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I know someone whose dad died more than 25 years ago, leaving them some landed properties and buildings.

Of the 7 siblings (3 ladies and 4 guys), all married, only one can be said to be really wealthy. And it's a lady.

The youngest of them is over 40 years old, married with kids.

The problem is that the first son has been tampering with the family money in his custody, and millions generated from rent as well as sale of one of the buildings can't be accounted for. And he's also owing millions of naira somewhere.

As the first son, most of the decisions over family matters has been by him in conjunction with the eldest of the 7 (a lady), which is how the family purse ended up with him in the first place. And they seem to override the opinions of the other siblings who are partly allowing it so as to remain on the good books of the eldest who happens to be the only one doing well financially. For instance, if any of them needed a loan from the family purse and isn't a favorite to them (eldest son and eldest sister), they easily find an excuse to deny person.

Now, my friend who is one of the younger siblings (over 40 years old) wants to call a meeting, ask for account of the monies unaccounted for and also ask for the inheritance to be shared, to allow everybody to control their portion by themselves.

But he wants to be sure that IT IS NOT TOO EARLY, and that it won't cause division in the family.

Also how should the sharing formula look like?

I'll send him link to read all the comments. Please advise him. Thanks

Anytime the first son is ready. Don't pressure first son they're passing through a lot.

Jacoban20:
➜I know someone whose dad died more than 25 years ago, leaving them some landed properties and buildings.Of the 7 siblings (3 ladies and 4 guys), all married, only one can be said to be really wealthy. And it's a lady.
The youngest of them is over 40 years old, married with kids.
The problem is that the first son has been tampering with the family money in his custody, and millions generated from rent as well as sale of one of the buildings can't be accounted for. And he's also owing millions of naira somewhere.
As the first son, most of the decisions over family matters has been by him in conjunction with the eldest of the 7 (a lady), which is how the family purse ended up with him in the first place. And they seem to override the opinions of the other siblings who are partly allowing it so as to remain on the good books of the eldest who happens to be the only one doing well financially. For instance, if any of them needed a loan from the family purse and isn't a favorite to them (eldest son and eldest sister), they easily find an excuse to deny person.
Now, my friend who is one of the younger siblings (over 40 years old) wants to call a meeting, ask for account of the monies unaccounted for and also ask for the inheritance to be shared, to allow everybody to control their portion by themselves.
But he wants to be sure that IT IS NOT TOO EARLY, and that it won't cause division in the family. Also how should the sharing formula look like?
I'll send him link to read all the comments. Please advise him. Thanks

. Inheritance is typically shared in the moments after the death of the one whose inheritance is to be shared. 25 years is 419, and the first son knows it.

It seems the father did not leave a will, which is the reason why you believe the first son should be the one to share whatever it is you refer to as inheritance in this case.

How can 25 years be too early? Typically the inheritance should have been shared WITHIN A YEAR of the father's passing.

Your friend has woken up 25 years late. As Kobo stated, 25 years is ojoro. Real 419

Kobojunkie:
. Inheritance is typically shared in the moments after the death of the one whose inheritance is to be shared. 25 years is 419, and the first son knows it.

It seems the father did not leave a will, which is the reason why you believe the first son should be the one to share whatever it is you refer to as inheritance in this case.

Thanks for your input.

Yes, he didn't leave a will.

Please can you give insight into what a fair sharing formula should be like for say a N100 million income from sale of the properties? They're 4 male, 3 female and their mom

Ishilove:
How can 25 years be too early? Typically the inheritance should have been shared WITHIN A YEAR of the father's passing.

Your friend has woken up 25 years late. As Kobo stated, 25 years is ojoro. Real 419

Within a year of the man's passing, some were yet to finish secondary school.

I get your point though. Thanks for the info.

Please what's take on the sharing formula if N100 million is realized from sale of the properties, for instance.

Jacoban20:
Thanks for your input.

Yes, he didn't leave a will.

Please can you give insight into what a fair sharing formula should be like for say a N100 million income from sale of the properties? They're 4 male, 3 female and their mom

I don't know how you guys do it over there but it is wrong to even talk about sharing of properties since their mother is still alive and the man did not leave a will.
He should talk to his mom....if she Is okay with it,then she should be the one to bring it up.

Jacoban20:
Within a year of the man's passing, some were yet to finish secondary school.

I get your point though. Thanks for the info.

Please what's take on the sharing formula if N100 million is realized from sale of the properties, for instance.

