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Commentor:
Why do you all think everyone's life experience is the same as yours?

Of course not but knowing the poverty level in Nigeria, it is safe to say atleast 50% would which is enough observation to draw up an hypothesis and conclusion

The OP just described the concept generally referred to as Hypergamy

pansophist:
It didnt start from uni, but from high school.

Girls in JSS3 are all after guys in SS3. Back then when I was in high school, cars are packed outside to pick up some of these girls. Their so called boyfriend.

Even in our neighbourhood, you see these girls hanging around with their bf in corners.

Infact some of the exotic foods like showarma many boys chop for the first time na from girls wey their bf buy am for

Nothing surprising here. It is nature playing its course. Just dont make anybody cheat you sha, that is your duty.

If your time reach, pick a younger woman that havent been damaged by other men, and be her first. It is exceptionally important that you are the first man of any girl you decide to be with.

Make you no suffer for wetin you no cause.

Any rat wey instead of digging his own hole, prefer to explore and enter another rat hole, make he no surprise if he find snake inside. If you no understand, na your wahala be that.

Words of wisdom 💯

pansophist:
It didnt start from uni, but from high school.

Girls in JSS3 are all after guys in SS3. Back then when I was in high school, cars are packed outside to pick up some of these girls. Their so called boyfriend.

Even in our neighbourhood, you see these girls hanging around with their bf in corners.

Infact some of the exotic foods like showarma many boys chop for the first time na from girls wey their bf buy am for

Nothing surprising here. It is nature playing its course. Just dont make anybody cheat you sha, that is your duty.

If your time reach, pick a younger woman that havent been damaged by other men, and be her first. It is exceptionally important that you are the first man of any girl you decide to be with.

Make you no suffer for wetin you no cause.

Any rat wey instead of digging his own hole, prefer to explore and enter another rat hole, make he no surprise if he find snake inside. If you no understand, na your wahala be that.

When I was serving, there was a JSS2 student in that school that was dating a 200-level university student.

I couldn't believe my ear when I heard.

GloriousGbola:
this here

we see am for school.

this dude dating this babe. both medico. 300l /400l i forget next thing one dude from schlumberger started toasting the babe

how do you match nacking while hanging leg on burglar proof to knacking in privacy in AC in fancy bed and big tv .

same way i knew a guy who was dating this chick in secondary school. they now entred same uni. teh babe fiine and teh guy dey just there. as in it was glaring.the babe even tried to be loyal but guy dey seriously insecure, and he was actually slapping her around on top.

when you dey 100L, the babes in your set are in demand - when you are in 400l, na you dey in demand it is a cycle.

also, if you are a erm patient dog type - just wait till 200L, the chicks wey u dey eye in 100l wey no dey give you the time of the day - will be all over you because they will be STARVED for attention.

as a parent - this is something i realise one needs to teach ones daughter about - october rush and distractions and how you can forget what you came to school for



money na koko because if you erm hammer well well as a guy some women that ignored your chewing gum arse for what they thought was a made man at the time . . . .na so some abroadians dey do detty decemeber with peoples gfs and wives

I am surprised to know people were dating in sec school or worrying over this in university. As an undergraduate all my problem was not to spill and go for NYSC immediately. Some girls dated coursemates and by 400L they had broken up. These girls later went on to marry abroadians. Some married homebased. I see some on FB wey done japa. I see the ones wey just dey. Such is life. Nothing is cast on stone.

Who does he want to date him from 100L until he makes it? So they will call her evening🗞.

He should sha try and balance love and hustle. Else even the younger ones won't want him. This (up)coming generation are not fans of wide age-gap like the older ones.

Nothing new here. I got my first awakening during my second year. The girl I was interested in had her classmate also interested in her. I even planned to buy a laptop for her as a present. That was my second time of "falling in love". Her classmate was pushing further than me to the extent I almost dropped out of the race. Until she revealed she is dating someone outside the school who works for a prominent government company. During that same period, I was reading all sorts of research articles and publications by The Economist about marriage and dating. It was then I realised terms like: hypergamy, assortative marriages, date up etc. With my background in biology and basic economics, I finally understood why humans behave the way they do.

The girl in question is married to the man she dated, with three children, while her classmate and I are still unmarried. So, there you have it.

