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Bigchris01:
Every one is dropping their opinions about what the man did but have you asked yourselves why a man will leave his wife and buy a car for a woman outside? There’s something wrong somewhere

Yes, the man is not faithful to the vows he took on his wedding day. Simple and short.

See how she's dishing out lies as if we are mumu and don't reason. If you investigated well, she has never given that man peace. Infact fear any woman like this that come out on social Media to play victim.

Samantha125:
If she's a thorn, the divorce her and move on with your life, simple as that...🤷🤷🤷

You just singled out one of the points I wrote and replied to that.

What then happens to the point where I said she should go out and work if she wants a car. Does marriage automatically means that she would be entitled to the man's money/assets?
Marriage does not suffice for work. Whatever a person wants in life, they should work for it and not expect it from their spouse simply because they are married.

wizod:
You're right my brother. I had issues with my wife in 2023 and she left my house. During the time of the problem, I met and proposed to another Lady who accepted my proposal, she knew I am married with kids.

In other words, you commited adultery....and you betrayed your wife and children

As for issues with your wife...haven't you heard of the word counselling? Did you meet your pastor? Family members to make her see reason? Have you since you got married checked yourself and improved your manner of responding to things? Annoyances will come in any marriage, but you have the power to respond to them

Teymanhenry:
Are you married? If not then you are not speaking out of experience. Most men buy cars for thier wives. And let me give you reasons why some cheating men buy/rent houses for thier GFs. It's because they would have the privacy of visiting these girls at anytime. And one thing is certain, he'll have sex whenever he comes. She'll never deny him. Not even once.

Personally, I think any African rich man who wants to marry more than one wife is free to do so. Instead of hiding everyday with different girls all around. Since he's got the resources to make them happy. No wahala

I agree with the bold, but many of these women wouldn't agree with it. Besides, some ethnic groups and Christianity (even though it wasn't stated) frown at polygamy.

That said, the side chic model benefits men as polygamy requires responsibility for the new woman and her child(ren). Why pay for the milk when the cow is free?

nairalanda1:
Yes, the man is not faithful to the vows he took on his wedding day. Simple and short.

Far from it

The comments of some above me justifies the white man's notion that blacks can never be much different from troops of chimpanzees in the African jungles.
Imagine "sane" people justifying the op's husband's mistreatment of her,forgetting that there are men that are naturally cruel to their own family members but good to outsiders.
In my Igbo language, we call them "Okammma n'ilo.
There are families where such nasty traits run deep in the bloodline.

Bigchris01:
Far from it

Being faithful to one's vows means a man not buying car for side chick or even having side chick or woman buying car for her toyboy or even having a toyboy.

You have never been married, and you probably are not religious, so....

Onyiiobi7735:
The comments of some above me justifies the white man's notion that blacks can never be much different from troops of chimpanzees in the African jungles.
Imagine "sane" people justifying the op's husband's mistreatment of her,forgetting that there are men that are naturally cruel to their own family members but good to outsiders.
In my Igbo language, we call them "Okammma n'ilo.
There are families where such nasty traits run deep in the bloodline.

White people do the same. Where do you think the concept of sexual liberation came from?

nairalanda1:
White people do the same. Where do you think the concept of sexual liberation came from?

You have a point there, though.

Kobojunkie:
I am shocked you still regard him as your husband, assuming this tale is real in her case. 🙄🙄

Clearly, you are the wife material/good wife/submissive wife your husband settled for to build a home for his sake, while his side-chick is the woman of his dreams, whom he maintains and builds up.

but what if it was the lady that bought the car from him?

[quote author=Samantha125 post=136703148]Some women are just too nice and innocent... If it was me, I'd neither confront the husband, the side chick, or post it online... But I'd instead sit down and play a game of chess and by the time I say checkmate, I'd make sure that he's getting admitted into psychiatric hospital while I play the role of a concerned wife... He'd think his village people are after him...

Na you go suffer am I swear..my advice is for her to do her thing and continue to look after her children so far he's doing his responsibility as father and husband

When you give your husband hell at home that’s what you get. I can do the same thing as man. I value my peace of mind a lot and won’t hold no boundaries to make my self happy. WOMEN LEARN TO GIVE YOUR MEN PEACE, RESOLVE EVERY OUTSIDING LIKE YOU GOT NO CHIOCE, DONT STARVE YOUR HUSBAND OF SEX OR FOOD JUST BECAUSE OF ISSUES THAT ARE MEARNT TO BE SETTLE. Know these and know peace.

segyoms:
Na you go suffer am I swear..my advice is for her to do her thing and continue to look after her children so far he's doing his responsibility as father and husband

And when he picks up STI, especially HIV from the side chick and passes it on to his wife?

mclloyd22:
When you give your husband hell at home that’s what you get. I can do the same thing as man. I value my peace of mind a lot and won’t hold no boundaries to make my self happy. WOMEN LEARN TO GIVE YOUR MEN PEACE, RESOLVE EVERY OUTSIDING LIKE YOU GOT NO CHIOCE, DONT STARVE YOUR HUSBAND OF SEX OR FOOD JUST BECAUSE OF ISSUES THAT ARE MEARNT TO BE SETTLE. Know these and know peace.

