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Dear esteemed men, what do women actually bring to the table in marriage, because the way I see it men are the ones doing everything even though society deems it that way, I don't think it makes any sense for only one person to be shouldering everything all in the name of "man of the house" this is the main reason men are dieing constantly, the load is much.....

Dear esteemed men share your thoughts.....

LoneSoldier:
Dear esteemed men, what do women actually bring to the table in marriage, because the way I see it men are the ones doing everything even though society deems it that way, I don't think it makes any sense for only one person to be shouldering everything all in the name of "man of the house" this is the main reason men are dieing constantly, the load is much.....

Dear esteemed men share your thoughts.....

I wonder how our forbearer agreed to this arrangement .

It depends on the woman you marry. Look at Temi Otedola and her husband. Will he ask what she brings to the table?

Depends both on the man and woman



There are women that elevate their man to higher level ,today man day poor tommorow man is rich

And there are woman that depletes a man to the extent man no fit see shi shi


Choose your woman wisely and bond with her after all two heads are better than one

LoneSoldier:
Dear esteemed men, what do women actually bring to the table in marriage, because the way I see it men are the ones doing everything even though society deems it that way, I don't think it makes any sense for only one person to be shouldering everything all in the name of "man of the house" this is the main reason men are dieing constantly, the load is much.....

Dear esteemed men share your thoughts.....

I think there's a problem with where you've been looking, and I suggest you look elsewhere and wider. Perhaps start from inside your own mother's home, and come tell us she brought nothing to the family you were brought up in to.

As a point, a man and woman met at work. He was a lawyer and her boss, while she is an accountant. The work had a no married couple policy, so they decided the wife should resign. But when she told her boss, he informed her the company is doing a review, and would likely need accountants more than lawyers, so they reconsidered, and he resigned. The company eventually got rid of half the lawyers it employed.

Since then, like 20 years ago, the wife has been bringing home all the bacon, and the husbands contribution has been providing a roof, which he is able to do because his father has property.

They have 3 children that the man says bother him when he is watching Man U. He does not help them with their school work, nor engage with them much, which his wife has to do when she gets back from work. And when night comes, he wants to fuq, and she, being a Christian who believes its his entitlement, lets him.

They moved to UK last year, because the wife wanted to do her masters, and they now live in a house bought by her mother. She studies and works, while he still sits on his lazy ass watching Man U!

Now tell me she brings nothing to the table in marriage!

Over flogged topic! Have you ever heard of the word 'responsibility'? I believe in every home, every one is responsible for something. A man shouldering the financial responsibilities doesn't make him better than the woman who is shouldering her own responsibilities by taking care of the home front and risking her life to birth babies that will inherit his name and give him a bragging right. If women bring nothing to the table, then why don't you just continue to live a solitary lifesyle and leave women alone? Life is not that hard!

Suicideboy:
✓ Depends both on the man and woman There are women that elevate their man to higher level ,today man day poor tommorow man is rich [b] And there are woman that depletes a man to the extent man no fit see shi shi[/b
➜Choose your woman wisely and bond with her after all two heads are better than one

Is it really a woman's duty to "elevate' a man? And why blame the woman when a man is depleted?

And don't even suggest that when a husband is elevated, the woman also is, as we all know that is rarely ever the case.

2. How does a man with a toxic mentality go about choosing a woman wisely?

https://www.tiktok.com/@jasonwalkerrealtalker

We4all:
Over flogged topic! Have you ever heard of the word 'responsibility'? I believe in every home, every one is responsible for something. A man shouldering the financial responsibilities doesn't make him better than the woman who is shouldering her own responsibilities by taking care of the home front and risking her life to birth babies that will inherit his name and give him a bragging right. If women bring nothing to the table, then why don't you just continue to live a solitary lifesyle and leave women alone? Life is not that hard!

It is not an over flogged topic, is just a question directed to men not people like you, so you are free to flee any thread I create that doesn't suit your view, like you said, Life is not that hard?

LoneSoldier:
Dear esteemed men, what do women actually bring to the table in marriage, because the way I see it men are the ones doing everything even though society deems it that way, I don't think it makes any sense for only one person to be shouldering everything all in the name of "man of the house" this is the main reason men are dieing constantly, the load is much.....

Dear esteemed men share your thoughts.....

It depends on the woman you got married to. Some women bring a lot to the table without flinching. And if u visit such homes, you won't ever know. I have seen this happen.. No be hearsay.

