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'I don't want to raise a child that's not mine' 😬

I found out my daughter is not biologically mine - I'm devastated but people think I am wrong to want to leave my wife

A father has sparked a furious debate after revealing his plans of abandoning his wife and child after finding out the girl might not be biologically his.

The anonymous man, who is believed to be from the US, shared on Reddit that during an emblazoned row with his wife, she let slip that their nine-year-old may not belong to him.

On further investigation, the husband discovered that his wife's suspicion was true and he is now considering demanding a divorce.

However, this move would potentially leave his ex and the child he once believed was his daughter homeless.

Reddit users bashed the father in the comments, branding him as 'totally messed up' and 'clearly a bad dad'.

The man, 37, explained: 'We had been married for 10 years and we have a daughter who is nine going on 10.

'Me and my wife had a fight and she said something about my daughter not being mine I kept a straight face but after she realised what she said she left and went to bed.

'I had never thought about my daughter not being mine, but I had to know if she was or wasn't.

'Long story short I got a paternity test and I wasn't her father. I showed it to my wife who begged and pleaded with me not to get a divorce, but I told her that I was.'

After sharing the heartbreaking news with friends and family, the man says they all encouraged him to cut his ex-wife and her daughter out of his life.

He continued: 'I don't want to raise a child that's not mine nor do I wanna pay for her either.

'My wife keeps calling me telling me not to make her and our child homeless, but I don't care if she is homeless or not she shouldn't have cheated.'

Before asking members of the forum for their opinion, the man revealed that the girl's real father had died a few years ago.

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Whatever it is they say out of anger should be taken seriously. She has been meaning to tell him the baby wasn't his. The argument presented the opportunity.

"she said something about my daughter not being mine"

If you ask her why she cheated and also brought in a bastard child, she would say "he assumed the baby was his because we're married"

This is so sad and disturbing to hear.. infact, no man would ever be the same again after hearing this sad news....

OLAADEGBU:
'I don't want to raise a child that's not mine' 😬



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Okpetubensio. Yanga dey sleep trouble go wake am

All these things Dey happen so bad in Nigeria hmmm

So sad to spend your money training someone else's Child thinking its yours.

How do women sleep comfortably by not revealing to a man that the child(ren) he's taking care of is not biologically his?

Kindly abandon her, we Nairaland Redpillers are solidly behind you.

A child is involved already. This is really heartbreaking
I feel bad for the Child

you can argue if you want, But it does more harm when a woman cheats than when a man cheats.

Some kind news go just make person dey fear to marry. After 9 years. Omoooo

I always thought paternity test is instant abroad. Feel free to abandon them. Or what else can possibly be done?

ksam:
A child is involved already. This is really heartbreaking

and so, if he is your brother he should raise an illegitimate daughter from an adulterous woman.

How can you "un-love" a child after 9 years?
I don't think it's possible.

It's very sad and painful but He shouldn't cut off ties from the girl at least. Lord knows why events turn out this way. Truth is the ex should have been honest upfront and not let it get to this point. I'm of the opinion that he maintain a kind of relationship with the girl while keeping a distance from the lady. The girl's daddy has been dead years ago that makes him a bona-fide dad.

I didn't wanna go through the main story, but having gone through the big story, why did you even tag her your "Daughter" in the first place?

My sympathy is only with the innocent child caught in the mess.
I don't blame the man for whatever decision he makes to move on with his life.
I do not pity his wife.

OLAADEGBU:
'I don't want to raise a child that's not mine' 😬



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I feel your pain brotherly. But let me tell you the truth. Even if she is your child you dont love her that much.
There is a way my wife would tell me my daughter is not mine, i swear as long as i was there when that child was born,i changed diapers i played and joked with her even if is for one year I SWEAR no man can take that child away from me. As a caring man i wont even let the child know her mother messed up i will protect her from it .
Haaaa that child is mone forever ooo

nowadays peeps and paternity fraud. Is it not better for some people to go to their village and marry on of their mama friend daughter

It's not the childs fault.

He should take care of her and she will pay back in multiple folds

The man is right. Every negative action deserves corresponding consequence. Cut the woman loose and have peace of mind.

She will definitely locate the true father of the girl. As far as he's alive, let him shoulder his responsibility.

It's really a difficult situation. Whoever is labelling the man wicked should empathize with him, please!

If it were me, I might end the union with a woman. Since the problem was not caused by the child, and knowing that the mum may not have the wherewithal to train her, I will offer assistance. Yes, I will train her and let her know in the future that I was not her dad.

Both of them can stay in her dad's house.

Justice for men... justice for men.... Justice for men.... Justice for men

Another super story fabricated by Seun and Co. to keep nairaland busy and when you want to comment, they frustrate you with the mods

She is only begging not to be homeless not because she consider her actions to be betrayal. Remember, the whole thing came to light because she wanted to spit it on his face, deep inside her, she is proud of her betrayal and would raise it high as a statue of honor whenever she is comfortable enough to do that in the future.
Should another man promise her a house as we speak now, the whole begging will stop, so the begging is not a sign of respect for the man she cheated on neither is it a regret of her actions.

You need to catch a woman red handed unless she's taking that secret to the grave.

Oga leave am not your child later the father will come and start dragging ownership with you

She should take her daughter to the real father.

That shouldn’t be a difficult thing to do.

Pretty sad though. But, personally since the girls father is late and the girl is nine years old, I'll kick the woman out and hold on to the girl.
Raise her like mine and get another woman in to birth my own baby.

Is not the child fault but he should rather keep the innocent child since he's the only one she had called dad...as for the LovePeddler he should delete every thing he had with her she's a snake