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Hmmm pls let her go for peace

She was already cheating on your brother long way before his demise

On another hand e go better if una do DNA for that pikin way she born for your late brother

Myrepublic:
That's too early o. The death no pain her..

Even ordinary break up, person no fit just move on like that,when u really love the person you were with..

It's obvious your late bro was in the marriage alone.. I pray the baby is really his and not for who she wants to marry now

Forensic detective ....... Crimes of passion comes to mind.

[quote author=Myrepublic post=136917314✓ ]That's too early o. The death no pain her..
Even ordinary break up, person no fit just move on like that,when u really love the person you were with..
It's obvious your late bro was in the marriage alone.. I pray the baby is really his and not for who she wants to marry now[/quote]So long as she did not kill him, she needs to be looking for any means to ensure she can care for that newborn and also survive given the reality of life and living for baby mamas in that country. 🤔

Foodqueen:
How are you sure that man isn't the father of her child.

No be awa/erivin kill your brother so

What's your tribe.

Good suggestion. They were married for 7 years no issue to show but later had a daughter who is two and half years. The new husband to be may have been working on her even wen ur brother was alive. In my place if ur wife is cheating on her husband, the husband will die.

Na she kill am

It makes no difference whether its after 9 month or 3 yrs....she eventually move on either way

That means she's been Into another relationship 5 months after her husband passing? She must be heartless and wicked..

Like Mohbad I will advise u guys to immediately do a DNA test.. without her knowledge if possible. Get the baby's DNA and Yr brothers DNA and see it it's a match..

I say this bcis Even if she wants to remarry she should be transparent and respectful about it but this isn't what she's doing.

2ndly Ur brother property cannot go with her to another man's house. she may get a portion if the DNA is positive for the sake of the child..

it is Important u protect ur brothers legacy she's she doesn't care about it.

Miss Second in command. Why not go and marry and mind your home instead of tying your destiny to your mother and father home.

Every tribe have standard period to mourn and after that they have right to move on..

Taking "... Her knowing How her dead husband loved her" as your concern for her moving on is a not healthy.. if indeed her husband loved her, he would want to her to move on.

MistyDense:
I know a lot of you will call me all sorts of unprintable names and would want to nameshame me.

My Elder brother died about nine months ago and his wife is about to Remarry.

They had been married for ten whole years, but unable to bear a child for 7years, until God blessed them with a beautiful and lovely baby Girl. We all celebrated and were joyous. A few weeks after childbirth, my brother became sick. What initially looked like an ulcer became something else, and he had to go under the knife. After the surgery, there were some Terrible complications, which resulted in his eventual demise. Most painful part was, he had just landed his dream job after five years of graduation. He was extremely depressed as a result of this joblessness until luck smiled at him. He was traveling round the world like he was going to his backyard. He was breezing in and out of Nigeria for official duties until the sickness struck.
Now it's been nine months, and she already made her intentions known to my family that she wants to Remarry. Meanwhile, the baby is just two and half years old.

As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.

I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.

I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.

I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third.

What should I do?

First of all do DNA , there is a high chance the new man is the real father of the child

It's her life, let her live it. Her husband is dead and life must go on. If there's no will by your brother, unfortunately for you, your niece is the beneficiary of his inheritance and the wife will hold it in trust for your niece till she gets to 18 years.
Better leave this woman and go have your own husband.

femi4:
It makes no difference whether its after 9 month or 3 yrs....she eventually move on either way

It does.

She should've mourned her late husband for a year at least.
In respect to his memory and his family.

See ba.... From experience, your sister in law never tell una wetin really sup.

The child's ancestry, when she met the new man, when she started knacking that one, what really happened to her husband are all in doubt.

9 months after the painful exit of your partner of 10 years, with a toddler in hand, and you're already ready to go and become another man's THIRD WIFE?!!!

It's either the man has wonderful jazz or the woman is the type who cannot do without a man.

Most sinister angle is they are partners in crime and are playing out the endgame of their plan.

All those who said do DNA before anything else have told you the Gospel truth.

I wish you and your family the fortitude and strength to uphold your brother's memory.

Or the same tools to avenge him if need be!

Kazim88:
Miss Second in command. Why not go and marry and mind your home instead of tying your destiny to your mother and father home.

Every tribe have standard period to mourn and after that they have right to move on..

Taking "... Her knowing How her dead husband loved her" as your concern for her moving on is a not healthy.. if indeed her husband loved her, he would want to her to move on.

Her husband will also want her to get a DNA test. After the DNA test she can move on.

MistyDense:
I know a lot of you will call me all sorts of unprintable names and would want to nameshame me.

My Elder brother died about nine months ago and his wife is about to Remarry.

