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| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by DMerciful(m): 9:21pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
Do you often asked her for sex and she says no or you assume because she's pressing her phone she won't oblige? Does she tell you no to sex because she's tired or you assume her body language shows she's tired? Do you wait for you wife to initiate sex or you initiate sex whenever you want it even if it means 100% of the time? You should be having sex atleast twice per week if you stay with your wife. Kindly answer my questions so i know how to respond SuperPanther: |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by DMerciful(m): 9:23pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
Sex is one of the healthiest thing a man can do, extremely important. Regular sex keeps a man healthy physically, psychologically and spiritually Kobojunkie: 2 Likes |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by Kobojunkie: 9:25pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
DMerciful:Nonsense retort as always!🙄🙄 Anyways, I didn't tell OP not to have all the sex he wants, I said he should free his wife so he can go get all the sex he desires from the woman he is eyeing outside of his marriage. 🥱🥱🥱 |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by DMerciful(m): 9:26pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
The tail should not wag the dog. You've left the topic Kobojunkie: 1 Like |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by DMerciful(m): 9:29pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
Without regular sex, there's no marriage. He should actually get a side chick if he wants to continue his marriage or better still marry a second wife. Almost all the great men in the bible had multiple wives Kobojunkie: 4 Likes |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by Originalsly: 9:41pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
SuperPanther:You need to find out if she's committing adultery... then moving forward with divorce. The signs are there that she is likely committing adultery. Why is she pressing phone and not speaking? ...and I'm sure she guards her phone with a passion. She leav s to go to night vigil.... have you ever checked to see if she be there? ... or tried going with her...as you should as a Christian? ... I'm sure she wouldn't like that...and you should figure out why. Think back as to when she began to deny you sex....and I'm almost sure it will coincide with the beginning of night vigil and phone pressing . The next time your wife allow you to have a slice .... put aside the gentle holiness and be aggressive and very dominant with her .... I'll guarantee the phone pressing and night vigil will come to a sudden end and you will be back here all breathless and haggard complaining about your wife over dragging you into the oza room. |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by dawnomike(m): 9:48pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
SuperPanther:Good that you're a Christian and you're trying to do the right thing. I was once in your shoes and I had to talk about it with her. Secondly, I had to make her matter my prayer point. Please, do your best to resolve this as it can make the marriage tiring to the man without the knowledge of the wife. 2 Likes |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by PerfectStranger(m): 9:49pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
Jennyclay:Small thing una don turn am to gender base war. Na sisi men una want,type y'all can control. 3 Likes |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by incogni2o: 9:50pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
SuperPanther:Firstly, be comforted that most Men nowadays go through this but resolve to adultery, porn and other indulgences, So God is really happy you aren't compromising in that aspect and He'll bless and compensate you. Know that She is disobeying the law and also the Bible as its called conjugal rights for a reason and the bible also says the body of one belongs to the other. Let her know and also hear her side. if she doesn't Change, I'll advice you also don't present yourself as someone who is sex starved, find joy and comfort in other things. Pray about it too, God has a way to deal with Her. Keep on keeping on. |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by PerfectStranger(m): 9:51pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
Greatgrace101:Depends on your initial orientation towards her. When you try to be softer with them they always take it for granted. 2 Likes |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by wizod(m): 9:53pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
Prostrate is near your door step 1 Like |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by Kobojunkie: 9:55pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
wizod:Interestesting! Monks don't get prostrate, but married/non-celibate men do? WOW.... 😏 |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by tosine90(m): 9:56pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
