refused him to bring his mother home for proper care.

His wife insisted that his mother should be cared for by his sisters.

This poses a question, "who should care for an aged parent?"

AGED MOTHER

Anyone can care for an aged parent if the sickness is mild.

But if it's so serious that she (aged mother) messes up herself, her daughter should care for her.

It will be very unfair for a man to have to clean up his sick aged mother, when there are daughters in the family.

It's also unfair to his wife if he delegates the care to her, because he has sisters that should be responsible for that.

If he doesn't have sisters, the next best option should be to get his mom a female carer and put the carer under strict supervision.

It's only if he can't afford a carer, and he doesn't have sisters, that we can see his wife as being unfair for refusing to care for his mother.

In short, if he has sisters, that's actually an act of gross irresponsibility on their part.

This is what the holy book meant when it said, "anyone who cannot care for his/her household is worse than an infidel."

"But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers" 1 Timothy 5: 8.

We know that many people are in the habits of making this quote in relations to men providing for their wife, but that's completely out of context.

You can verify from 1 Timothy 5: 3-8.

Saint Paul actually said those words, referring to the importance of one taking care of their vulnerable loved ones.

According to him, young people (male or females) still have strength, so they should go and work.

And any one of them who refuses to work should not eat. 2 Thessalonians 3: 10 - 13.

But pertaining older people, Saint Paul recommended that their family should care for them.

It doesn't matter whether or not the person is your father, mother, uncle, or auntie.

For how can you say you are a believer (a lover of God), when you can't show your relatives an iota of that same love.

That's why Saint Paul concluded that you are worse than an infidel if you fail to care for your aged and vulnerable loved ones.

So in the case of the story that trended last week, the onion is on that man's sisters to care for their mother.

He should let his wife breathe.

It is well, maybe the mother was. Ad to the wife b4 the sickness start, because many mothers in-law see dem sefs as demigods

DeDonniesHomes:
Last week a story trended where a man complained that his wife refused him to bring his mother home for proper care.

His wife insisted that his mother should be cared for by his sisters.

This poses a question, "who should care for an aged parent?"

AGED MOTHER

Anyone can care for an aged parent if the sickness is mild.

But if it's so serious that she (aged mother) messes up herself, her daughter should care for her.

It will be very unfair for a man to have to clean up his sick aged mother, when there are daughters in the family.

It's also unfair to his wife if he delegates the care to her, because he has sisters that should be responsible for that.

If he doesn't have sisters, the next best option should be to get his mom a female carer and put the carer under strict supervision.

It's only if he can't afford a carer, and he doesn't have sisters, that we can see his wife as being unfair for refusing to care for his mother.

In short, if he has sisters, that's actually an act of gross irresponsibility on their part.

This is what the holy book meant when it said, "anyone who cannot care for his/her household is worse than an infidel."

"But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers" 1 Timothy 5: 8.

We know that many people are in the habits of making this quote in relations to men providing for their wife, but that's completely out of context.

You can verify from 1 Timothy 5: 3-8.

Saint Paul actually said those words, referring to the importance of one taking care of their vulnerable loved ones.

According to him, young people (male or females) still have strength, so they should go and work.

And any one of them who refuses to work should not eat. 2 Thessalonians 3: 10 - 13.

But pertaining older people, Saint Paul recommended that their family should care for them.

It doesn't matter whether or not the person is your father, mother, uncle, or auntie.

For how can you say you are a believer (a lover of God), when you can't show your relatives an iota of that same love.

That's why Saint Paul concluded that you are worse than an infidel if you fail to care for your aged and vulnerable loved ones.

So in the case of the story that trended last week, the onion is on that man's sisters to care for their mother.

He should let his wife breathe.

Perfectly correct 💯
Once again you have judged correctly.

DeDonniesHomes:
➜Last week a story trended where a man complained that his wife refused him to bring his mother home for proper care. His wife insisted that his mother should be cared for by his sisters. This poses a question, "who should care for an aged parent?"
AGED MOTHER - Anyone can care for an aged parent if the sickness is mild. But if it's so serious that she (aged mother) messes up herself, her daughter should care for her. It will be very [b]unfair for a man to have to clean up his sick aged mother, when there are daughters in the family. [/b]
➜It's also unfair to his wife if he delegates the care to her, because he has sisters that should be responsible for that. If he doesn't have sisters, the next best option should be to get his mom a female carer and put the carer under strict supervision.
➜It's only if he can't afford a carer, and he doesn't have sisters, that we can see his wife as being unfair for refusing to care for his mother. In short, if he has sisters, that's actually an act of gross irresponsibility on their part.
➜This is what the holy book meant when it said, "anyone who cannot care for his/her household is worse than an infidel." "But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers" 1 Timothy 5: 8. We know that many people are in the habits of making this quote in relations to men providing for their wife, but that's completely out of context.