Yap, and at the end of the day, when wife gives husband hell at home, time for the counselling. If it don't work, there is a legal process called DIVORCE.

nairalanda1:
Yap, and at the end of the day, when wife gives husband hell at home, time for the counselling. If it don't work, there is a legal process called DIVORCE.

Until the divorce date. Let’s get side chicken a car first while we prepare

Can't you buy for yourself a car? Haba. all of you want a rich man just so you can reap from where you didn't sow. Later you come online to cry, how men are this and that.

Gerrard59:
I agree with the bold, but many of these women wouldn't agree with it. Besides, some ethnic groups and Christianity (even though it wasn't stated) frown at polygamy.

That said, the side chic model benefits men as polygamy requires responsibility for the new woman and her child(ren). Why pay for the milk when the cow is free?

😂 The person paying for the milk isn't complaining. And some cows get coconut head

Caaz:
Never underestimate the power of a good gidin. Understanding wife award of the year goes to this woman



Person wey she suppose don arrange with boys,collect that car go ngbuka market dismantle the car and sell ham as scrab.

What makes her understanding? Una no dey buy car for husbands all these liabilities and entitled women? If you buy car for your husband will you kpai? It must be the man until he dies and you start shouting nobody is assisting me and my kids as if someone is meant to assist you after you have killed the man with pressure if life.

Kobojunkie:
I am shocked you still regard him as your husband, assuming this tale is real in her case. 🙄🙄

Clearly, you are the wife material/good wife/submissive wife your husband settled for to build a home for his sake, while his side-chick is the woman of his dreams, whom he maintains and builds up.

Use your money and buy a car for yourself since it's easy and you are not a wife materiel .

Kobojunkie:
I am shocked you still regard him as your husband, assuming this tale is real in her case. 🙄🙄

Clearly, you are the wife material/good wife/submissive wife your husband settled for to build a home for his sake, while his side-chick is the woman of his dreams, whom he maintains and builds up.

Use your money and buy a car for yourself since it's easy and you are not a wife materiel . Buying car is not gender based

Kobojunkie:
I am shocked you still regard him as your husband, assuming this tale is real in her case. 🙄🙄

Clearly, you are the wife material/good wife/submissive wife your husband settled for to build a home for his sake, while his side-chick is the woman of his dreams, whom he maintains and builds up.

Use your money and buy a car for yourself since it's easy and you are not a wife materiel . Buying car is not gender based ...

[quote author=JovialJune post=136708285][/quote]He would be the Village Headmaster Of Idiots..

Still struggling to understand why Nigerian women act like leaving terrible men is rocket science. I mean I get it but at the same time I don’t.

ExudeLoveToAll:
What makes her understanding? Una no dey buy car for husbands all these liabilities and entitled women? If you buy car for your husband will you kpai? It must be the man until he dies and you start shouting nobody is assisting me and my kids as if someone is meant to assist you after you have killed the man with pressure if life.

Some biles you ve got stored there......mind sharing your story?

Samantha125:
Some women are just too nice and innocent... If it was me, I'd neither confront the husband, the side chick, or post it online... But I'd instead sit down and play a game of chess and by the time I say checkmate, I'd make sure that he's getting admitted into psychiatric hospital while I play the role of a concerned wife... He'd think his village people are after him...

if nah you wetin you go do. Chochocho

Kobojunkie:
You clearly hate these submissive women for you to give such advice to this one whose husband literally flaunts his disloyalty towards her! 😶😶😶😶

Has it occurred to you that the man would actually have sold the car to the said lady. What evidence do you have that the he gave out the car as gift?

Have you asked if the man has enough resources to maintain 2 cars?

If the man had left the car for the wife, would the wife be able to keep the car running without dumping additional burden on the man?

Why is it difficult to tell your own gender to work towards buying her own car or is it a taboo?

Why do you find it difficult to reason intelligently?

What's the duty of a man in a marriage?

seanblaise:
You just singled out one of the points I wrote and replied to that.

What then happens to the point where I said she should go out and work if she wants a car. Does marriage automatically means that she would be entitled to the man's money/assets?
Marriage does not suffice for work. Whatever a person wants in life, they should work for it and not expect it from their spouse simply because they are married.

Me suffer? Okay...🤣🤣🤣[quote author=segyoms post=136727583][/quote]