Op, it not only you facing similar situation, infact I'm also experiencing it but one of the reasons it so is because. When a woman realizes she is the only woman in a man's life they tend to take advantage and neglect their sexual obligations to their husband. Even if you divorced her and married another one, the same thing will happen. When husband and wife wakes up seeing each other everyday. It makes a woman not have that urge unlike during courtship when u don't see each other everyday. Try to be scarce once in a while to your woman. Let her miss you for 2 or 3 day or even a week. Go on a journey or get busy with something. When a woman misses u It spark and rekindle the arousal and the sexual mood of a woman to draw closer to her husband Another thing is lack of competition greatly affects women sexuality to reduce. As a Christian you can't marry 2 wives as our forefathers who had multiple wives and it created competition and it makes them to live longer than modern man that is stuck to only one woman with a lot of dramas. This is what you do to get your wife arousals and attention. Always fake it by making remarks of another beautiful woman that shows interest in you. Maybe at work or event or social. Talk to her about how the lady so beautiful tried to gain ur attention and even started a conversation with you. Infact let her know u did a little flirt with her. But it only ends there. She will be jealous and fearful and won't hesitate to give u the sex anytime u demand it cos she will fear and won't want to lose her man to another woman. Set the mood. If your wife is worried or have something bothering her. She can't be in mood for sex. Lastly to make woman open her legs for you always. Use this trick. Always buy her gifts even if it little. It set the mood, Woman are always turn on with that. Or you can also Get a red wine and make sure both of you drink it. Red wine increase the sexual mood in woman. This trick is what have been using and it works for me . It can also work for you if you try it. Try this tips you will thank me later Shalom 10 Likes |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by tosine90(m): 10:08pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
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| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by CashVessel(m): 10:09pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
SuperPanther:If you read your bible well also you would learn that it says do not stay away for too long from each other so that you will not fall into temptation (1 Cor 7:5). So since she is not doing her duty separation is allowed for her to get sense small. Separation is not divorce. It is also what couples are adviced to do in cases of violence. You're the man, be firm and take your place. Marriage is for companionship. Call her and tell her that if things do not improve, you will call for family meeting. You're a lion, roar like one. Dem no born any woman well for Bible to deny her husband sex. 2 Likes |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by georgee(m): 10:14pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
SuperPanther:Suffer is ur middle name Most married women are like this. That's why there are plenty and plenty of side chicks My friend told me he had sex with with his wife twice throughout 2024..I wan cry for am 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by jaxxy(m): 10:23pm On Sep 18, 2025*. Modified: 4:34am On Sep 19, 2025 |
SuperPanther:When u dated didn't u guys talk about these things since u are Christians I assume u abstained but u still have to discuss compatibility concerns and likes and dislikes. I don't believe in going into marriage blindly. Also the bible says wives cannot and should not deny their husbands of their body and same goes for the man. Infact if she wants to fast she has to seek ur permission so u are aware and can wait for her. This also applies to the man when he also wants to fast he must carry the woman along. So from the actions of ur wife she is clearly not a serious or knowledgeable or bible practicing Christian. She is rebellious unless there's something else we don't know. Since u both claim to be Christians i think U have to question her faith. And if she is doing this intentionally to avoid sex with u she needs to come clean and explain her reasons. What u are going through is totally alien and abnormal in marriage. it is not a norm like u have assumed. It depends on ur partner. 4 Likes |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by dbestuncle: 11:10pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
Report her to someone who talk sense into her and also lure her to join some great women groups like 'when women prays international'. She will change. SuperPanther: |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by Shawarmagirl: 11:52pm On Sep 18, 2025 |
This one is not serious. Give her sex time table 4 times in a week. No excuse attached. Prayer or being tired is not an excuse or acceptable. Stand by your rules. Unless she's collecting it outside. 1 Like |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by bigman001(m): 12:07am On Sep 19, 2025 |
SuperPanther:Welcome to the club bro, you are still warming up, you never start to dey watch movie, you go trust and obey las las , My broda no worry nobody go tell you what to do when you are not just frustrated but you start thinking if something else is not happening behind your back. Na see finish dey make dem dey do like that , nothing to impress dem again from you  1 Like |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by Kobojunkie: 12:09am On Sep 19, 2025 |
thomas2024:This is what I get from a lot of those who have commented thus far ...this idea that marriage cannot survive or exist without so much sex. Someone stated that in marriage, sex is required 3 or 4 times a week when the reality is instead that married couples typically have sex only a handful a month or even a year, and not because of one partner or the other being at fault but because the novelty wears off quickly for those whose minds are truly working on their relationship and life. 🥱🥱🥱 |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by SamuraiXXX: 12:25am On Sep 19, 2025 |
SuperPanther:Ok then, continue suffering in silence |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by Rhassidy360: 12:49am On Sep 19, 2025 |
Na low sex drive de cos am most cases after childbirth. You guys can talk things out get some sex lubes, store fine wines inside the freezer to spice things up. Pls front fight your wife. Be very careful for now don’t cheat on her she fit want set you up. |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by glingev(m): 1:11am On Sep 19, 2025 |
