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epainos:
In 2025, dey play. As in in 2025? See eh. Don't ever use smartphone again cos you are not ready to progress in life. Just go back to that your old style...no one go disturb you.

Stop forming woke...u think some spiritual effect that have existed for centuries will just disappear cos we are in modern age ... u are so ignorant ...u still think like a child .... even priests and bishops acknowledge it

What should you do? Live your life and.let her live hers. Be there for your niece, leave the rest to God.

If she were your sister and a man is coming to marry her, would you not rejoice with her? Pls allow her to remarry. You think husband is like bread that u order when ever u want? It is sad, yes, but let them be.

newdays:
She go soon discover say na two water dey for this life because from the look of things, that man is after the transferred wealth. Just hold your peace.
If that girl is truly your niece, my prayer is that, what killed the father will not kill the child, in Jesus name.Amen

Amen. Thanks a lot brother

cr7lomo:
Stop forming woke...u think some spiritual effect that have existed for centuries will just disappear cos we are in modern age ... u are so ignorant ...u still think like a child .... even priests and bishops acknowledge it

Oga, you better go learn AI very and stop so you can enjoy this one time you came to this life. Na teal tragedy to still be trapped in ancient stories used to trap your generations. As in...in 2025, you still dey talk like this? Omoh eh! You "den..se" small to be tricked with such in 2025 room chai!

Mention your village and give us concrete evidence to your claim if you are bold. A beg shift go one side jare.

Nawa oh, as 3rd wife keh? When she can actually hold on for now, and concentrate with her child atleast she has some property of the late husband to sustain with until the baby comes of age small, well its her choice, I'm not just good about that baby in that polygamous jungle

The lady might be right in her own sense, but I think it is better for every man to write his WILL while still alive to avoid story that touches. However, my sister don't rear your head in this matter 'cos surely your brother's wife hand may not be totally clean about the demise of your brother and it is even looks clearer that she has been unfaithful to your brother before his death.

What should I do?

Nothing

Na your niece be una concern now. Shikena!

Kobojunkie:
How does her co-owning business with her deceased husband translate to their being some sort of inheritance for her from the man? Are all business auto-successes or something?

Has your Mum been informed of your views as to not owing her anything?
If not, desist from commenting on family matters.

spiceadole:
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Lol.
How many years do men mourn their late wives?

God knows if my husband died ehn,I will try and remarry in 6 months.
9 months is too long even

I will show this to your husband.

DeepSight:
OP is not dead pls

😂😂😂

MistyDense:
I know a lot of you will call me all sorts of unprintable names and would want to nameshame me.

My Elder brother died about nine months ago and his wife is about to Remarry.

They had been married for ten whole years, but unable to bear a child for 7years, until God blessed them with a beautiful and lovely baby Girl. We all celebrated and were joyous. A few weeks after childbirth, my brother became sick. What initially looked like an ulcer became something else, and he had to go under the knife. After the surgery, there were some Terrible complications, which resulted in his eventual demise. Most painful part was, he had just landed his dream job after five years of graduation. He was extremely depressed as a result of this joblessness until luck smiled at him. He was traveling round the world like he was going to his backyard. He was breezing in and out of Nigeria for official duties until the sickness struck.
Now it's been nine months, and she already made her intentions known to my family that she wants to Remarry. Meanwhile, the baby is just two and half years old.

As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.

I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.

I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.

I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third.

What should I do?

I understand how you feel but women/men have the right to remarry within minutes from losing their partner. She’s probably already sleeping with the man so it’s better she gets married. What if she’s pregnant for him?

MistyDense:
I know a lot of you will call me all sorts of unprintable names and would want to nameshame me.

My Elder brother died about nine months ago and his wife is about to Remarry.

