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See those ones up there trying to normalise adultery. Degenerates

Ishilove:
See those ones up there trying to normalise adultery. Degenerates

I'm sorry, I'm only commenting because I love your signature . I gotta write it down in my diary and ponder on its' meaning. I get it Sha.

Onegai:
I'm sorry, I'm only commenting because I love your signature . I gotta write it down in my diary and ponder on its' meaning. I get it Sha.

SuperPanther:
If you read through my post well you would notice that I said I am a Christian. Divorce is not allowed except for adultery.

other Christian have gitten divorced
even high profile men of God....
mens life span in Africa is short so make use of it and enjoy the time you have here on it.....

Involve your pastor or marriage counsellor. She may have deeper emotion/physiological issues she needs addressed

ReacherSaidNoth:
Nothing more disappointing than opening a thread and seeing it flooded with comments from that Kobo fellow

It's very disappointing. I avoid commenting on her posts

SuperPanther:
If you read through my post well you would notice that I said I am a Christian. Divorce is not allowed except for adultery.

If you are a christian,don't complain.
Manage like that.
If na once in three months,she open nam for you,take am like that.

ReacherSaidNoth:
Nothing more disappointing than opening a thread and seeing it flooded with comments from that Kobo fellow

She is the nairaland resident feminist...you all should have realized that by now

SuperPanther:
If you read through my post well you would notice that I said I am a Christian. Divorce is not allowed except for adultery.

Must you respond to every mention on your thread? Just as chaff is sifted from wheat, so you should with responses you'd get.

Why are we angry at Kobo who suggested divorce and not the people suggesting side chic?

We all know therapy and all wouldn't fix this. I saw a post on FB recently and developed a mindset shift on this topic. Anyone denying his/her spouse sex for months up to a year should bring a replacement. Except on health or agreed/obvious grounds, it is totally unacceptable.

Houseofglam7:
✓ Dayummmm
Y’all married folks be going through the most 😫

As if marriage na by force. 🙄🙄

efembaba:
Involve your pastor or marriage counsellor. She may have deeper emotion/physiological issues she needs addressed

So, when a woman has deeper emotional/psychological issues, na pastor/imam/babalawo/elders una go call and not a professional mental health therapist? 🙄🙄

Interesting! No wonder when a man has emotional/psychological issues, na to advise am make him go marry wife be the thing so the problems can be shifted onto the woman who is then brainwashed into staying in toxic marriage by those fraudsters ... Pastors/babalawos/imams/elders.

Houseofglam7:
Dayummmm
Y’all married folks be going through the most 😫

Maybe TwoClans is on to something. We should thank God for side chics and side-guys. They are the ones keeping a lot of "happily married" people sane. As long as they are marking anniversaries in extreme konji, all is well.

SuperPanther:
I am just tired and heartbroken. For me to have access to my wife for sex is so difficult. I work hard to ensure the family is fine and even try to do some chores in the house as I am able to. Right now I am trying to configure my mind to forget about sex, just continue to serve God and remain a decent man. I am good looking so it's not a case of my being unattractive. There are many beautiful women I relate with that are willing to be in bed with me but I am a Christian. I am so frustrated now. It's either my wife is pressing phone till forever, or she has one night prayer, or she is tired and wants to sleep. Married men, how do you handle this situation?

Is she truly born-again? If yes, then she DOES NOT yet understand what marriage.

Maybe you don't satisfy her on bed anymore so, she rather stay out of sex with you than to be left unsatisfied.

Lifestone:
Dont digress, leave Pastor alone. Even your professional therapist will agree that its not normal for a woman to enter into a marriage contract and denied her husband sex, she obviously needs help, and most time, its not divorce that's the solution

Am not married but from my experience in the dating arena is that nothing like gentle man. I don't force but state my demands loud and clear.
My recent girlfriend told me to quit alcohol. I told her I can't simply because one bottle is my standard normally and two bottles at a long sitting which I can spend a month without taking alcohol. I stood my ground even alcohol is not my thing 🤷🏿. I didn't bother after my last girlfriend left because she doesn't like sex and only after marriage. I can't give the ring either

OKOATA:
If your wife isn't giving you sex so you what stops you from getting it outside? If your wife is sleeping with another man or has a weak libido why should that bother you? Did they tie both of your umbilical cord together from heaven? If you are tired and not enjoying your marriage why not leave. Marriage isn't a do or die affair and this isn't about marriage counselling nonsense. If you want to continue suffering, that's your choice.