What amuses me is how men realise this early enough and accept it, but women are surprised when these men aren't interested in them any longer, but in younger girls. Or are they angry that financially comfortable men cHeAt

It's normal...but don't stop there cos she is still not ur mate..u have service and labour market..while she is ripe for the harvesting...even though those senior men before you don chop wetin no good from her body..

franchasng:
What you described is a natural process, it's nature taking its course not the female student's fault nor your fault so don't take it personal. Women by nature date up not down. Women by nature are wired to look up to their partner not look down. They crave to date or marry someone higher and better than them so they can depend on him, that is how nature wired all women, that some overcame this natural protocol is also normal because in every 12 there must be a Judas. Every young man must bear this in mind and always remove eyes from girls of his age and go for the younger girls where he would have more competitive advantage.Women tend to age faster than men.Women have menopause, men don't have.Time is against women, it's not against men.Women naturally work with time because of how nature built them.Before a woman look downwards when it comes to relationship, romance and marriage, she probably failed in looking upwards, or she was madly in love with her mate or someone younger from a long time. Take those scenarios away, women prefer to marry someone older than them, they prefer to date guys older, richer, better, taller, etc than them.

Thank you, sir. Well explained.

It is why I stopped believing in the modern concept of "gender equality". Men and women are not equal, as both genders have their privileges. Nature always wins.

pocohantas:
I am surprised to know people were dating in sec school or worrying over this in university. As an undergraduate all my problem was not to spill and go for NYSC immediately. Some girls dated coursemates and by 400L they had broken up. These girls later went on to marry abroadians. Some married homebased. I see some on FB wey done japa. I see the ones wey just dey. Such is life. Nothing is cast on stone.

Who does he want to date him from 100L until he makes it? So they will call her evening🗞.

He should sha try and balance love and hustle. Else even the younger ones won't want him. This (up)coming generation are not fans of wide age-gap like the older ones.

this thing you wrote na the koko

when you see who is with who 10 years down the line you go surprise in some cases

musicwriter:
My advice to you is to take your mind off this type of thing and focus fully on your education. That's what your parents sent you to school to do. You'll have more than enough time for this later, else you'll end up like my junior brother who's in his 30's but his di.ck isn't working. He has used up himself in his stupidity. Now, he thinks that he'll get a big di.ck by taking my di.ck. 419 guys has finished him in the process, promising of using jazz to get back his di.ck. . He's so stupid and doesn't even know that's he's a scam victim, despite that I've warned him of everything I am saying.

Be warned!NB: this is something I am still actively researching. I'll write about it here on Nairaland when I am through

Juju can steal another man's preek?

I am glad you are working on the study as I plan to do the same and others in the near future. We need to start questioning certain practices to know if they actually work, how they work and why they work.

But I am curious, what made his preek to stop working? And when you "stopped working", it does not erect? Or the erection does not last for a significant period? Or he cannot ejaculate? And if/when he does, the semen cannot fertilise an ovum?

Gerrard59:
Thank you, sir. Well explained.

It is why I stopped believing in the modern concept of "gender equality". Men and women are not equal, as both genders have their privileges. Nature always wins.

it is not so much a matter of equality as it is a matter of seasons

and it is important to understand the seasons for what they are

also, no one size fits all

i had classmates who dated in school and broke up ; i have classmates who dated in school and are married to this day; and classmates who are divorced . same for people dating up or down

Ade1177:
Make sure you find your wife in university days or nysc

Once you enter the rat race looking for money You can no longer find a lady willing to build up with you, sorry is your name You will have to buy your love and continue paying till it expiresI will advice anyone still in the university to leave books in the evening and go out, read your book in the morning and afternoon, find good girls, have fun while at it. Before you close your eyes 4yrs don go, unless you plan to be single at 35
True love can only be found when you are in school

True words at the bold. I have read a few of the top-tier men in the West who married school girlfriends and lived happily after. I have seen a few of my schoolmates married girls they dated while in school.

Some of us, na so so book we carry for head. First class sef we no see.

Ade1177:
➜Make sure you find your wife in university days or nysc. Once you enter the rat race looking for money. You can no longer find a lady willing to build up with you, sorry is your name . You will have to buy your love and continue paying till it expires
I will advice anyone still in the university to leave books in the evening and go out, read your book in the morning and afternoon, find good girls, have fun while at it. Before you close your eyes 4yrs don go, unless you plan to be single at 35 True love can only be found when you are in school

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Africans and delusions are indeed inseparably joined.