To get this type of women you have to be sensitive and know how to read a persons words and actions. These are enough for you to know

pdppower:
It depends on the woman you marry. Look at Temi Otedola and her husband. Will he ask what she brings to the table?

Oh forget that, if the said temi otedola came from a poor background, you won't be here saying what you are saying now....

Is it because she grew up in a wealthy family, she already have what she wanted, what every woman craves for, which is MONEY..... Modern women can't do without it.... Is like a virus in there veins.....

budaatum:
➜I think there's a problem with where you've been looking, and I suggest you look elsewhere and wider. Perhaps start from inside your own mother's home, and come tell us she brought nothing to the family you were brought up in to.
As a point, a man and woman met at work. He was a lawyer and her boss, while she is an accountant. The work had a no married couple policy, so they decided the wife should resign. But when she told her boss, he informed her the company is doing a review, and would likely need accountants more than lawyers, so they reconsidered, and he resigned. The company eventually got rid of half the lawyers it employed.
Since then, like 20 years ago, the wife has been bringing home all the bacon, and the husbands contribution has been providing a roof, which he is able to do because his father has property.
They have 3 children that the man says bother him when he is watching Man U. He does not help them with their school work, nor engage with them much, which his wife has to do when she gets back from work. And when night comes, he wants to fuq, and she, being a Christian who believes its his entitlement, lets him.
They moved to UK last year, because the wife wanted to do her masters, and they now live in a house bought by her mother. She studies and works, while he still sits on his lazy ass watching Man U! Now tell. me she brings nothing to the table in marriage!

Why did she do that to herself? Why did she allow herself to bear all of that?

We4all:
People like you need people like us to borrow you some sense, so you don't keep on constituting a nuisance on a public forum with an over flogged topic.

There is no point getting nasty, I understand you are the one that have taken it upon himself to flog the topic so many times, since is what you know how to do best....

Shame on you!

Kobojunkie:
Why did she do that to herself? Why did she allow herself to bear all of that?

He's a bully. And her religion was, "obey your husband".

Then they arrived in UK and her eyes have opened.

We4all:
Over flogged topic! Have you ever heard of the word 'responsibility'? I believe in every home, every one is responsible for something. A man shouldering the financial responsibilities doesn't make him better than the woman who is shouldering her own responsibilities by taking care of the home front and risking her life to birth babies that will inherit his name and give him a bragging right. If women bring nothing to the table, then why don't you just continue to live a solitary lifesyle and leave women alone? Life is not that hard!

I'll tell you what's amazing.

In the very recent ancient days of the Orolu Kingdom of Ifon Osun, men owned farmland, and married lots of women so they can produce the labour to farm it. Selling the produce was however the women's job.

The men will come home from the farm and go drink palmwine, while their wives who often went to farm with them returned home to process the farm produce - turn palm kennels to oil, take the kolanut and cocoa out of the pod, turn the cassava into more profitable garri and fufu, and so on, and sell it. The money, they of course had to give to their husband, but being so industrious, they always had ways of earning more, which most invested in educating their children. Those children they educated, often against the wish of their father's who needed them to labour on their farms, are the ones today taking care of those now old fathers, and building houses in the town.

If it were not for those wonderful mothers, the fathers would be long dead and forgotten.

LoneSoldier:
It is not an over flogged topic, is just a question directed to men not people like you, so you are free to flee any thread I create that doesn't suit your view, like you said, Life is not that hard?

Then can you let women be? Can't you live without women? Is it a must you marry? Maybe you should marry your fellow man that brings something to the table. Very simple

budaatum:
I'll tell you what's amazing.

In the very recent ancient days of the Orolu Kingdom of Ifon Osun, men owned farmland, and married lots of women so they can produce the labour to farm it. Selling the produce was however the women's job.

The men will come home from the farm and go drink palmwine, while their wives who often went to farm with them returned home to process the farm produce - turn palm kennels to oil, take the kolanut and cocoa out of the pod, turn the cassava into more profitable garri and fufu, and so on, and sell it. The money, they of course had to give to their husband, but being so industrious, they always had ways of earning more, which most invested in educating their children. Those children they educated, often against the wish of their father's who needed them to labour on their farms, are the ones today taking care of those now old fathers, and building houses in the town.

If it were not for those wonderful mothers, the fathers would be long dead and forgotten.