You pretend you care about fairness when you decide that even when a woman has sons, it should be the daughters alone caring for their mother. How come? Do you somehow not understand the concept of fairness or something?

2. Why should a man delegate the care of his own mother to a woman he does not intend to adequately compensate for such labor? Who will care for her own mother if and when she is busy caring for another person's mother —supposing her husband does not pay her enough to ensure she is at least able to hire good care for her own mother?

Even in the case that he has sisters, he should not be able to get away from taking care of what is his own mother. There are daughters out there caring for what are their own fathers. Why then can you pretend sons should not be allowed to care for their own mothers?

3. Stop trying to use religion to mask what is clearly unfair and biased treatment as fairness!

The verse you conveniently lifted out of context from a book directed at a bloodline that has nothing to do with the Nigerian one you pretend to argue in context says absolutely nothing about the crazy judgment you made here. 🥱🥱🥱

@dollytino4real

I think many women contend with one another too often. They also contend with men a lot. They are too quick to assume someone wants to trample on their rights. Too many of them have a good sense of rights, and a poor sense of responsibilities. That's why they see submission as slavery.

Some of their parents and siblings did worse things to their husbands, but he moved on like nothing happened. This goes a long way to show that many women are very vindictive.

But that is not the case here.

Imagine your wife brought her sick dad to your house for you to be packing his poop and cleaning him up when she has brothers that should do that.

Isn't that obviously unfair?

@Felimax

Thank you so much, chief.

@Kobojunkie

I understand you might not be a Christian, or maybe you a Christian fanatic; that's fine. But dropping your submission in such derogatory manner is not okay.

A man's support for his sick mom should be largely financial and emotional.

Isn't it shameful that a man will have to be washing his sick mom's privates when he has sisters. What sort of sisters are they! Obviously, irresponsible!

I don't want to believe that's the kind of lady you are.

DeDonniesHomes:
@Kobojunkie

I understand you might not be a Christian, or maybe you a Christian fanatic; that's fine. But dropping your submission in such derogatory manner is not okay.

A man's support for his sick mom should be largely financial and emotional.

Isn't it shameful that a man will have to be washing his sick mom's privates when he has sisters. What sort of sisters are they! Obviously, irresponsible!

I don't want to believe that's the kind of lady you are.

That guy/lady is a bot. Bros ignore him/her.I believe he/she just wants to be controversial, even if his/her logic lacks common sense. Don't waste your strength abeg.

All these nonsense woke mentality. How can a son be washing his sick mum body when he has grown up sisters as well. The same way it won't be nice as a son to be there while your sister is fixing your dad's catheter because he has prostate issues.

If both son and daughter are inexperienced or can't do it, the best bet is to look for a professional, be it doctor, nurse or caregiver to do the job, otherwise, there are some things that common sense should let us know, unless we are in a situation looking very dire and urgent
, then any gender should handle the situation.

DeDonniesHomes:
.✓I understand you might not be a Christian, or maybe you a Christian fanatic; that's fine. But dropping your submission in such derogatory manner is not okay.
✓ A man's support for his sick mom should be largely financial and emotional. Isn't it shameful that a man will have to be washing his sick mom's privates when he has sisters. What sort of sisters are they! Obviously, irresponsible!
✓ I don't want to believe that's the kind of lady you are.

You created a thread to clearly insult our intelligence by pretending your biased opinion there, which suggests that the burden of care should lie solely on women, is somehow justified, but also sanctioned by a book which says absolutely nothing of what you claimed. How much more derogatory can that get?

2. It is not shameful for a woman to wash a man, but somehow it is shameful for a man to wash a woman? Do you even understand what you imply by this question of yours?

Is it equally shameful for a man to bathe his own daughters?

3. I actually think it is sick that you think a man cannot be trusted --- his third leg can't be trusted --- with handling the body of his own mother and probably his own daughter, given the religious air you intended to create around all of this in your OP.

Okay. Now I understand that you either lack the ability to assimilate, or you are projecting your horrible and corrupt thoughts on the post. Thanks for your input.

Abegi, get outtahere! 🥱🥱🥱