The last time I checked my alumni chat forum, I found that all the so-called true loves from back when we were in school broke up not long after life and reality hit them smack in the face. The vast majority are now with and doing relatively ok— at least for now, since I don't know what the future holds for them— with true loves they found outside of school. So, how many true loves people dey in fact have in this one life? No be as many as one desires to give oneself again? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Kobojunkie:
Life never do you tube-&-tire is why you're mouthing off that bullsheet! You'd better ask the millions of lonely Nigerian men roaming the campuses and streets of that country, some of them married(even some to more than one woman).🥱🥱🥱

Keep deceiving yourself with that exaggeration Kobo. There are many happily married men and women in Nigeria!

Stop projecting your frustrations for not being able to find a husband on everybody by this thinking of yours that others are not happy in their marriages!

Kalulu44:
And what makes you think he’s in the labour market now? Una too dey some matter too serious

From experience, he's not even in the proper labor market yet, and when he gets there he'll confirm what I'm saying. it's experience.
Check up on him to confirm what I'm saying. I no dey yarn anyhow

Jman06:
Keep deceiving yourself with that exaggeration Kobo. There are many happily married men and women in Nigeria!

Stop projecting your frustrations for not being able to find a husband on everybody by this thinking of yours that others are not happy in their marriages!

Just now finding out Kobojunkie is female. But she has a point. People can find their true love anytime - some even after one or two marriages

musicwriter:
My advice to you is to take your mind off this type of thing and focus fully on your education. That's what your parents sent you to school to do.

You'll have more than enough time for this later, else you'll end up like my junior brother who's in his 30's but his di.ck isn't working. He has used up himself in his stupidity. Now, he thinks that he'll get a big di.ck by taking my di.ck.

419 guys has finished him in the process, promising of using jazz to get back his di.ck. . He's so stupid and doesn't even know that's he's a scam victim, despite that I've warned him of everything I am saying.

Be warned!

NB: this is something I am still actively researching. I'll write about it here on Nairaland when I am through

your kid bro lost his dick? Like how did it happen, shagging way too much or jerking off.

I still want to believe you're joking though. Lol

He is a dreamer for school na play matter. Most serious relationships start at youth service.

You wey still dey collect pocket money and combine with girlfriend on hunger strike management.

By 300 and 400 ladies don dey look at outside potential.

Host78:
I am going to say this stuff and most guys will probably relate with it.

You may have noticed it too. But if you have not, as I describe this you'll understand it once.

So, when we just gained admission newly and resumed school, for most of us we just want to get the best grades.

But not just grades sha.

I personally made a vow that I'll have my first serious girlfriend from 100l.

My goal was that we could grow together from there and probably get married someday.

Don't blame me, your boy was young and naive then.

Most girls in 100l with us then just won't date us.

I mean some did but never anything serious.

Their eyes were rather on the senior students. These girls were going with guys in 300l and 400l students.

Omo, senior men wey we dey respect as guys naim these girls dey call 'baby'.

100l was tough.

You will toast this girl today and both of you'll be feeling it and the next day same girl will break up with you.

Not that you did anything o. Na senior student Don toast her be that.

Now here's the problem. It's 6 years after and we are in 400l.

We are now the 'highest' in the school.

And the obvious now is some of these girls are now trying to cling to us.

It's funny now sha. Person wey dey feel like say dem no fit look your side a few years ago now wan dey follow you package stuff.

Unfortunately, me no too send them again. Fresh babes are coming in every year and they seem better, look more eager and tends to demand less.

So why would I leave such for my mate who dem chew for my front and she's still demanding something serious?

I also think this same thing happens in the real dating world.

These girls in their younger age will go after matured men leaving boys in their age groups.

A few years later, these boys will catch up and the girls will want to come back but then younger girls go don already dey.

It's not hard to know whether somebody has a bright future or not. A student who has a bright future concentrates 100% of his energy on his studies. His passion and goal is to come out with good grade and become successful in anything he ventures into after school.