How most families do it is the eldest takes the largest portion, followed by the second eldest, and the third and so on.

Nemesis0147:
I don't know how you guys do it over there but it is wrong to even talk about sharing of properties since their mother is still alive and the man did not leave a will.
He should talk to his mom....if she Is okay with it,then she should be the one to bring it up.

Thanks for pointing this out.

The aged mother's consent is assured, provided on any idea that will (as she always tells them) have all her children financially empowered to fend for their families.

Ishilove:
How most families do it is the eldest takes the largest portion, followed by the second eldest, and the third and so on.

Irrespective of gender?

I thought maybe the ladies should only get partially, since they're all in their husband's houses already.

Can you give an idea with a more precise amount, like out of that 100million for instance, the first son so and so amount, second son so and so amount, the ladies so and so amount... I understand there's no hard and fast rule, but can you give an idea

Be ready to fight this battle physically, emotionally, logically and spiritually

Jacoban20:
✓ Thanks for your input. Yes, he didn't leave a will. Please can you give insight into what a fair sharing formula should be like for say a N100 million income from sale of the properties? They're 4 male, 3 female and their mom

if the mother is still alive, then the property should be in her hands and for her to divide up -- equally, if she is fair. -- at the point that she is ready.

Your mother should get a lawyer involved to ensure that a legal agreement is drafted and used in dividing up the property when she is ready.

Jacoban20:
✓ Irrespective of gender? I thought maybe the ladies should only get partially, since they're all in their husband's houses already.
Can you give an idea with a more precise amount, like out of that 100million for instance, the first son so and so amount, second son so and so amount, the ladies so and so amount... I understand there's no hard and fast rule, but can you give an idea

What has their being in their husbands' houses to do with anything? So long as it is their right by their father, why should they be shortchanged by you or anyone? No be the same sperm bank and vagina all of una come from?

Immediately after funeral rites.

Jacoban20:
Within a year of the man's passing, some were yet to finish secondary school.

I get your point though. Thanks for the info.

Please what's take on the sharing formula if N100 million is realized from sale of the properties, for instance.

Since the man died interstate i think all the man's assets should devolve to his wife 100%.

However, since it appears the children have her consent to sell them they should then all sales proceeds should be shared as follows - Out of the total sales proceed 50% should go to their mother while they share the remaining 50% amongst themselves in proportion of their ages

Jacoban20:
I know someone whose dad died more than 25 years ago, leaving them some landed properties and buildings.

Of the 7 siblings (3 ladies and 4 guys), all married, only one can be said to be really wealthy. And it's a lady.

The youngest of them is over 40 years old, married with kids.

The problem is that the first son has been tampering with the family money in his custody, and millions generated from rent as well as sale of one of the buildings can't be accounted for. And he's also owing millions of naira somewhere.

As the first son, most of the decisions over family matters has been by him in conjunction with the eldest of the 7 (a lady), which is how the family purse ended up with him in the first place. And they seem to override the opinions of the other siblings who are partly allowing it so as to remain on the good books of the eldest who happens to be the only one doing well financially. For instance, if any of them needed a loan from the family purse and isn't a favorite to them (eldest son and eldest sister), they easily find an excuse to deny person.

Now, my friend who is one of the younger siblings (over 40 years old) wants to call a meeting, ask for account of the monies unaccounted for and also ask for the inheritance to be shared, to allow everybody to control their portion by themselves.

But he wants to be sure that IT IS NOT TOO EARLY, and that it won't cause division in the family.

Also how should the sharing formula look like?

I'll send him link to read all the comments. Please advise him. Thanks

25 years is actually too late...and if they are not careful the 1st son will die and pass everything on to his own kids

Inheritance sharing is not easy thing as it seems here.

They should have shared it long ago.


×.U have to consider the culture of the family involve,because some culture does not allow women partake in such matter.
× U also have to consider their religion.
×. U have to consider if there is a will that actually made them stay up to 25years without thinking of sharing ut earlier.
× U have to consider if the property has a trust Account.
They need an elder to guide them better.


This inheritance thing can cause bigger problems if not handle with care.

Good luck to them.

When everyone is still available and alive. Honestly this is my present predicament

As an only son
I don't know what this topic means.

One benefit of being an only son.

Jacoban20:
Thanks for your input.

Yes, he didn't leave a will.

