₦airaland Forum

👉 My advice: For now, stay calm but act wisely. Reach out to her family or someone close who can mediate. Keep your focus on your baby’s safety and your peace of mind.

musa234:
Epistles of a finished man. They have been preaching all day for you guys to avoid single mother. Singles mothers are a big red flag. Dont pity any single mother because you will suffer

some go still think say na whining. I thought oh my own would be different. Shege wey I see ehn. I thank God say she no carry belle pin for my neck. God forbid I have anything to do with single mothers again. Tufiakwa if I hear say you be single mother, I go disappear as if I was never there with you🤣🤣🤣😂 if you as a guy who is currently involved with one still see this post still they say your own will be different, please when the shege starts make sure to update us. Most single mothers are manipulative, selfish, wicked, gaslighters, chronic liars and cheats. I don warn you, yes you wey won commit to single mom (not widows, even dawan get as e be. Just stay away from them) you go hear ween!

Nairaland for the sake of justice and fairness, please allow members to do group calls. I get plenty to say...

Tenrack:
some go still think say na whining. I thought oh my own would be different. Shege wey I see ehn. I thank God say she no carry belle pin for my neck. God forbid I have anything to do with single mothers again. Tufiakwa if I hear say you be single mother, I go disappear as if I was never there with you🤣🤣🤣😂 if you as a guy who is currently involved with one still see this post still they say your own will be different, please when the shege starts make sure to update us. Most single mothers are manipulative, selfish, wicked, gaslighters, chronic liars and cheats. I don warn you, yes you wey won commit to single mom (not widows, even dawan get as e be. Just stay away from them) you go hear ween!

My brother. I get first hand update on single mothers. Run for your life if you hear say a girl na single mother. Run as far as your legs can carry you..Run! Run! RUN!!

musa234:
My brother. I get first hand update on single mothers. Run for your life if you hear say a girl na single mother. Run as far as your legs can carry you..Run! Run! RUN!!

who no go no go understand

A fool deserves no advice

Austinbiggy:
Last year I met a girl who she claimed to be a nice girl, I was having a good intention of settling down with her not when she told me she has two son elsewhere. I was like two son but she told me the father of the two children are not dating but the children are with their father people.

We started in a good tone but not when she took in for me, she gave me condition that I am going to see her parents and also be responsible for her two children and I said over my dead body. I told her I can go and see your parents but I will not be responsible for your two children and she said we need to remove the pregnancy and I said no problem. She claimed to remove the pregnancy but all the drugs didn't work but when I took the responsibility of keeping the child she was so excited.

Since the day she gave birth everything about her change towards me, when she was staying with her former Guy, she took the two children and ran away from the man but when she discovered she can no longer handle the bill of the children she returns it to the man and the man took the children and returned them to her sister. The former Guy sister has been the one taking care of the two children.

Now, the two children came to visit their father for holiday now my wife left my house and go and see the children and hide my own child saying she doesn't want the children to know she has given birth. I have been having issues with her concerning the children, now the father of the children said she don't have business with her.

Guess what happened today, my wife knows very well that I am too attached with my four months baby, she took my baby and park her things and ran away from my house and my baby is just four months. I don't know her where about. People are saying I should calm down but I can't sleep. I met her former Guy and the guy told me she's a big fool, that she supposed to be happy that she see a man who accepts her even after giving birth for two. I don't really know what to do.

Your wife ke? Abi your girlfriend??

I won't even judge you cos everyone makes mistakes but we will live with the consequences. My story is similar just that i was not stupid enough to marry her, maybe na why she hates me so much. She has given birth to one before and my son with her is like 3yrs

I know wetin my eyes de see for her hand. She is in total control, does how she likes concerning matters of my son. I don't even stress again.

Before i de always do my son my son but when i stopped all that and told her she is free to even take him and not make me see him if she wishes, that was the day power comot her hand

When people say pikin go always find him papa when he don grow no be lie

Stop crying about your son. That's the power she has and the one you gave her. Pretend you don't care much. Just tell her what you would be sending for upkeep and make sure you keep receipts.

Also reconsider that marriage cos it may cost you your life sir. I know what i am saying. I have nothing against single mothers but they are one of the most dangerous, ungrateful, self victimized and manipulative people on earth.

Face your life, concentrate, reconsider that marriage and move on.

Threedoorsdown:
I won't even judge you cos everyone makes mistakes but we will live with the consequences. My story is similar just that i was not stupid enough to marry her, maybe na why she hates me so much. She has given birth to one before and my son with her is like 3yrs

I know wetin my eyes de see for her hand. She is in total control, does how she likes concerning matters of my son. I don't even stress again.

Before i de always do my son my son but when i stopped all that and told her she is free to even take him and not make me see him if she wishes, that was the day power comot her hand

When people say pikin go always find him papa when he don grow no be lie

Stop crying about your son. That's the power she has and the one you gave her. Pretend you don't care much. Just tell her what you would be sending for upkeep and make sure you keep receipts.

Also reconsider that marriage cos it may cost you your life sir. I know what i am saying. I have nothing against single mothers but they are one of the most dangerous, ungrateful, self victimized and manipulative people on earth.

Face your life, concentrate, reconsider that marriage and move on.