Well said!

budaatum:
I think there's a problem with where you've been looking, and I suggest you look elsewhere and wider. Perhaps start from inside your own mother's home, and come tell us she brought nothing to the family you were brought up in to.

As a point, a man and woman met at work. He was a lawyer and her boss, while she is an accountant. The work had a no married couple policy, so they decided the wife should resign. But when she told her boss, he informed her the company is doing a review, and would likely need accountants more than lawyers, so they reconsidered, and he resigned. The company eventually got rid of half the lawyers it employed.

Since then, like 20 years ago, the wife has been bringing home all the bacon, and the husbands contribution has been providing a roof, which he is able to do because his father has property.

They have 3 children that the man says bother him when he is watching Man U. He does not help them with their school work, nor engage with them much, which his wife has to do when she gets back from work. And when night comes, he wants to fuq, and she, being a Christian who believes its his entitlement, lets him.

They moved to UK last year, because the wife wanted to do her masters, and they now live in a house bought by her mother. She studies and works, while he still sits on his lazy ass watching Man U!

Now tell. me she brings nothing to the table in marriage!

lol using 0.000000000000000000001% of case to argue against the 99.9999999999%. You’ll be alright

isyourboy:
lol using 0.000000000000000000001% of case to argue against the 99.9999999999%. You’ll be alright

Comment after reading the below.

https://www.nairaland.com/8514857/what-women-bring-table-marriage#136739321

And please consider that if women don't bring anything to a relationship with you, you can always marry a man who does bring something into a relationship with you.

budaatum:
Comment after reading the below.

https://www.nairaland.com/8514857/what-women-bring-table-marriage#136739321

And please consider that if women don't bring anything to a relationship with you, you can always marry a man who does bring something into a relationship with you.

I have no interest in dating a woman or having a committed relationship with them. It’s just sex. My commitment ends on the bed. And I always say this. I never hide that from any woman

isyourboy:
I have no interest in dating a woman or having a committed relationship with them. It’s just sex. My commitment ends on the bed. And I always say this. I never hide that from any woman

And you are perfectly entitled to whatever it is you are interested in or want or don't want, but you don't then need to try to convince us it is the women who are not worth wanting when you don't deserve a woman and when we know better.

budaatum:
And you are perfectly entitled to whatever it is you are interested in or want or don't want, but you don't then need to try to convince us it is the women who are not worth wanting when you don't deserve a woman and when we know better.

If I don’t deserve women, I wouldn’t be getting women. The fact that I get women mean I deserve women. What you deserve is what you get. This is how life works. Rather, most women, not all, that I have met strive to deserve me.

Besides, there’s nothing to be deserved when it comes to women. Like I said, it’s just sex.

We4all:
Over flogged topic! Have you ever heard of the word 'responsibility'? I believe in every home, every one is responsible for something. A man shouldering the financial responsibilities doesn't make him better than the woman who is shouldering her own responsibilities by taking care of the home front and risking her life to birth babies that will inherit his name and give him a bragging right. If women bring nothing to the table, then why don't you just continue to live a solitary lifesyle and leave women alone? Life is not that hard!

The question wasn’t even directed at you. Why are you pained? Who hurts you?

isyourboy:
If I don’t deserve women, I wouldn’t be getting women. The fact that I get women mean I deserve women. What you deserve is what you get. This is how life works. Rather, most women, not all, that I have met strive to deserve me.

Besides, there’s nothing to be deserved when it comes to women. Like I said, it’s just sex.

I am very pleased for you to hear you get the just sex that you want. And may you continue to deserve and get it.

budaatum:
I am very pleased for you to hear you get the just sex that you want. And may you continue to deserve and get it.

Amen. Thanks

budaatum:
➜He's a bully. And her religion was, "obey your husband". Then they arrived in UK and her eyes have opened.

I hope she has dumped the unnecessary & toxic, extra baggage since then?

Kobojunkie:
I hope she has dumped the unnecessary & toxic, extra baggage since then?

I wish she would too, but she hasn't. She's however stopped treating him like her 4th child to concentrate on the 3 she has, so he's now surplus to requirements.

Basically, he's lost any relevance and power he once had. Unfortunately, his daughter is seeing him for the pig he is and has lost respect for him too. And while I agree with the daughter, I've ordered her to stop defying her father. Hopefully, she'd heed my encouragement to go uni in China and get away from him.