A student who has no future tend to care more about how to get girlfriend instead of focusing on his studies.

pocohantas:
When you make money, find one young girl and marry. She sef would dump her 400L boyfriend and marry you. You are only crying here because na your hand them break. 15yrs from now your tone would change. Except of course you don't make money to make settling down easier and more desirable. Your anger would be x500.

emmaodet:
Leave him.
After graduation and NYSC, all handouts and upkeeps from parent and extended family will stop.
They won't listen to your excuses or reasons to give you money again.
That is when LIFE will slap a reset button back on him.
Even the small bannies he gets now will leave him for a closer new 400Lv guy when he is out of campus.
Have seen this play out over and over

Six full years of reading and cramming.

Thank the gods say na night school I go.

SMH

Can't relate.

100L I was Chief Haza. I roll with any babe at any level.

At 400L. I gave my life to Christ.

I started a full time relationship with God during my NYSC and the years after.

Drops Mic.

Thank you.

musicwriter:
My advice to you is to take your mind off this type of thing and focus fully on your education. That's what your parents sent you to school to do.

You'll have more than enough time for this later, else you'll end up like my junior brother who's in his 30's but his di.ck isn't working. He has used up himself in his stupidity. Now, he thinks that he'll get a big di.ck by taking my di.ck.


419 guys has finished him in the process, promising of using jazz to get back his di.ck. . He's so stupid and doesn't even know that's he's a scam victim, despite that I've warned him of everything I am saying.

Be warned!

NB: this is something I am still actively researching. I'll write about it here on Nairaland when I am through

lol 😂 funny guy

I have been in your shoes and understand you perfectly but my case was different as I had an edge as a rich kid. I had girls from same 100lvl to 500lvl drooling over me and wanting my attention. 500lvl girls with the biggest bundas I could ever imagine invited me severally to their lush apartments and would cook for me and we had fun alot. Not necessarily sex though inclusive but good conversations and laughter and company. Long story short, my dad which was my sponsor lost his engineering job role at Schlumberger in my 300lvl. Well life taught me a bitter lesson from then as I couldn't afford to keep up with my lifestyle, drop, designer perfumes, sneakers, expensive apartments rent etc... All girls wouldn't look my way anymore including my beautiful girlfriend in my department same level. I couldn't take it anymore I had to drop out and focus on the streets. Well I made it and now have girls drooling over me again though it comes at a price, I learnt my lesson, Never Broke Again

Host78:
I am going to say this stuff and most guys will probably relate with it.

Oga, I'm team ugly, some may call it half handsome or mediocre but still toasted a few babes in secondary school. I don't know your personal life story but it sounds like you come from a very well bred family that instilled morality into you. Nice ✍ write up on your uni experience. May you meet the almost perfect woman for marriage when that time comes.

...and the moral of this cow dung is...? Guy, get some maturity, it's free. In this economy, you are thinking "shite"!

I am going to say this stuff and most guys will probably relate with it.

You may have noticed it too. But if you have not, as I describe this you'll understand it once.

So, when we just gained admission newly and resumed school, for most of us we just want to get the best grades.

But not just grades sha.

I personally made a vow that I'll have my first serious girlfriend from 100l.

My goal was that we could grow together from there and probably get married someday.

Don't blame me, your boy was young and naive then.

Most girls in 100l with us then just won't date us.

I mean some did but never anything serious.

Their eyes were rather on the senior students. These girls were going with guys in 300l and 400l students.

Omo, senior men wey we dey respect as guys naim these girls dey call 'baby'.

100l was tough.

You will toast this girl today and both of you'll be feeling it and the next day same girl will break up with you.

Not that you did anything o. Na senior student Don toast her be that.

Now here's the problem. It's 6 years after and we are in 400l.

We are now the 'highest' in the school.

And the obvious now is some of these girls are now trying to cling to us.

It's funny now sha. Person wey dey feel like say dem no fit look your side a few years ago now wan dey follow you package stuff.

Unfortunately, me no too send them again. Fresh babes are coming in every year and they seem better, look more eager and tends to demand less.

So why would I leave such for my mate who dem chew for my front and she's still demanding something serious?

I also think this same thing happens in the real dating world.

These girls in their younger age will go after matured men leaving boys in their age groups.

A few years later, these boys will catch up and the girls will want to come back but then younger girls go don already dey.[/quote]

Sonnobax15:

Guy, shouldn't you be thinking of how you'd conquer the labour market after graduation, instead of thinking about bannies wey no equally send you too?