Bro you said it all, how I wish I know she's like this I won't have push further. Since she left my house with my child, I can eat well, a big peace of mind. I always think what she's going to eat because she's breastfeeding my child but I save money now. Her friend told her she can do without me and she park my food stuff and baby things and ran away. I have not called her since she left because am sure wherever she is she is fine.
My Mom is worried about her well-being but we have told her not to worry. She wants to separate me away from my family that are even supporting me in terms of financial support and she don't want to hear anything about her own family. She's not close to her Mom not any member of her family. My eyes 👀 are open bro. I will never fall in love with a single mother anymore. My child is just four months and she knew we can not drag the baby from her and she feels she's the boss. Let her have the freedom but I will never send her money for upkeep because that's what she is looking for and her friend told her we have money.

70 years old man. How many times will we tell you people that Nigeria is not for you

Pupanchie:
How many times are we going to warn you people to desist from single mothers, you won't hear, oga face ur consequences

stay away from single mothers or get your life ruined.

SINGLE MOTHERS GO RUIN YOU. yet they won't hear.

Austinbiggy:
Bro you said it all, how I wish I know she's like this I won't have push further. .

You are on nairaland.....u cannot say u don't know..... There is no month someone will not warn Boyz about this issue

Austinbiggy:
Bro you said it all, how I wish I know she's like this I won't have push further. Since she left my house with my child, I can eat well, a big peace of mind. I always think what she's going to eat because she's breastfeeding my child but I save money now. Her friend told her she can do without me and she park my food stuff and baby things and ran away. I have not called her since she left because am sure wherever she is she is fine.
My Mom is worried about her well-being but we have told her not to worry. She wants to separate me away from my family that are even supporting me in terms of financial support and she don't want to hear anything about her own family. She's not close to her Mom not any member of her family. My eyes 👀 are open bro. I will never fall in love with a single mother anymore. My child is just four months and she knew we can not drag the baby from her and she feels she's the boss. Let her have the freedom but I will never send her money for upkeep because that's what she is looking for and her friend told her we have money.

You have done well bro but please send her money for upkeep ( it is for your child not her) and make it clear to her that whatever money you send is for your child. Keep receipts intact or always put narration when sending so you can have evidence later

This way she can never say you abandoned your child.

Austinbiggy:
Last year I met a girl who she claimed to be a nice girl, I was having a good intention of settling down with her not when she told me she has two son elsewhere. I was like two son but she told me the father of the two children are not dating but the children are with their father people.

We started in a good tone but not when she took in for me, she gave me condition that I am going to see her parents and also be responsible for her two children and I said over my dead body. I told her I can go and see your parents but I will not be responsible for your two children and she said we need to remove the pregnancy and I said no problem. She claimed to remove the pregnancy but all the drugs didn't work but when I took the responsibility of keeping the child she was so excited.

Since the day she gave birth everything about her change towards me, when she was staying with her former Guy, she took the two children and ran away from the man but when she discovered she can no longer handle the bill of the children she returns it to the man and the man took the children and returned them to her sister. The former Guy sister has been the one taking care of the two children.

Now, the two children came to visit their father for holiday now my wife left my house and go and see the children and hide my own child saying she doesn't want the children to know she has given birth. I have been having issues with her concerning the children, now the father of the children said she don't have business with her.

Guess what happened today, my wife knows very well that I am too attached with my four months baby, she took my baby and park her things and ran away from my house and my baby is just four months. I don't know her where about. People are saying I should calm down but I can't sleep. I met her former Guy and the guy told me she's a big fool, that she supposed to be happy that she see a man who accepts her even after giving birth for two. I don't really know what to do.

Funny man. So you went all the way by going to see her former guy. What did you gain from the outcome?That was immature. Since you can't take care of her two kids. The least you could have done is stay away from her entanglement wahala and focus on caring for her and her baby.

From your post, I can deduce that you've been verbally and emotionally abusive towards this lady, hence her reason for running away. If you could still find her attractive after 2 kids, the least you could have done is respect her and respect yourself.

I wish she would learn to be alone after all this drama. Sue you both for child support and focus on focus on getting her life back. So were you expecting this lady not to visit her kids because she now has a child for you or are you saying she can't go see her kids without carrying your child. Guy, it is your responsibility to see to your child whenever she visits her other kids. It is called 'common sense'. She can choose whether to go with your child or not. It is a choice that shouldn't be forced down her throat. Her kids are not a threat to your life or your child. Let this lady be.

Guy, sorry to say, you need some growing up to do. This is not an insult please.

Divaan:
Funny man. So you went all the way by going to see her former guy. What did you gain from the outcome?That was immature. Since you can't take care of her two kids. The least you could have done is stay away from her entanglement wahala and focus on caring for her and her baby.

From your post, I can deduce that you've been verbally and emotionally abusive towards this lady, hence her reason for running away. If you could still find her attractive after 2 kids, the least you could have done is respect her and respect yourself.

I wish she would learn to be alone after all this drama. Sue you both for child support and focus on focus on getting her life back. So were you expecting this lady not to visit her kids because she now has a child for you or are you saying she can't go see her kids without carrying your child. Guy, it is your responsibility to see to your child whenever she visits her other kids. It is called 'common sense'. She can choose whether to go with your child or not. It is a choice that shouldn't be forced down her throat. Her kids are not a threat to your life or your child. Let this lady be.

Guy, sorry to say, you need some growing up to do. This is not an insult please.

You were actually making sense for your self but I don't see you be on my shoe. I pray you jam a single mother and you will learn the trauma that am facing. Just like what you said I should let her be. Am happy I have let her be but am regaining my strength back. You said I meant her ex but always asked questions why she left her ex. What she did to me is what she did to her ex so don't just conclude and judge someone. Thanks for your advice

Why stressing yourself? Move on before she makes you loose your sanity.