Native man spotted 📌💯🙌

SuperPanther:
I am just tired and heartbroken. For me to have access to my wife for sex is so difficult. I work hard to ensure the family is fine and even try to do some chores in the house as I am able to. Right now I am trying to configure my mind to forget about sex, just continue to serve God and remain a decent man. I am good looking so it's not a case of my being unattractive. There are many beautiful women I relate with that are willing to be in bed with me but I am a Christian. I am so frustrated now. It's either my wife is pressing phone till forever, or she has one night prayer, or she is tired and wants to sleep. Married men, how do you handle this situation?

Have you got kids?

Maeve7:
➜Have you got kids?

Fyi, children are never a good reason for anyone to choose to remain in an unhappy or unfulfilling marriage.

Kobojunkie:
Fyi, children are never a good reason for anyone to choose to remain in an unhappy or unfulfilling marriage.

Did I say so?

Maeve7:
➜Did I say so?

It was just an Fyi!

Sidechicks are already being traded as an excuse for OP to hold fast in marriage. Children traded as a reason... may not be too far from us.

SuperPanther:
I am just tired and heartbroken. For me to have access to my wife for sex is so difficult. I work hard to ensure the family is fine and even try to do some chores in the house as I am able to. Right now I am trying to configure my mind to forget about sex, just continue to serve God and remain a decent man. I am good looking so it's not a case of my being unattractive. There are many beautiful women I relate with that are willing to be in bed with me but I am a Christian. I am so frustrated now. It's either my wife is pressing phone till forever, or she has one night prayer, or she is tired and wants to sleep. Married men, how do you handle this situation?

Find time to talk issues out in a friendly manner. Br humble enough to have a chat and crown it all with a gift for her.

Kobojunkie:
Fyi, children are never a good reason for anyone to choose to remain in an unhappy or unfulfilling marriage.

Actually they are, if children are involved except for battery, adultery, and life endangering habits, everything else once children are involved becomes your responsibility, like a cross, you must carry it with grace.

WantsandMore:
➜Actually they are, if children are involved except for battery, adultery, and life endangering habits, everything else once children are involved becomes your responsibility,
➜like a cross, you must carry it with grace.

When you pretend you stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of your children, you are invariably teaching them that it is OK to remain in a situation that does not favor them. Research has it that people raised in such unhappy marriages go on to repeat the same pattern in their own lives without even realizing it.(they sit tight in unhappy/toxic friendships, jobs/careers, marriages, etc.) These people find it hard to let go or remove themselves from situations that do not favor them. They mirror what they saw their parents do on a level that may even be construed as semi-unconscious.

Don't curse your kids because you wish to keep up appearances. Leave an unhappy/toxic situation so that they, too, can learn that they need to leave such situations in their own lives.

As for responsibility, two parents live apart while sharing custody and continue to care for and raise their children separately, rather than remain miserable under the same roof with them. Your children are intelligent and know when mom and dad are not happy together.

You might need some professional help yourself because I don't know whether you're too blind to see where I also wrote counsellor. And how is what I said related to all these nonsense you're saying about marrying a second wife.
You'd better go and see a doctor!

Kobojunkie:
So, when a woman has deeper emotional/psychological issues, na pastor/imam/babalawo/elders una go call and not a professional mental health therapist? 🙄🙄

Interesting! No wonder when a man has emotional/psychological issues, na to advise am make him go marry wife be the thing so the problems can be shifted onto the woman who is then brainwashed into staying in toxic marriage by those fraudsters ... Pastors/babalawos/imams/elders.

efembaba:
You might need some professional help yourself because I don't know whether you're too blind to see where I also wrote counsellor. And how is what I said related to all these nonsense you're saying about marrying a second wife.
You'd better go and see a doctor!

A marriage counselor is to tackle a woman's deeper emotional/psychological issues? 😩😩😩