When he conquers the labour market what will he do with the loot?
You think he's like women that don't think ahead to endgame?

GloriousGbola:
this here

we see am for school.

this dude dating this babe. both medico. 300l /400l i forget next thing one dude from schlumberger started toasting the babe

how do you match nacking while hanging leg on burglar proof to knacking in privacy in AC in fancy bed and big tv .

same way i knew a guy who was dating this chick in secondary school. they now entred same uni. teh babe fiine and teh guy dey just there. as in it was glaring.the babe even tried to be loyal but guy dey seriously insecure, and he was actually slapping her around on top.

when you dey 100L, the babes in your set are in demand - when you are in 400l, na you dey in demand it is a cycle.

also, if you are a erm patient dog type - just wait till 200L, the chicks wey u dey eye in 100l wey no dey give you the time of the day - will be all over you because they will be STARVED for attention.

as a parent - this is something i realise one needs to teach ones daughter about - october rush and distractions and how you can forget what you came to school for



money na koko because if you erm hammer well well as a guy some women that ignored your chewing gum arse for what they thought was a made man at the time . . . .na so some abroadians dey do detty decemeber with peoples gfs and wives

@ bold:

On point!

October Russssh! Ha! Ha!

I remember a guy in 200l level was asking me out and I looked him in the eye and told him that he just wanted sex.

Dude saw me for the first time and was ranting about beauty and love.

Another guy said he was in charge of pageantry for my state and wanted me to rep my state abi town.

Another one wanted to me to come to his house to 'drink tea' because of N100 suya

Different scope for chopping girls that period.

That training is key.

Interestingly, a number of the peeps who got married in my set were mates I.e. same level.

GloriousGbola:
➜...as a parent - this is something i realise one needs to teach ones daughter about - october rush and distractions and how you can forget what you came to school for...

Sons as well need to be taught to not continue traditions that really amount to nothing in the way of actual benefits to their days and lives after all is said and done.

Look at OP, even after 6 years of college, still believing that the October rush will make or break his love and relationship life, not realizing it does not even begin to amount to anything in the end.

Kalulu44:
Guy, why do you guys always take so many things too serious. This is just a harmless post and a reality of life.
What makes you think he’s jobless. Did he beg you for money or job? Make una dey am take easy with this una seriosness abeg

Na fake seriousness, if he dey serious, he will not be a reply man on Nairaland, he would probably engage with something productive!

Gerrard59:
Juju can steal another man's preek?

I am glad you are working on the study as I plan to do the same and others in the near future. We need to start questioning certain practices to know if they actually work, how they work and why they work.

But I am curious, what made his preek to stop working? And when you "stopped working", it does not erect? Or the erection does not last for a significant period? Or he cannot ejaculate? And if/when he does, the semen cannot fertilise an ovum?

Thanks for this!

That always been my view. If it works, let us publish papers on how it works, it's benefits and what to do with it. But remember the reason we don't study it that way is because we don't have a self-inspired system of education in Africa, therefore haven't created a curriculum on how to study it. But that's by the way.

In my upcoming book, I'll challenge EVERYBODY about juju.

But don't get me wrong, it's not as if there's no juju. The problem is that people don't understand how it works.

Juju is like numbers. Does the numbers 0,1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9 and the other bigger numbers really exist? Or are they something we're making up in our minds. This has been a question that philosophers, metaphysicists and even mathematicians have been trying to answer for centuries without conclusion. Does numbers exist or are we making them up in our minds.

My view about the above is that we're co-creating our reality with nature. If you're adding 5+5 in your mind while awake it's only you that knows its ten in your mind. What people don't know is that when you're asleep and dreaming, you use a whole different type of mathematics to arrive at the same answer. So, numbers exist and also doesn't exist at the same time. It's just a utility that you can use whenever you want. It only exists when you're conscious of the maths.

It's same with juju. If you cultivate it in your conscious, it will exist in your mind, and begin to control you.

For those that believe it like my junior brothers, it will appear real in their mind such that whenever his di.ck rise, he'll attribute it to the jazz working, not realizing that your faith in something makes it create your reality and that it's normal for di.ck to randomly rise every now and then. Therefore, he'll be using correlation as causation and will never be able to figure out what's really going on.

You'll find more details in one of my threads titled: the science of jazz