They had been married for ten whole years, but unable to bear a child for 7years, until God blessed them with a beautiful and lovely baby Girl. We all celebrated and were joyous. A few weeks after childbirth, my brother became sick. What initially looked like an ulcer became something else, and he had to go under the knife. After the surgery, there were some Terrible complications, which resulted in his eventual demise. Most painful part was, he had just landed his dream job after five years of graduation. He was extremely depressed as a result of this joblessness until luck smiled at him. He was traveling round the world like he was going to his backyard. He was breezing in and out of Nigeria for official duties until the sickness struck.
Now it's been nine months, and she already made her intentions known to my family that she wants to Remarry. Meanwhile, the baby is just two and half years old.

As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.

I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.

I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.

I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third.

What should I do?

I think the lady is mad. Why the hurry? Can she not mourn her husband for a year?
Going to be a 3rd in a new marriage is insane. I only sympathize with the innocent little girl who will be brought up in a polygamus home.

chris51:
I think the lady is mad. Why the hurry? Can she not mourn her husband for a year?
Going to be a 3rd in a new marriage is insane. I only sympathize with the innocent little girl who will be brought up in a polygamus home.

That's just my worry, if not wetin consign me

jaxxy:
Her husband will also want her to get a DNA test. After the DNA test she can move on.

Husband that was jobless for 5 years out of 10 years marriage and was just employed before his sad and unfortunate demise.

Let's say she is not the daughter after DNA, what now happened?

Men do DNA to avoid training someone else's child... The young man have passed away, if he is not the father, let the real father take responsibility.


See, this issue is simple. The sister don't want to let go of her brother memory and she feels the daughter and wife can remain and carry on his legacy but that is just fallacy.... Women can leave a man just because he is not rich enough (he is not broke, just not rich enough) and move to another man while the man is still full of Life... Now imagine a woman leaving a literally dead man.... That is normal Monday.

Men, take care of yourself, don't die because, don't even be broke because the world we abandon you instantly.

Mma, leave the young lady alone.

Foodqueen:
How are you sure that man isn't the father of her child.

No be awa/erivin kill your brother so

What's your tribe.

You just made a point here.

MistyDense:
I know a lot of you will call me all sorts of unprintable names and would want to nameshame me.

My Elder brother died about nine months ago and his wife is about to Remarry.

They had been married for ten whole years, but unable to bear a child for 7years, until God blessed them with a beautiful and lovely baby Girl. We all celebrated and were joyous. A few weeks after childbirth, my brother became sick. What initially looked like an ulcer became something else, and he had to go under the knife. After the surgery, there were some Terrible complications, which resulted in his eventual demise. Most painful part was, he had just landed his dream job after five years of graduation. He was extremely depressed as a result of this joblessness until luck smiled at him. He was traveling round the world like he was going to his backyard. He was breezing in and out of Nigeria for official duties until the sickness struck.
Now it's been nine months, and she already made her intentions known to my family that she wants to Remarry. Meanwhile, the baby is just two and half years old.

As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.

I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.

I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.

I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third.

What should I do?

Sorry about the demise of your brother.
Honestly speaking I think is better for her to remarry then to be mingle with someone.
We were created differently at this point of her life she need someone close to her as ages are not on her side (she need to have more kids before she reach menopause)
In a nutshell don't consider this as an act of disrespect towards your late brother.
In my religion wife is free to remarry after 4 months 10 days of her husband demise.

Coolgent:
Sorry about the demise of your brother.
Honestly speaking I think is better for her to remarry then to be mingle with someone.
We were created differently at this point of her life she need someone close to her as ages are not on her side (she need to have more kids before she reach menopause)
In a nutshell don't consider this as an act of disrespect towards your late brother.
In my religion wife is free to remarry after 4 months 10 days of her husband demise.

Ok.
Thanks.
My issue isn't about her remarrying. It's about the safety and well-being of my niece. She's taking her to the new husband's house

MistyDense:
✓ Ok.
Thanks.
My issue isn't about her remarrying. It's about the safety and well-being of my niece. She's taking her to the new husband's house

So, you would rather she abandon her own child with you to raise for her or something?