[God bless you Sir, There is nothing more to add quote author=tosine90 post=136845946]Op, it not only you facing similar situation, infact I'm also experiencing it but one of the reasons it so is because. When a woman realizes she is the only woman in a man's life they tend to take advantage and neglect their sexual obligations to their husband. Even if you divorced her and married another one, the same thing will happen. When husband and wife wakes up seeing each other everyday. It makes a woman not have that urge unlike during courtship when u don't see each other everyday. Try to be scarce once in a while to your woman. Let her miss you for 2 or 3 day or even a week. Go on a journey or get busy with something. When a woman misses u It spark and rekindle the arousal and the sexual mood of a woman to draw closer to her husband Another thing is lack of competition greatly affects women sexuality to reduce. As a Christian you can't marry 2 wives as our forefathers who had multiple wives and it created competition and it makes them to live longer than modern man that is stuck to only one woman with a lot of dramas. This is what you do to get your wife arousals and attention. Always fake it by making remarks of another beautiful woman that shows interest in you. Maybe at work or event or social. Talk to her about how the lady so beautiful tried to gain ur attention and even started a conversation with you. Infact let her know u did a little flirt with her. But it only ends there. She will be jealous and fearful and won't hesitate to give u the sex anytime u demand it cos she will fear and won't want to lose her man to another woman. Set the mood. If your wife is worried or have something bothering her. She can't be in mood for sex. Lastly to make woman open her legs for you always. Use this trick. Always buy her gifts even if it little. It set the mood, Woman are always turn on with that. Or you can also Get a red wine and make sure both of you drink it. Red wine increase the sexual mood in woman. This trick is what have been using and it works for me . It can also work for you if you try it. Try this tips you will thank me later Shalom[/quote] |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by Mishydoo(m): 1:47am On Sep 19, 2025 |
Onegai:I’m really impressed and happy to have read this. You sound like you know this subject. But I have a few questions for you: i honestly want to know. I’m talking about a responsible man now, who provides and helps well with household. What exactly is the woman’s role in this if the man would do all this? Why do these sound like conditionalities…when empirically you do more now (invest more time, money etc) than when you were dating but get less now? And how exactly do you do this with kids? How long can you keep this date nights and all up with limited time and resources? Now she knows, now she says date nights etc are just cos you wanna get laid, so you don’t get any. Whats the motivation to go on? What happens when she isn’t happy with you? Frankly, you cannot make one happy all the time…but you want some. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by Chummynoni(m): 2:35am On Sep 19, 2025 |
ReacherSaidNoth:he/ she is annoying . I don't even read his /her comments . I scroll pass it whenever I come across his/her comment . 3 Likes |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by StoryHaven: 2:39am On Sep 19, 2025*. Modified: 3:06am On Sep 19, 2025 |
SuperPanther:Guy, if you will like to be told the truth. Most Christian women are demonic without knowing they are. I am a born again and if I tell you when last I had sex, guys on this platform will mention my post with "Stop Lying"  So, no need. Ask most Christian men to be sincere with their answer to the question, "Are you happy with your sex life in your marriage?" And 95% of them will tell you "No!" In fact, many will add, "I am fed up with my marriage, " You see, most Christian wives are demonic. They are the vessels the devil uses to torment their husbands. Do you know Muslim women dare not starv their husbands with sex? Why? Because their religion permits their husbands to marry more than one wife. In fact, four! So, once a Muslim wife keeps her body away from her husband, the man will go and be having extra marital affairs or kukuma marry another woman. But Christian women, they are so mentally retarded to the point that they think, "Dem no born am well to go have a side chick," The man will have a side chick and there is nothing you can do. Having a side chicks may be a Sin for him, but the punishment will be shared by him and the demon he calls a wife. In fact the wife might be the only one to be punished by God because she is the one who pushed her husband to the point of having a side chick. When the Bible says, " If you can't hold yourself go and marry," the man obeyed the instruction but unfortunately, he married a demonic agent, who is hell bent to make him sin and lose his salvation. The fact is, God is a good judge and you may be surprised that he would leave the man and punish the demonic woman only. My post is already long. I would have told you a funy story about myself. Anyways, remain blessed. If you ask me on what to do, I would tell you to call her and discuss divorce with her. Be serious when you do it. Forget about the love you have for her and take the action. Instead of you to lose your salvation because of a demonic woman, divorce her and marry another. Lastly, can I tell you a truth? It is true that the Christian God hates divorce, but not in a situation when the marriage is full of violence and constant sex denial. Those who preach "A Christian can't divorce his wife or her husbands," are only dillusional. Divorce the demonic agent ASAP before you lose your salvation. Peace! 7 Likes |
| Re: Insufficient Sex From My Wife by Zooposki(f): 4:04am On Sep 19, 2025 |
efembaba:His wife does not enjoy sex from him. Its not that difficult to know what the issue is. I heard 90% of Nigerian women have never orgasmed from having sex with Nigerian men. Una no sabi. 1 Like |
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