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My guys I just wanted to know if this is normal for a man. I travelled to Nija for 10 days to see my mum after two years and my father inlaw who has just survived cancer. During my time away, when konji kicks in, i will call my wife on video call so we can do normal for video, show me yansh i go touch myself till i throway, when it comes to her turn to throway, she go sey she dey alright, that shes going to wait until i come back. This happened twice. I got back yesternight, I missed her so much, she had showered after coming back from work all fresh, and me sey make i make move, madam told me lets cuddle, that she dont want to have sex...omo if she really did miss me, will cuddle overtake intimacy in this context? I Woke up around 5am could not sleep well because I needed that intimacy to also weaken body so i can rest properly. Now she woke up beside me trying to seduce me to have sex, but because of that initial rejection, i am finding it hard to reconnect easily, rejection for me damages me, does it happen to any other person? Just asking, I need enlightenment.


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she came to meet me in the living room now where i dey on my laptop, she said she rejected me just so in wont seem like its all about the sex, after 13years of uncountable sexual intimacy and two kids. Omo this statement is surprising.

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Marriage is where you constantly appraise yourself. Despite the years of intimacy with a woman, she constantly want to know you still value her. One way in to deviate from se.x to intimacy. Men naturally don't like that hold me stuff, but for her value esteem, you have to bear her psychology and relate with her emotion; which is fundamental to her intimacy. Note that and know peace

So you lack game and cant even service your woman

You are a big disgrace to the patriarchy

People's $exual needs are different, there are people who love cuddling a lot, and they feel content with it. Now that you know your wife likes to be cuddled, then do it often. You said you travelled for 10 days, 10 days is not a long time for some women to be $exually hungry, bodies are different.

You have a higher $exual drive than your wife, she is only trying to level up so that she doesn't give room for you cheating. She is a very good wife and goes as far as allowing $exual video calls, something I can never do.

13yrs is a long time, so don't expect the same spark she used to have when she married newly. You are supposed to know this. That woman is very good, settle that minor issue now.

I knack around 7am, she worry me for living room. I dun give am 2rounds already.

See watin dey worry some people Jesus

dbabs500:
I knack around 7am, she worry me for living room. I dun give am 2rounds already.

Wait you said you nack around 7am this morning,but check the time when you drop this quote 7:03am so it's definitely it's either you're a 1 seconds man or you're just lying 🤥

Bros, forget all the fake opinions these people are giving you. Married for 13 years and its now they expect you to learn that "your wife" needs cuddles as love language.

Please, let's not throw away our sensibilities just to align with wokeness. She is supposed to give you when you ask, just as you give her whenever she asks. It's only if you ask too much that she has a valid reason to reject you (my opinion).


You are a married man, not a philandering bachelor who keeps different options. You house amd protect her so if you demand for intimacy, it is well within your right except someone is running your home in your stead. God forbid.

You need to be real with yourself. No one will reward you for handling rejection or suffering in silence. Neither will anyone pity you and hand you your desires because you look sad. If you need sex, ask for it, if she's denies you, express your mind that you're too old for childish games except she gives you reasons which are valid to you. She can be legit tired, not in the mood, ill, too busy, stressed etc. Those are valid reasons, not denying you just because she feels like or because she wants to make you desperate.