MistyDense:
I know a lot of you will call me all sorts of unprintable names and would want to nameshame me.

My Elder brother died about nine months ago and his wife is about to Remarry.

They had been married for ten whole years, but unable to bear a child for 7years, until God blessed them with a beautiful and lovely baby Girl. We all celebrated and were joyous. A few weeks after childbirth, my brother became sick. What initially looked like an ulcer became something else, and he had to go under the knife. After the surgery, there were some Terrible complications, which resulted in his eventual demise. Most painful part was, he had just landed his dream job after five years of graduation. He was extremely depressed as a result of this joblessness until luck smiled at him. He was traveling round the world like he was going to his backyard. He was breezing in and out of Nigeria for official duties until the sickness struck.
Now it's been nine months, and she already made her intentions known to my family that she wants to Remarry. Meanwhile, the baby is just two and half years old.

As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.

I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.

I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.

I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third.

What should I do?

Instead of stopping her over what she has made up her mind with

You guys should leave her do what she wants

If it comes out good or bad, that's her luck

You can't actually stop a moving train

The best your family can do is to ask her to keep the child with you people so that she can be free and that she is free to visit the child and she will be responsible for the child education and welfare

frozen70:
Instead of stopping her over what she has made up her mind with

You guys should leave her do what she wants

If it comes out good or bad, that's her luck

You can't actually stop a moving train

The best your family can do is to ask her to keep the child with you people so that she can be free and that she is free to visit the child and she will be responsible for the child education and welfare

The child's education and welfare is being taken care of by us and not her.

Kobojunkie:
So, you would rather she abandon her own child with you to raise for her or something?

Oga, abeg rest. I'm not in for your unnecessary arguments please. You're "Know it All". Always right, while others are always wrong. I don't really need your input in this matter pls.
Thanks for your understanding

MistyDense:
➜Oga, abeg rest. I'm not in for your unnecessary arguments please. You're "Know it All". Always right, while others are always wrong. I don't really need your input in this matter pls.
Thanks for your understanding

. Simple question! In Nigeria, many previously married individuals would rather abandon their children from other relationships with relatives when going into a new marriage. What I am asking is, do you want the woman to abandon her child with your family when getting married to the new man? If yes, then rather than suggest she not get married at all, make her the offer of caring for your niece while she goes off to have herself a beautiful new life. Let her ruminate on the suggestion and decide whenever she is able to.

DSS1335:
First and foremost, your family should secretly conduct a DNA test.
The manner in which your elder brother died is a mystery that must be ascertained spiritually

that man wey get 2 wives na em get the pikin

This is a sad story, she is 38, to find man is not easy and her biological clock is almost expired. Its not what she wanted to be a 3rd wife . She most certainly would have preferred to be with her deceased husband. Wish her the best
Its normal to feel sad in this situation. Losing a brother and his wife remarrying , even if she remarried 10 years from now , you will still feel sadness. May God heal your pain

muzeze77:
This is a sad story, she is 38, to find man is not easy and her biological clock is almost expired. Its not what she wanted to be a 3rd wife . She most certainly would have preferred to be with her deceased husband. Wish her the best
Its normal to feel sad in this situation. Losing a brother and his wife remarrying , even if she remarried 10 years from now , you will still feel sadness. May God heal your pain

Thanks so much Sir

MistyDense:
Ok.
Thanks.
My issue isn't about her remarrying. It's about the safety and well-being of my niece. She's taking her to the new husband's house

That will not be an issue...
At this tender age she need her mother the most.
She will forever remain your niece but for goodness sake don't have sleepless night over this small issue.
Remember you are free to see your niece at will

MistyDense:
The child's education and welfare is being taken care of by us and not her.

That's fine

In my religion. After a mans demise, the woman must wait for 4 months and 10 days before she can remarry. This is islam. Makes life simple