Please can you give insight into what a fair sharing formula should be like for say a N100 million income from sale of the properties? They're 4 male, 3 female and their mom

Eldest child N16 million

Other children N14 million each

Sharing of properties should be when a father has crossed 75yrs old in his lifetime.

It's better he shares it while he is still alive & healthy especially if his kids are all matured.

If he didn't share the properties in his lifetime & dies, then I suggest the properties be shared after one year at his 1yr funeral memorial .

For me, it's better the man shares it himself during his lifetime or leave a will.

Cum4me:
Anytime the first son is ready. Don't pressure first son they're passing through a lot.

I just hope you're not trying to be insensitive with this your comment. If you were in the position of the youngest child, will you say such?

He should call his elder siblings for a meeting about how to share the properties and also seek advice from a lawyer about how he'll go about it.

He should be ready for anything that follows because it's not going to be an easy one for him.

They'll definitely see him as a bad person but he shouldn't care. The earlier the better b4 their children start having the thought that it's their parents property alone.

Jacoban20:
I know someone whose dad died more than 25 years ago, leaving them some landed properties and buildings.

Of the 7 siblings (3 ladies and 4 guys), all married, only one can be said to be really wealthy. And it's a lady.

The youngest of them is over 40 years old, married with kids.

The problem is that the first son has been tampering with the family money in his custody, and millions generated from rent as well as sale of one of the buildings can't be accounted for. And he's also owing millions of naira somewhere.

As the first son, most of the decisions over family matters has been by him in conjunction with the eldest of the 7 (a lady), which is how the family purse ended up with him in the first place. And they seem to override the opinions of the other siblings who are partly allowing it so as to remain on the good books of the eldest who happens to be the only one doing well financially. For instance, if any of them needed a loan from the family purse and isn't a favorite to them (eldest son and eldest sister), they easily find an excuse to deny person.

Now, my friend who is one of the younger siblings (over 40 years old) wants to call a meeting, ask for account of the monies unaccounted for and also ask for the inheritance to be shared, to allow everybody to control their portion by themselves.

But he wants to be sure that IT IS NOT TOO EARLY, and that it won't cause division in the family.

Also how should the sharing formula look like?

I'll send him link to read all the comments. Please advise him. Thanks

So much nonsense so called advice I have read above, first thing foremost, go to the probate registry of the state, & apply for The Letters of Administration without Will from the chief Judge, since u said your dad died intestate.

Any action on your father’s estate without administration, your older brother & sister are in serious trouble, they will be charged for their actions as executor de son tort pursuant to the provisions of section 18 of The Administration of Estates Law.

Get a lawyer, & quote exactly what I said, your older siblings will start begging u for reconciliation.

Servile peace is not peace.

If demanding for fairness is what will cause division then there was no peace in the first place.

Jacoban20:
Irrespective of gender?

I thought maybe the ladies should only get partially, since they're all in their husband's houses already.

Can you give an idea with a more precise amount, like out of that 100million for instance, the first son so and so amount, second son so and so amount, the ladies so and so amount... I understand there's no hard and fast rule, but can you give an idea

According to the law, if the marriage is statutory marriage:

The surviving spouse gets one third of the inheritance.


The children will share the rest equally.

Cum4me:
Anytime the first son is ready. Don't pressure first son they're passing through a lot.

First son without empathy laced with greed is a disaster in a family .

Mother is still alive let her take 20%. I'm here death, all accruing to her , goes to the last born, whether boy or geh.

First son 50%.

The ladies if married no get share
The remaining % to the others equally and prorata .

Unless there is a Pandemic going on or there's something unusual causing delays, 3 months to 1 year is enough.
If the person died intestate, there is a cultural and traditional way of doing it. No single child should be in charge of the estate.

Unless the Main family House, where the father lived/ancestral homestead. That's the first son's house in my culture.

Except there is a will, every community have their own culture and tradition in how the heritage issue is handled, it differs from tribe to tribe.
So find out what it is in your tradition, before you make serious mistakes that can result to something else.

Hiam
Naija no dey share inheritance that has no will.

My mother passed on in April this year. She was a Muslim.

After the 40days, we agreed to share the things in the house. The house was built by our late father.

Now, our eldest brother said we should not go to the house ooooo. We agreed

Only for him to go there with his wife and packed the things they needed.

I am the only surviving female. His wife was the one that shared my mother's things for me.

I took what was given me bcoz, I want peace.

God blessed each of us differently.

He should leave the inheritance and make his own fortune

Life is short

A time gap of 25 years is already more than enough