They had been married for ten whole years, but unable to bear a child for 7years, until God blessed them with a beautiful and lovely baby Girl. We all celebrated and were joyous. A few weeks after childbirth, my brother became sick. What initially looked like an ulcer became something else, and he had to go under the knife. After the surgery, there were some Terrible complications, which resulted in his eventual demise. Most painful part was, he had just landed his dream job after five years of graduation. He was extremely depressed as a result of this joblessness until luck smiled at him. He was traveling round the world like he was going to his backyard. He was breezing in and out of Nigeria for official duties until the sickness struck.
Now it's been nine months, and she already made her intentions known to my family that she wants to Remarry. Meanwhile, the baby is just two and half years old.

As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.

I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.

I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.

I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third.

What should I do?

that woman was responsible for your brother's death period, you people should make sure she didn't get away with your brother's properties, you should try and run DNA test for the acclaim child first to be certain the child belong to your brother. Having done that, her reaction to claim your brother's properties will tell you what she has done to your brother

Kobojunkie:
So long as she did not kill him, she needs to be looking for any means to ensure she can care for that newborn and also survive given the reality of life and living for baby mamas in that country. 🤔

Dem say 2 and half years old, you say newborn?

Samantha125:
As a woman, haven't you ever considered the fact that her biological clock is ticking and she probably wants to have more children?

Would you prefer that she has an illegitimate child? And don't you have your own children that you should be focusing on rather than worrying about your niece who's happy with her mother?

To be honest, having (illegitimate) child in her late husbands name is best in this scenario.

Had it been the husbands family is otedola or dangotes, she won't even have the thought of remarrying.

I pity that your sister in law. 9months after the death of her husband, she never even comot mourning wears, she won go remarry, the worst thing, going to marry a man who already has 2 wifes, is she okay at all. Why the hurry, she can't wait for a man that is probably a widower or a single man, she is still young, she will find a single man

Mariangeles:
It does.

She should've mourned her late husband for a year at least.
In respect to his memory and his family.

lolz

And who designed the template on how people should mourn?

Do you know the husband last wish, he probably not in support of that

This story no make sense, the timelines get kleg, likely a tale from the OP and a mediocre one at that.

MistyDense:
I know a lot of you will call me all sorts of unprintable names and would want to nameshame me.

My Elder brother died about nine months ago and his wife is about to Remarry.

They had been married for ten whole years, but unable to bear a child for 7years, until God blessed them with a beautiful and lovely baby Girl. We all celebrated and were joyous. A few weeks after childbirth, my brother became sick. What initially looked like an ulcer became something else, and he had to go under the knife. After the surgery, there were some Terrible complications, which resulted in his eventual demise. Most painful part was, he had just landed his dream job after five years of graduation. He was extremely depressed as a result of this joblessness until luck smiled at him. He was traveling round the world like he was going to his backyard. He was breezing in and out of Nigeria for official duties until the sickness struck.
Now it's been nine months, and she already made her intentions known to my family that she wants to Remarry. Meanwhile, the baby is just two and half years old.

As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.

I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.

I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.

I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third.

What should I do?

Firstly go for DNA, your brother might not be the father of the baby, 2. Remember she is a woman, she need gbonla more regularly at that her age, woman is sexually active after the first child, also the baby need companion. That is why I sincerely love African culture, if it is in Yorubaland e ma su iyawo ni opo ni o, so the wealth and taking care of yhe kids will not burden on her too much.

Marry her if you feel bad. In some cultures, females are allowed to marry each other in such case. If you can’t because of Nigeria’s 14 year law, get a relative to marry her. If you can’t do any of those, mind your business.

It's possible she is marrying the Biological father of her daughter. Your brother may be sterile and the one to blame so she went outside to secretly father a daughter with a lover and now that your bro is dead its time for her to move on.

She is making a very wrong decision. But there is nothing you can do to stop her until she made the mistake ans regret her action.
My advice, keep your cool and be ready to take care of your niece in the nearest future.
Don't fight her and don't support her. Just ignore.

A woman who is strongly talking about marriage just 9months after her husband's death has been cheating on the late husband even before his death. It will take an average woman about that nine months before she can allow another man to sleep with her not to talk of making it open to the public or pressing for marriage against her own family's believe

ObiaboAdoka:
Good suggestion. They were married for 7 years no issue to show but later had a daughter who is two and half years. The new husband to be may have been working on her even wen ur brother was alive. In my place if ur wife is cheating on her husband, the husband will die.

She even said that her elder brother travels around the world as if going to his backyard POSSIBLY LEAVING THE WIFE FOR LONG PERIODS.

willi926:
Am sorry for your demise. But I see nothing wrong in her wanting to remarry. If your brother has been buried and burial arrangement already processed. I don't see anything wrong with it.
I think marriage should be till death do them apart.
In some part of my tribe, I guess the woman must stay a compulsory 6months mourning period after burial ceremony and after that 6 months she will remove her mourning wears and burn them. From then onward she is free to leave her life. Widow hood isn't an easy thing you know.

No be OP died o, na him brother demised